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naijacentric:
i know but dont say u wont forgive her if u did it am sure she would forgive u cheating is bad but anyfin can happen we are humans

wat are you saying

Marriage, A BIG SCAM that I'll never fall for.

angelboy01:
Whether na Infringement, whether na Advertisement, whether na drug money, whether na YAHOO MONEY BABA GOD PLEASE BLESS ME THIS YEAR. BLESS ME WITH AN AFORMATIC SUV PLEASE O LORD. Please Lord let me enemies see my success and commit suicide.

angelboy01:
I toasted a girl today and she told me she's HIV positive. Guys should I do it like that because I think she's lying.

angelboy01:
Is high time u stop masturbation my guy, stop watching porns or imagining anyting dat is sexually explicit in real life…is nt only u, it happen to people due to over usage of the parasympathetic nerve supply to their penis as a result of excess masturbation and it is called “SEMEN LEAKAGE” and d dream part of it is as a result of wat u mastered ur brain wit, its all ur fault my guy, stop being silly!…. Anyway taken atleast 2 eggs in a day( I do prefer u take it raw) for a period of time will nt only stop ur leakage bt also help u grow nd more active. I was also affected by spirit wife but prayer is the key I swear, don't use one stupid soap or anything or meet one prophet for any solution. Pray against spirit wife and if you need prayer points to battle them let me know. Check my signature for my number I can send you the prayer points on whatsapp. But I beg u, Stop Masturbation. it doesn’t last!!

angelboy01:
I don't think my life will ever remained as it was before again, just when i have made up my mind about quitting with different prostitutes

Am feeling so weak and tired right now, i can't type anymore, i wants to sleep now.
Goodnight and God's speed be with you all.

I feel your pain bro but you can still be negative if you allow the holy spirit in your life. I am a winner member and I have seen cases where people from positive turn negative, people with SS turn AA. I will recommend a book called the "THE HEALING BALM" by Bishop David Oyedepo. Read it with faith and listen to prophetic tapes from Bishop and I promise you you will be healed. God bless you bro.

angelboy01:
Too much masturbation causes spirit wife, stop watching porn movies. Be able to control your mind and pray to God and bind that spirit. I haven't masturbated in months now and I pray to God always. God destroyed that spirit wife in my life with prayer and fasting. Thank you Lord of Host.

get to work deleting

oyb:
get to work deleting

Hahahahaha. These guys are out on a smear campaign o.

oyb:
get to work deleting

You have no job. And do you think I gave time for this shit of yours. Why do you have to mix up my quote with someone else's. You know I didn't quote all that. I don't blame you. Mumu

oyb:
get to work deleting

The CIA of Nairaland don enter

angelboy01:
I Am not really good at writing a composition but the whole thing started around last year November when I lost my job at a reputable company, things became really hard that my ex wife started with her attitude, someone I helped through her schooling, even opened a shop for her after our wedding.

She started losing interest in me because I was broke and there was no more love because I couldn't meet up to her demands. She became the bread winner around that time, things didn't go as expected for me, I needed to do a lot of things even pay for the rented apartment we were in and the landlord came with the eviction letter.

Things became really tough that she wasn't sleeping at home anymore, she would leave home for days and come back home and give me some little change and leave again, she started to live with her aunt and I became so lonely and useless in her eyes.

Eventually when I came up with the apartment money and we paid I decided I wasn't going to stay with her for a while and go out and look for a job, so as to avoid fight and arguments. She later called me that her boss from the USA was back and she was to go and meet him because they had a meeting to do so I said OK since I usually speak and text with his boss so I allowed her to go. So after I left home I got a job and I frequented coming home to see her and my baby. I later found out she began to lock her phone and I asked her for the password she wouldn't give it to me so I began to suspect her.

One day I eventually found the password and I unlocked it while she was asleep. I found out through a chat she had with her friend that she had sex with her said boss and she even bought a land without telling me all through the years we were together. I felt so betrayed and angry. I woke her up and asked her about it and she started crying and begging me.

I left home angrily and jilted. I was so devastated that I smoked a lot of weed that day and drank so much beer. I called my mom explained to her and later told her mom too. The next day her mom called me that she wanted to poison herself because of what she did. I sent her boss a message on WhatsApp and that one didn't even answer me because he knew what he did with my ex wife.

It's been months now since this happened and her mom calls me almost everyday begging me to forgive and forget but how do I forget, it's not easy for me because I can be having sex with her and be seeing her boss face.

I blocked her on Facebook and whatsapp but didn't block her calls or text message because of my baby when I need to send upkeep money. She calls me but I don't pick up. I know that I can't be with her anymore but she has the wedding certificate we got at the court wedding. I told her to give the photocopy of the certificate to my mom but she wouldn't do it.

Guys the reason why I wrote this is who has an idea on how to go about a divorce without the certificate because someone told me the certificate is important for the divorce. I don't know anything about it and my uncle even said the divorce will cost me a lot of money about 650k. I don't know it that's true too. Lol.

Please guys help out here. I have the proof of the chat and the audio conversation of the sex escapade with her boss so that will help in the court. My lovely daughter is 2 years now. How do I even collect my daughter from her. I have left all my property's for her because of my daughter and am starting my life afresh. Will the court be able to grant me my daughters custody although am not ready to train her myself but I have my mom who can do that for me.

In addition to all of this guy's if your girl or woman passwords her phone and doesn't show you her password be very careful she might be cheating because not only did I find out she had sex with her boss I also found out she was also on some random social media nonsense talking to some random guys and all that and that she also bought a land without telling me for 3 years we were together.

Thanks for learning from my story and God bless you guys.

No too much trouble..u can wait it out our matrimony laws will legally separate if after three years u live separately... I went thru such a silent divorce too....if after those number of years u need no consent from her or the certificate for a divorce

Jesus says ' He that is without sin let him cast the first stone and they all left one after the other, even Jesus did not condemn the adulterer. Bro if she is truly sorry and repents, pls take her back. Jesus was the only one without sin in the crowd and did not cast the first stone, so do not cast a stone on her. Forgive her and take her back then she will be the best woman for you in the whole world.
Forgive her and take her back.
Donot carry the heavy load of unforgiveness all around. it will lead to hypertension, diabetes, stroke or cardiac arrest. When you forgive all that will not near you. Selahhh

Only God heals the emotionally wounded. Seek him the way maker will create a way, avoid terrible advice u get here. God is good and all the time if only you seek him.

God bless you bro

You have really been through a lot. I admire your courage.
However, I think you should forgive her and accept her. At least for your child's sake.

Kindly consider. you are also no compulsion, you wear the shoes so u know how/where it pinches.

angelboy01:
I Am not really good at writing a composition but the whole thing started around last year November when I lost my job at a reputable company, things became really hard that my ex wife started with her attitude, someone I helped through her schooling, even opened a shop for her after our wedding.

She started losing interest in me because I was broke and there was no more love because I couldn't meet up to her demands. She became the bread winner around that time, things didn't go as expected for me, I needed to do a lot of things even pay for the rented apartment we were in and the landlord came with the eviction letter.

Things became really tough that she wasn't sleeping at home anymore, she would leave home for days and come back home and give me some little change and leave again, she started to live with her aunt and I became so lonely and useless in her eyes.

Eventually when I came up with the apartment money and we paid I decided I wasn't going to stay with her for a while and go out and look for a job, so as to avoid fight and arguments. She later called me that her boss from the USA was back and she was to go and meet him because they had a meeting to do so I said OK since I usually speak and text with his boss so I allowed her to go. So after I left home I got a job and I frequented coming home to see her and my baby. I later found out she began to lock her phone and I asked her for the password she wouldn't give it to me so I began to suspect her.

One day I eventually found the password and I unlocked it while she was asleep. I found out through a chat she had with her friend that she had sex with her said boss and she even bought a land without telling me all through the years we were together. I felt so betrayed and angry. I woke her up and asked her about it and she started crying and begging me.

I left home angrily and jilted. I was so devastated that I smoked a lot of weed that day and drank so much beer. I called my mom explained to her and later told her mom too. The next day her mom called me that she wanted to poison herself because of what she did. I sent her boss a message on WhatsApp and that one didn't even answer me because he knew what he did with my ex wife.

It's been months now since this happened and her mom calls me almost everyday begging me to forgive and forget but how do I forget, it's not easy for me because I can be having sex with her and be seeing her boss face.

I blocked her on Facebook and whatsapp but didn't block her calls or text message because of my baby when I need to send upkeep money. She calls me but I don't pick up. I know that I can't be with her anymore but she has the wedding certificate we got at the court wedding. I told her to give the photocopy of the certificate to my mom but she wouldn't do it.

Guys the reason why I wrote this is who has an idea on how to go about a divorce without the certificate because someone told me the certificate is important for the divorce. I don't know anything about it and my uncle even said the divorce will cost me a lot of money about 650k. I don't know it that's true too. Lol.

Please guys help out here. I have the proof of the chat and the audio conversation of the sex escapade with her boss so that will help in the court. My lovely daughter is 2 years now. How do I even collect my daughter from her. I have left all my property's for her because of my daughter and am starting my life afresh. Will the court be able to grant me my daughters custody although am not ready to train her myself but I have my mom who can do that for me.

In addition to all of this guy's if your girl or woman passwords her phone and doesn't show you her password be very careful she might be cheating because not only did I find out she had sex with her boss I also found out she was also on some random social media nonsense talking to some random guys and all that and that she also bought a land without telling me for 3 years we were together.

Thanks for learning from my story and God bless you guys.

Johnsmartinyang:
No too much trouble..u can wait it out our matrimony laws will legally separate if after three years u live separately... I went thru such a silent divorce too....if after those number of years u need no consent from her or the certificate for a divorce

We aren't living together anymore. Am not in contact with her anymore

So sorry man.....
But do you really love her?

if you are without sin, be the first to cast the first stone. . .hv u not cheated on her before? we are all humans and everything happen for a reason. . .for the sake of your daughter, forgive her n take her back. . .dnt break ur home. . .she did those things cos you were jobless then. .though she may have overdone it n I understand ur pains then but she is still ur wife. . .call both parents only, then you and her. .sit n iron things out. . .

OP, you need to do three things.

1 Run a DNA test to confirm your daughter's paternity.
2 Transfer all your properties in her possession out of her hands
3 Initiate the processes for divorce

Don't make the mistake of going close to her, she can kill you. Most cheating women prefer being widows to being shamed for adultery.

forgiveness is the key brother! a devil you know is better then unknown angel. Religiously, marriage is a contract to be terminated if one of d two die.

davidodiba:
So sorry man.....
But do you really love her?

Love is dead already bro.

kapelvej:
wat are you saying

u dont get my point dont worry

oshe11:
Yeah....

Thats why one shud send her parking and move on

He will move on and still be with another woman who was also dumped for cheating.

I am not justifying what his wife did. its totally wrong.

But, we are all sinners. And to forgive is Divine.

Our Lords prayer said "Forgive us our sin as we forgive those who sin against us".

To me, when it comes to marriage, i believe there is no sin one cant forgive if you want an everlasting home.

His wife has realized her mistakes, she is begging for forgiveness. Dont you think she deserves a second chance?

If God don't forgive our sins I wonder how many humans would be alive on Earth. Yes your wife misbehave but for your daughter sake mend your marriage with ur wife.

desiregold:
He will move on and still be with another woman who was also dumped for cheating.

I am not justifying what his wife did. its totally wrong.

But, we are all sinners. And to forgive is Divine.

Our Lords prayer said "Forgive us our sin as we forgive those who sin against us".

To me, when it comes to marriage, i believe there is no sin one cant forgive if you want an everlasting home.

His wife has realized her mistakes, she is begging for forgiveness. Dont you think she deserves a second chance?

Realise her what?

She was caught, thats why she is begging

I honestly don't know abt him but I can't stand cheating partners(its better I didnt know)

our mothers stood and sent us to school when our father was jobless for uncountable years. but my brother, this genration and indeed, future generations are not like the past generation. all the women are in a hurry to live the social media (fake) life. as i write this,i know many women who are sleeping outside with men that are not their husbands. its like they have a place they go get the jazz they use becos the husbands neva get to know and the ones that know cannot talk. this generation is almost getting useless..heaven is not near the present crop of people on earth.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
You know that's untrue. My mom stood by my dad through thick and thin until his very last breathe. So don't you generalize. Humans have been known for infidelity since inception so nothing is new. Just pray you Marry right.

Op busted

oruma19:
our mothers stood and sent us to school when our father was jobless for uncountable years. but my brother, this genration and indeed, future generations are not like the past generation. all the women are in a hurry to live the social media (fake) life. as i write this,i know many women who are sleeping outside with men that are not their husbands. its like they have a place they go get the jazz they use becos the husbands neva get to know and the ones that know cannot talk. this generation is almost getting useless..heaven is not near the present crop of people on earth.

God save us

I find it hard to believe that you asked your wife for the password to her phone, she no and that no, actually stood.

I stopped reading at that point.

aro1:
am rily sorry abt ds issue sir,i was deeply sad nd sober
a wife legally married doing all ds,where is the love? i use to say ds,tru love died durin our grand parents time,ladies of nwadays ar only after material tins,wizkid nd duncan mighty don talk am finish (fake love)
ds also happnd to me last year,na ordinary galfrnd o,i was so down
nw imagine if its my legal wife. God will help we men. amen

same way men of nowadays are only after sex and satisfying the flesh

You get what you ask for. When people exchange money for sex, the highest bidder gets the pusssy.

It is only when you all realise that there is more to a relationship than those two things, that is when you will find loyal partners that value you. Till then......na heartbreak stories everybody go dey share.

So sorry sir, the truth is the world right now is messed up, we all have been cheated on or have cheated before, but the worst kind is adultery, it's terrible that a lot of women/men actually think it's ok to cheat in marriage, terrible stories every day, one will think of just doing IVF nd having a baby alone but that still is selfish.
I always say if u can't cope in a marriage just walk away na, u can't eat your cake nd have it. The rate of cheating is just too alarming.
All said and done, forgive your ex even if your not taking her back, forgive yourself for loving her, give yourself enough time to heal, while healing build yourself up, physically,financially/career wise and spiritually.

This is hard.
The psychologically damage alone is damning.
But from where I stand with the doctrine to which I profess as a Roman Catholic, I pray you forgive and take her back.Sorry man. Give her a second chance. Terrible mistake. Sad!

Op, I am of the opinion that you forgive her and reconcile your home... Of a truth, you are deeply hurt and pained, yes day by day, you may struggle to be bold, but deep down, you still will feel a miss of a companion, your daughter and lots more...

Op, as long as you will at one point in your life think about that incident, it will always hurt you, and will add another burden on you, for it is gonna be too great a burden to bear.

Note, am not supporting whatever she did, infact condemnable, but a particular moment she realised her sin against you, pleaded that even her parents are begging, it could be genuine and this is the tym to forgive her and get your home back. Please Op, you family is your great asset first in this world, it is a channel to peace and more of God blessing.

How be it, you have the decision to make as you are the one who feels the pain, but am assuring you that there is a greater thing that awaits you if you forgive, get your family back and live happily again.

My final word @ Op, think about the good moments you once had when you started your family and now that you confirmed the gal is your daughter, and now that you are trying to start all again...

I will advice you follow the way that will leads to true peace in your heart and yet to be in good terms with God.
I wish you the best decision ever.

oshe11:
NEVER!!! I repeat, NEVER FORGIVE A WIFE THAT CHEATED......


HER FATE WILL BE LIKE THAT OF THE OTHER SUV/3RD MAINLAND BRIDGE LADY IF SHE NO WISE

But a cheating man should be forgiven.

This story is even fake but then, una never see anything. These women that get caught, I really wonder how dumb they are..
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