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Kyllahmc:
same here... my female cousins seem to have sexual interest for me... though when I we were younger i used to give in,,, wetin I sabbi then?
but we are all adults now yet these girls are still not showing any sign of stopping even the married once...
well I simply run!

Run is the key man

sapeleboi:
hmmm tripping for who?

Tripping for WHO

W - World

H - Health

O - Organisation

McCobble:
Hmmmm! shyte like this happens, while growing up in the SW, I attended same secondary school with my cousin, i happened to be the older one and in senior class, I was the "Mob boss" protecting his familia, nobody dare bully her, she became very found of me and started scaring girls away from me, i didn't bother then cuz I thought she was just protecting my interest. Fast forward to 12 years letter (man don chop -up), We met at my mum burial and we exchange address, she came to Lagos for her NYSC and started staying with me in my 2 bedroom flat, each time i come home with a gal, oh boy my cousin will make sure she pick a fight with her. after fighting with 2 different ladies, I confronted her and I was not prepared for what came out of her, "I am in love with you and I don't care what the world say" I got scared and left the house and started staying with my friend. I managed the situation by renting an apartment for her, and drum it to her that I will rather die than commit incest. We are no more as close as we were those days anymore and it still hurts.

Wehdone sir

hadjipapiey:
Who is this wasted sperm

Your wife

Diso60090:
Your wife

Swerve kid!

Akious2k2:
If you insist... See below... Just for your information, since she's married already

These two Ayas are the key source:
ﻭَﻟَﺎ ﺗَﻨﻜِﺤُﻮﺍ ﻣَﺎ ﻧَﻜَﺢَ ﺁﺑَﺎﺅُﻛُﻢ ﻣِّﻦَ ﺍﻟﻨِّﺴَﺎﺀِ ﺇِﻟَّﺎ ﻣَﺎ ﻗَﺪْ ﺳَﻠَﻒَ ۚ ﺇِﻧَّﻪُ ﻛَﺎﻥَ ﻓَﺎﺣِﺸَﺔً ﻭَﻣَﻘْﺘًﺎ ﻭَﺳَﺎﺀَ ﺳَﺒِﻴﻠًﺎ
And do not marry those [women] whom your fathers married,
except what has already occurred. Indeed, it was an immorality
and hateful [to Allah ] and was evil as a way.
ﺣُﺮِّﻣَﺖْ ﻋَﻠَﻴْﻜُﻢْ ﺃُﻣَّﻬَﺎﺗُﻜُﻢْ ﻭَﺑَﻨَﺎﺗُﻜُﻢْ ﻭَﺃَﺧَﻮَﺍﺗُﻜُﻢْ ﻭَﻋَﻤَّﺎﺗُﻜُﻢْ ﻭَﺧَﺎﻟَﺎﺗُﻜُﻢْ ﻭَﺑَﻨَﺎﺕُ ﺍﻟْﺄَﺥِ ﻭَﺑَﻨَﺎﺕُ ﺍﻟْﺄُﺧْﺖِ ﻭَﺃُﻣَّﻬَﺎﺗُﻜُﻢُ
ﺍﻟﻠَّﺎﺗِﻲ ﺃَﺭْﺿَﻌْﻨَﻜُﻢْ ﻭَﺃَﺧَﻮَﺍﺗُﻜُﻢ ﻣِّﻦَ ﺍﻟﺮَّﺿَﺎﻋَﺔِ ﻭَﺃُﻣَّﻬَﺎﺕُ ﻧِﺴَﺎﺋِﻜُﻢْ ﻭَﺭَﺑَﺎﺋِﺒُﻜُﻢُ ﺍﻟﻠَّﺎﺗِﻲ ﻓِﻲ ﺣُﺠُﻮﺭِﻛُﻢ ﻣِّﻦ ﻧِّﺴَﺎﺋِﻜُﻢُ
ﺍﻟﻠَّﺎﺗِﻲ ﺩَﺧَﻠْﺘُﻢ ﺑِﻬِﻦَّ ﻓَﺈِﻥ ﻟَّﻢْ ﺗَﻜُﻮﻧُﻮﺍ ﺩَﺧَﻠْﺘُﻢ ﺑِﻬِﻦَّ ﻓَﻠَﺎ ﺟُﻨَﺎﺡَ ﻋَﻠَﻴْﻜُﻢْ ﻭَﺣَﻠَﺎﺋِﻞُ ﺃَﺑْﻨَﺎﺋِﻜُﻢُ ﺍﻟَّﺬِﻳﻦَ ﻣِﻦْ ﺃَﺻْﻠَﺎﺑِﻜُﻢْ
ﻭَﺃَﻥ ﺗَﺠْﻤَﻌُﻮﺍ ﺑَﻴْﻦَ ﺍﻟْﺄُﺧْﺘَﻴْﻦِ ﺇِﻟَّﺎ ﻣَﺎ ﻗَﺪْ ﺳَﻠَﻒَ ۗ ﺇِﻥَّ ﺍﻟﻠَّﻪَ ﻛَﺎﻥَ ﻏَﻔُﻮﺭًﺍ ﺭَّﺣِﻴﻤًﺎ
Prohibited to you [for marriage] are your mothers, your daughters,
your sisters, your father's sisters, your mother's sisters, your
brother's daughters, your sister's daughters, your [milk] mothers
who nursed you, your sisters through nursing, your wives'
mothers, and your step-daughters under your guardianship [born]
of your wives unto whom you have gone in. But if you have not
gone in unto them, there is no sin upon you. And [also prohibited
are] the wives of your sons who are from your [own] loins, and
that you take [in marriage] two sisters simultaneously, except for
what has already occurred. Indeed, Allah is ever Forgiving and
Merciful.
Surat An-Nisā' Aya 22-23.
Allah prohibited 14 classes of women, 7 due to blood relationship, and
7 for others.
Those because of blood relationship are:
Mothers: every female ancestor for you no matter how high her
level is (note that she might on the side of your father too, for
example, your father's mother).
Daughters: every female descendant of you no matter how low
her level is (again, note that she might be on the side of your
son, for example, your son's daughter).
Sisters: every female that share you your father or mather (or
both of them).
Aunts: both
Sisters of every male ancestor for you (even on the side of
your mother, such as the sister of your mother's father),
and
Sisters of every female ancestor for you (even on the side
of your father, such as the sister of your father's mother).
Nieces: every female descendant of your brothers and sisters, no
matter how low her level is (this count 2 out of 7). This
completes the list of women prohibited because of blood
relationship.
Now we come to those prohibited because of milk relationship
(breastfeeding), there is a basic hadith here:
The Prophet said about Hamza's daughter, "I am not legally
permitted to marry her, as foster relations are treated like blood
relations (in marital affairs). She is the daughter of my foster
brother."
ﺣَﺪَّﺛَﻨَﺎ ﻣُﺴْﻠِﻢُ ﺑْﻦُ ﺇِﺑْﺮَﺍﻫِﻴﻢَ، ﺣَﺪَّﺛَﻨَﺎ ﻫَﻤَّﺎﻡٌ، ﺣَﺪَّﺛَﻨَﺎ ﻗَﺘَﺎﺩَﺓُ، ﻋَﻦْ ﺟَﺎﺑِﺮِ ﺑْﻦِ ﺯَﻳْﺪٍ، ﻋَﻦِ ﺍﺑْﻦِ ﻋَﺒَّﺎﺱٍ ـ ﺭﺿﻰ ﺍﻟﻠﻪ
ﻋﻨﻬﻤﺎ ـ ﻗَﺎﻝَ ﻗَﺎﻝَ ﺍﻟﻨَّﺒِﻲُّ ﺻﻠﻰ ﺍﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ ﻓِﻲ ﺑِﻨْﺖِ ﺣَﻤْﺰَﺓَ " ﻻَ ﺗَﺤِﻞُّ ﻟِﻲ، ﻳَﺤْﺮُﻡُ ﻣِﻦَ ﺍﻟﺮَّﺿَﺎﻉِ ﻣَﺎ
ﻳَﺤْﺮُﻡُ ﻣِﻦَ ﺍﻟﻨَّﺴَﺐِ، ﻫِﻲَ ﺑِﻨْﺖُ ﺃَﺧِﻲ ﻣِﻦَ ﺍﻟﺮَّﺿَﺎﻋَﺔِ ."
Sahih al-Bukhari 2645 (with many, many other riwayat [versions] ).
And, depending on that hadith, there is a basic rule in Shariaa:
ﻳﺤﺮﻡ ﻣﻦ ﺍﻟﺮﺿﺎﻉ ﻣﺎ ﻳﺤﺮﻡ ﻣﻦ ﺍﻟﻨﺴﺐ
What's prohibited (for marriage) because of milk relationship are
the same as what's prohibited because of blood relationship.
Other translation: Marriage prohibition because of milk
relationship is similar to marriage prohibition because of blood
relationship.
Now if a woman breastfeeds a boy, then she is considered (in marital
affairs) as his own mother, and blood-relationship prohibition rules are
applied with all of her family. And the husband of this woman at the
time she breastfed the boy is considered (in marital affairs) as his
own father, and (again) blood-relationship prohibition rules are applied
with all of his family.
Also milk sisters are prohibited, they're every female breastfed by
your (blood) mother or your mother in law (your father's wife). And
she is considered (in maritial affairs) as your own sister.
But , the amount of breastfeeding that makes these rules applied is
not the same for all scholars, and I'm not going to explain this now.
(general speaking two pleasing breadfeeds are enough to make these
rules applied).
Now we come to those prohibited because of affinity, they're:
Wife's mothers: every female ancestor of the wife. And they
become prohibited just if the marriage contract is made (even
before any intercourse).
Wife's daughters: every female descendant of man's wife from
another husband. At the condition of making an intercourse with
this wife, i.e, marriage contract is not enough to prohibit these
daughters, an intercourse is needed to make the prohibition
applied.
Daughters in law: the wife of any male descendant, no matter
how low her level is.
Milk Sons' wives: wives of man's milk sons (the rule of milk
prohibition applies here).
Mother in law: the wife of any male ancestor, no matter how
high his level is. Also these three classes have some differences
in scholars' views, in affairs of intercourse or just marriage
contract... etc. But again, I'm not going to discuss these now.
Sisters of current wives: a man is not allowed to marry two
sisters at the same time, if he marry a woman, then all of her
sisters are temporarily prohibited for him. If she die, or they
divorce, then her sisters become un-prohibited for him, he can
marry any of them (after the divorce period ﻋﺪﺓ of the wife is
over).
And finally, of course he can't marry a married woman! if she divorce,
then he can marry her after her divorce period ﻋﺪﺓ is over.
Sources: Tafseer Al Qurtubi, Ahkam Al-Quran by Ibn Arabi, and
Ahkam Al-Quran by Alkia Alharrasi (may Allah be merciful to them
all). Especially Tafseer Al Qurtubi 5 [105-134].
P.S: this is not a complete list or explanation, for example, I've not
mentioned prohibited slave females (because there is no slavery
anymore, thank Allah, and because they're very few), and I haven't
mentioned some rare cases. If I want to explain and take care of
every case and scholar view, this post could run into pages (full of
information not interesting for everybody).
5 Just a note: Slavery still exists in present days. Quoting from
Wikipedia : " There are more slaves today than at any point in
history, remaining as high as 12 million to 27 million. " Muslim
people (e.g. in Sudan and Mauritania) are suffering from this
wrongdoing. – overcoder Jul 7 '12 at 7:48
1 Very concisely put, @TamerShlash, the part about the ascendants and
descendants. Worth marking this answer as favourite! – Najeeb Feb
25 '14 at 10:28
1 @overcoder not so sure if it can be attributed to Islam or not. Major
Islamic countries don't have slaves. – Honey Jun 3 '17 at 16:43
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Jul 7 '12 at 4:00
Tamer Shlash
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1 In the aye (verse) below , Quran says who you cannot marriage:
ﺣُﺮِّﻣَﺖْ ﻋَﻠَﻴْﻜُﻢْ ﺃُﻣَّﻬَﺎﺗُﻜُﻢْ ﻭَﺑَﻨَﺎﺗُﻜُﻢْ ﻭَﺃَﺧَﻮَﺍﺗُﻜُﻢْ ﻭَﻋَﻤَّﺎﺗُﻜُﻢْ ﻭَﺧَﺎﻟَﺎﺗُﻜُﻢْ ﻭَﺑَﻨَﺎﺕُ ﺍﻟْﺄَﺥِ ﻭَﺑَﻨَﺎﺕُ ﺍﻟْﺄُﺧْﺖِ ﻭَﺃُﻣَّﻬَﺎﺗُﻜُﻢُ
ﺍﻟﻠَّﺎﺗِﻲ ﺃَﺭْﺿَﻌْﻨَﻜُﻢْ ﻭَﺃَﺧَﻮَﺍﺗُﻜُﻢ ﻣِّﻦَ ﺍﻟﺮَّﺿَﺎﻋَﺔِ ﻭَﺃُﻣَّﻬَﺎﺕُ ﻧِﺴَﺎﺋِﻜُﻢْ ﻭَﺭَﺑَﺎﺋِﺒُﻜُﻢُ ﺍﻟﻠَّﺎﺗِﻲ ﻓِﻲ ﺣُﺠُﻮﺭِﻛُﻢ ﻣِّﻦ ﻧِّﺴَﺎﺋِﻜُﻢُ
ﺍﻟﻠَّﺎﺗِﻲ ﺩَﺧَﻠْﺘُﻢ ﺑِﻬِﻦَّ ﻓَﺈِﻥ ﻟَّﻢْ ﺗَﻜُﻮﻧُﻮﺍ ﺩَﺧَﻠْﺘُﻢ ﺑِﻬِﻦَّ ﻓَﻠَﺎ ﺟُﻨَﺎﺡَ ﻋَﻠَﻴْﻜُﻢْ ﻭَﺣَﻠَﺎﺋِﻞُ ﺃَﺑْﻨَﺎﺋِﻜُﻢُ ﺍﻟَّﺬِﻳﻦَ ﻣِﻦْ ﺃَﺻْﻠَﺎﺑِﻜُﻢْ
ﻭَﺃَﻥ ﺗَﺠْﻤَﻌُﻮﺍ ﺑَﻴْﻦَ ﺍﻟْﺄُﺧْﺘَﻴْﻦِ ﺇِﻟَّﺎ ﻣَﺎ ﻗَﺪْ ﺳَﻠَﻒَ ۗ ﺇِﻥَّ ﺍﻟﻠَّﻪَ ﻛَﺎﻥَ ﻏَﻔُﻮﺭًﺍ ﺭَّﺣِﻴﻤًﺎ ٤: ٢٣
Prohibited to you (For marriage) are:- Your mothers, daughters,
sisters; father's sisters, Mother's sisters; brother's daughters,
sister's daughters; foster-mothers (Who gave you suck), foster-
sisters; your wives' mothers; your step-daughters under your
guardianship, born of your wives to whom ye have gone in,- no
prohibition if ye have not gone in;- (Those who have been) wives
of your sons proceeding from your loins; and two sisters in
wedlock at one and the same time, except for what is past; for
Allah is Oft-forgiving, Most Merciful;-
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جزاكم الله خيراً أخي

hadjipapiey:
Swerve kid!

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hadjipapiey:
Swerve kid!

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hadjipapiey:


Run is the key man

Please run bro. If not for anything but for your wife and kids. Imagine what would happen if it spills that you guys are having an affair. The marriage will be broken, family ties broken and the kids will live with such stigma. It's not the actions that matters but the consequences of the action. I'm glad you're seeing the funny side of her actions, flee bro.

Diso60090:
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Thanks for swarving, I for no see road

Generals06:
Ok. Waiting.

ok

Generals06:
What happened to your former moniker and diary? I was enjoying it. You were talking about how the guys you have slept with have wrecked you by infusing you with all sorts of spiritual ill lucks and exchanges. And your life seemed to stall. Stagnancy

So how you are you managing the situation now?

You even said you want someone who will assist you in building your spiritual life so that you can bounce back and correct the wrongs of the past.

Are you still interested in the assistance?

Or Cousin Is Nt Hapily Married.U Re Regretin Nt Sexin Her Way Back.Sm Say Nothin Is Taboo.In Asia They Marry Their Relatv. But Am Nt Advcatin. See U Both Re In Lov. She Wil Get Pregnant 4 U. Yr Family Wil Abandon U Both.N D Child Shal B 4 D Kinsmen.

hadjipapiey:
what do you take of your cousin sister showing advances and professing deep love and care?

It started when we were young, about 15 years ago. I had finished my SSCE when we had a get together at the remembrance of my grandfather, all the grandchildren showed up, and it was the first time we had met(grown up).

I was almost 2 years older, we got talking and chatting and trying to know each other. While at it, I was in charge telling her about myself, the school I attended and all. All I could observe is staring and gazing straight into my eye balls.

After the remembrance, I got to understand her looks translated into feelings where she had to ask her mum can one marry her cousin? To me i only can feel she was just a kid being childish about it. Since then we kept our cool and we're just the normal cousin brother and sister.


Fast forward till now, I'm Married while she's married too. We've lost contacts for years cos of struggles and all and we only got back online talking lately, we got talking about life and delved into relationships. It was then she told me what she had for me years back. Her husband is a weekend husband coz of the nature of his work, but she wants some sort of very close friendship. It really funny and confusing what string she's trying to pull


Matured minds please advise

Bro.
all i can say is becareful otherwise u may indulge into fornication.
anything can happen since she love/like u

hadjipapiey:
جزاكم الله خيراً أخي

I never knew you were Muslim... I'm sure the message will convince you even more

Akious2k2:
I never knew you were Muslim... I'm sure the message will convince you even more

Na'am

It's actually a beautiful reminder.
BarokaLLAH feekum

hadjipapiey:
Na'am

It's actually a beautiful reminder.
BarokaLLAH feekum

That's why I like Hausa's
You can't claim to be Muslim and follow some parts of the Qur'an while you nullify other parts due to culture or whatever... After all, Prophet Muhammad (SAW) said that whenever we are faced with uncertainties, we should go back to the Word of GOD (Qur'an)

Akious2k2:
That's why I like Hausa's
You can't claim to be Muslim and follow some parts of the Qur'an while you nullify other parts due to culture or whatever... After all, Prophet Muhammad (SAW) said that whenever we are faced with uncertainties, we should go back to the Word of GOD (Qur'an)

Maa shaa ALLAH..
There's always solutions using the two...
Life revolves around them.

AlhamduliLLAH 'alaa Ni'matil Islam

hadjipapiey:
what do you take of your cousin sister showing advances and professing deep love and care?

It started when we were young, about 15 years ago. I had finished my SSCE when we had a get together at the remembrance of my grandfather, all the grandchildren showed up, and it was the first time we had met(grown up).

I was almost 2 years older, we got talking and chatting and trying to know each other. While at it, I was in charge telling her about myself, the school I attended and all. All I could observe is staring and gazing straight into my eye balls.

After the remembrance, I got to understand her looks translated into feelings where she had to ask her mum can one marry her cousin? To me i only can feel she was just a kid being childish about it. Since then we kept our cool and we're just the normal cousin brother and sister.


Fast forward till now, I'm Married while she's married too. We've lost contacts for years cos of struggles and all and we only got back online talking lately, we got talking about life and delved into relationships. It was then she told me what she had for me years back. Her husband is a weekend husband coz of the nature of his work, but she wants some sort of very close friendship. It really funny and confusing what string she's trying to pull


Matured minds please advise

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I don't think you need to think about it let alone bringing it here for opinion. You are both married so no point.
Don't give the devil a foot hole.

ArcToyin:
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I don't think you need to think about it let alone bringing it here for opinion. You are both married so no point.
Don't give the devil a foot hole.

Ok sir