Welcome, Guest: Register On Nairaland / LOGIN! / Trending / Recent / New
Stats: 3,150,011 members, 7,806,940 topics. Date: Wednesday, 24 April 2024 at 07:28 AM

12 Ways To Make Up With Your Girlfriend And Show Her You Truly Care - Romance - Nairaland

Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Romance / 12 Ways To Make Up With Your Girlfriend And Show Her You Truly Care (24280 Views)

Ladies, Can You Truly Get Over Your Ex? / Man Confused As His Girlfriend And His Friend Fight Over Food. Photo / One Simple Way To Know If You Truly Love Someone. (2) (3) (4)

(1) (2) (Reply) (Go Down)

12 Ways To Make Up With Your Girlfriend And Show Her You Truly Care by EntertainingYou: 6:30am On Jun 27, 2018
Learning how to make up with your girlfriend the right way can take some time. Navigating those rough waters is a lot easier with some help, though.
So you got in a fight. Big deal. It happens to every couple out there and it’s not the end of the world – or the relationship. It just means you have differing thoughts and opinions about something. If you don’t make an effort to figure out how to make up with your girlfriend, issues can arise.

But that’s not always as easy as it sounds. When couples argue, tension is on the rise and rational thinking doesn’t always find a place. Being able to make up after a fight and get back to a loving place can take time to learn.

Relationships are all about the give and take

This applies to almost every area of your relationship. You can’t just be with someone and expect them to always give in to your requests and opinions. In order to make it work and remain healthy, there has to be some level of give and take.

Otherwise, one person will just resent the other. The more you take, the less the other person is going to want to give you. This creates friction and enough of that, and your relationship will burn down into a pit of charred misery.

How to make up with your girlfriend and keep your relationship healthy

If you truly want a happy relationship, then your goal should be a HEALTHY relationship. And that means knowing how to make up with your girlfriend in a way that not only keeps her happy, but in a way that also provides a learning opportunity for you as a couple. Here’s how to nail that down.

#1 Take a breather. You’re no good to her if you’re heated and still angry. People do dumb things out of anger and you never want to do something you might regret simply because you’re in a fight.

So go take a break. Calm yourself down and then return to her when the two of you can actually talk things out. Being able to step away can also help you see things more clearly and help you think rationally about the situation.

#2 Discuss the argument. And when I say, “discuss,” I mean actually sit down and talk about it like adults. No yelling. No slamming doors. You have to be able to talk about it in normal tones or else you won’t be able to make up with your girlfriend. So calm down enough to get to this level and then go to her.

#3 Put your own thoughts aside while you listen. Let her explain herself. Just like you want to get your own thoughts out, so does she. She deserves the opportunity to tell you why she feels a certain way. So put your own thoughts aside as she does this so you’re not constantly putting her down even in your mind.

#4 Acknowledge your part in the argument. Two people are always at fault for one reason or another. If you always claim innocence, you’ll never be able to make up with her. Acknowledge what you did and even apologize for it in order to make up with your girlfriend.

#5 Apologize for anything harmful you did. And even what you said. There are things you may have did or said in the heat of the moment that’ll make it harder for you two to get back to a peaceful state. Apologize for the things you did wrong and just own up to them. It’ll help you get back on her good side.

#6 Try to understand where she’s coming from. It’s easy to be selfish in arguments. You have something to say and you’ll be damned if it won’t be heard. But you have to take a step back and think about things the way she’s explaining them. Understand why she feels the way she does and it’ll help you solve the issue at hand.


#7 Put yourself in her shoes. Take the previous tip a step further and actually put yourself in her shoes. You may not be able to understand what she’s talking about from the way you’re looking at things.

Think about how you’d feel if you were her. Think about how things would look if you were in her position. This is a great way to see how your actions can be completely construed given how they’re seen.

#8 Talk about what’s really bothering you. Most arguments are a result of a much larger issue. It’s like you hit a wall and can’t hold anything back anymore. So although you may have left the toilet seat up again, your girl could be upset for bigger reasons.

You have to talk about the things that are really upsetting the both of you. This might not be something you can do right away but it is beneficial to work on communication in your relationship as a whole. It’ll help you figure out how to make up with your girlfriend a lot easier.

#9 Initiate some physical contact. After feelings have simmered and you’re actually talking, go ahead and make some physical contact. Hold her hand or place your hand on the small of her back. You can even hug her. Just don’t do this while tension still runs high.

#10 Do something nice for her. Getting her flowers as a replacement for, “I’m sorry” is never a good idea. That being said, if your argument is over but there are still hurt feelings, do it. Get her something you know she’ll love as a means of showing her just how much you want to make things right.

#11 Show her you’re sorry. It’s not always enough to just say so. Your actions have to change – but so do hers. It really depends on what your arguments were about. But if you’re looking to know how to make up with your girlfriend, you may have been in the wrong here. Show her a difference and she’ll forgive you.

#12 Give her some time to simmer down. You can’t just keep running at her with apologies and stuff she doesn’t want to hear. You have to give her time to relax and get to a place where she can discuss things. If you don’t, she might just be too irritated to accept any form of apology.

The worst thing you can do is let your arguments and fights go on without trying to make them better. These tips will help you figure out how to make up with your girlfriend and actually improve your relationship.



source:https://www.newsvilla.com.ng/2018/03/29/12-ways-make-girlfriend-show-truly-care/

16 Likes 1 Share

Re: 12 Ways To Make Up With Your Girlfriend And Show Her You Truly Care by MISEDUCATIONS: 6:45am On Jun 27, 2018
just date a younger, prettier, richer, lighter, thinner girl and your Ex will be begging you to come back faster than you can say "envy is a woman's weakness"

40 Likes 2 Shares

Re: 12 Ways To Make Up With Your Girlfriend And Show Her You Truly Care by dominique(f): 3:03pm On Jun 27, 2018
Hmmm
But if the girl is the one guilty, how should she make up with her man and show that she truly cares?

23 Likes 2 Shares

Re: 12 Ways To Make Up With Your Girlfriend And Show Her You Truly Care by asawanathegreat(m): 9:41am On Jun 28, 2018
Issorite
Re: 12 Ways To Make Up With Your Girlfriend And Show Her You Truly Care by opsyswagger(m): 9:42am On Jun 28, 2018
Op.. don't forget to add this also...... always send her money everyweek........ grin grin grin angry

14 Likes 1 Share

Re: 12 Ways To Make Up With Your Girlfriend And Show Her You Truly Care by Emekus92(m): 9:42am On Jun 28, 2018
After that Hot sex should follow

4 Likes

Re: 12 Ways To Make Up With Your Girlfriend And Show Her You Truly Care by ishowdotgmail(m): 9:43am On Jun 28, 2018
Who get time for rubbish

6 Likes

Re: 12 Ways To Make Up With Your Girlfriend And Show Her You Truly Care by tycoon3(m): 9:43am On Jun 28, 2018
For matured minds...true talk

5 Likes

Re: 12 Ways To Make Up With Your Girlfriend And Show Her You Truly Care by anochuko01(m): 9:43am On Jun 28, 2018
if you dont have money for pizza, shoprite, shawama and co, then fogerit. another guy would beg her on ur behalf

8 Likes

Re: 12 Ways To Make Up With Your Girlfriend And Show Her You Truly Care by Nobody: 9:44am On Jun 28, 2018
Fvck outta here,if I'm with you then gaddammit I care about you,I could be with Esther or Ngozi but I chose you to spend time with,don't waste my damn time being petty.

17 Likes 1 Share

Re: 12 Ways To Make Up With Your Girlfriend And Show Her You Truly Care by Tunndeh(m): 9:47am On Jun 28, 2018
Swallow your pride
Re: 12 Ways To Make Up With Your Girlfriend And Show Her You Truly Care by tegamarro(m): 9:47am On Jun 28, 2018
Wow cry all this write up just to impress a gf what if your married to her

3 Likes

Re: 12 Ways To Make Up With Your Girlfriend And Show Her You Truly Care by Just2endowed2(m): 9:47am On Jun 28, 2018
Thrash..... Don't think I have time for that let alone myself

1 Like

Re: 12 Ways To Make Up With Your Girlfriend And Show Her You Truly Care by tonylaw07(m): 9:47am On Jun 28, 2018
The one thing a man would never fully understand is women.

3 Likes

Re: 12 Ways To Make Up With Your Girlfriend And Show Her You Truly Care by brownhawk: 9:48am On Jun 28, 2018
What If she's not worth proving to cos I presently have one

2 Likes

Re: 12 Ways To Make Up With Your Girlfriend And Show Her You Truly Care by DesireBenjamin: 9:48am On Jun 28, 2018
I hope its a guy that posted this... im sooo crushing on him already.

1 Like

Re: 12 Ways To Make Up With Your Girlfriend And Show Her You Truly Care by CAPSLOCKED: 9:50am On Jun 28, 2018

TERRIBLE LIST.

SO MEN ARE EXPECTED TO BE CALM AND LISTEN, CARE, ENDURE, ACCEPT AND TOLERATE ALL THE NONSENSE.... POINTLESS ARGUMENTS, INTELLECTUAL LAZINESS, UNAPOLOGETIC AND NONCHALANT EXHIBITIONS.
SO MEN SHOULD BE RESPONSIBLE FOR THE IMPROVEMENT OF THE RELATIONSHIP AND EVERYTHING POSITIVE.. WHILE THEIR WOMEN DO NOTHING ASIDE PICKING CALLS AND REPLYING CHATS (WHENEVER THEY'RE NOT BUSY WITH ANOTHER MALE). undecided

16 Likes 1 Share

Re: 12 Ways To Make Up With Your Girlfriend And Show Her You Truly Care by Dranoid: 9:50am On Jun 28, 2018
.
Re: 12 Ways To Make Up With Your Girlfriend And Show Her You Truly Care by wakabobo: 9:50am On Jun 28, 2018
MISEDUCATIONS:
just date a younger, prettier, richer, lighter, thinner girl and your Ex will be begging you to come back faster than you can say "envy is a woman's weakness"

grin grin grin grin
Re: 12 Ways To Make Up With Your Girlfriend And Show Her You Truly Care by Stormborn86: 9:52am On Jun 28, 2018
tegamarro:
Wow cry all this write up just to impress a gf what if your married to her
Same applies
Re: 12 Ways To Make Up With Your Girlfriend And Show Her You Truly Care by Naijawebmaster: 9:53am On Jun 28, 2018
Too much rules! Understand your girlfriend's personality and treat her accordingly.


Need a reliable and professional website design? Then check my signature No advance payment required
Re: 12 Ways To Make Up With Your Girlfriend And Show Her You Truly Care by b0rn2fuck(m): 9:53am On Jun 28, 2018
for this era of no money, no love .. go broke niggar and watch your girlfriend displaying, even if you silent, she will find a way to create arguments and break up when you refuse to rise
Re: 12 Ways To Make Up With Your Girlfriend And Show Her You Truly Care by Nobody: 9:53am On Jun 28, 2018
Of what importance is this list, nitori olohun sad


If only the youth focus there energy and time spent on n relationship and sex on more useful things, Poverty won't be this high in this country.

4 Likes

Re: 12 Ways To Make Up With Your Girlfriend And Show Her You Truly Care by mimimile93: 9:57am On Jun 28, 2018
EntertainingYou:
Learning how to make up with your girlfriend the right way can take some time. Navigating those rough waters is a lot easier with some help, though.
So you got in a fight. Big deal. It happens to every couple out there and it’s not the end of the world – or the relationship. It just means you have differing thoughts and opinions about something. If you don’t make an effort to figure out how to make up with your girlfriend, issues can arise.

But that’s not always as easy as it sounds. When couples argue, tension is on the rise and rational thinking doesn’t always find a place. Being able to make up after a fight and get back to a loving place can take time to learn.

Relationships are all about the give and take

This applies to almost every area of your relationship. You can’t just be with someone and expect them to always give in to your requests and opinions. In order to make it work and remain healthy, there has to be some level of give and take.

Otherwise, one person will just resent the other. The more you take, the less the other person is going to want to give you. This creates friction and enough of that, and your relationship will burn down into a pit of charred misery.

How to make up with your girlfriend and keep your relationship healthy

If you truly want a happy relationship, then your goal should be a HEALTHY relationship. And that means knowing how to make up with your girlfriend in a way that not only keeps her happy, but in a way that also provides a learning opportunity for you as a couple. Here’s how to nail that down.

#1 Take a breather. You’re no good to her if you’re heated and still angry. People do dumb things out of anger and you never want to do something you might regret simply because you’re in a fight.

So go take a break. Calm yourself down and then return to her when the two of you can actually talk things out. Being able to step away can also help you see things more clearly and help you think rationally about the situation.

#2 Discuss the argument. And when I say, “discuss,” I mean actually sit down and talk about it like adults. No yelling. No slamming doors. You have to be able to talk about it in normal tones or else you won’t be able to make up with your girlfriend. So calm down enough to get to this level and then go to her.

#3 Put your own thoughts aside while you listen. Let her explain herself. Just like you want to get your own thoughts out, so does she. She deserves the opportunity to tell you why she feels a certain way. So put your own thoughts aside as she does this so you’re not constantly putting her down even in your mind.

#4 Acknowledge your part in the argument. Two people are always at fault for one reason or another. If you always claim innocence, you’ll never be able to make up with her. Acknowledge what you did and even apologize for it in order to make up with your girlfriend.

#5 Apologize for anything harmful you did. And even what you said. There are things you may have did or said in the heat of the moment that’ll make it harder for you two to get back to a peaceful state. Apologize for the things you did wrong and just own up to them. It’ll help you get back on her good side.

#6 Try to understand where she’s coming from. It’s easy to be selfish in arguments. You have something to say and you’ll be damned if it won’t be heard. But you have to take a step back and think about things the way she’s explaining them. Understand why she feels the way she does and it’ll help you solve the issue at hand.


#7 Put yourself in her shoes. Take the previous tip a step further and actually put yourself in her shoes. You may not be able to understand what she’s talking about from the way you’re looking at things.

Think about how you’d feel if you were her. Think about how things would look if you were in her position. This is a great way to see how your actions can be completely construed given how they’re seen.

#8 Talk about what’s really bothering you. Most arguments are a result of a much larger issue. It’s like you hit a wall and can’t hold anything back anymore. So although you may have left the toilet seat up again, your girl could be upset for bigger reasons.

You have to talk about the things that are really upsetting the both of you. This might not be something you can do right away but it is beneficial to work on communication in your relationship as a whole. It’ll help you figure out how to make up with your girlfriend a lot easier.

#9 Initiate some physical contact. After feelings have simmered and you’re actually talking, go ahead and make some physical contact. Hold her hand or place your hand on the small of her back. You can even hug her. Just don’t do this while tension still runs high.

#10 Do something nice for her. Getting her flowers as a replacement for, “I’m sorry” is never a good idea. That being said, if your argument is over but there are still hurt feelings, do it. Get her something you know she’ll love as a means of showing her just how much you want to make things right.

#11 Show her you’re sorry. It’s not always enough to just say so. Your actions have to change – but so do hers. It really depends on what your arguments were about. But if you’re looking to know how to make up with your girlfriend, you may have been in the wrong here. Show her a difference and she’ll forgive you.

#12 Give her some time to simmer down. You can’t just keep running at her with apologies and stuff she doesn’t want to hear. You have to give her time to relax and get to a place where she can discuss things. If you don’t, she might just be too irritated to accept any form of apology.

The worst thing you can do is let your arguments and fights go on without trying to make them better. These tips will help you figure out how to make up with your girlfriend and actually improve your relationship.



source:https://www.newsvilla.com.ng/2018/03/29/12-ways-make-girlfriend-show-truly-care/

I hope you will also create a thread on "12 THINGS YOUR GIRL CAN OFFER YOU APART FROM SEX"

because mimimile is not ready to make up with a girl who has nothing to offer aside her cooch.

1 Like

Re: 12 Ways To Make Up With Your Girlfriend And Show Her You Truly Care by GrammarNazi1(m): 9:57am On Jun 28, 2018
tegamarro:
Wow cry all this write up just to impress a gf what if your married to her
...you're married...

1 Like

Re: 12 Ways To Make Up With Your Girlfriend And Show Her You Truly Care by Burgerlomo: 9:58am On Jun 28, 2018
D only way to show yah gal friend that you truly care is by having a very heavy loaded pocket and dat is what dey called assurance cool

1 Like

Re: 12 Ways To Make Up With Your Girlfriend And Show Her You Truly Care by GrammarNazi1(m): 9:58am On Jun 28, 2018
Just2endowed2:
Thrash..... Don't think I have time for that let alone myself
Trash...

2 Likes 1 Share

Re: 12 Ways To Make Up With Your Girlfriend And Show Her You Truly Care by Tender1(m): 9:59am On Jun 28, 2018
When you put yourself in her shoes. You tend to do worst than her. Brokenness is bad for girls how much more for boys. Me a day without up to 10k makes me feel like I'm sick. grin In fact that's why I'm single.

Salute to all my generals. Malphite the green light circuit got us covered. If you're a show guy here. Give some like cool

3 Likes

Re: 12 Ways To Make Up With Your Girlfriend And Show Her You Truly Care by edwinphone54(m): 10:02am On Jun 28, 2018
ok
Re: 12 Ways To Make Up With Your Girlfriend And Show Her You Truly Care by gabpaul: 10:02am On Jun 28, 2018
opsyswagger:
Op.. don't forget to add this also...... always send her money everyweek........ grin grin grin angry
Yea bro MONEY makes a MAN
Re: 12 Ways To Make Up With Your Girlfriend And Show Her You Truly Care by drpips1(m): 10:02am On Jun 28, 2018
If oil and water dont want to mix you better dont force it, find your soul mate

1 Like

(1) (2) (Reply)

What Can I Drink To Last Long In Bed ( Is Urgent) / caught my wife fucking my landlord pic attached / Battle of the Sexes - Males vs. Females

(Go Up)

Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health
religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket

Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10)

Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2024 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 47
Disclaimer: Every Nairaland member is solely responsible for anything that he/she posts or uploads on Nairaland.