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olac21:
How hold is she?

She will be 26 next month

Whosentyou:
Exactly my thought. But how can I test whether she is pregnant or not without her knowledge?

That's hard ohh, except u get her urine which she must know, but just don't have sex with her at all, tell her u r still mourning your mom and don't want to defile yourself.

Brown606:
She don cast, thats the plain truth..olosho

Hmmmm

thingsfallapart:
I have almost the same issue here that is making me crying everyday

Bro make we cry together

elbukaze:
Brother, I'm advising you as my own blood brother, first I may assume you are in ur earlier Thirties, now u have the opportunity to marry the love of your life, someone you love and u can also tell she loves u. If you keep waiting till u become Dangote before getting married, time will come when u will regret it. Some marriages brings blessings to the Man, if you born now, believe me neither you, ur wife or ur child will die of Hunger, I married at the age of 28 just a year after my youth service to the love of my life, believe me today I'm the happiest man.

Read the advice below:

*DEAR YOUNG GUYS AT THE AGE OF 25 TO 30*

Don't make mistakes some of our Fathers or Senior Brothers made.

Marry now with the little you have. Don't wait to
be a millionaire, Have kids early so you can grow
with them. Grow with your kids and succeed with
your wife. You will never finish making money or
achieving your plans. You might still not succeed
at your target year. So start your life early, with
consistency you will grow.

My father said this to me: _When i was 25, i was
talking about making billions before i marry.
Many years later, billions didn't come, yet no kid
no wife... I had an opportunity to marry the most beautiful love
of my life very early, But my fear was, can i
really take care of her? But right now She's married with
Four grown up children. The guy that married her
was still schooling then, but had the courage.
They worked hard and succeeded together. I
failed, so please if you can feed yourself, you can
feed your wife. You have to believe it, marry
early, don't wait.

Don't make our mistakes, I see
my childhood friends play with their kids.. Most
of them are not doing as well as me.. But they
are happier with their families..
Trust me it isn't money only, but Rather your Maturity, your
happiness depends entirely on your wisdom and the way you Handle Life. With
a well planned life they are happier.

Trust me it
isn't money, What is our problem? Build mansion, buy the latest Car in Town, marry Sharon stone type, but still we don't have those things we dreamt of,
and of course the years we wasted, we can never have them neverrrr!!!_

Please don't be 60yrs old and your kids will still
be in their 20's..What are you supposed to be at
that age? Their grand father.
Please young men, take my advice seriously.

Marry, don't be afraid, that girl you are finding too many
fault in has many good qualities if you look well.

Don't think you will get every thing before you
settle down. God can change your life in a blink,
with a good and Focus wife by your side, you will succeed
by God grace....Amen

I'm sorry I didn't have d time to read d entire epistle but why would u reason this way.? U r bringing other people into ds earth who would hold u responsible for failing dem. Ds is damaged reasoning bro..

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Whosentyou:
Hello house, please I need your advice on this matter.
Both insult and criticism are welcomed.

I met this girl on sept 2011 while doing my industrial attachment and we've been dating since then. I was planning to settle down with her last year April since I had gotten a job in 2015. I have met her parents and I was preparing for introduction when I lost my job in January last year. I didn't want to spend all my savings on that so I paused the marriage stuff until I could secure another source of income. But things went haywire. Months were passing without any source of income and she was pressuring for marriage. I told her to be patient till I get something to hold on to before I embark on that journey.

We were really in love. I loved her so much that she was part of me. Everyone around knew about us. My mum and grandmum loved her and they recommended her for me. Her siblings and parent like me too. Things became rough with me later but yet she was pressuring for marriage. I left for Lagos to look for a greener pasture. I attended interviews upon interviews hoping for something better though I took up a teaching job whose pay was not even up to 50k compare to how life is in Lagos.

One day something told me to login to her Facebook account(we both have access to each other's Facebook account). Then i saw the shock of my life. I saw her chats with a guy she slept with. They even discussed about marriage. I screenshot the whole chats(about 52 screenshots). I confronted her but she denied saying the guy was just a friend. She even accused of me of accusing her of cheating. I couldn't hold my patience so I sent her the screenshots. Then she denied saying she didn't sleep with the guy and all those shits ladies would say to defend themselves. She pleaded for forgiveness and I forgave her but I told her I needed a break. I told her to go marry if marriage was her concern that I was not financially buoyant enough to take up that responsibility so we went her separate ways. Meanwhile I didn't tell my parents nor her parents about whatever transpired between us except some few friends who knew about us.

10 months later I lost my mum due to illness I have spent all my money on yet I couldn't save her. As the only child the responsibility of burial rites is on my head so things are so tight with me.
The girl heard about my mum's dead and came to visit me in the village. She was crying all through though I tried to console her....hmmmm.
Later I asked her about her husband and all the guys that promised her marriage. She told me she has not accepted any of their proposal yet though she was planning to choose one of them on her birthday. About a week later she called I told me she wants me back that I am the one she wants to settle down with. I told her point blank that I'm not ready for marriage pressure and moreover I need money to bury my mum. She kept disturbing and pleaded that she won't cheat again. I forgave her and took her back. I love her though.

Now she is telling me to impregnate her so that other guys disturbing her can let her be. I told her the implications of that and how I can't father a child for now owing to the fact that I barely feed myself talk more of buying pampers and feeding her too. Moreover I'm still struggling for money to bury my mum so I can return to Lagos to continue my hustling.

My people what should I do with this girl? She is desperately serious about it. She said she doesn't want any guy except me. So to secure me for the future I should impregnate her that she will take care of the baby. For me it is a NO! But I need your contribution.


PS: She is working and living in her own apartment away from home but the pay is not much.


Pardon my grammatical blunders.

my brother she is carry another man's pregnancy already, she just wants us to top it up for her

bros she's either pregnant with another man's child and wants to pin it on you or she did something terrible to her womb and wants to check if she can still take in. either way it won't favour you. run as fast as you can away from her.. NOTE: a cheat can never change, once a cheat always a cheat.

Are you interested in the fact that her financial situation is better than yours? Is that a reason why the offer seems more appealing than it ordinarily should be?

What manner of bulls balls is this?
She wants to get pregnant so that other guys stop botheoring her? So will power alike is not sufficient?
You need to take stock of your life and stop living this Nollywood of a life/relationship you are in.
You are the sort of men that don’t learn from your mistakes.
You have no job, she has one with little money and yet you are here talking about this? What’s wrong with saying no? Sticking to your guns and if she is not on board she walks?
If you keep dipping your joystick into that vagina with no condoms she will get pregnant!
Or she already is and time is of the essence she has to pin it on a mumu like you!

LewsTherin:
Are you interested in the fact that her financial situation is better than yours? Is that a reason why the offer seems more appealing than it ordinarily should be?

I'm not succumbing to her appeal. I have a strong heart. I made up my mind that I won't have a child out of wedlock no matter the temptations.
I have girls disturbing me on daily basis but I have not said yes to any of them. Once I have a job I will settle down with a girl of my choice

MissRaine69:
What manner of bulls balls is this?
She wants to get pregnant so that other guys stop botheoring her? So will power alike is not sufficient?
You need to take stock of your life and stop living this Nollywood of a life/relationship you are in.
You are the sort of men that don’t learn from your mistakes.
You have no job, she has one with little money and yet you are here talking about this? What’s wrong with saying no? Sticking to your guns and if she is not on board she walks?
If you keep dipping your joystick into that vagina with no condoms she will get pregnant!
Or she already is and time is of the essence she has to pin it on a mumu like you!

My dear the last time I dipped my John Thomas into any Kitty shit was last year. I have self control. I have already said no but just needed to hear from people opinions.

Whosentyou:
My dear the last time I dipped my John Thomas into any Kitty shit was last year. I have self control. I have already said no but just needed to hear from people opinions.

You heard it
Now run far
Far away from this make belief as it’s clear only one person values what love really means.

MissRaine69:
You heard it
Now run far
Far away from this make belief as it’s clear only one person values what love really means.

Let me go and borrow speed from Ussain Bolt

I smell a rat. That girl is already pregnant for someone else but wants a home boy like you . Extra care needed here.

Don't give in to her marital pressure knowing fully well you are not financially ready and also she might be pregnant for someone else looking for a scapegoat.

The tussle of marriage is majorly financial responsibilities which wavers from basic to hierarchial needs. Think about house rent, food, transport, clothing, school fees and other utility bills which you don't have the financial muscle to foot these.

Also, you caught her red handed cheating yet she denied it right at your face.

You can see it point blank these are two bullets shot and its best you dodge it now or never.

For you to take a cheating spouse back into your life shows you are a weak man.A man with no option a manipulated man.When i want to lecture you guys you said no,see what women have turned men into.Am sorry bro take care of your problems

Not everyone has the ability to understand situations. Tomorrow she will insult u if you cannot provide.

Better don't let anyone pressure you into doing what you don't want to do cos if shot hits the fan, you on your own.

Whosentyou:
Let me go and borrow speed from Ussain Bolt

You talking about your mum's burial, she talking about pregnancy.... Be guided young man.

Whosentyou:
Let me go and borrow speed from Ussain Bolt

It’s best if you borrow from Bolt and Justin Gatlin cause this woman will be your doom.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Not everyone has the ability to understand situations. Tomorrow she will insult u if you cannot provide.

Better don't let anyone pressure you into doing what you don't want to do cos if shot hits the fan, you on your own.

I could not agree more!
She will get pregnant probably stop working and then hell will descend on his head!

elbukaze:
Brother, I'm advising you as my own blood brother, first I may assume you are in ur earlier Thirties, now u have the opportunity to marry the love of your life, someone you love and u can also tell she loves u. If you keep waiting till u become Dangote before getting married, time will come when u will regret it. Some marriages brings blessings to the Man, if you born now, believe me neither you, ur wife or ur child will die of Hunger, I married at the age of 28 just a year after my youth service to the love of my life, believe me today I'm the happiest man.

Read the advice below:

*DEAR YOUNG GUYS AT THE AGE OF 25 TO 30*

Don't make mistakes some of our Fathers or Senior Brothers made.

Marry now with the little you have. Don't wait to
be a millionaire, Have kids early so you can grow
with them. Grow with your kids and succeed with
your wife. You will never finish making money or
achieving your plans. You might still not succeed
at your target year. So start your life early, with
consistency you will grow.

My father said this to me: _When i was 25, i was
talking about making billions before i marry.
Many years later, billions didn't come, yet no kid
no wife... I had an opportunity to marry the most beautiful love
of my life very early, But my fear was, can i
really take care of her? But right now She's married with
Four grown up children. The guy that married her
was still schooling then, but had the courage.
They worked hard and succeeded together. I
failed, so please if you can feed yourself, you can
feed your wife. You have to believe it, marry
early, don't wait.

Don't make our mistakes, I see
my childhood friends play with their kids.. Most
of them are not doing as well as me.. But they
are happier with their families..
Trust me it isn't money only, but Rather your Maturity, your
happiness depends entirely on your wisdom and the way you Handle Life. With
a well planned life they are happier.

Trust me it
isn't money, What is our problem? Build mansion, buy the latest Car in Town, marry Sharon stone type, but still we don't have those things we dreamt of,
and of course the years we wasted, we can never have them neverrrr!!!_

Please don't be 60yrs old and your kids will still
be in their 20's..What are you supposed to be at
that age? Their grand father.
Please young men, take my advice seriously.

Marry, don't be afraid, that girl you are finding too many
fault in has many good qualities if you look well.

Don't think you will get every thing before you
settle down. God can change your life in a blink,
with a good and Focus wife by your side, you will succeed
by Golocks!

Dont advocate poverty or laziness! And don't use growing with children as an excuse. Your wife and kids deserve the best if you can give it to the,m.

goodnews777:
I smell a rat. That girl is already pregnant for someone else but wants a home boy like you . Extra care needed here.

How can I detect this?

Whosentyou:
Exactly my thought. But how can I test whether she is pregnant or not without her knowledge?

Tell her you have to go for a genotype test with her to be sure you are compatible. Choose the hospital and make arrangements before hand.

elbukaze:
Brother, I'm advising you as my own blood brother, first I may assume you are in ur earlier Thirties, now u have the opportunity to marry the love of your life, someone you love and u can also tell she loves u. If you keep waiting till u become Dangote before getting married, time will come when u will regret it. Some marriages brings blessings to the Man, if you born now, believe me neither you, ur wife or ur child will die of Hunger, I married at the age of 28 just a year after my youth service to the love of my life, believe me today I'm the happiest man.

Read the advice below:

*DEAR YOUNG GUYS AT THE AGE OF 25 TO 30*

Don't make mistakes some of our Fathers or Senior Brothers made.

Marry now with the little you have. Don't wait to
be a millionaire, Have kids early so you can grow
with them. Grow with your kids and succeed with
your wife. You will never finish making money or
achieving your plans. You might still not succeed
at your target year. So start your life early, with
consistency you will grow.

My father said this to me: _When i was 25, i was
talking about making billions before i marry.
Many years later, billions didn't come, yet no kid
no wife... I had an opportunity to marry the most beautiful love
of my life very early, But my fear was, can i
really take care of her? But right now She's married with
Four grown up children. The guy that married her
was still schooling then, but had the courage.
They worked hard and succeeded together. I
failed, so please if you can feed yourself, you can
feed your wife. You have to believe it, marry
early, don't wait.

Don't make our mistakes, I see
my childhood friends play with their kids.. Most
of them are not doing as well as me.. But they
are happier with their families..
Trust me it isn't money only, but Rather your Maturity, your
happiness depends entirely on your wisdom and the way you Handle Life. With
a well planned life they are happier.

Trust me it
isn't money, What is our problem? Build mansion, buy the latest Car in Town, marry Sharon stone type, but still we don't have those things we dreamt of,
and of course the years we wasted, we can never have them neverrrr!!!_

Please don't be 60yrs old and your kids will still
be in their 20's..What are you supposed to be at
that age? Their grand father.
Please young men, take my advice seriously.

Marry, don't be afraid, that girl you are finding too many
fault in has many good qualities if you look well.

Don't think you will get every thing before you
settle down. God can change your life in a blink,
with a good and Focus wife by your side, you will succeed
by God grace....Amen

The mistake you people make is that you generalise too much. just as you know a person that married early and made it I know someone who did the same thing and poverty finished both him and the marriage.

stop this rubbish you people do here. that it worked for one doesn't mean it will work for all.

clems93:
Tell her you have to go for a genotype test with her to be sure you are compatible. Choose the hospital and make arrangements before hand.

Hehehehe she is in medical field ooo so she knows all those stuff

Oyindidi:
Back up abi na assistant boyfriend I dey shame for you

Oyin this is not fair

GODPUNISHUNA:
Oyin this is not fair

we dey help him ministry

maybe she wants to tie u down with an hidden agenda. be careful

Your woman reeks of desperation and showing how desperate she is, it is apparent that she might be pregnant for another man, look before you leap. Don't let her pin you down with another man's offspring.


Also, let her go, she is too desperate and desperate people are toxic, when you are financially okay, you can now go into the dating business.

MissRaine69:
What manner of bulls balls is this?
She wants to get pregnant so that other guys stop botheoring her? So will power alike is not sufficient?
You need to take stock of your life and stop living this Nollywood of a life/relationship you are in.
You are the sort of men that don’t learn from your mistakes.
You have no job, she has one with little money and yet you are here talking about this? What’s wrong with saying no? Sticking to your guns and if she is not on board she walks?
If you keep dipping your joystick into that vagina with no condoms she will get pregnant!
Or she already is and time is of the essence she has to pin it on a mumu like you!

MissRaine69:
I could not agree more!
She will get pregnant probably stop working and then hell will descend on his head!

Amazing.
When did pregnant women stop working? . Pregnant women are only given exemption (maternity leave) from their work place when the pregnancy is more than 6 months and they can resume work 5-6months later after their kids are up-to 6months old.

When you pressure a man who's not ready for marriage to get married to you, I believe you know the responsibilities that come with marriage.
You can't pressure someone into marriage even though he doesn't have money then you start insulting him later. You can only use that blackmail for foolish men.
You should be reminded that you were the desperate one

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Not everyone has the ability to understand situations. Tomorrow she will insult u if you cannot provide.

Better don't let anyone pressure you into doing what you don't want to do cos if shot hits the fan, you on your own.

When you pressure a man who's not ready for marriage to get married to you, I believe you know the responsibilities that come with marriage.
You can't pressure someone into marriage even though he doesn't have money then you start insulting him later. You can only use that blackmail for foolish men.
You should be reminded that you were the desperate one

Hanseel1:
When you pressure a man who's not ready for marriage to get married to you, I believe you know the responsibilities that come with marriage.
You can't pressure someone into marriage even though he doesn't have money then you start insulting him later. You can only use that blackmail for foolish men.
You should be reminded that you were the desperate one

Me? Why directing this at me? I'm not the op's girlfriend please.