₦airaland Forum

Zi:
True, very true!
Problem is that some boys are raised or should I say they raised themselves thinking a woman is being raised to serve them!

Most annoyingly, regular guys with a basic livelihood. If you are rich, fine! You can employ domestic help around the house. But if you are surviving on a regular paycheck, abeg bend down and work. Learn to wash, learn to cook basic meals, learn to care etc.

I just dumped my boyfriend because of this reason.
He doesn't help out around the house no matter how much you "encourage" him.
A glutton that doesn't consider if others have eaten or not, everything must go down!
Also foul-mouthed, "Baby why do you like wasting money" because I bought two sieves and two kitchen sponges

I told him straight up, "if we give birth to one or two kids, it will be two adults to taking care of those kids, not one adult taking care of two kids and an overgrown baby". Lol

This is the 21st century, women nowadays also work 8-5pm. You must learn basic life skills - chikena.

See you in Shiloh crew oya come for my head

tetula123:
I won't see it a problem helping my wife with chores at home..its no big deal for me.

ABEG FORGET THESE PEOPLE.
MANY OF US DO CHORES AND DON'T GO ABOUT FLAUNTING IT... BECAUSE IT'S NOTHING.

ONE SMALL CONTRIBUTION TO A MAN'S LIFE AND THEY MUST MAKE SURE THE WHOLE WORLD HEARS ABOUT IT.

"COOK STEW, FRY PLANTAINS, BOIL THIS, DO THAT.. "
INVESTIGATE FURTHER YOU'LL FIND OUT THAT HER MAN COULD BE CONSIDERING SUICIDE AS AN ESCAPE FROM EATING HER BAD FOOD.

Simplybami:
Yeah, it's not a biggie at all. Your mother raised you well. What I can't stand is that sense of entitlement most guys have. I mean for God's sake, heaven won't fall if you do the house chores with your woman.

Ellabae:
A man is the head of ur home. U can't expect ur man to wash dishes for u. He might want to help u anytime but should not a problem if he doesn't. How should he tell his friends that his wife compel him to wash dishes. It's not cool.

Darkseid:
It annoys me when I see my friends waiting till weekend for their girl friends to go the market to buy things and cook for them. Even as old as my dad is, he still buys foodstuffs while coming back sometimes and he still cooks for the family.

Zi:
True, very true!
Problem is that some boys are raised or should I say they raised themselves thinking a woman is being raised to serve them!

Most annoyingly, regular guys with a basic livelihood. If you are rich, fine! You can employ domestic help around the house. But if you are surviving on a regular paycheck, abeg bend down and work. Learn to wash, learn to cook basic meals, learn to care etc.

I just dumped my boyfriend because of this reason.
He doesn't help out around the house no matter how much you "encourage" him.
A glutton that doesn't consider if others have eaten or not, everything must go down!
Also foul-mouthed, "Baby why do you like wasting money" because I bought two sieves and two kitchen sponges

I told him straight up, "if we give birth to one or two kids, it will be two adults to taking care of those kids, not one adult taking care of two kids and an overgrown baby". Lol

This is the 21st century, women nowadays also work 8-5pm. You must learn basic life skills - chikena.

See you in Shiloh crew oya come for my head

austyn0:
I'm not surprised he was a servant in disguise of a husband....I bet he was a lover boy in youthful days,, he did all those things outta a deluded impression that he is a good lover.

Simplybami:
Omg, you still have this kind of mentality in this 21st century? Babe there's absolutely nothing wrong in a guy doing domestic chores. It is not gender specific at all.

tetula123:
I won't see it a problem helping my wife with chores at home..its no big deal for me.

lefulefu:
lol lover boy. He just did all that cos he loved his wife to a fault.its just a pity she never appreciated him. Imagine a married man going to the market while his wife and grown up dauthers are at home.na so market women dey lash im wife. D tin be say as man even if u can cook and ur wife no sabi anything...during naming ceremony or any other programe u wan host ..how will ur wife cope?.

Ellabae:
A man is the head of ur home. U can't expect ur man to wash dishes for u. He might want to help u anytime but should not a problem if he doesn't. How should he tell his friends that his wife compel him to wash dishes. It's not cool.

BukkieyGold:
If I strt telling u about my husband you won't believe or think maybe thir is more to it but believe me, dht's just my husband for u....
Ever since we met. .while we were still dating have used to know him like tht. Till now even after yrs of marriage. He's still like tht

Ellabae:
I am waiting for them

Tajbol4splend:
Slavery or what

donjobill:
This piece of advice is mainly meant for ladies who have natural penchant for dominating and domesticating their men. Very often such lady will marry a man with the hope of changing him to suit her nature only to find that the man is intractable. Then issues ensues.
In a relationship in which the lady wants to be in charge and control of the guy, it is best for both of them to know their respective status right from the onset. No trial and error! Some ladies even discipline their guy for correction any time he messes up.

tunize:
U jst break up jst like that without even talking him through to see if he'z going to change

lefulefu:
lol lover boy. He just did all that cos he loved his wife to a fault.its just a pity she never appreciated him. Imagine a married man going to the market while his wife and grown up dauthers are at home.na so market women dey lash im wife. D tin be say as man even if u can cook and ur wife no sabi anything...during naming ceremony or any other programe u wan host ..how will ur wife cope?.

mimimile93:
Bunch of useless ediots.. Hope y'all pay the groom price and take up the manly responsibilities..

delugajackson:
For your information, most of us were brought up very well in that regard so this really amounts to nothing. A few times I've asked ladies to cook, it's either they come up with excuses or they end up preparing a concoction.

Most of these slay queens will prefer you eat outside cause they know their deficiency. Ask her to prepare beans for you and I promise you will need a new set teeth as a result of too much stone.
As for washing of plates, why not turn him into your house boy officially?

MarieSucre:
What's wrong with going to market and buying the food YOU yourself will eat. Or are men only supposed to go to the market to buy phone and slippers. What is this nonsense about going to buy food as opposed to going to buy other household items that used to pain you people in your body?

CAPSLOCKED:

YOU SOUND LIKE YOU'RE WILLING TO ACCEPT MARRIAGE AND TAKING INSTRUCTIONS FOR LIFE AS YOUR ONLY ACCOMPLISHMENT.

THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH DOING DISHES AND MAKING THE BED, CLEANING THE HOUSE AND COOKING.

I DON'T KNOW IF IT'S HOW MOST OF YOU AND YOUR SIBLINGS WERE RAISED, BUT I CAN'T BE WAITING FOR ANOTHER PERSON TO TIDY MY SURROUNDINGS WHEN I'M CAPABLE OF DOING THESE REALLY EASY CHORES.. COM'ON IT'S "OUR" HOUSE, WHY CAN'T I FIX CERTAIN THINGS WHEN I'M NOT OCCUPIED, BECAUSE I'M A MAN?
SPARE ME THAT EXCUSE TO BE USELESS IN A MARRIAGE. PAYING BILLS IS NOT ENOUGH.

MarieSucre:
We are not coming for you dear. To each her own. We will not criticise your choice, do well not to criticise ours.

austyn0:
It is not abou the cooking or doing any of the chores....An old kid like the chairlady made mention of "ladies sending their man to.the market,, telling their man to do this and that in a home.." What arrant nonsense....

As a lady,, all you need doing is sit and watch how your man reacts to the activities in the house,, a real man is supposed to know when and how to handle his duties in a home.

lefulefu:
i think it would be abnormal if my dad was going to the market and my mom just sat at home filing her nails.thank God i dont come from such a home.

Ellabae:
I never said a man should not help around. In fact being supportive in all areas is a quality I need in my man. But I don't expect a man to do it every time. A man that comes from work very tired should not be expected to do chores at that moment. That's what I meant sir.

MarieSucre:
Ordinary to join hand in cooking food you'll eat and washing play your ate with is what necessitated all this big-big English.

Is it play for a guy to discipline his babe for correction any time she messes up?

LivingFree:
Why this xtrem way of looking at the situation... if your woman works full-time and is contributing to the home then wouldn't you take domestic chores of her shoulders? Nobody is saying she sits on her ass and you go in the kitchen... A fulltime housewife is/should be happy doing house work it's the modern woman who is workin that needs her man to take up house chores.