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majorbravo:
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Yes young man.
you see, marriage is a very complex something.. and we are in Africa where it is more complex than it is in the west.

What do you think is the major cause of violence in homes?

A Man won't take it easy when you refuse him sex knowing fully well that he sweats all day just to provide while you ain't doing nothing.
A man won't allow you to make crucial decisions for the family when he's around especially if he's the sole provider.
A man won't take it lightly if you disrespect him especially if he's the sole provider.

same applies to women who're sole providers.

That is African life.. And no matter what we say on social media nothing will change.

Some men and women who say they don't do such on social media can do worse in reality.. some of them aren't married yet.

Elder001:
Yes young man.
you see, marriage is a very complex something.. and we are in Africa where it is more complex than it is in the west.

What do you think is the major cause of violence in homes?

A Man won't take it easy when you refuse him sex knowing fully well that he sweats all day just to provide while you ain't doing nothing.
A man won't allow you to make crucial decisions for the family when he's around especially if he's the sole provider.
A man won't take it lightly if you disrespect him especially if he's the sole provider.

same applies to women who're sole providers.

That is African life.. And no matter what we say on social media nothing will change.

Some men and women who say they don't do such on social media can do worse in reality.. some of them aren't married yet.

Different strokes for different folks

elyna:
take your bullshit elsewhere I'm not interested good night.

its not bullshit. you said it:

elyna:
the way nairalanders describe relationships and marriages makes me lose interest in it.

ubunja:
its not bullshit. you said it:

good morning Mr ubunja can we just drop it already? I really don't see what these mention are for, I don't see any issue here either, so drop it thanks have a nice day.

elyna:
good morning Mr ubunja can we just drop it already? I really don't see what these mention are for, I don't see any issue here either, so drop it thanks have a nice day.

there was never any issue, just you responding to a mention that didnt need responding to.
dont marry. it will be minus1 problem for men.

ubunja:
there was never any issue, just you responding to a mention that didnt need responding to.
dont marry. it will be minus1 problem for men.

if you aren't a troublesome guy, why mention me when I'm fully entitled to my OWN OPINION. enough of the mentions please.

elyna:
if you aren't a troublesome guy, why mention me when I'm fully entitled to my OWN OPINION. enough of the mentions please.

then ignore my mentions. dont say enough when you keep reponding

ubunja:
then ignore my mentions. dont say enough when you keep reponding

why don't you stop first

elyna:
why don't you stop first

im enjoying this.you're the one stressed.

ubunja:
im enjoying this.you're the one stressed.

OK, knock yourself out.

elyna:
OK, knock yourself out.

knock

ubunja:
knock

lol

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Elder001:
In as much as I'll like to admit that your write up is very intellectual I think it doesn't apply to the African way of life.. We all used to say things like this.
I believe when you get married you'll understand.

Kindly stop sounding like you have monopoly of wisdom and exposure. Also, stop arrogating seniority to yourself just because of your sobriquet.

For one, things like insight and discernment are superior to experience - subject to a situation of a cause. And the unpronounced rule of leadership is the same in all settings.

Citing your submissions, you've erroneous understanding of many things despite always trying hard to appear supreme in all facets of life. Example on this subject under discussion you're mixing up fear with respect, and subservience with loyalty.

Meanwhile, also stop quantifying the Westerners/Whites since it's obvious to me that you know little to nothing deep about the West - and eschew the parochial assertion of "African way." I say to you once again that race and color doesn't define a person's character. One's ethical leanings will always defined his/her character. Small-mindedness isn't automatically an African/Black person thing - even though its more prevalent within this group - some Whites are small-minded too.

Like I said in one thread yesterday, a forum like this is a place where by virtue of mingling with someone politely you automatically become his/her class in all forms (or taken for a subordinate). Only small-minded people are in the habit of using their limited life experiences, parochial world-views, locations of domicile, living standards etc as yardstick in quantifying others.