Toks2008:
In every man-woman relationship, the affection towards each other is rarely balanced and this is a peculiar trait that has been on for many many years yet there have been no solution to this never ending unbalanced circle of affection.

Either you or your partner will always feel a tilt in the emotional balance and you will either see yourself loving the... guy so so much but this guy in question is actually in love with another lady.

So we see Lora loving David but David has a crush on Mary. Mary on the other hand is desperately in love with Paul who have made Mary understand several times that he is in love with Cindy who has also giving same Paul several warnings to back off cos her heart belongs to Jim.

So we can see the crazy unbalance in affection towards each other yet there have been no known solution to bring this madness to a rest.

In my opinion, i will simply advice ladies who are more at the receiving end to hope for a guy that will feel more affection for them than they feel towards him because this will guarantee her happiness in the affair.

A man may cope with a lady who has lesser affection than he does for her because he is a man anyway and been the captain of the love boat, he can always cope.

But for ladies who are the weaker vessels, pray and hope never ever to fall in love with a man that has no balanced feelings for you because you are almost likely to suffer great emotional heartaches because this guy may not give a hute about you while you continue to suffer simply because you are so much in love and crazy about him.

But for the unfortunate ladies that are already in a messy affair where this guy feels far lesser love for them, simply make adjustments where necessary by:

1. Giving him space even if this will be hard for you.
2. Reduce the rate at which you call him.
3. Don't stalk him in anyway.
4. Turn down his invitation even when you will be at home all day.
5. Give him false impression that you are going out on a date with another man.

Men hate been put on relegation and will quickly have a change in attitude.

But if you are already married to this guy then you can use same measures outlined above asides flaunting another man to him.

Hope this helps.

Ashanti0522:


Lie about going on a date with another man ?? That's dumb

AfroKnight:
False impression kee? Make babe no try am with me o. I go surprise her.

Toks2008:


LOL! Did you just write that? Why not treat her right in the first place and prevent that part where she will start acting defensive.

Toks2008:


Just pray you don't find yourself with a guy that threats you like poo then you will realize that it is even dumber to still make him feel like the hero.

Ashanti0522:


True... however, a woman shouldnt make a man , who treats her like poo , feel like a hero anyways because somewhere out in the big blue sea there's a man that's patiently waiting for a man to throw that woman in the trash so that way he can pick her back out and treat her like the treasure she is she just has to be patient and strong enough to walk away ha lie for what ?

abiolasogey:
Kk,,i love it wen dey love me mre dan i luv dem,,tis fun lyk dat,,nd dey wl b willing to do anytin to prevent me frm goin....

AfroKnight:


Lol. Cos me I dey play hard to get for woman now o. Power don change hand.

Oahray:
On the whole, this is a nice writeup.

However, affection isn't static. A lady may just decide to give a persistent guy a chance and end up loving him more than he loves her. Such love could wax stronger or gradually fizzle out. There is no law that a guy who loves a girl more than she loves him would ALWAYS show the greater love.

I'd always advocate giving love the right conditions to blossom rather than ladies looking for a love greater than theirs. The latter is as short-term as it is selfish.

That said, most of the tips here wouldn't have the same effect on every guy. For example, if a lady Oahray likes decides to give him unreasonable space for no reason, they would likely become strangers by the time she's ready to check if it worked.

dft:
The OP reminds me of my SHORTEST ever relationship.
I normally avoid these types of women, but one slipped through the net.
She did something 5-ish -- not another man, but she disappeared for a couple of days.
When she resurfaced, I said nothing.
The next day it's, "did you miss me?"
I said, "no".
Then I let the whole thing just fizzle out. That was the end of my two week relationship with trouble woman.

CaroLyner:
how about moving on to something better?
Instead of waiting for one boy to love you.

But for ladies who are the weaker vessels, pray and hope never ever to fall in love with a man that has no balanced feelings for you because you are almost likely to suffer great emotional heartaches because this guy may not give a hute about you while you continue to suffer simply because you are so much in love and crazy about him.

But for the ladies or emotionally weak guys that are already in a messy affair where the other partner feels far lesser love for him or her, simply make adjustments where necessary by:

TheSonOfMark:

"...If a girl don't wanna flow, me delete her. Me never repeat her. Me look for someone sweeter...".


-Jude "M.I" Abaga,
"Teaser",
"Talk About It" album, 2009.

BumBae:
But op sometimes that love triangle is because shes waiting for one to step up ... ( they never do )
But the girl might be interested but one thing that the guys does F sh!t up so she goes to another n leave that one daggling but most guys dont gerrit

No b triangle nah who go step up n be a MAN lol

Just my opinion sha

Thats why if i don tell person how i dey feel n dey take me play .. Deuces no need to over think

HateU2:
Relationships na hard work

TheSonOfMark:

"...If a girl don't wanna flow, me delete her. Me never repeat her. Me look for someone sweeter...".


-Jude "M.I" Abaga,
"Teaser",
"Talk About It" album, 2009.

Toks2008:


Seconded.

Craving lalasticlala indulgence.