GloryIsaac:
Came across this on IntrovertDear.

the first Answers much to me, but may be its because I am a public speaker and a counsellor too,moreo er,I hardly can look up some one in the face and ask them Out!!chei,I no go fit o,I think I have only successfully tried that once.

gidjah:
the first Answers much to me, but may be its because I am a public speaker and a counsellor too,moreo er,I hardly can look up some one in the face and ask them Out!!chei,I no go fit o,I think I have only successfully tried that once.

How did it go?

GloryIsaac:


How did it go?

mmmm.m that was some times like 15yrs ago or even more....the girl almost frustrated my life with "I will think about it " and that was how it ended .I stopped crossing her path ever again.I also ensured she will b d last person. I was gonna toast !shame no gree allow me cope .

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It seems a lot of people in this thread don't know the difference between introversion and shyness. Most guys commenting on this thread are shy with very low self-esteem.
I'm a very introverted person but talking to anybody ain't nothing to me. Most of the so-called extroverts around me always wait for me to act first before they follow. Introversion doesn't make you to be scared of ladies; shyness and low self-esteem does.

Darkseid:
It seems a lot of people in this thread don't know the difference between introversion and shyness. Most guys commenting on this thread are shy with very low self-esteem.
I'm a very introverted person but talking to anybody ain't nothing to me. Most of the so-called extroverts around me always wait for me to act first before they follow. Introversion doesn't make you to be scared of ladies; shyness and low self-esteem does.

that's true... for the guys that are shy when it comes to approaching ladies, the solution is to keep trying, by the time you have gone out with one or two girls you see the shyness fading away.

Darkseid:
It seems a lot of people in this thread don't know the difference between introversion and shyness. Most guys commenting on this thread are shy with very low self-esteem.
I'm a very introverted person but talking to anybody ain't nothing to me. Most of the so-called extroverts around me always wait for me to act first before they follow. Introversion doesn't make you to be scared of ladies; shyness and low self-esteem does.

I agree with you that many people don't know the difference between introversion and shyness. Some, in fact, see the two terms as synonyms.

You should agree with me, if you have been following the thread for a while, that the misconception is continuously dealt with here. Most of the people you refer to are actually introverts who are also shy. And you should agree with me that unlike shy extroverts, it takes shy introverts longer time to break off their shyness. And where else should they seek help if not from other introverts who may be dealing with similar issues or have dealt with such issues in the past?

DonOms:


I agree with you that many people don't know the difference between introversion and shyness. Some, in fact, see the two terms as synonyms.

You should agree with me, if you have been following the thread for a while, that the misconception is continuously dealt with here. Most of the people you refer to are actually introverts who are also shy. And you should agree with me that unlike shy extroverts, it takes shy introverts longer time to break off their shyness. And where else should they seek help if not from other introverts who may be dealing with similar issues or have dealt with such issues in the past?

I totally agree with you, both introverts and extroverts can be shy but that of the introverts is usually worse.

DonOms:


I agree with you that many people don't know the difference between introversion and shyness. Some, in fact, see the two terms as synonyms.

You should agree with me, if you have been following the thread for a while, that the misconception is continuously dealt with here. Most of the people you refer to are actually introverts who are also shy. And you should agree with me that unlike shy extroverts, it takes shy introverts longer time to break off their shyness. And where else should they seek help if not from other introverts who may be dealing with similar issues or have dealt with such issues in the past?

I agree with you brov, but guys need to realise that when he appears hesitant and shy to the lady, he emboldens her and gives her unnecessary liver.
Guys need to understand that girls don't bite, however our ladies too aren't helping matters. They are soo frigid and boring.
Well my advice to shy guys, if you want a lady, find a conversation starter and go with it. If you can't do it physically, find a way to get her contact and take it from there.
E just dey pain me as babes who aren't worth it dey claim star ontop guys head.

Darkseid:

I totally agree with you, both introverts and extroverts can be shy but that of the introverts is usually worse.

Yes. It's usually worse because Introverts find it tasking to gather all the social skills needed to be learned to overcome shyness. Extroverts don't have a hard time because they thrive on social gatherings and exposures naturally.

EsotericMonk:

I agree with you brov, but guys need to realise that when he appears hesitant and shy to the lady, he emboldens her and gives her unnecessary liver.
Guys need to understand that girls don't bite, however our ladies too aren't helping matters. They are soo frigid and boring.
Well my advice to shy guys, if you want a lady, find a conversation starter and go with it. If you can't do it physically, find a way to get her contact and take it from there.
E just dey pain me as babes who aren't worth it dey claim star ontop guys head.

Well, everyone is a star in their own right. I do get your point though. And as you said, both parties (guys and ladies) have their input in this boy-meets-girl squabble that has been in existence since time itself.

I need a trustworthy and hardworking introvert interested in building a new empire in Anambra.

wats the empire abt

TexasCowboy:
I need a trustworthy and hardworking introvert interested in building a new empire in Anambra.

wats the empire abt

Ever since I found out I'm an INFJ, the rarest personality type, also an introvert... Somehow it has boosted my confidence.

I now talk to girls like I'm a prize to fight for, no worries anymore.

Plus, I no longer masturbate, It feels like it affects the heart and someone's confidence somehow. I can now flirt with girls easily, engage in cool convos and hang out with the opposite sex

What else.... a lady is currently falling for me, let me keep shut about that for now, she might be a future wifey cuz our hearts are somehow connected.

People say I'm boring, but they don't know me... I don't even want them to know me, lol.
I'm actually very playful around those who I'm convenient staying with.

Introvert rocks for those who didn't let the society push them around

0luwatope:
Ever since I found out I'm an INFJ, the rarest personality type, also an introvert... Somehow it has boosted my confidence.

I now talk to girls like I'm a prize to fight for, no worries anymore.

Plus, I no longer masturbate, It feels like it affects the heart and someone's confidence somehow. I can now flirt with girls easily, engage in cool convos and hang out with the opposite sex

What else.... a lady is currently falling for me, let me keep shut about that for now, she might be a future wifey cuz our hearts are somehow connected.

People say I'm boring, but they don't know me... I don't even want them to know me, lol.
I'm actually very playful around those who I'm convenient staying with.

Introvert rocks for those who didn't let the society push them around

You couldn't have said the bolded part better!

Great Sunday to my fellow Introverts,may this month of March give us all the much awaited Breakthrough we all have been Praying for. (Amen)

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Does being an introvert affect your ability to speak in public ( as in front of crowd) ? I have been facing this problem now ,no matter how hard I try to push hard my voice end up shaking and I will just crash.
I started with class( 156 student), I can talk in front of my class but not in front of the whole faculty or larger crowd.

bukiii:
Does being an introvert affect your ability to speak in public ( as in front of crowd) ? I have been facing this problem now ,no matter how hard I try to push hard my voice end up shaking and I will just crash.
I started with class( 156 student), I can talk in front of my class but not in front of the whole faculty or larger crowd.

Not exactly! The characteristics of Introversion doesn't include stage fright. Although, because introverts are reclusive, it's burdensome to deal with a crowd and they may actually develop stage fright (or some of its symptoms). It's only psychological.

You can talk in your class because you're more comfortable with the people in it. That didn't happen overnight, you grew into it. So, you can do the same for larger crowds. Firstly, assume the larger crowd is no more than the 156 people in your class and believe it so much that you begin to see them that way. Secondly, practice! The more times you address the larger crowd the more comfortable you get and the easier it gets to communicate. Also, learn to speak with a tone of voice that commands control. You'll do great.

Guten morgen mein freunde!

So I've shut myself away completely since mid December, I actually developed an interest in certain fields and decided to pursue that knowledge , for the large part of 3 months I've been chowing esoteric stuff, physics and cryptocurrencies but recently I started feel emotional and kinda depressed because I was really lacking any human contact and I started feeling that I may actually be masturbating too much , in fact the hostel I live in is like Sodom but yet mans got nothing . Recently, I got new neighbours and both girls but no liver to go and knock on that damned door , so one day I just walk up and knock, my heart proceeds to betray me but my liver was steadfast and I sha borrowed matches from them, the next week I asked for matches again and they gave me the whole box . After a week, I said Bleep it and doused myself in lean and knocked on that door, when she opened, I asked to come in and she obliged , I sha sat there looking at her diary while she talked with a friend, when I was about to go I decided to try that wierd thing where you make an assertion or prediction about someone based on what you know. The wierd moment was when I got it as she gave me that face people give full on wierdos. I was devastated , who send me , then I crowned it all when I just went to her house to ask for rizla that I didn't need (don't blame me, mans was starved of human contact).


So three days ago, I made a decision to talk to 3 females daily, preferably strangers. I have a new book for writing down pick up lines for myself, I also need to learn how to manage convo and have located threads on Nairaland that will help me. Hopefully my relationship with people will improve and I strongly hope I don't fall into isolation again. A barrier may be my inability to extend small talk and I have very different taste in things like How everyone loves trap music while I love classical and house music and I'm sort of the only non-theist around.

iamnlia:
Guten morgen mein freunde!

So I've shut myself away completely since mid December, I actually developed an interest in certain fields and decided to pursue that knowledge , for the large part of 3 months I've been chowing esoteric stuff, physics and cryptocurrencies but recently I started feel emotional and kinda depressed because I was really lacking any human contact and I started feeling that I may actually be masturbating too much , in fact the hostel I live in is like Sodom but yet mans got nothing . Recently, I got new neighbours and both girls but no liver to go and knock on that damned door , so one day I just walk up and knock, my heart proceeds to betray me but my liver was steadfast and I sha borrowed matches from them, the next week I asked for matches again and they gave me the whole box . After a week, I said Bleep it and doused myself in lean and knocked on that door, when she opened, I asked to come in and she obliged , I sha sat there looking at her diary while she talked with a friend, when I was about to go I decided to try that wierd thing where you make an assertion or prediction about someone based on what you know. The wierd moment was when I got it as she gave me that face people give full on wierdos. I was devastated , who send me , then I crowned it all when I just went to her house to ask for rizla that I didn't need (don't blame me, mans was starved of human contact).


So three days ago, I made a decision to talk to 3 females daily, preferably strangers. I have a new book for writing down pick up lines for myself, I also need to learn how to manage convo and have located threads on Nairaland that will help me. Hopefully my relationship with people will improve and I strongly hope I don't fall into isolation again. A barrier may be my inability to extend small talk and I have very different taste in things like How everyone loves trap music while I love classical and house music and I'm sort of the only non-theist around.

Wow

This will help https://www.nairaland.com/2893475/dating-drills-guys-only/180

By the way, what led to atheism?

Science Says People Who Talk To Themselves Are Geniuses

I talk a lot to myself. It helps me to keep my concentration on the activity on hand, makes me focus more on my studies, and gives me some pretty brilliant ideas while chattering to myself; more importantly, I produce better works. For example, right now, as I am typing, I am constantly mumbling to myself. Do you talk to yourself? Don’t get embarrassed admitting it because science has discovered that those who talk to themselves are actually geniuses… and not crazy!


Research Background

Psychologist-researcher Gary Lupyan conducted an experiment where 20 volunteers were shown objects, in a supermarket, and were asked to remember them. Half of them were told to repeat the objects, for example, banana, and the other half remained silent. In the end, the result shown that self-directed speech aided people to find the objects faster, by 50 to 100 milliseconds, compared to the silent ones.
“I’ll often mutter to myself when searching for something in the refrigerator or the supermarket shelves,” said Gary Lupyan. This personal experience actually made him conduct this experiment. Lupyan, together with another psychologist, Daniel Swigley, came up with the outcomes that those to talk to oneself are geniuses. Here are the reasons:

It stimulates your memory

When you are talking to yourself, your sensory mechanism gets activated. It gets easier on your memory since you can visualise the word, and you can act accordingly.

It helps stay focused

When you are saying it loud, you stay focused on your task, and it helps you recognise that stuff immediately. Of course, this only helps if you know what the object you are searching looks like. For example, a banana is yellow in colour, and you know how a banana looks like. So when you are saying it loud, your brain immediately pictures the image on your mind. But if you don’t know what banana looks like, then there is no effect of saying it loud.

It helps you clarify your thoughts

Every one of us tends to have various types of thoughts. Most make sense, while the others don’t. Suppose you are furious at someone and you feel like killing that person. Now for this issue you won’t run to a therapist, will you? No, what you do is lock yourself in a room and mutter to yourself. You are letting go off the anger by talking to yourself, the pros and cons of killing that person, and eventually you calm down. This is a silly thought that you have and are unable to share it with any other person. Psychologist Linda Sapadin said, “It helps you clarify your thoughts, tend to what’s important and firm up any decisions you are contemplating.”


https://www.lifehack.org/334241/why-people-who-talk-themselves-are-geniuses-according-scientists

Olarewajub:
Science Says People Who Talk To Themselves Are Geniuses

I talk a lot to myself. It helps me to keep my concentration on the activity on hand, makes me focus more on my studies, and gives me some pretty brilliant ideas while chattering to myself; more importantly, I produce better works. For example, right now, as I am typing, I am constantly mumbling to myself. Do you talk to yourself? Don’t get embarrassed admitting it because science has discovered that those who talk to themselves are actually geniuses… and not crazy!


Research Background

Psychologist-researcher Gary Lupyan conducted an experiment where 20 volunteers were shown objects, in a supermarket, and were asked to remember them. Half of them were told to repeat the objects, for example, banana, and the other half remained silent. In the end, the result shown that self-directed speech aided people to find the objects faster, by 50 to 100 milliseconds, compared to the silent ones.
“I’ll often mutter to myself when searching for something in the refrigerator or the supermarket shelves,” said Gary Lupyan. This personal experience actually made him conduct this experiment. Lupyan, together with another psychologist, Daniel Swigley, came up with the outcomes that those to talk to oneself are geniuses. Here are the reasons:

It stimulates your memory

When you are talking to yourself, your sensory mechanism gets activated. It gets easier on your memory since you can visualise the word, and you can act accordingly.

It helps stay focused

When you are saying it loud, you stay focused on your task, and it helps you recognise that stuff immediately. Of course, this only helps if you know what the object you are searching looks like. For example, a banana is yellow in colour, and you know how a banana looks like. So when you are saying it loud, your brain immediately pictures the image on your mind. But if you don’t know what banana looks like, then there is no effect of saying it loud.

It helps you clarify your thoughts

Every one of us tends to have various types of thoughts. Most make sense, while the others don’t. Suppose you are furious at someone and you feel like killing that person. Now for this issue you won’t run to a therapist, will you? No, what you do is lock yourself in a room and mutter to yourself. You are letting go off the anger by talking to yourself, the pros and cons of killing that person, and eventually you calm down. This is a silly thought that you have and are unable to share it with any other person. Psychologist Linda Sapadin said, “It helps you clarify your thoughts, tend to what’s important and firm up any decisions you are contemplating.”


https://www.lifehack.org/334241/why-people-who-talk-themselves-are-geniuses-according-scientists

I talk to myself a lot, so much that i even crack jokes with myself, argue with myself on different things (looking at it from different perspectives), scold myself, my being alone could literally mean five unseen people are with me etc. but despite the high self esteem, i really doubt if there's anything 'genius' related to it. Just being transparent.
Definitely won't talk about it with anyone, it's seen as a highway to madness .

By the way, came across an INFJ (actually met around February last year, found out last week ) , always knew there was something unique about him because he stood out amazingly from the crowd, views things from a different angle/perspective you probably won't think of. After a series of talk, found out .

iamnlia:
Guten morgen mein freunde!

So I've shut myself away completely since mid December, I actually developed an interest in certain fields and decided to pursue that knowledge , for the large part of 3 months I've been chowing esoteric stuff, physics and cryptocurrencies but recently I started feel emotional and kinda depressed because I was really lacking any human contact and I started feeling that I may actually be masturbating too much , in fact the hostel I live in is like Sodom but yet mans got nothing . Recently, I got new neighbours and both girls but no liver to go and knock on that damned door , so one day I just walk up and knock, my heart proceeds to betray me but my liver was steadfast and I sha borrowed matches from them, the next week I asked for matches again and they gave me the whole box . After a week, I said Bleep it and doused myself in lean and knocked on that door, when she opened, I asked to come in and she obliged , I sha sat there looking at her diary while she talked with a friend, when I was about to go I decided to try that wierd thing where you make an assertion or prediction about someone based on what you know. The wierd moment was when I got it as she gave me that face people give full on wierdos. I was devastated , who send me , then I crowned it all when I just went to her house to ask for rizla that I didn't need (don't blame me, mans was starved of human contact).


So three days ago, I made a decision to talk to 3 females daily, preferably strangers. I have a new book for writing down pick up lines for myself, I also need to learn how to manage convo and have located threads on Nairaland that will help me. Hopefully my relationship with people will improve and I strongly hope I don't fall into isolation again. A barrier may be my inability to extend small talk and I have very different taste in things like How everyone loves trap music while I love classical and house music and I'm sort of the only non-theist around.

Cool stunt you're pulling bro.
I'm INTJ but came across this idea of speaking with @least one girl a day.
First Lagos attempt was last week. See me,
'I'm Charles', 'I'm Patience' and quickly concluded the convo 'I'm rushing to work'
Babe! Help a guy now. Which kind dropping be that one. I'll keep pushing shaaa. But why does everyone in Lagos look strange to the other (like say ah be thief)?

olumbest:


Cool stunt you're pulling bro.
I'm INTJ but came across this idea of speaking with @least one girl a day.
First Lagos attempt was last week. See me,
'I'm Charles', 'I'm Patience' and quickly concluded the convo 'I'm rushing to work'
Babe! Help a guy now. Which kind dropping be that one. I'll keep pushing shaaa. But why does everyone in Lagos look strange to the other (like say ah be thief)?

Wait o, you just approached her with "Hi, I'm Charles"??. I always thought that I needed witty icebreakers. My main problem is that I don't share interests with a lot of people here. I wonder how a girl will feel if I start discussing Quantum mechanics or the solar system. Maybe that kind of discussion will fascinate the right girl.

GloryIsaac:



Wow

This will help https://www.nairaland.com/2893475/dating-drills-guys-only/180

By the way, what led to atheism?

I spend a lot of time alone and I'm addicted to my phone and always reading articles as opposed to social media presence, I think that the more knowledge I got, the more I decided to question my reality.

Also, the more you stay alone, the more you live in your head.

iamnlia:


I spend a lot of time alone and I'm addicted to my phone and always reading articles as opposed to social media presence, I think that the more knowledge I got, the more I decided to question my reality.

Also, the more you stay alone, the more you live in your head.

I can't deny that i've thought about it from time to time, what exactly is the true essence of life?, everyone wants to live a mark but why toil so hard for a long time only to die later? . Was God bored or something?, does all these look like some kind of "toy story" to him?, if it isn't, why did he talk about making "stones" praise him if humans won't?....

That's me living in my head, either way, i chose to be sentimental about it and continue with my Christianity .

iamnlia:


Wait o, you just approached her with "Hi, I'm Charles"??. I always thought that I needed witty icebreakers. My main problem is that I don't share interests with a lot of people here. I wonder how a girl will feel if I start discussing Quantum mechanics or the solar system. Maybe that kind of discussion will fascinate the right girl.

Lol Niqqa you're looking for who to bore

GloryIsaac did you see that @emboldened

Lsofdk:

Lol Niqqa you're looking for who to bore

GloryIsaac did you see that @emboldened

If you know, you know

Pls help a brother

GloryIsaac:


If you know, you know

Pls help a brother

let's see what we can do

Looking at some videos Youtube recommends for me can be so disappointing . Like Wtf have i been watching that would make them recommend this?

GloryIsaac:
Looking at some videos Youtube recommends for me can be so disappointing . Like Wtf have i been watching that would make them recommend this?

Abi, some are great and some are outright weird.

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