Hanseel1:


Very ignorant post..
Some men are financially stable but chose to live with their wives because the wives begged them to move in with them..
if the wives misbehave they can build their own homes..


@your a man shouldn't get married if he's not financially stable.. so if a man see a lady who's ready to take care of him and love him so he should reject her advances because he's not financially stable?
The woman can't throw him out because they'll go for registry marriage..

Africans smh

@ bolded, fat lie.

Rants of a lazy man who thinks he can escape poverty by marrying a rich lady. U will end up regretting your life cos women will always be women and u will one day like to take control as the "head" which will not be easy and might end u up in the street as a begger.

agarawu23:
@ bolded, fat lie.

Rants of a lazy man who thinks he can escape poverty by marrying a rich lady. U will end up regretting your life cos women will always be women and u will one day like to take control as the "head" which will not be easy and might end u up in the street as a begger.

Young man I'm a married man and by all standards I'm not a poor man.

In some cultures that's matriarchal, it's normal but in Nigerian culture which is highly patriarchal, it might be considered a taboo in some tribes

Amebos, shebi bible said a man will leave his mother and father and clive unto his wife? Did he move into her family house? Even if he did so long as they are happy and welcome there and raising worthy children I will pick them over a very distabilized family living in the husbands lavish mansion.

My dad lived in my mum's house the whole time they were married and together.

Mum was an excellent woman, wife and mother.

I certainly don't want a husband that's anything like my dad.

agarawu23:
@ bolded, fat lie.

Rants of a lazy man who thinks he can escape poverty by marrying a rich lady. U will end up regretting your life cos women will always be women and u will one day like to take control as the "head" which will not be easy and might end u up in the street as a begger.

And must you insult him? Can you not air your views without name calling?

Emma1Oj:
Yes I'm very very normal. I said so for the man safety should in case the woman is not humble... because some woman can be terrorist.

And what about the womans safety incase the man is a terrorist? Since you factor betrayal into it. Havent men being using the get out of my house method to punish their wives too? Why is it now a thing of fear? If it is not a subjectbof discission should a man do it why fear now? Oh it is now clear that such habit is very demoralizing tovthe victims ba? If women also start preping for the future foolishness of their husbands what type of family would the society raise? The only problem I see is if they live with exyended family be it the mans or womans and if the man can not take care of himself should problem arrise (Same wa y wives are encouraged to be economically balanced in case). But if the said house belongs to the wife independently then I see no issue with it.

agarawu23:
i don't need exposure, I have seen a lot already

You are sitting on a time bomb if your wife is giving u shelter. If a man isn't financially okay, he shouldn't get married.

Best comment, well done.

PrimadonnaO:
My dad lived in my mum's house the whole time they were married and together.

Mum was an excellent woman, wife and mother.

I certainly don't want a husband that's anything like my dad.

Wow! Please share with us what makes you say this...

chai , no wonder, single mum evrywia, wats wrong wit women?

Hanseel1:


Very ignorant post..
Some men are financially stable but chose to live with their wives because the wives begged them to move in with them..
if the wives misbehave they can build their own homes..


@your a man shouldn't get married if he's not financially stable.. so if a man see a lady who's ready to take care of him and love him so he should reject her advances because he's not financially stable?
The woman can't throw him out because they'll go for registry marriage..

Africans smh

Omini knowest? U seem to believed u kn it all? and yet u can't jealously guide ur utterances! a man shld make himself clear before he move into the house of a woman bcus it wound be easy. because some women ehh!!!

Emma1Oj:
if its a rented apartment the man should take responsibility of the rent with immediate effect but if the wife built it with money the woman should handover the document of the house to the man.

Thief!

Hanseel1:
It's only in Nigeria that things like this become a debate.
There's absolutely nothing wrong if you move into your wife's house.
Marriage is all about understanding.

uncivilized Nigerians are already advising the couples to rent out the house while they move to a rented house! who cursed Nigeria?
who's gonna pay the rent if they move into a rented apartment?

is it even sensible for you to move into a rented apartment when you've your own home?

If one could choose where he'd been created on Africa is the last place a sane person will choose..
A useless continent where there are no durable investments in science and technology yet they're debating over a house! later they'll start calling whites racists when they're being mocked.

Smh

na only you get sense inside both the twitter and nairaland commenters put together..

Every Building or relationship is measured by the foundation. If the foundation is weak just give it time, it will crumble like a house of cards. The scriptures is the foundation of living a glorious life. Where was it recorded that God's child went to stay in his wife's house? This 21st Century fever seem to becloud our judgement. Scripture says a good man shall provide for his household. Why didn't it say the other way round? Because people are doing it doesn't mean it is right! If a man is not financially buoyant pls put marriage on hold. Marriage is not competition. If you don't have work or a steady form of income no go there! Even Adam was given work to do before God gave him Eve as wife.

delishpot:


And what about the womans safety incase the man is a terrorist? Since you factor betrayal into it. Havent men being using the get out of my house method to punish their wives too? Why is it now a thing of fear? If it is not a subjectbof discission should a man do it why fear now? Oh it is now clear that such habit is very demoralizing tovthe victims ba? If women also start preping for the future foolishness of their husbands what type of family would the society raise? The only problem I see is if they live with exyended family be it the mans or womans and if the man can not take care of himself should problem arrise (Same wa y wives are encouraged to be economically balanced in case). But if the said house belongs to the wife independently then I see no issue with it.

I don't really kn which of the questions u need me to answer! but they are on point.

If you're not secure enough in yourself and your relationship to have no problem with moving in with your wife, then you probably got married to the wrong person.
Tbh the best thing for a couple is to sell individual houses and buy a mutual, new home which will be owned equally by both. Problem solved

I don't think it's a bad idea moving to her house at all.. I'm just saying my own o

It's really not a good thing, but like somebody said, if that's the only option life throws at you, grab it. But men and their ego, I know of many homes where the woman pays the rent along with some other dues.

agarawu23:
@ bolded, fat lie.

Rants of a lazy man who thinks he can escape poverty by marrying a rich lady. U will end up regretting your life cos women will always be women and u will one day like to take control as the "head" which will not be easy and might end u up in the street as a begger.

So many lazy men these days. So many men looking for a sugar mama.

Africa are so demented!

PrimadonnaO:
My dad lived in my mum's house the whole time they were married and together.

Mum was an excellent woman, wife and mother.

I certainly don't want a husband that's anything like my dad.

Your mother is using your fathers destiny.

Emma1Oj:
Yes I'm very very normal. I said so for the man safety should in case the woman is not humble... because some woman can be terrorist. more ova is their house not her house because she is married.

For the man's safety. What kind of asinine reasoning Is this? Are you not ashamed of yourself?

Tell me how many men have handed over their documents to their wives or even included their wives as joint owners of their property...

And you... you are so insecure, that because u might be moving into a woman's house , u need to claim ownership of her assets before you can rest in that house.

It is not African.


Visit my profile....

agarawu23:

She will definitely remind u sooner or later that she is the owner of the house. If u like yourself rent your own house and bring her in. The shame of sleeping outside during this raining season won't be nice and friendly

@bolded
Men are also fond of doing this with their famous "I'll send you back to your father's house" line. If you see nothing wrong with it, so you shouldn't see anything wrong with a woman reminding her husband that she owns the house.

madridguy:
Money at times can embarrass a man. Make God enriches us abundantly.

Amen!

What about a man without the spirit of God? The men who enjoy threatening to sebd their wives out? The ones who ridicule their wives because they are not financially independent? I am sure you have seen a lot of that but I don't see yoi claiming that men cannot handle power.

Jeezuzpick:




Did you say "fiancee"?



I wish you all the best sha, but compared to me (I'm in the TENTH year of my marriage) na learner you be.

A woman without the Spirit of God in her can do anything and turn into anything after the wedding or even a few years in.

Wait until you are totally dependent on your wife for a long time before you praise her. I was unemployed for 13 months and my wife held the home (me, her and kids) from her small business. When I praised her in front of my ogas at work, they said I'm a learner. One struggled for 3 years while depending on her wife all the while before making it. He's a millionaire now and carried his wife to US to relax on his first chance.

Time is the greatest tester. Before the years start rolling, all you have is hope and faith.

No its not wrong for a man to do that,he can as well do the cooking and cleaning while the wife provides for the family it is wrong for a REAL man to do that though, real men are successful

obowunmi:


Your mother is using your fathers destiny.

i cant believe someone like these still exist. i thought are gone with the 16th century. i know your stupid is of the first order. your foolishness has been upgraded. keep up the foolish things.

i dont see any thing bad in it. it depends on the woman. if she is a hot tempered and proud person. its a no. if its the bible type of wife its a yes.

Sterope:
What about a man without the spirit of God? The men who enjoy threatening to sebd their wives out? The ones who ridicule their wives because they are not financially independent? I am sure you have seen a lot of that but I don't see yoi claiming that men cannot handle power.

Naturally, it cuts both ways.

I cannot even stay in my wife village not to mention of house

Emma1Oj:
if its a rented apartment the man should take responsibility of the rent with immediate effect but if the wife built it with money the woman should handover the document of the house to the man.

Chai. Such a man should be ashamed. Can't he plan to build his own house and even build another for his woman?!
Handover ko, hangover ni. Yimu..