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Shugavee:
wow what a beautiful personality!!!

Whether this is a compliment or some sort of sarcasm is up to you and you alone. I don't think I really care for it

Have a good evening

UDUJ:
Interesting. Nice to see it from your side (ladies) as well.

For the first time I will have to agree with what the mumu poster up there (TheUpsetGirl) has said.

Giving money to your woman is no biggie, any right thinking guy knows that to guard against your girl being snatched by someone else, he has to at least provide some basic necessities she needs.

It becomes a problem when the lady expects you to provide for her everyday living and in the process becomes a leech.

that account has been hacked but what you just said here. you basically mean without money a lady can't stay in a relationship? no matter how much you have there'll always be people who have much than that.

If a guy has to provide some basic necessities she needs, so what will she provide in return? sex?

when guys say things like this I wonder why some ladies won't depend on them.

who's a mumu between us now?
this should be the last time you'll mention me on this forum because you're senseless

TheUpsetGirl1:
that account has been hacked but what you just said here. you basically mean without money a lady can't stay in a relationship? no matter how much you have there'll always be people who have much than that.

If a guy has to provide some basic necessities she needs, so what will she provide in return? sex?

when guys say things like this I wonder why some ladies won't depend on them.

who's a mumu between us now?
this should be the last time you'll mention me on this forum because you're senseless

Stop with the lies, how come it's only yours that was hacked.

And about telling me to stop quoting you, that's never going to happen. I will always quote and bash the hell out of you whenever you write crap like you always do

Better go and sleep so you can do your midnight browsing like you always do. Mumu

Jeferious:
God, it seems I'm the last of my kind. We are so few on earth- those who don't worship women. I dunno if it is in the food we eat or the drink we gulp, but an obvious process of pu$$ification is going on in our society. Men are becoming weaker day by day.

See, if you are a guy and this thread did not get you thinking, I'm sorry for you. You might still have your p€nis with you, but you've lost your essence of manhood. I don't even know what to say to those who would waste their resources chasing punna. You're finished.

Thank God for myself and guys like me: You can't have an unfair sense of entitlement around us, be you a guy or lady. I for one person would treat you like nothing, and this will continue till you feel worthless around us. Even when your attitude change, I'd continue with the status quo till you get irritated and go away. I don't condone nonsense, and I don't forgive when it has already been committed.

But then, you ladies are very lucky, so you would continue to abuse guys who don't know their rights, as there are very few people like me out there

this is just me. I can never see any girl as being special. u are just a random Bimbo to me

una sha want talk on Nairaland. Aunty, we've seen you.

ThatIgboBoy:
this is just me. I can never see any girl as being special. u are just a random Bimbo to me

Hmm...Tough Mennn, the day you all will fall in love is coming.

mistyebby:
Hmm...Tough Mennn, the day you all will fall in love is coming.

we just keep deceiving ourselves with love ish. no love found anywhere

damtan:
we just keep deceiving ourselves with love ish. no love found anywhere

Yes your are right. No map can locate love, it has to emanate from you to others. Good night.

mistyebby:
Hmm...Tough Mennn, the day you all will fall in love is coming.

I hear u

highpriestess:
guys are quick to quote where bible said women should be submissive but always skip and forget that the same bible admonished them to take care of the bills.
well,that's there business. if I'm dating you and you show some selfishness and tight fisted attitude I will just dumb your sorry ass.

Apologies for tagging or quoting you in this post. I just need to make this point and I really hope I do not derail the subject matter.

From my understanding, Being Submissive is actually a strength not a weakness but a lot of people really wanna look at it from the weakness point of view just like 6 & 9 depending on your position.

Being Submissive actually means you have Control of your man. Let me paint a picture, You tend to like or cherish a leader more than a Boss.

A leader is Submissive, he/she leads instead of dictating like a Boss would do and leading people required you to be Submissive. You can’t lead until you’re Submissive.

Submissiveness doesn’t mean you should tolerate abuse or lack of discipline.

The real problem is that in most cases We (Individual) don’t know what we want or need.

If you don’t know want you need or want,how do you expect a Stranger to give you and you can’t be Submissive until you really know what you truly need or desire.

No man (Male or Female) is stingy, that’s my belief which you can disprove but the truth is, if you really know what you need, no amount of money is too small or big to make it happen.

If he his stingy, I believe you are an option not a priority.

TheCar:
Apologies for tagging or quoting you in this post. I just need to make this point and I really hope I do not derail the subject matter.

From my understanding, Being Submissive is actually a strength not a weakness but a lot of people really wanna look at it from the weakness point of view just like 6 & 9 depending on your position.

Being Submissive actually means you have Control of your man. Let me paint a picture, You tend to like or cherish a leader more than a Boss.

A leader is Submissive, he/she leads instead of dictating like a Boss would do and leading people required you to be Submissive. You can’t lead until you’re Submissive.

Submissiveness doesn’t mean you should tolerate abuse or lack of discipline.

The real problem is that in most cases We (Individual) don’t know what we want or need.

If you don’t know want you need or want,how do you expect a Stranger to give you and you can’t be Submissive until you really know what you truly need or desire.

No man (Male or Female) is stingy, that’s my belief which you can disprove but the truth is, if you really know what you need, no amount of money is too small or big to make it happen.

If he his stingy, I believe you are an option not a priority.

lets say i agree ,, both male and female should be submissive!! A man can be a leader too!! Not just women

It's really funny how men try to preach just to constantly put women on that slavery mentality!! Now submission is leadership?? How ridiculous

Lemme Not Talk

Shugavee:
lets say i agree ,, both male and female should be submissive!! A man can be a leader too!! Not just women

Submissive is a 2 way street not 1 way. Can a Man truly claim to love without being submissive with his resources, attention, listening when you are ready to talk and etc.

Mention a Happily Married, Powerful and Influential Man and I will show you the major decision maker, The Wife.

Have you ever imagined why if you go house hunting, the estate agent focus attention on the woman although the Man end up with the bills.

The point is, know what you need/want and be submissive to him if you are sure you made the right choice and see yourself at the seat of power.

Just my 1 cent.

Shugavee:
It's really funny how men try to preach just to constantly put women on that slavery mentality!! Now submission is leadership?? How ridiculous

The word "leadership" can bring to mind a variety of images. For example:

A political leader, pursuing a passionate, personal cause.

An explorer, cutting a path through the jungle for the rest of his group to follow.

An executive, developing her company's strategy to beat the competition.


According to the idea of transformational leadership, an effective leader is a person who does the following:

Creates an inspiring vision of the future.

Motivates and inspires people to engage with that vision.

Manages delivery of the vision.

Coaches and builds a team, so that it is more effective at achieving the vision.

Leaders help themselves and others to do the right things. They set direction, build an inspiring vision, and create something new. Leadership is about mapping out where you need to go to "win" as a team or an organization; and it is dynamic, exciting, and inspiring.

Yet, while leaders set the direction, they must also use management skills to guide their people to the right destination, in a smooth and efficient way.

Leadership is the art of getting someone else to do something you want done because he wants to do it.
– Dwight D. Eisenhower

Tell me how a leader will achieve those things without being submissive.

Take a political leader for example, before he can achieve his goal, he/she need your vote and to get your vote, he/she need to reach out to you in a message that resonates with you i.e. political rally, campaign etc.

He/She might be a Multi Billionaire who lives in luxurious apartment in a reserve area of town but to get your vote, he need to leave his luxury life, visit the ghettos, Street under the sun to seek for your vote delivering his/her message in a language you understand.

That my dear, is Submissiveness.

TheCar:
The word "leadership" can bring to mind a variety of images. For example:

A political leader, pursuing a passionate, personal cause.

An explorer, cutting a path through the jungle for the rest of his group to follow.

An executive, developing her company's strategy to beat the competition.


According to the idea of transformational leadership, an effective leader is a person who does the following:

Creates an inspiring vision of the future.

Motivates and inspires people to engage with that vision.

Manages delivery of the vision.

Coaches and builds a team, so that it is more effective at achieving the vision.

Leaders help themselves and others to do the right things. They set direction, build an inspiring vision, and create something new. Leadership is about mapping out where you need to go to "win" as a team or an organization; and it is dynamic, exciting, and inspiring.

Yet, while leaders set the direction, they must also use management skills to guide their people to the right destination, in a smooth and efficient way.

Leadership is the art of getting someone else to do something you want done because he wants to do it.
– Dwight D. Eisenhower

Tell me how a leader will achieve those things without being submissive.

Take a political leader for example, before he can achieve his goal, he/she need your vote and to get your vote, he/she need to reach out to you in a message that resonates with you i.e. political rally, campaign etc.

He/She might be a Multi Billionaire who lives in luxurious apartment in a reserve area of town but to get your vote, he need to leave his luxury life, visit the ghettos, Street under the sun to seek for your vote delivering his/her message in a language you understand.

That my dear, is Submissiveness.

you!!!

many guys wants one thing in a relationship ``sèx``. many ladies want 3 things, attention. money. séx.

Rubbish!!!!!!!!!
Just wasted my time reading.

If you love a guy, take care of his bills too.

PrimadonnaO:
Now, take no offence my lovelies, but I feel the need to address a matter.

First of all, this was necessitated by @Upsetgirl's post. Hey, girl, I'm sorry for calling you out, but it's either you're such a huge attention-seeker, you're just nuts or you're simply a guy trolling on Nairaland.

Now, to the guys. Honestly, this issue I'm talking about has well been overflogged. It's irksome the way some of you quickly tag a girl a prostitute. I mean, c'mon. You're dating a girl and shagging, she expects you to take care of some of her bills, and you very quickly start calling all girls prostitutes?

The truth is, if you're with a girl, (whether or not you're fvcking is quite irrelevant), and you claim to love her, it's only natural that you'll do certain things for her. It is no obligation, yes, and she doesn't have to be broke first before you do stuff for her. It's just the way these things work...and it darn well won't be changing anytime soon. It's one of the ways you show care. If you'll do stuffs for a friend or a sibling, why not a girl you claim to love? It's being good, for goodness sake.

Allow me also, to explain why I think some girls begin to feel really entitled when you're sleeping with them. By default, most girls are not sex-freaked. A girl doesn't do the chase, she can go months and years without having sex. But this isn't the case with guys. A lot of guys go women-hunting basically for sexual gratification. Now, you're with a girl who would otherwise not be fvcking if she wasn't with you, and then you want it all so often, every other day if given the chance. The average girl sees it as her pleasing you, making some sort of sacrifice. So, in her head, it's only fair you do stuff for her, too. I mean, there are tons of other guys out there and she isn't paying them any attention. You're the one taking her time, loyalty and the goodies down there...Lol. While this may be wrong on some levels, it doesn't make her a prostitute either. It's not a business transaction, it's supposed to be a relationship. Feelings are involved. She's not doing it with every other person. She doesn't exactly make those demands like it's her right and she'll sue you if you don't meet them. She probably looks for a button to press, and makes entreaties. That's how she gets you to do things for her.

There's also a percentage of girls who feel you won't be with them if sex isn't involved, or that you'll cheat on them. Still yet, there's another percentage who think sex deepens bond and sh*t like that.

Now, what I personally find wrong in this, is a girl being weak and unscrupulous...sleeping with a guy because you think he'd leave you if you don't. Well, let him go! While I might be an advocate of abstinence, I still know that doesn't work for everyone. But you girl, should only do what you want to do. Forget the sentiments. You like him, you've got the hots for him, you wanna screw him, do it just because you want to, not because you expect him to give you money for it. But if you go about having the hots for every Tom, Dick and Harry and feeling like a 21st chick, so indulging yourself, well that's lack of self-control...promiscuity.

So, to the guys that call every girl a prostitute and say they won't spend a dime on a girl, well, you're deceiving yourself, and most likely, you're broke. No apologies. Oh, yes, and there's the consideration that you've only been attracting leeches who don't care two hoots 'bout you. So, check yourself. A real man, not broke, not bitter, and has got what it takes to attract a decent, smart girl won't come online ranting that all girls have a prostitute mentality. Yes, he knows that there are so many girls like that, but he knows also, that there are a good number who aren't like that...and knows not to make the others his priority. And yea, they know how to take care of their women.

So, dear Mr, who calls all girls prostitutes deserving of nothing, ranting online and typing all manner of obscenities, I'm telling you that you probably have a problem. Look for a solution. Bye!.


N:B. Don't be in a hurry to quote me when you haven't read and understood properly. I won't even bother replying. Let it be clear, if you don't understand anything else that I'm not advocating/in support of sex in exchange for material gratification. No way.
I was only trying to provide an explanation of how I think some girls view and justify these things. It may not be whollistic.

You're hell of a writer. Gaddemit I get an orgy when I meet women like you.

Not always about breast tissues and bum fat!

Funnicator:
You're hell of a writer. Gaddemit I get an orgy when I meet women like you.

Not always about breast tissues and bum fat!

Thanks.

PrimadonnaO:
Thanks.

Can we be friends. Don't mind my moniker.