Oluhills007:
( How do you date someone for almost a decade without seeexxx? Na wa o. if he pestered her for sex now.....you will be the one to come here are shout guys can't do without sex.......one thing I have noticed about women is that you guys don't like good guys and love bad guys..when those bad guys Bleep up una go come dey shout....men are scum........see....I was so heart broken during my hundred level days because I too dey love.....I got much pussy during my 400-500 lvl days cos nigga no get heart again.......you ladies need to work on your mentality....Dude wasn't in love alone, he was neck deep in foolishness. Who borrows money to throw a bash for a girlfriend because she graduated? Make she no kuku graduate na... Mstcheeeeew!

I'm a lady, I doubt the possibility of me dating a man for that long without us doing the do. No way!

So, of all I wrote, the only line you could pick was the sex line? .

Now, don't go about packing me with other girls. I've never or hardly use that silly line because I know there's more to every guy other than sex. But, I still won't date a man for 8years without getting intimate, if he doesn't request for it, I will. Body no be firewood biko.

Good or bad man, even woman sef, only a stupid person borrows money to throw a party for their partner. I won't even borrow money to do that for my husband, we could always have the party when we have our own money.

Dey guy name na mumu

This can only happen to a gud guy. Ask me how

theinfong:
"I dated her for 8 yrs, never had sex with her, took care of her, after her MSc, she dumped me" - Man shares story

Heard this and almost cried my eyes off. Each time I get to hear some ladies say, "men are scum", I seldom keep quiet because I have loads of stories and experiences which when shared will not only silence them but may change their mentality about the "men are scum phrase." So, a friend visited my house days back, whilst gisting, he shared a story about a bosom friend of his, who almost committed suicide over the girl he dated. We will use Mr. I as the boyfriend and Ms. I as the girlfriend. I will try as much as possible to cut the long story short.

According to him, Mr. I had been dating Ms. I since 2008, he was in the university then, 200 level to be precise, whilst she was about finishing secondary school. And like many young lovers, everything was good and going fine except the usual "childish mentality" from both parties of course.

Things kept blossoming, everything soft and nice. She got into the university, a private Nigerian university, fortunately for Mr. I, it wasn't one of those universities where phones weren't allowed, so they kept communicating and in fact, since the relationship gradually started maturing, their love kept shinning bright like a diamond.. So bright that other male chyker's couldn't approach Ms. I because almost everyone in campus knew she was "bae-gaged." Yes, she was that proud of her bae then.

Mr. I never missed the opportunity of leaving his university to visit her every weekend, notwithstanding the distance.. Oh, I forgot to tell you, he schooled in far away East, whilst she schooled in the West. And the journey from his university to hers took him 7-8 hours by road and of course, he always used road except extreme cases where he decided to use flight.

Not only did he risk his life plying  bad roads every weekend just to see bae, he also made sure he got stuffs for her, food stuffs and sometimes money (He took it upon himself to bring provisions and money two weekends out of four, monthly). Indeed, bae was balling, no wonder she was so bae-gaged!

And whenever they were on break, back to their respective homes (fortunately they both lived in Lagos), he was with her almost every other day. In fact, both parents knew they were dating. Yes, and they both approved of it. Indeed, Mr. I was happy, he had the acceptance of bae's family members and of course, the heart of bae (So he thought).


A couple of times, when bae resumed a new semester and Mr. I was still home, boss-man will take it upon himself to fuel his car and drive his woman to her uni, not only that, sometimes took provisions to bae's siblings' schools too. Mr. I was in love, so he just wanted to make her family members love him more.. Every guy who has truly loved, will know this feeling.. 

"Mans" was usually broke in school because of bae, you know, bae schooled in a private university and lifestyle was more expensive there. Of course, to please bae and make her family know he was man enough, Mr. I usually soaked garri in his hostel whilst he sent the food stuffs given to him by his parents to his girl.. Love nwantiti right?

Fast forward to his graduation, he got a job which wasn't well-paying like that, but always made sure 50% of his salary went to bae's account. Yes a whole 50%.. (It was at this point I literally started tearing up. A tear dropped from my eye and I am certain my friend saw this. If only he knew that I was tearing up because I couldn't really fathom how mans was so in love that he forgot there is a difference between a girlfriend and a wife). Worst still is, he hadn't even engaged her yet! Oh my gosh!!!!



Well, love was still there (so he thought). All through the years of dating, spending, killing himself to please she and her family, he never for once had any sexual relation with her. Never for once, because she claimed to be a virgin. The best he ever got was a kiss.. A kiss bruh!

Fast forward to when she graduated from university, Mr. I threw a big party for her. Hosted over 30 people (friends and family). Spent close to N650K on the bash (Unbeknownst to his siblings, he borrowed a huge sum of money from his friends so as to make the party a huge success)... And a huge one it was (At this point I started thinking, If only he had engaged her at the bash he threw for her, maybe things would have turned out differently)... Well, who knows, right?





Months after she graduated, he lost favour from his employers, so he was sacked. Things dwindled from his end so his usual 50% to his bae, stopped. 3 months after he lost his job, bae informed him she was going to study abroad, going for her masters' program in Russia. (Funny thing is, she never told him when she even applied nor got accepted). Well, she apologised, he forgave and they were still chilling.

Weeks later, it was time for her to travel, he dropped her off at the airport, they did the usual (kissed and bid themselves goodbyes right in front of her fam.. Yes, they were that close you know!).

Chatting, skyping, doing all sort of things, all these lasted for 3 to 4 months of her stay in Russia. Things became bad afterwards, communication not only dwindled but it dissolved, "mans" was no longer getting attention, "mans" was confused yet still going to bae's house to help out in one or two errands for fam.


To cut the long story short..... Few weeks before she was done with her programme, she sent a text, which read, "We can't be together anymore, I am sorry." .... That was all, 8 years and that's all she sent. No explanation as to why she wanted to call quits. (Cold right?)

Mr. I lost it at this point, became severely depressed, in fact, he was almost going insane. He had to be on drugs. Severally tried suicide but luckily for him, his younger brother came to the rescue. He was eventually admitted in Lagoon for 5 weeks. This was the period bae came back. Bad thing is, she didn't even bother informing him she was coming back and worst thing is, when she eventually heard he was hospitalised, she didn't step her foot in Lagoon hospital.. A cruel world right?

Right as we speak, Mr. I has been in and out of hospital, going through one or two crisis. He has lost touch of reality and become a shadow of himself, whereas Ms. I hasn't bothered seeing him since she came back to Nigeria and in fact, is about to be wed in April 2018.

Love is a beautiful thing only and when it is true and mutual so children of the world, love with your heart, but use your brain!

PS: This is a true life story from a friend to be shared on TheInfo.NG.

Source : https://www.theinfo.ng/2018/01/dated-8-yrs-never-sex-took-care-msc-dumped-man-shares-story/

Mr I is a fool and deserves it

I will never date or spend my money on someone am not married to yet... The guy should Just buckle up and hustle.....

Mumu weak guy

This is why I keep saying it
Women are setback to your life
I sorry for my brother

Preshy561:
8 bawo

so u can't go 18

This is how they make monsters out of men and later they'll start lamenting that men are scum.

A woman will dump a man who loves her to bits and follow an asshole, and when she starts getting the harsh treatment from the man they start disturbing the cyberspace on how men are scum.

This is why i don't sympathize with women who are going through abusive marriages.

He is an example of charismastic foolishzness!!

Oluhills007:
( How do you date someone for almost a decade without seeexxx? Na wa o. if he pestered her for sex now.....you will be the one to come here are shout guys can't do without sex.......one thing I have noticed about women is that you guys don't like good guys and love bad guys..when those bad guys Bleep up una go come dey shout....men are scum........see....I was so heart broken during my hundred level days because I too dey love.....I got much pussy during my 400-500 lvl days cos nigga no get heart again.......you ladies need to work on your mentality....Dude wasn't in love alone, he was neck deep in foolishness. Who borrows money to throw a bash for a girlfriend because she graduated? Make she no kuku graduate na... Mstcheeeeew!

I'm a lady, I doubt the possibility of me dating a man for that long without us doing the do. No way!

Bros calm down, abi na you be the guy.. Lol.. I am just wondering how a couple who claimed to be in love, and based in the same country, were able to abstain from sex for 8 years. One person was definitely going to cheat na! Sexxx is necessary in a relationship else una just be ordinary friends! And pleasee.. I for one loves a good man. That's my own anyways.

OK, while i doubt the validity of this story, using the info given, my thoughts are so.

Firstly, the " I never had sex with her" proclamation like we should celebrate him, please have several seats. He has no right over her, ordinary boyfriend.

1) This was obviously a young love story, started dating the girl when she was finishing secondary school, so from my experience the girl was about 16 yrs old. According to you they started off in love probably the girl's first love and she was proudly identifying as his "bae" while he showered her with attention which she probably had not received before but i'm guessing that at some point, as she grew up and got exposed especially in her university days, her opinion changed and he probably seemed clingy at some point, (always around like he had no friends). 8 years later, she is currently about 24 which is not that old. It happens quite often, your first love is not always your last and you cannot force a 24yr old girl to be with you forever.

2) While i sympathise with your friend as it is obvious he was in love, i am sorry to say this but a major problem seems to be that your Mr I is not financially responsible and seems to have a warped sense of what a boyfriend does. I assume even though he was older, it was his first love too.
Visiting your gf once a month, ok.
Travelling 8 hours every weekend to visit her, ridiculous.

theinfong:
[b] He took it upon himself to bring provisions and money two weekends out of four, monthly

He took it upon himself, meaning no body sent him, infact the girl was in a private university so i assume her parents give her enough to take care of herself. So claiming he took care of her makes it seem like she depended on him when infact, he was voluntarily giving her extra stuff while he himself was "usually broke and soaking garri".

The 50% salary and borrowing 650 thousand for party, ordinary party (small chops, drinks, cake not even 50k) i will refrain from talking about cos i don't want this to regress into what might seem like insults.

Again, this seems like an unfortunate turn to the common first love scenario where children grow up and go their separate ways especially when school starts. I might sound salty because i just can't believe what i am reading but if this actually happened, i sincerely sympathise with your friend's resulting mental state but permit me to say that you cannot stop a 16yr old from growing up.

What's the title of this movie

thorpido:
Guys should be smarter. If you are going deeper,after a few years,marry her,get her pregnant,let her continue her studies in your house.

You're there...u gat d gist. The lady got satisfaction and fell for d more active dudu

The last time anything got me this emotional was at a traffic stop; a kid with no legs was practically 'walking' on this bare knees, bone and flesh on hard concrete. I prayed for the tear to drop.

This story, is so f*ucked up. Love is so messed up. We men are the true romantics, ain't we?

;Dthe guy nah jonzing pal, 8 yrs is he an eunuch casterated mr is not wise and also n9ot in control

U WASTED 8YEARS OF UR LIFE

Dis kind of trend be making some people have high blood pressure.

Ok

Ok ooo

Na this one we call one zero in football

King of fools!

Annie939:
u refuse to do your work as a man .she had no choice than to follow the main man who has been banging her all this years

so in this case..you encourage sex before marriage ?

Men are scum.

Women are scum.

We should stop feeling one gender is superior over the other as we're all full of sh!t.

Who you come dey tell?....make we help u cry for ur lost!??

queenfav:
How do you date someone for almost a decade without seeexxx? Na wa o.

but is it not you people dat will now come and say why do guys think of only sex when dating

You are a dumpass.. Anuofia

Your luck Mr man.

I personally can't date someone for that Long o...are you Lord of the relationship?

thorpido:
Guys should be smarter. If you are going deeper,after a few years,marry her,get her pregnant,let her continue her studies in your house.

so if i started dating her at 15 yrs old, i should marry and impregnate her by 23? Use ur upper o

That serves him right,next time he won't starve his prick unnecessarily

SAD..................