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Evablizin:
It depends on what you want to know about her past and what you want to do with it.

omooba969:
The question I ask myself is - what's the use of the information? To seek information about the past is as helpful as it can be destructive coz there's tendency to be presented with distorted judgement of the present.

Curiosity kills the cat they say but I will rather choose to enjoy the moment & discover my woman. I believe there's nothing about her past that's not a common knowledge to all, we only waste our precious time making a big deal of what's not.

If you love her, let her know & demonstrate same coz there are many more places to discover. Looking back is like sieving through garbage. It might be important to you but examine if it serves a meaningful purpose.

NwaAmaikpe:


No need asking for a woman's past. It always catches up with her and becomes her future.
Okafor's Second Law.

moorevic:
It could be damaging depending.

cooldrinks:
When a woman says she’s “not like that anymore,” there’s a good chance that she’s being sincere. That’s why you might be tempted to give her a chance—she’s actually being honest when she says it. At that particular moment in time, she actually believes in her own bullcrap, and that’s exactly why knowing her past is so important. All of the lip service about how she was “immature” or a “different person back then” is utter nonsense. Her past is exactly who she is, and she can easily revert right back into being herself once her goals have been accomplished—at your expense, mind you.
(marriage)

Women never really change who they are, they just change what they do, and they only change what they do just long enough to get whatever they’re after (pregnancy). The only way people really change is through deep introspection, self discovery, and a very strong desire to overhaul themselves for the better. Have you met any women that possess those three qualities? no.

“Looking out for your best interests does not make you insecure. Not settling for anything less than what you want does not make you insecure. Demanding to know the truth about someone you've been intimate with—or plan on being intimate with—does not make you insecure.”

A man should try as much as he can to know a woman's past.

Konquest:
^^^^^^

Berlyn1:
It would be painful if they hear it from someone else, once trust is broken, it would never be whole again what is past is past, but for a healthy relationship one has to let his/her partner know virtually everything about themselves