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story for the gods, rubbish

story for the gods,

sexdoll:
Excuse me madam, but are you from either anambra or calabar?

I know why I'm asking.

Why are you asking?

I am not from either of those places and your post was in plain English.

BlaqCoffee109:
ehen...no vex oh,I dey reason am too sef eh.Come first you sef dey treat her like goddess? You dey totori her with those finer things... surprise dinner, you no dey play with awon leeches{runs gals} ; you no dey let her struggle for her own place in your heart ...all those Kain nice things abi?early morning mata,you too like beta thing Kai! @ Topic wetin some of us here dey try to yarn no be say those things nah bad things to do...but nah the way she list am as if we no matter for the equation...for instance reason wetin DJ Khalid say about im own wife for the world to hear...that was him dignifying his own wife as a LovePeddler...an object for his own pleasure; that was him mirroring the misogynist some men really are...that was condescending as this list too is...I don't have to do all of this to make my man be with me and my man being with me or me being with my man is just constant...granted doing some of these things factor but there is no one size fit all to do list...and it's shouldn't always be keep him keep him...how about keep her keep her! A woman taking care of the home front is great...but she is your wife, not your maid...hence treat her like a queen...the amazing aspect is that ladies who do all these things usually are taken for granted and in most cases lack personal direction or self esteem and too some extent the same men they do it for walk over them to cheat with the slay Mamas...so?d Tori long,I no know whether I make sense small

You make plenty sense. But this thread is about what is expected for a woman to do for her man . Ofcourse that does not in any away nullify what the man should do to keep her woman which includes getting her nice things and giving her the best experience in life. Maybe you can open a thread to that and hopefully we will all accredit such assertions. Also if a woman knows that being a wife makes her "everything" then no need for external maid to avoid temptation. The case of DJ khalid isnt that bad he said he is willing to take care of her but not by licking whatever. How does that objectify her? Is it really a rule or the exception that if a woman plays her role well the man will look outside? Can a man also use that as an excuse not to go out of his way to please the wife?

princfred:
This is why baby mamas will keep increasing because i doubt you will tell him this before marriage and that he will hang around any longer if you sound like this after unless he has no manhood.

I will tell him before he goes deep. One thing I hate about myself is that I don't pretend. However I must not worship and my man or be his servant for him to love me. I'm suppose to be there for him and be his companion and not a servant. All those things he mentioned are things people do. Not everyday Cos if you have something doing and children to take care of you won't do that everyday and a man would understand that. But I can't do all that just to keep a man. The is not a baby in kindergartten. Font tell me you want to keep a woman who things that's her only duty to you and call her a wife.

princfred:
You make plenty sense. But this thread is about what is expected for a woman to do for her man . Ofcourse that does not in any away nullify what the man should do to keep her woman . Maybe you can open a thread to that and hopefully we will all accredit whatever assertions you make. The case of DJ khalid isnt that bad he said he is willing to take care of her but not by licking whatever. How does that objectify her?

can't put it together verbatim but he asserted he is the don and deserves the bj but he can't see himself returning the favor because it is different rules for men...men are Kings; something like that. Point is a king bows only to his queen...so if it's different rules for men and men are Kings and he can't chow his wife...what then is she if not just an object of his pleasure? That my friend not just objectify her but also looks demeaning...like when big poppa's hot, all he gotta do is snap his fingers and she sucks him out...when he's about to cum all he gotta do is scream DJ Khalid ...we the best! With his fat face looking like a down syndrome patient while at it.

And in return what will he offer..


any man that will be keep and love u bck will surely do jare

XhosaNostra:
It almost sounds like a job for an auxiliary nurse at a hospice or an old age home.

"Help him dress"

"Helping him dress" is nothing but simple nicety. It could be as simple as doing/undoing one of the buttons on his shirt to make him look sharp or even just adjusting the collar of his shirt, doesn't necessarily mean dressing him up lol!...Even affords you the chance of feeling him up before he hits the road if you kwim ! Go easy on the 'girl power' thingy, makes you come off as some programmed inflexible cyborgs ...

KanwuliaExtra:
Why would I want to 'keep a man'?

Na trophy?

If he wants to 'waka'. . . please, let him feel free.

I cannot be a trophy to any man either.

Too free-spirited for all that craaap o!





E go wait taya ke!
My papa nor train me to be 'housemaid in-training-to-be-second-wife' o!

I will even feel extremely irritated if a man does all these for me even as a 'surprise'.

That is not what I need from a man. He should not expect such for me either!

If he wants to know what I NEED from him to keep him. . . let him ask me directly.

Kenyan woman don tok her own abi?

Oya what exactly do you want in life??

lets just cancel marriage becoz clearly noone sees value in it.
lets just fvck and go our seperate ways

XingXhang:
Funny Enough, any woman that does this can NEVER have her man keeping late night.

Most men keep slay queens because those girls are experts in taking care of them.

Ladies, be wise.

true talk. if i end up with a lady that can treat me like that, i will forever make her feel she has the best husband

iamJ:
i will dump a mumu girl like that, respect me but dont serve me like a house girl, well i trust intelligent feminist, they will tag this as nonsense, this is for those bread sellers to use



Equality forever, nobody is anybody's boss

. Are you a man or a woman

AreaFada2:
Abeg add that Orubebe picture with microphone.

I never get

SenorFax:
Oya what exactly do you want in life??

Good health, a sound mind, long life and prosperity.

You see “man” for my wish?
I nor need dem abeg.

kenyan ladies rock


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=65YidiOUa84



judy -
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oj59QUGR12I

judy vs agnes -
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Zu9YD25gs8

Lonestar124:
So a lady will observe these criteria as her daily priority just to keep a man....No. I won't subscribe to this gesture.

no wonder your moniker

MISSCONGENIALITY:
I will tell him before he goes deep. One thing I hate about myself is that I don't pretend. However I must not worship and my man or be his servant for him to love me. I'm suppose to be there for him and be his companion and not a servant. All those things he mentioned are things people do. Not everyday Cos if you have something doing and children to take care of you won't do that everyday and a man would understand that. But I can't do all that just to keep a man. The is not a baby in kindergartten. Font tell me you want to keep a woman who things that's her only duty to you and call her a wife.

The problem with Nigerian girls is that they reserve their reverence, respect and sense of servanthood to their boss in the office or their pastor but little for their husband then complain when the man gets lost when his mind is blown by that single lady who gives him all that care and service. If you know you are not selfless or love or revere a man enough to not see those things as a big deal to do for him then dont marry him and allow him get someone ready to be his wife an serve him as he serves her in his own way too. Because you are just setting yourself up to be a baby mama with such unselfless, arrogant, egocentric and belligerent orientation. This is reality. I bet you will be arrogant enough to see passing him food below you or think that makes you a servant to cook and serve him meals. Both of you are each others servant or what is wife or husband without serving one another- fuxck mate then. Maybe he married you for fancy or to be a baby mama (because thats what he will see you as if you make yourself one by thinking only the children deserve your care) or Bleep mate.

Opentokwowledge:
"Helping him dress" is nothing but simple nicety. It could be as simple as doing/undoing one of the buttons on his shirt to make him look sharp or even just adjusting the collar of his shirt, doesn't necessarily mean dressing him up lol!...Even affords you the chance of feeling him up before he hits the road if you kwim ! Go easy on the 'girl power' thingy, makes you come off as some programmed inflexible cyborgs ...

No mind them. Thats how they are raising women of nowadays to be selfish and arrogant with no game(romance) and they will complain when a slay queen who gat game turns their mans head and account.

BlaqCoffee109:
can't put it together verbatim but he asserted he is the don and deserves the bj but he can't see himself returning the favor because it is different rules for men...men are Kings; something like that. Point is a king bows only to his queen...so if it's different rules for men and men are Kings and he can't chow his wife...what then is she if not just an object of his pleasure? That my friend not just objectify her but also looks demeaning...like when big poppa's hot, all he gotta do is snap his fingers and she sucks him out...when he's about to cum all he gotta do is scream DJ Khalid ...we the best! With his fat face looking like a down syndrome patient while at it.

Lol.
If a woman has as much reverence and humility for the husband as she has for her boss in the office or pastor (for some) she won't see it that way. And i didnt hear the wife complain because white ladies tend to have such orientation towards their man. They cherish their men if they are loyal and responsible by understanding and not loathing their ego or machoism. Here, its the women of this generation dragging ego and macho with men especially if they are educated or rich. Imagine Chimamanda telling Hillary to remove wife from her bio that's her best advice to her of all things in the world.

Famousqueen:
story for the gods, rubbish

Rubbish abi. With everything you carry for chest there Kenya woman dey teach una game yet you cant learn. You think say wetin you carry is enough to keep a man if you no get game abi? Kwuntinu we shall huu on the baby mama side of life.

purples25:
A man that says he wants to go, will go.

A man that threatens you with leaving will eventually leave.

Real love is unconditional, it asks no favours.

It is servile and undemanding until the end.

Most times it occurs without sexual thought.

Love is groomed and nurtured otherwise. . ...

ubunja:
no wonder your moniker

what is wrong with my sobriquet?

princfred:
Lol.
If a woman has as much reverence and humility for the husband as she has for her boss in the office or pastor (for some) she won't see it that way. And i didnt hear the wife complain because white ladies tend to have such orientation towards their man. They cherish their men if they are loyal and responsible by understanding and not loathe their ego or machoism. Here its the women of this generation dragging ego and macho with men especially if they are educated or rich. Imagine Chimamanda telling Hillary to remove wife from her bio that's her best advice to her of all things in the world.

who wouldn't want a man to be at the driver seat while I am being treated as Queen. I am no feminist, I am every bit as traditional as I understand both sexes equally are important and non-independent of each other.From where i come from, there are no battle of the sexes; We run both patriarchal and matriachal systems.i am from a clan of strong female warriors and from where I come from, women are celebrated...almost deitified! We also maintain our roles as wives,lovers, mothers, the menfolk maintain their roles too.I understand the theory of feminism to be about, it's the fight against devalue of a woman to maid, sex object and the general ridicule even propagated by majority of some of the men folk by generation of suppression by most society.Only as the world begins to globalise and societies become acculturized, the menace of the degradation of the women folk became burning topics for the right reasons...even right here on Nairaland; mostly of whom I consider juvenile! You see some male of whom I quickly understand must be a kid or just plain exposing to the world of lack of proper home training refer to females in general only good for fvck their own mother included!Anyway back to discussion, I am first a human being before being classified as woman...you are first a human being before you are first classified as man; GOD in HIS infinite wisdom did not create us to compete but complement one another... embrace your manhood and masculinity; I embrace my feminity and love being feminine but don't tell me I am less of a human because I am not a man and if the man is to rule it's with his queen beside him not as a subject but as one unit. Personally I am of a strong character and it's quite hard for me to be with a man I cannot respect,honor...so you see my friend, I could reverence and honor my man, it's only natural for him to do same ...it has nothing to do with ego; You can't keep ego with the one you love...so it only goes to show lack of mutual respect between both parties for one another...You cheat on me it's because you lack respect for me...I don't treat you right,it's because I lack respect for you...it's as simple as it gets hence my analogy with DJ Khalid, he clearly has no respect for women generally hence the way he spoke about his wife and his refusal to please her in return.

princfred:
Love is groomed and nurtured otherwise. . ...

Well I guess you know that only happens sometimes.

BlaqCoffee109:
who wouldn't want a man to be at the driver seat while I am being treated as Queen. I am no feminist, I am every bit as traditional as I understand both sexes equally are important and non-independent of each other.From where i come from, there are no battle of the sexes; We run both patriarchal and matriachal systems.i am from a clan of strong female warriors and from where I come from, women are celebrated...almost deitified! We also maintain our roles as wives,lovers, mothers, the menfolk maintain their roles too.I understand the theory of feminism to be about, it's the fight against devalue of a woman to maid, sex object and the general ridicule even propagated by majority of some of the men folk by generation of suppression by most society.Only as the world begins to globalise and societies become acculturized, the menace of the degradation of the women folk became burning topics for the right reasons...even right here on Nairaland; mostly of whom I consider juvenile! You see some male of whom I quickly understand must be a kid or just plain exposing to the world of lack of proper home training refer to females in general only good for fvck their own mother included!Anyway back to discussion, I am first a human being before being classified as woman...you are first a human being before you are first classified as man; GOD in HIS infinite wisdom did not create us to compete but complement one another... embrace your manhood and masculinity; I embrace my feminity and love being feminine but don't tell me I am less of a human because I am not a man and if the man is to rule it's with his queen beside him not as a subject but as one unit. Personally I am of a strong character and it's quite hard for me to be with a man I cannot respect,honor...so you see my friend, I could reverence and honor my man, it's only natural for him to do same ...it has nothing to do with ego; You can't keep ego with the one you love...so it only goes to show lack of mutual respect between both parties for one another...You cheat on me it's because you lack respect for me...I don't treat you right,it's because I lack respect for you...it's as simple as it gets hence my analogy with DJ Khalid, he clearly has no respect for women generally hence the way he spoke about his wife and his refusal to please her in return.

No body is devaluing you by being the king of the home. Dj khalid not agreeing to give head is in no way devaluing her. If a man undertakes to be loyal and responsible to a wife without sucking does not in any way means he is a misogynist. Also because you suvk a man does not automatically mean he must do the same. Is it a suvking competition? Each one has his or her role and everyone must not perform the same exact role to the other for it to be they are not objectifying them. Ok the man can give a wife doggy does it me the wife cab return that same favor. Does that not amount to dragging right with the man for a woman to demand she gives him doggy too. Again do you think the wife is stupid not to complain or see him as misogynist as you are interpreting it? The problem is the inherent lack of reverence the average Nigerian lady has for men especially if she is educated or financially stable that leads to negative bias, selfishness and contentiousness. No one says you a less human but in a family youve got to know the man calls the shots finally. This brand of equal right if its full blown, may prompt men to share responsibilities into two since it must be suck me i suck you it has to be pay half i pay half of everything too. Buy me car, i buy you car.

Now Davido bought a car worth millions for Chioma for assurance nobody is seeing that as objectifications shouldn't you and men be demanding women should buy them such based on equality. Tomorrow if he says he can receive a blow*job from her but not necessarily give exactly a head back suddenly he becomes a misogynists abi? Or if Chioma decides to give him a blow*job as thank you and he accepts but says he is not positively disposed to giving head but more than willing to buy her another ride he becomes a misogynist.

Men say many women are only good for sex because of the selfish, uncaring, greedy, contentious orientation of many women nowadays. Imagine what else is the use left for a woman if she thinks she is too big to do the things listed by the Kenyan lady? Or thinks its the job of a maid only to cry foul when the man leaves her for the maid. Women should keep claiming wife and get a maid to do those things listed in the first page and see who becomes the madam and queen of the house very soon.

princfred:
No body is devaluing you by being the king of the home. Dj khalid not agreeing to give head is in no way devaluing her. If a man undertakes to be loyal and responsible to a wife without sucking does not in any way means he is a misogynist. Also because you suvk a man does not automatically mean he must do the same. Is it a suvking competition? Each one has his role and everyone must not perform the sane exact role to the other for it to be tgey are not objectifying them. Ok the man can give a wife doggy does it me the wife cab return that same favor. Does that not amount to dragging right with the man for a woman to demand she gives him doggy too. Again do you think the wife is stupid not to complain or see him as misogynist as you are interpreting it? The problem is the inherent lack of reverence the average Nigerian lady has for men especially if she is educated or financially stable that leads to negative bias, selfishness and contentiousness No one says you a less human but in a family youve got to know the man calls the shots finally. This brand of equal right if its full blown tge man will also share responsibilities into two since it must be suck me i sucks you it has to be pay half i pay half of everything too. Now Davido bought a car worth millions for Chioma for assurance nobody is seeing that as objectifications i bet men should be demanding women should buy them such based on equality. Tomorrow if he says he can receive a blow*job from her but not necessarily give exactly a head back suddenly he becomes a misogynists abi? Or if Chioma decides to give him a blow*job as thank you and he accepts but says he is not positively disposed to giving head but more than willing to buy her another ride he becomes a misogynist.

ok nah...no wahala. Like I always say, you marry what's in you...so if you marry a woman and she's not "reverencing you as her head" then something was fundamentally faulty with your coming together in the first place

BlaqCoffee109:
ok nah...no wahala. Like I always say, you marry what's in you...so if you marry a woman and she's not "reverencing you as her head" then something was fundamentally faulty with your coming together in the first place

Thats not always true many nice people usually marry the opposite of what they are. Dont go and keep claiming wife and get a maid to do those things listed in the first page and see who becomes the madam and queen of the house very soon. They dey tell una wetin men dey find go outside or follow maid leave madam for now una dey talk una own instead of to dey jot down. Later na una go say men no get sense leave madam dey follow maid or "what is he looking for outside that i dont have". Those white babes wey invent feminism give una una carry am for head get plan B o. When the thing backfire, their men dump them, they go catch Naija guy wey dey find visa there use am hold body. I wonder who Naija women go catch maybe one aboki or gateman or better still we dey wait una for sugar mummy level when all these dragging of right and feminism lead to its final destination where una go dey pay the bills for the man and he will be doing the things listed by OP. In any case we dey.

princfred:
The problem with Nigerian girls is that they reserve their reverence, respect and sense of servanthood to their boss in the office or their pastor but little for their husband then complain when the man gets lost when his mind is blown by that single lady who gives him all that care. If you know you are not selfless or love or revere a man enough to not see those things as a big deal to do for him then dont marry him and allow him get someone ready to be his wife an serve him as he servers her in his own way too. Because you are just setting yourself up to be a baby mama with such unselfless, arrogant, egocentric and belligerent orientation. This is reality. I bet you will be arrogant enough to see passing him food below you or think that makes you a servant to cook and serve him meals. Both of you are each others servant or what is wife or husband without serving one another- fuxck mate then. Maybe he married you for fancy or to be a baby mama (because thats what he will see you as if you make yourself one by thinking only the children deserve your care) or Bleep mate.

Do you think that I can't do all that and even more for a man I love? There's a differennce between wife and servant Or house maid. Women do all those things she listed and even more for their husbands. But saying those things will keep a man is nonsense. A man who wants to go will go even it you serve him your freshly harvested heart. If that's the kind of woman you need, then I pitty her. And you too, cos you will feel so bored trust you might just leave her and run away.

MISSCONGENIALITY:
Do you think that I can't do all that and even more for a man I love? There's a differennce between wife and servant Or house maid. Women do all those things she listed and even more for their husbands. But saying those things will keep a man is nonsense. A man who wants to go will go even it you serve him your freshly harvested heart. If that's the kind of woman you need, then I pitty her. And you too, cos you will feel so bored trust you might just leave her and run away.

Lol . That last sentence funny die. What do you think men run from more an uncaring, contentious, selfish wife or a caring one? Who dey give una this opposite convoluted orientation? I know not your mothers but fellow clueless girls.What if the man plays by this your upside down logic? Reason am the other way first. If i say i wont do certain things for my wife so she wont feel bored and run away. How will sound to you? I will not give my wife feeding money lest she eats too much, gets bored and runs away. How in the world does that begin to make sense? If you call the things op listed as housemaid or servant job, ok get a maid and leave those things to her na i no ague but beware many have gone .......

carpmam:
Why must she put the doggy part as number one?

Cos Baba God bless dem kenyan ladies with big ukwus. She knows as dem get big yansh so..wen dem twerk am on d guy's crotch..he will be seeing stars... Emm Randy91,greiboy,luminiouz and Martin0... Its like we will be entering Nairobi soon to look for some kenyan babes to marry. Biko how much is kenyan bride price?.. Anybody?.

lefulefu:
Cos Baba God bless dem kenyan ladies with big ukwus. She knows as dem get big yansh so..wen dem twerk am on d guy's crotch..he will be seeing stars... Emm Randy91,greiboy,luminiouz and Martin0... Its like we will be entering Nairobi soon to look for some kenyan babes to marry. Biko how much is kenyan bride price?.. Anybody?.

hahahahaha.....

o menhhhhh...kenya-like ukwu is bae!!!!

##Sometn must kill a man

princfred:
The problem with Nigerian girls is that they reserve their reverence, respect and sense of servanthood to their boss in the office or their pastor but little for their husband then complain when the man gets lost when his mind is blown by that single lady who gives him all that care and service. If you know you are not selfless or love or revere a man enough to not see those things as a big deal to do for him then dont marry him and allow him get someone ready to be his wife an serve him as he serves her in his own way too. Because you are just setting yourself up to be a baby mama with such unselfless, arrogant, egocentric and belligerent orientation. This is reality. I bet you will be arrogant enough to see passing him food below you or think that makes you a servant to cook and serve him meals. Both of you are each others servant or what is wife or husband without serving one another- fuxck mate then. Maybe he married you for fancy or to be a baby mama (because thats what he will see you as if you make yourself one by thinking only the children deserve your care) or Bleep mate.

God bless u for observing the deep respect that some ladies and especially the married ones have for their pastors. Imagine a situation the husband want to romance the wife u will be seeing her bringing excuses such as daddy in church said i should fast for dis week or daddy in church said that doggy position is immoral. Anything pastor talk dem go take am verbatim. A lot of married ladies respect their pastors like small gods while they look on their husband with disdain. Many refer to their pastors as Daddy or daddy GO while dhier husband dem go refer to am as dat mumu man. Husband will come from work ...d wife go still stretch leg dey watch telemondo..even to welcome her husband with a kiss she finds it hard to do such. Ok if na pastor visit u will see d man's wife jumping about and shouting ' daddy!' 'daddy!'. A pastor dats not even up to 30 yrs....u wife is calling him her daddy...while d husband she will use eye to look u up and down and hiss. I don't want to even mention wat goes on in some offices. Enter some office and u will see a secretary dats a married woman sitting on her boss's desk and filing his toe nails. If the husband begs of such gesture from her she will go to joro's blog to complain dat her husband wants to turn her to domestic servant. Hmm na waoh.