Monday200:
Hello Nairalanders. Plz pardon my errors. Moderators please help with advice from pple

I'm a 27 while my boyfriend is 34,we've only dated for 7 months and he proposed to me last week. But the problem is that we are 2 different people,what he want is different from what I want.

He is from a rich family that likes flashing things, he always tell me to use make up when I say make up it not just foundation and lipstick every time am going out which I don't like at all I prefer using powder and lipstick and I use to tell him that I don't know how to do make ups yet he said he will get me a make ups artist. I don't know how am going to cope with that. Anytime we are going to see his family member or friends, he will always want me to over dress like it's a wedding day.

He likes going party a lot and anytime he ask me I will make up some excuse not to go and I don't know how long I will continue giving him excuse cos am an indoor person i don't like going out at all I only go out whenever am an having important things, there was a time he discovered and accused me of been ashamed of him that why I hate going out with him and its not like that.
He likes people prying into our privacy anytime we had a misunderstanding he will ask one of his friends to beg me on his behalf and I hate this.

He always want me to wear clothes that fit his standard like wearing heavy jewelries expensive one ,high heels,(he use to buy them for me cos his a rich dude ) he want a luxurious life while I only want a simple life. He can do anything to mk me look good and classy, he is always ready to spend for that.


My problem is do you think I can adapt to his lifestyle when we get married as I like being simple. Am scared.

Your husband to be is actually poor

nawa o

some peoples prayer point it is well
if you can't communicate with your man on simple matters.. should you be getting married?

Na suffer head go kill you this girl park your things and go back to the village that's where you belongs

Look for an NGO so you can help him spend money on the less privilege,

What a struggle! Take what you can and refuse the rest...life could be that simple

One man food is another man's poison.

See better man wey all girls would kiil to catch. He loves you, proposed you after only 7 months. Only small adjustments he asks you to make, you are crying all over the place.

Human being are hardly content with what they have. Leave him, go and wait for the poor man that will nyansh you for 10 years before even thinking about any proposal. Then your eyes go clear

Smh

Op for your own good, marry a man that you have to seek God to find him because from what u are saying, u are modest and he is not. He is an extrovert and you are the opposite. Lately, some Men are starting to go for ladies like you because they feel they want a homely girl and not slay queens, someone reserved but the bitter truth is most of them (men) are not ready to be reserved. I have seen men that buys extravagant things for their wives just because they want her to look like a slayer but end up going outside their matrimonial home to meet the real slayers just because their wives can't meet up with the kind of lifestyle. So my advice save yourself the trauma of praying against small girls with big god and define what u want in your man. Sit him down and talk to him about your personality and study him thereafter. Marriage no be child's play, if you are having doubts about him that means there is a probability that he is not the one for you. Forget that he is from a rich home, in fact ignore all the flashy things and ask yourself wat u want. Money is not everything! Think, pray, fast if you have to, get clear directions from God before you enter marriage with that young Man.

Is she normal? What nonsense. Maybe ur village people done swear say will not see good thing.

I'm a bit puzzled by some of the responses on this thread. Isn't this a case where two people may not be compatible. Why should she change herself? In fact how can one enter a union where you don't feel comfortable in your skin when with your other half.

Same comments that insults ladies going after guys with money are the same advising her to grab this opportunity, hypocrites

Op, listen to these comments at your own peril

Abobi no send u abi?

SirMichael1:


Oshey... Awon slay mama.

You want her to become a shape shifter??

If she doesn't want to party, why can't the fiancé understand her and remain at home? Does it 'hafta' be the Lady bending to his rules or ideology. Place yourself in her shoe, that's if you aren't slayed yet??

And you think he won't bend for her too.

She has to make an effort...whether party of other stuff.

I follow my hubby to watch him play ball most Saturday mornings. I might want to sleep but i go because it could be his way of bonding.

I watch football...other sports(infact i am watching Wimbledon at the moment).

But when i want to do my own stuff, he has to do it with me too.

So it is not about slay anything.

If she is not feeling him, she should shift for someone that will.

If he doesn't do all these the same lady will come and say "He is rich but stingy".

donstan18:
It's either your villagers are tampering with your life or you are a deeper life girl.

What nonsense!

Break up with him and watch the next lady grab him for life.

You're lucky and should be grateful he's an expressive type of man who's always ready to back up whatever he wants from you with money. How happy will you be to watch him cheat and flirt with other ladies who are ready to live the life he wants from you.

He's from a very wealthy family and it's normal for him to see his woman look good and classy. Yes! It might seem like he's trying so hard to change you but that's not the only angle you should see it, look beyond, see it that he values and care for you so much that he wants you to turn to what he wants in his woman, rather than seeking it from other ladies.

I don't mean to call you poor, but I think you are suffering from what poor people suffer when they are mingling with wealthy folks. Inferiority complex and inability to be comfortable with classy lifestyle due to their background.

Don't loose that man.

He values and respect you, which is why he wants to change you to the kind of woman he wants, than attempting to get it outside. Do well to change a bit for him, don't change totally, just a bit.

On the contrary, I think its you who have the inferiority complex..that's why you think its okay to advise her to change her personality to be whom she is not,

In petes sake, what's wrong in being oneself, and how does that translate to inferiority?..
Try not to be an idiot pls..

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ImaIma1:
As long as he can afford the things he wants you to wear, i see no problem.

If you don't like 3rd party interference, tell him to stop it.

He likes you to attend events with him. Would you prefer he leaves you at home? Many ladies are praying for a man that would take them everywhere with them.

You have not pointed out any fault in this guy. Your problem is that he is rich, flamboyant and wants to show you off.

What do you really want

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donstan18:
It's either your villagers are tampering with your life or you are a deeper life girl.

What nonsense!

Break up with him and watch the next lady grab him for life.

You're lucky and should be grateful he's an expressive type of man who's always ready to back up whatever he wants from you with money. How happy will you be to watch him cheat and flirt with other ladies who are ready to live the life he wants from you.

He's from a very wealthy family and it's normal for him to see his woman look good and classy. Yes! It might seem like he's trying so hard to change you but that's not the only angle you should see it, look beyond, see it that he values and care for you so much that he wants you to turn to what he wants in his woman, rather than seeking it from other ladies.

I don't mean to call you poor, but I think you are suffering from what poor people suffer when they are mingling with wealthy folks. Inferiority complex and inability to be comfortable with classy lifestyle due to their background.

Don't loose that man.

He values and respect you, which is why he wants to change you to the kind of woman he wants, than attempting to get it outside. Do well to change a bit for him, don't change totally, just a bit.

You and the over 70 people who liked your post are exactly what is wrong with this country. Since when did being conservative by nature equate to being poor?

Marriage is for a life time, you have to really communicate with your man and tell him your opinion about these issues.theres need for compromise, sacrifice from both of you before the marriage will work. Do not go into marriage with the mindset that your man will change to suit you, if he changes to suit you thats good but if otherwise, think of the lasting effect to your marriage. Communicate your fears to your man.

If i was him i want try to change you way i want rather i will let you be.i will like you the way you are and not llok to impress my frnds and family when i am discomforting you.

And why am I thinking that you yourself don’t wanna stay with him

**FRAUD ALERT!
THEY JST WITHDREW N1000 & N50 From my bank for card renewal. Is it not suppozd to be end of the month? I guess its for Ekiti election...

Marriage hasn't started yet... but it has ended...

Well Miss... get ready for many side chicks from your man.

The more you turn him down... the more he gets more girlfriends.

The only thing he will console himself with is my woman is a wife material...

Sorry but that's not your man.

Everyone saying don't leave that guy, he is the guy for you. all because this guy is rich. Yes it is good as a woman to have a rich guy but we should know all that glitters are not gold.

The lady is who she is because no One can ever be like her and if she tries to be like someone else, she will die trying.

Fix her till tomorrow she will remain the same.


I don't see the marriage working because I know what she's saying. I am her type too. I am an indoor person. I hate outings and no one has been able to change me , not even my wife.

I can take my kids out, eat out go to a park but to parties and visiting friends, I don't. It is not just my type of life.

I have no.problem in my marriage because I am the man. No woman dare order me to dress up and let's go partying or visiting friends or wear the kind of cloth I don't feel comfortable in. But her being a woman the guy will order her against her wish and there will be nothing she can do against it. She is going to be in prison not marriage.

If she wants a life of freedom and peace let her opt out without looking back. There are lots of women in marriage with rich guys crying everyday . They are regretting their decisions.

If you look at the wealth alone as ladies there is 95% possibility yould regret your action.

A good marriage is not about two ppl living in wealth but two like minds leaving together in Peace and Harmony.

A word is enough.

Monday200:
Hello Nairalanders. Plz pardon my errors. Moderators please help with advice from pple

I'm a 27 while my boyfriend is 34,we've only dated for 7 months and he proposed to me last week. But the problem is that we are 2 different people,what he want is different from what I want.

He is from a rich family that likes flashing things, he always tell me to use make up when I say make up it not just foundation and lipstick every time am going out which I don't like at all I prefer using powder and lipstick and I use to tell him that I don't know how to do make ups yet he said he will get me a make ups artist. I don't know how am going to cope with that. Anytime we are going to see his family member or friends, he will always want me to over dress like it's a wedding day.

He likes going party a lot and anytime he ask me I will make up some excuse not to go and I don't know how long I will continue giving him excuse cos am an indoor person i don't like going out at all I only go out whenever am an having important things, there was a time he discovered and accused me of been ashamed of him that why I hate going out with him and its not like that.
He likes people prying into our privacy anytime we had a misunderstanding he will ask one of his friends to beg me on his behalf and I hate this.

He always want me to wear clothes that fit his standard like wearing heavy jewelries expensive one ,high heels,(he use to buy them for me cos his a rich dude ) he want a luxurious life while I only want a simple life. He can do anything to mk me look good and classy, he is always ready to spend for that.


My problem is do you think I can adapt to his lifestyle when we get married as I like being simple. Am scared.

Ode, continue to complain and watch small girls with big God steal him from under your nose.

If you know you can't end it, don't start it "abi you be George Finidi o, daddy biko..."

I understand you op, cos am exactly like you. Seeing some comments on this thread really baffles me, I used to date a guy in school, he wasn't rich but was famous. I had to keep it a secret cos I don't like being in the spotlight. I just want to live a simple lifestyle without drama and papparazi. My advice is if you know you truly love him, then you have to be willing to make compromise.
I am not saying change who you are but you should both make compromise and strike a balance.
I am also trying to do the same thing by going out more often, cos it's has cost me some relationships and friends.
all the best op

People can be in money yet no comfort.
Going out every time to show off is not Godly.
Comfort and peace can only come when you are happy with yourself
Quit it if he can't understand your lifestyle

Kai, see the kind wife way i dey pray for, why you no wait small na

Monday200:
Hello Nairalanders. Plz pardon my errors. Moderators please help with advice from pple

I'm a 27 while my boyfriend is 34,we've only dated for 7 months and he proposed to me last week. But the problem is that we are 2 different people,what he want is different from what I want.

He is from a rich family that likes flashing things, he always tell me to use make up when I say make up it not just foundation and lipstick every time am going out which I don't like at all I prefer using powder and lipstick and I use to tell him that I don't know how to do make ups yet he said he will get me a make ups artist. I don't know how am going to cope with that. Anytime we are going to see his family member or friends, he will always want me to over dress like it's a wedding day.

He likes going party a lot and anytime he ask me I will make up some excuse not to go and I don't know how long I will continue giving him excuse cos am an indoor person i don't like going out at all I only go out whenever am an having important things, there was a time he discovered and accused me of been ashamed of him that why I hate going out with him and its not like that.
He likes people prying into our privacy anytime we had a misunderstanding he will ask one of his friends to beg me on his behalf and I hate this.

He always want me to wear clothes that fit his standard like wearing heavy jewelries expensive one ,high heels,(he use to buy them for me cos his a rich dude ) he want a luxurious life while I only want a simple life. He can do anything to mk me look good and classy, he is always ready to spend for that.


My problem is do you think I can adapt to his lifestyle when we get married as I like being simple. Am scared.

All men are like local rice....no matter how careful you are in picking...you will still chop stone so biko accept him for who he is and I hope he does same.

Most times one begins to wonder what girls really want. As for u, I won't tell you anything. Wait till small girls with big gods get hold of him.
Man rich, problem.
Him no rich, problem too.
Boys, make we kukuma leave this earth for dem gals and migrate to Mars

Monday200:
Hello Nairalanders. Plz pardon my errors. Moderators please help with advice from pple

I'm a 27 while my boyfriend is 34,we've only dated for 7 months and he proposed to me last week. But the problem is that we are 2 different people,what he want is different from what I want.

He is from a rich family that likes flashing things, he always tell me to use make up when I say make up it not just foundation and lipstick every time am going out which I don't like at all I prefer using powder and lipstick and I use to tell him that I don't know how to do make ups yet he said he will get me a make ups artist. I don't know how am going to cope with that. Anytime we are going to see his family member or friends, he will always want me to over dress like it's a wedding day.

He likes going party a lot and anytime he ask me I will make up some excuse not to go and I don't know how long I will continue giving him excuse cos am an indoor person i don't like going out at all I only go out whenever am an having important things, there was a time he discovered and accused me of been ashamed of him that why I hate going out with him and its not like that.
He likes people prying into our privacy anytime we had a misunderstanding he will ask one of his friends to beg me on his behalf and I hate this.

He always want me to wear clothes that fit his standard like wearing heavy jewelries expensive one ,high heels,(he use to buy them for me cos his a rich dude ) he want a luxurious life while I only want a simple life. He can do anything to mk me look good and classy, he is always ready to spend for that.


My problem is do you think I can adapt to his lifestyle when we get married as I like being simple. Am scared.

Leave him and go for a simpler guy, but drop his number for the sharp girls wet get brain.

Jethrolite:
You and the over 70 people who liked your post are exactly what is wrong with this country. Since when did being conservative by nature equate to being poor?

Tumb up


you make a lot of undiluted sense.


When I see ppl liking a wrong comment I Smh.

Monday200:
Hello Nairalanders. Plz pardon my errors. Moderators please help with advice from pple

I'm a 27 while my boyfriend is 34,we've only dated for 7 months and he proposed to me last week. But the problem is that we are 2 different people,what he want is different from what I want.

He is from a rich family that likes flashing things, he always tell me to use make up when I say make up it not just foundation and lipstick every time am going out which I don't like at all I prefer using powder and lipstick and I use to tell him that I don't know how to do make ups yet he said he will get me a make ups artist. I don't know how am going to cope with that. Anytime we are going to see his family member or friends, he will always want me to over dress like it's a wedding day.

He likes going party a lot and anytime he ask me I will make up some excuse not to go and I don't know how long I will continue giving him excuse cos am an indoor person i don't like going out at all I only go out whenever am an having important things, there was a time he discovered and accused me of been ashamed of him that why I hate going out with him and its not like that.
He likes people prying into our privacy anytime we had a misunderstanding he will ask one of his friends to beg me on his behalf and I hate this.

He always want me to wear clothes that fit his standard like wearing heavy jewelries expensive one ,high heels,(he use to buy them for me cos his a rich dude ) he want a luxurious life while I only want a simple life. He can do anything to mk me look good and classy, he is always ready to spend for that.


My problem is do you think I can adapt to his lifestyle when we get married as I like being simple. Am scared.

While you're both compatible in some other areas that has kept the relationship to this point, I'm sorry to say but he is definitely not the husband you want.

I am assuming you also make sacrifices for this relationship and I expect you to make some demands of him. For a girl I must say your type is quite rare considering the era of social media we live in.

Think about his demands, are they what you can grow into? Can you gradually change to become the superficial woman he wants? The perfect trophy wife. If you can then proceed, if you are even finding it difficult to answer those questions then it means you can not. I advise you talk to him, come to a compromise with him. You both have to meet half way on this issue.

Do not get carried away with his money as you make your decision, protect your peace and happiness before you fall for societal pressure and ruin your life.

Let me tell you a secret about money, it solves a lot of problems. A poor person believes it will solve all their life problems but the truth is when you have become rich for a prolonged period, you start encountering problems money can not solve. In your case, they are already appearing even before you're rich.

Like I said earlier, meet half way and grow from there or protect your peace and happiness.

Goodluck.

MrGoogle88:


Leave him and go for a simpler guy, but drop his number for the sharp girls wet get brain.

The sharp girl wey get brain that will end up stabbing him in his sleep because of frustration.


Money is really good but money is not the definition of good living. That's a abitter truth.


Many are weeping in money as we speak.