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Re: My Husband Has A Different Surname To The One He Uses.. by samuelchimmy(m): 6:55am On May 14, 2018 |
eyinjuege:if at all he's not transparent, she should be talking to him (mad even) and not us..... 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has A Different Surname To The One He Uses.. by samuelchimmy(m): 6:57am On May 14, 2018 |
trapQ:hhmmmm, and it took him 8years to do |
Re: My Husband Has A Different Surname To The One He Uses.. by Tellemall: 6:58am On May 14, 2018 |
Morwendy: Do not expect honest replies from Nigerians. They simply support the patriarchy. Anything a man does must be right. A woman is always suspicious. Even one with legitimate reasons to be. Being on this website has helped many of us understand that. Why should people answer different names to their parents and grandparents? How can people change names so easily? Is it legal? 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Has A Different Surname To The One He Uses.. by cle62000(m): 7:00am On May 14, 2018 |
It is very possible here in Nigeria, example, my grandfather name is my surname which is the same with my Dad but the rest of my siblings surname is my father's name example my grandfather's name is Ehigiator and my father's name is Joseph so my full name reads: Dickson Ehigiator and my father's is Joseph Ehigiator but my siblings are Edison Joseph and same applies to the rest of them. Hope that could help. quote author=Morwendy post=67538758]Hi. New here but have read threads for years til now and I just have a simple question to ask . Ok, I know how dim I sound but I married my Nigerian husband 8 years ago. Next week, we apply for his permanent leave to remain here. We've been happy enough since we got married, the usual ups and downs but nothing too serious. Anyway, I found that he has a website advertising a business in Nigeria. Asked him about it and he says yes its his but its not up and running yet (like thats why I was mad at him rather than because he set ghis up without even telling me). I was looking at some photos on his site and I came across a poster laying out the days events for his fathers funeral. At the foot of the poster it says 'by [his name but different surname] on behalf of the family. Now, this new surname is the same as his fathers so I believe it to be his true name. Asked him about it and he says that his surname is different to the rest of his family because he chose to take his paternal grandfathers name. I assume his father should also bear the grandfathers name? He just keeps telling me that I don't understand Nigerian customs/traditions but now the word 'scammed' keeps popping into my head. A simple yes or no would be enough - is it usual for a man to NOT take his fathers name? Thanks in advance.[/quote] |
Re: My Husband Has A Different Surname To The One He Uses.. by FBIL: 7:02am On May 14, 2018 |
That name on the burial poster is his real surname! Nonetheless, sometimes, the rigors associated with traveling to and residing in a foreign land, isn't always easy for some guys who ab initio, didn't understand how things work overseas. He may have departed from a country other than Nigeria. He may have had one or two issues which precipitated losing any of his vital documents or may have had deportation issues before. The world can never be a Utopia! Thus, do not expect everything perfect. If your guy is good to some extent, ignore other flaws and get him to bring you to Nigeria to do all the marriage rites and then help him regularize his papers with that name you saw on the burial poster. We love foreign women in Nigeria as we are not racists, like others. Congratulations!! |
Re: My Husband Has A Different Surname To The One He Uses.. by bujebudanu1(m): 7:04am On May 14, 2018 |
QueenSuccubus: U just name the document in this world and just give me 1hr to get to oluwole. I will come back with that document Life is easy now |
Re: My Husband Has A Different Surname To The One He Uses.. by mavinc4u(f): 7:06am On May 14, 2018 |
ipobarecriminals: . Nna nwoke a nwere nwaanyi ozo. E jighi igba agwa ocha nke ahu. |
Re: My Husband Has A Different Surname To The One He Uses.. by QueenSuccubus(f): 7:07am On May 14, 2018 |
bujebudanu1: Well, if that's the case..does it mean foreigners can get a Nigerian name as well? Juz give u the docs & all done within an hour? |
Re: My Husband Has A Different Surname To The One He Uses.. by ipledge10(m): 7:08am On May 14, 2018 |
Most of my Family uses Ogundipe as their last name, I’m using my grandfather first as my last name, and surely my children are gonna use my first name. So no big deal |
Re: My Husband Has A Different Surname To The One He Uses.. by eyinjuege: 7:08am On May 14, 2018 |
slysteel: Its like the madness in your lineage has been inherited by you. Go and use your medications quickly before you run out unclad and start biting people around 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Has A Different Surname To The One He Uses.. by tecnoguy83: 7:09am On May 14, 2018 |
People change surname for different reason here, like my father chooses to be bearing their family surname but his younger one's choose to be bearing their Father name as their surname which now make my father surname different to his younger one surname but they are family nd blood bearing different surname. So to the issue of the surname u can pay no attention to that. OK God will bless your marriage |
Re: My Husband Has A Different Surname To The One He Uses.. by bujebudanu1(m): 7:10am On May 14, 2018 |
QueenSuccubus: Which name do u like? |
Re: My Husband Has A Different Surname To The One He Uses.. by efighter: 7:11am On May 14, 2018 |
Morwendy: 2500 British Pounds is such a huge amount to you. What a pity. Nigerians spend more than to buy just a bottle of wine in the club. It's not your fault anyway, it is the devilish government after government that the country has been under, which have been making Nigerians to run abroad for greener pastures. If not, a poor girl like you will not be insulting my brethren and asking him for his forefathers' names because of a token 2500 pounds. Now, send me your account number, I want to refund your 2500 British Shiit. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has A Different Surname To The One He Uses.. by slysteel: 7:12am On May 14, 2018 |
Morwendy:meanwhile most people here are just kids still being taken care of by there parensts so be careful the type of advice you receive from them,plenty of them knows next to nothing about anything. Secondly,there is nothing wrong in setting up a website for a business he plans to start in future without letting you know,the business has not started yet,most of us living abroad also have business home,he only setup a webite and that doesn't imply he is hiding business from you. Once again,there is nothing wrong with his surname of choice,Nigerians do that all the time but most of all,you are the problem,you are feeling insecured,you are the very person endangering your marriage with your thought process all because you have succumbed to a stereotype about Nigerians. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has A Different Surname To The One He Uses.. by whobemumu(m): 7:13am On May 14, 2018 |
QueenSuccubus: Nowhere in the write up does it say his sister changed his name for him - she did his ID |
Re: My Husband Has A Different Surname To The One He Uses.. by Enice(m): 7:13am On May 14, 2018 |
Morwendy:what do you want? Why are you looking for wahala where there is none. Take note, when the sh!t hits the fan, it will spread. |
Re: My Husband Has A Different Surname To The One He Uses.. by Nobody: 7:14am On May 14, 2018 |
BornAgainMay: Don't be foolish. This is a public forum. It is her business. Scammers like you would love to protect other scammers. Like as if it is not true that Nigerians do arranged marriages just to stay abroad. If he is not scamming the poor lady why is she hearing about a different surname for the first time after 8 years of marriage? cc: Morwendy 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Has A Different Surname To The One He Uses.. by micklplus(m): 7:14am On May 14, 2018 |
Morwendy: It's nothing really. I have different surname from my entire family. The part where I think you should ask serious question is the secret part. He should come all out and lay everything bear to you on the table. Couples should not be keeping secrets |
Re: My Husband Has A Different Surname To The One He Uses.. by ikukuhero: 7:15am On May 14, 2018 |
Morwendy: It is very possible. Cultures vary. My friend and his wife bear his maternal fathers name, different from his sibbings who bear their paternal fathers name. |
Re: My Husband Has A Different Surname To The One He Uses.. by Facidio: 7:15am On May 14, 2018 |
you've been married for 8years ..that's long enough to trust your man. in Nigeria its possible to answer your matarnal or parternal surname. the ijaws and itshekiris does that. even my elder brother that started having kids didn't let his kids answer our long used surnmame.....instead he opted for my dads first name to be his kids surname. so lovingly ask ur husband of 8 yrs the reason for his change of name. in naija we say 8 years no be beans o 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has A Different Surname To The One He Uses.. by ubergold(m): 7:16am On May 14, 2018 |
illegalking: What is wrong with some of you people sef? Imagine! 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has A Different Surname To The One He Uses.. by slysteel: 7:16am On May 14, 2018 |
eyinjuege:Insipid cretin,if you are not dumb how does a website for a business he intends to setup in future means he is scamming her? Dumb fellas like you just go about talking crap all the time without reason,your own no be madness,you no just get sense.. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has A Different Surname To The One He Uses.. by bujebudanu1(m): 7:16am On May 14, 2018 |
efighter: You are a fool for saying this bro/sis How many have you bought with d token £2500 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has A Different Surname To The One He Uses.. by hurumnanya: 7:17am On May 14, 2018 |
Morwendy: Did the children not come because you guys agreed to it? If yes then no need to fear, if no he probably is under pressure to get a new wife at home so he can have children. One fact I want you to hold dear is that he loves you very well. Lay your fears to him, you need to clear up your mind. As for the name, majority of Igbos use their grand father's name as surname. My wife uses my middle name but my kids is going to use my own fathers name. We often do that as mark of respect for our father. As a matter of fact, its the new generation of wives that influenced men to use their own name as their kids surname, it wasn't so few decades ago. |
Re: My Husband Has A Different Surname To The One He Uses.. by eyinjuege: 7:18am On May 14, 2018 |
slysteel: Go and use your medications, and stop using the recreational drugs you're on. It will only worsen your psychosis. While at it, cut down your alcohol intake. Your village people have obviously exchanged your brain matter for poo. |
Re: My Husband Has A Different Surname To The One He Uses.. by Elkay3: 7:18am On May 14, 2018 |
miriamchi: It's fine to "help". But to pay so as to be helped is something else. No hard feelings babe. It just seems not the right moment to "pay" for that. |
Re: My Husband Has A Different Surname To The One He Uses.. by slysteel: 7:18am On May 14, 2018 |
mavinc4u:Na so una go dey exhibit una stupidity everywhere una go,Ndi igbo,ndi apari,ana akogheri.. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has A Different Surname To The One He Uses.. by Surrey2Bimshire: 7:18am On May 14, 2018 |
thesicilian: Did the poster state she’s white ? Just asking |
Re: My Husband Has A Different Surname To The One He Uses.. by Teacher1776(m): 7:20am On May 14, 2018 |
Morwendy: Aunty, please stop digging so u don't rope ur hussy in the hands of the authority. We do all sort of things to be able to live abroad. Sometimes it involves falsification of documents. That woman u are calling his sister may even be his Nigerian wife who had had children with him. As for documentation, hmm, we hardly do that here. People own properties without officially documenting them. So if you are looking for documents, u may not find it. But this is what I think. You are just paranoid for no reason. U are married for 8 years, yet u haven't made any feeble attempt at doing a background check on him? Now u are using differences in surname as excuse for accusing him? That's not even the issue. Change of surnames is common practice here. But the real issue is.. You are speculating. Using guess work. I think marriage is too important for u to act on mere haunches. Marriage is not a do or die affair. If u are no longer comfortable with him, just file a divorce. These sort of investigations are not healthy. That was how a white lady murdered her nigerian husband last year. Or u are probably not going to be content till u send the guy to jail. If you know what it takes to get a visa from here, you will definitely sympathise with ur hussy and not bringing his case up here at the social media court of justice. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has A Different Surname To The One He Uses.. by QueenSuccubus(f): 7:20am On May 14, 2018 |
bujebudanu1: Let me think about it...I want a name that is not hard to spell tho 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has A Different Surname To The One He Uses.. by hurumnanya: 7:24am On May 14, 2018 |
5thElement:Using a different surname doesn't make him a scammer.Nigerians change surnames for lots of reasons. The woman has made it clear that they both work for their money, so the guy here isn't dependent on her. She also said she is not a whale so what does he want to scam her for? These are people living together as husband and wife for 8years. Tell me the dude wants to get another wife back home and u will be making sense. However, scam? It's a capital no |
Re: My Husband Has A Different Surname To The One He Uses.. by muhammadzikria: 7:26am On May 14, 2018 |
Now, this new surname is the same as his fathers so I believe it to be his true name. Asked him about it and he says that his surname is different to the rest of his family because he chose to take his paternal grandfathers name. I assume his father should also bear the grandfathers name? CosmoCarParts |
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