ImaIma1:


She is only complaining about his part. But she hasn't told us the parts where he also went out of his way for her. Or do you think a man in love won't go out of his way for his woman?

Monday200:
He is from a rich family that likes flashing things, he always tell me to use make up when I say make up it not just foundation and lipstick every time am going out which I don't like at all I prefer using powder and lipstick and I use to tell him that I don't know how to do make ups yet he said he will get me a make ups artist. I don't know how am going to cope with that. Anytime we are going to see his family member or friends, he will always want me to over dress like it's a wedding day.

He likes going party a lot and anytime he ask me I will make up some excuse not to go and I don't know how long I will continue giving him excuse cos am an indoor person i don't like going out at all I only go out whenever am an having important things, there was a time he discovered and accused me of been ashamed of him that why I hate going out with him and its not like that.
He likes people prying into our privacy anytime we had a misunderstanding he will ask one of his friends to beg me on his behalf and I hate this.

He always want me to wear clothes that fit his standard like wearing heavy jewelries expensive one ,high heels,(he use to buy them for me cos his a rich dude ) he want a luxurious life while I only want a simple life. He can do anything to mk me look good and classy, he is always ready to spend for that.

donstan18:
It's either your villagers are tampering with your life or you are a deeper life girl.

What nonsense!

Break up with him and watch the next lady grab him for life.

You're lucky and should be grateful he's an expressive type of man who's always ready to back up whatever he wants from you with money. How happy will you be to watch him cheat and flirt with other ladies who are ready to live the life he wants from you.

He's from a very wealthy family and it's normal for him to see his woman look good and classy. Yes! It might seem like he's trying so hard to change you but that's not the only angle you should see it, look beyond, see it that he values and care for you so much that he wants you to turn to what he wants in his woman, rather than seeking it from other ladies.

I don't mean to call you poor, but I think you are suffering from what poor people suffer when they are mingling with wealthy folks. Inferiority complex and inability to be comfortable with classy lifestyle due to their background.

Don't loose that man.

He values and respect you, which is why he wants to change you to the kind of woman he wants, than attempting to get it outside. Do well to change a bit for him, don't change totally, just a bit.

donstan18:
It's either your villagers are tampering with your life or you are a deeper life girl.

What nonsense!

Break up with him and watch the next lady grab him for life.

You're lucky and should be grateful he's an expressive type of man who's always ready to back up whatever he wants from you with money. How happy will you be to watch him cheat and flirt with other ladies who are ready to live the life he wants from you.

He's from a very wealthy family and it's normal for him to see his woman look good and classy. Yes! It might seem like he's trying so hard to change you but that's not the only angle you should see it, look beyond, see it that he values and care for you so much that he wants you to turn to what he wants in his woman, rather than seeking it from other ladies.

I don't mean to call you poor, but I think you are suffering from what poor people suffer when they are mingling with wealthy folks. Inferiority complex and inability to be comfortable with classy lifestyle due to their background.

Don't loose that man.

He values and respect you, which is why he wants to change you to the kind of woman he wants, than attempting to get it outside. Do well to change a bit for him, don't change totally, just a bit.

Bluffly:


Your husband to be is actually poor

2buffagain:


Oh please fix your brain, literally.
What does being simple have to be with bring poor?

This is why when black people get small money, they will not let anybody hear word again.

SirMichael1:


It has nothing to do with temperaments. How many child dedications are they going to do in their marriage span. At most 5. If the lady births once in two years, it's okay to host a party. No big deal with that but going clubbing and partying every other Friday is a no no. I might be an introvert but I speak for all responsible fathers out there.

From her writeup, he seem to be a party freak and that can be disastrous to their home if unchecked.

lilyheaven:

You will be wondering why am supporting this guy to club, but this is the time to enjoy whatever they want, because as soon as babies start coming, that may be the end.
I remember my husband used to drag me around then, as soon as I became pregnant, that was the end.
All his goals now is to make more money.
I believe there is time for every thing.

shayubobo:
very simple,you people can balance it.sit him down and make him realise u dont like flamboyant lifestyle. If he is truly a man and not a guy,he wouldn't leave u cos of that cos i blive he doesn't love u because of make up....according to ur story,he proposes to u when u were not on make upso i bliv he should love u even without it. Just sit him down and let him know ur own view of things. It might even change his life.....all d money he is spending lavishly can be diverted to better physical projects

Acidosis:
You're certainly going to regret this union.

Better don't allow the poor-man-mentality comments on this thread confuse you. Being a reserved and conservative person has nothing to do with wealth.

His actions are a result of his personality (not his money). Take away that wealth today, he'll still borrow to impress people, na so extroverted money miss road people dey do.

Don't force it, no one should force you to do what you wouldn't do on your own discretion. Love with your head and be calculative. Love should not make you go to the extreme. [B]Listen to the comments on this thread at your own peril[/B].

Bluffly:


Can you see your level of understanding. When you trail discussions with emotions you spill trash. When I say he is poor simply means he can't handle his situation without wanting to prove he is rich. If he makes the wife appears crispy then the truth is he does that in his dealings as well which makes him poor.
E.g difference IBB and Dino Melaye. These two have money irrespective of their gap, stolen or made but the truth remains that IBB never flaunted up and down but Dino flaunts which makes him poor.

If a man wants his wife to be heavily dressed always, he is actually making efforts to prove to the world how well he is spending on his wife or to prove is worth through his wife and this makes him poor irrespective of his bank balance. You don't have to prove what you have because it is a smoke and people will notice i without undue efforts..

So please you fix your brain, literally

SirMichael1:


On the contrary, she has.

Let me help you;



Now when you carefully go over the emboldened, what catches your attention??

It's that 'always' that's a red flag. He always this... He always that... If you love your woman as a man, you'll only go out of your way if your 'out of the way' isn't controlling or suffocating your partner.

donstan18:
It's either your villagers are tampering with your life or you are a deeper life girl.

What nonsense!

Break up with him and watch the next lady grab him for life.

You're lucky and should be grateful he's an expressive type of man who's always ready to back up whatever he wants from you with money. How happy will you be to watch him cheat and flirt with other ladies who are ready to live the life he wants from you.

He's from a very wealthy family and it's normal for him to see his woman look good and classy. Yes! It might seem like he's trying so hard to change you but that's not the only angle you should see it, look beyond, see it that he values and care for you so much that he wants you to turn to what he wants in his woman, rather than seeking it from other ladies.

I don't mean to call you poor, but I think you are suffering from what poor people suffer when they are mingling with wealthy folks. Inferiority complex and inability to be comfortable with classy lifestyle due to their background.

Don't loose that man.

He values and respect you, which is why he wants to change you to the kind of woman he wants, than attempting to get it outside. Do well to change a bit for him, don't change totally, just a bit.

Monday200:
Hello Nairalanders. Plz pardon my errors. Moderators please help with advice from pple

I'm a 27 while my boyfriend is 34,we've only dated for 7 months and he proposed to me last week. But the problem is that we are 2 different people,what he want is different from what I want.

He is from a rich family that likes flashing things, he always tell me to use make up when I say make up it not just foundation and lipstick every time am going out which I don't like at all I prefer using powder and lipstick and I use to tell him that I don't know how to do make ups yet he said he will get me a make ups artist. I don't know how am going to cope with that. Anytime we are going to see his family member or friends, he will always want me to over dress like it's a wedding day.

He likes going party a lot and anytime he ask me I will make up some excuse not to go and I don't know how long I will continue giving him excuse cos am an indoor person i don't like going out at all I only go out whenever am an having important things, there was a time he discovered and accused me of been ashamed of him that why I hate going out with him and its not like that.
He likes people prying into our privacy anytime we had a misunderstanding he will ask one of his friends to beg me on his behalf and I hate this.

He always want me to wear clothes that fit his standard like wearing heavy jewelries expensive one ,high heels,(he use to buy them for me cos his a rich dude ) he want a luxurious life while I only want a simple life. He can do anything to mk me look good and classy, he is always ready to spend for that.


My problem is do you think I can adapt to his lifestyle when we get married as I like being simple. Am scared.