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Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by mavinc4u(f): 1:50am On Jul 15, 2018 |
dingbang: how is she a snitch.? is it your money? did you not hear the husband use his own for his parent? che na only him get parent to use money on? Madam, don't ever make the mistake of changing the name to his name. he is not a good man as he claimed. if you ever want to change the name, please change it to your children's name. 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Nobody: 1:50am On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall:Run, that Man is a wicked Man. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by akwunomy(m): 1:51am On Jul 15, 2018 |
People here can crucify you for putting your name on the project. That is their opinion and it does not represent any conventional or societal norm. You have a union...a partnership when you marry someone...but from your statement...he used his share of the deal to take care of his immediate family...I need people to crucify him thus for this...but unfortunately...ours is a subjective society which favors men...but in the western world...that is not the case...People can separate asset in relationship for many reasons and in his case...through his action...he separated his assets from yours from the on set...and as nature will have it...you are too smart to build the house in your name..What man for whatever reason will ask the mother of his kids to move out of the house with his kids? I live in the USA...here a man move out of the house even if the house belong to him...they wife and kids lives in the house! Back on your question...pay close attention...don’t...never change anything to his name...possible scenario...he might perfect his threat and you will see another woman living in a house you built...they world is wicked! Protect yourself and your kid! They arguement should be...the need for him to return and take care of his kids...Worst case scenario...if the heat is too much...use a power of attorney...with a good lawyer...and put the name of the house on your son name...maybe that will soothe his stupid egocentric attrition. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Saintmary(f): 1:52am On Jul 15, 2018 |
histemple:Thanks, but I don't reply the same way each time. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by LaudableXX: 1:53am On Jul 15, 2018 |
sholatech:No, sir. It should be Mr. (Husband's full name) and Mrs. (Wife's full name, including first name). If it is not done this way, a man can get married to another woman tomorrow, who will also bear his name. And it would be difficult to distinguish between who is the lawful Mrs. I believe there is even a court case or a precedent, that has been set in this regard. Let me give an example. If the title documents to the house are in the name of Mr. & Mrs. John, then one day down the line if there is a divorce, and the man remarries, his new wife will also be entitled to claim and use the title: 'Mrs. John.' But if the documents state clearly, Mr. Abu John and Mrs. Maria John for example, then it is quite clear who the owners of the property are. Their identity is no longer in doubt. Neither can it be disputed. The 2nd wife is highly unlikely to have the same first name as the 1st wife, so she cannot lay claim to a house jointly owned by her husband and his 1st wife. The OP should just put both their joint names on the property documents (in fact she should include her maiden name somewhere in between, to prevent any doubt). 5 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by mavinc4u(f): 1:55am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Eketem: Thanks jare. some times i wonder the kind of brain some Nigeria women have. like seriously. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by mavinc4u(f): 1:57am On Jul 15, 2018 |
LaudableXX: put Mr & Mrs for what? Abeg, make the woman spell her name there boldly. If she can't then she should use her children's name. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Saintmary(f): 1:59am On Jul 15, 2018 |
akwunomy:HEseesall, this is good advice. Thanks @akwunomy 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by mavinc4u(f): 2:00am On Jul 15, 2018 |
oloyede252: No matter the argument, no man should try that nonsense. Kick your wife and children out because they are buckets or what. please if you are doing such, you better stop it. 5 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by baby124: 2:04am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Don’t ever ever ever ever do that. Change the ownership to you and your children. Your children deserve that shelter more than him. Let him go and find another place and build. Don’t joke with a roof over your children’s head as a mother! They deserve that safe and secure space. He will be alright last last. If he will leave, he will leave. Even when you change the name. I think the man is on his way out anyway, otherwise it should not bother him that much. 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Hollysaint: 2:08am On Jul 15, 2018 |
put the house in the children's name and you be in charge till they are mature . 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Medunah: 2:09am On Jul 15, 2018 |
weavesquad:LMAO, this must be a joke. So you are saying the husband did her a favour by not squandering her profit or scamming her? And cos of that, she should be forever grateful to him and put the land 'which she got from her own profit of a business which they both put money into" solely in his name? If not making my husband sole owner of my land is whats going to make me an irresponsible housewife, then I choose to be one. I also feel sorry for whoever is going to end up with you or whoever is with you right now cos your ideologies are sick. 7 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by LaudableXX: 2:09am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Organism000:What did you just say here? A man is supposed to build a house before he marries? In which book is that one written, or in which section of our constitution is it stated? |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Manjad: 2:12am On Jul 15, 2018 |
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Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Nobody: 2:19am On Jul 15, 2018 |
akwunomy:Do u mind the hypocritical lots. We did biz together and shared our profits. U used urs. I used mine and u are telling me to give u my own profit back. The mistake she made was buying land for them to build on. She should have bought land and develop it as time goes on strictly on her own. That way,there will be no problem. I love him so much and he is so good to me made her not to use common sense. Now she is the one begging. In this era? Women has indeed suffered. He didn't hesitate to tell her to pack out thinking she bought and registered the land with his name.imagine that. That's how some women will buy family motor and put the husband's name even if he is doing nothing. I will give u the motor to cruise around with but all documents will be in my name. How many people have their husbands bought cars for and used the wives name? Women, had I known is always too late. U will always be at advantage so try and secure ur future and that of ur children 7 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by dasparrow: 2:19am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Eketem: Na their trademark. 5 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by NovusHomo(m): 2:24am On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall: Do not change the name on the documents. The bolded part of your story is the reason why you should not. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by frozen70(f): 2:24am On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall: Be courageous and bold in this issue. Since you pleaded with him and he refused forget it and move on. Inform your whole family about everything the way it happened. If he wants to relocate let him do so, life goes on. Don't be subber or disturbed about it. Start seeing yourself as a single parent. Let nobody on earth advice you or convince you to change it to his name, never. Worst case senerio you change it to your children name, but I repeat don't change anything leave it the way it is. He is having ego and complex problems with himself because he sees himself as Lord, let the ego and frustration hit himself not you. Face the children and focus on training them for good tomorrow. Assuming he is the one that built the house that means you will be a slave in your husband house and he can as well chase you out and marry another woman, no way. If he wants to remarry leave him to go ahead na him go tire. Nonsense. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by dasparrow: 2:32am On Jul 15, 2018 |
@Post Most Nigerians are not marriage material. This is why you see so much strife and confusion in the home. Why would a so-called married man not think about building a house first but rather hand over his entire money to his parents? Bible says a man shall leave his parents and cling to his wife. Yet Nigerian bred men want to be married while still clinging unto their mother's apron. No wonder an increasing number of women are opting out of marriage. Nobody wants to be married to a man-child. OP, don't put his name on the lease. He is a wicked man. If you had been foolish enough to use your share of the money on frivolties like shoes and clothes or handed your share of the money to your parents, would there be any house right now? Honestly, people really need to look before they leap into this thing called marriage. The bible was not wrong when it said: " The heart of man is desperately wicked. Who can know it?." Trust no one! 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by oloriadejoke(f): 2:35am On Jul 15, 2018 |
madam let's be serious here,your husband has someone special he kept somewhere and funny enough his families might even knows about it because a reliable African man I mean a reliable one will never collect what belongs to his wife at any cost the man is a selfish fellow who never pity his wife or his kids,if u change the property name to his name he has silences u for life,he will even bring diff women home and there is noting u will do about it u will be d one begging him for his foolishness always 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by LondonLord: 2:38am On Jul 15, 2018 |
You are smart my dear. For your husband to leave shows that he really meant kicking you out. But i hope the cause of your conflict is not careless utterance due to the fact that the house belongs to you? How frequent do you have quarrel? Large number of Men prefer to stay in a rented mini-flat than allow a woman to constantly puncture their ego. However, Never you accept to change that document in his name. When audacity causes a battle we need more audacity to win that battle. I have seen a similar case where the man noticed that a property was on his wife's name, he played smarter by faking love to convince his wife to hand over the document to him and after that was done the woman became seriously sick and he abandoned the woman. Pray Seriously About This And Get A Marriage Counsellor and A Lawyer. I Think You and not him Should Be The first To Let Your family know About This except If there Is something You Are Not Telling Us. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by lekonso: 2:41am On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall:Madam, you are very selfish. Whether a man builds a house or the woman, the document suppose to read Mr and Mrs. Now the two of you built a house together according to you, and you decided to insert your name alone without telling him. Well i wonder how you built a house in the first place without your husband sighting the documents at all from the beginning. Whatever any of you is doing you suppose to do it together. You were not open to each other from the beginning, that is the truth. You know why he is insisting that you must change the document to his name alone (even though i don't support that) is because, you suppose to have told him from the beginning that the house is in your name alone. He suppose to be aware of that. Now my advice is that, reach out to somebody that he respects so much that he will listen to, for him to accept to change the name on the document to Mr and Mrs. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by airsaylongcon: 2:43am On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall: Just want to ask you one question. If he had used his 'part' to build the house and put it in his name would you have been happy? I will like you to answer this. In a marriage there is nothing like "my own". Both of you earned the money and agreed that a portion should be used to cater for your parents-in-law and the remainder be used to build the house. It was an agreement not a coercion. The moment one party starts seeing things as "mine" in a marriage then that marriage isn't going to last long. My advice is that for the sake of peace you change the property to Husband Name AND WIFE NAME (ẹ.g James Turner and Katherine Turner). DO NOT go and put Mr and Mrs Turner or you might rule it in future. Your hubby has shown signs that he won't hesitate to de-home you given the slightest provocation. Happy Married Life 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Nobody: 2:45am On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall: Madam, don't even dare change it to his name if you know what's good for your future and that of your children. Also, begin to accept life without a husband cos this one doesn't hv good plans for you and your kids anymore. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by johhnnie(m): 2:48am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Madam, I may disappoint you and a host of others on this group. The mistake is largely yours. Most people here would not have the patience to read through what you wrote. They will only glance through. Their grasp of your narration may then be limited. But that's ok. Good, you did business together and made a good profit. In your own words, the father was sick and had to be flown abroad. He asked for your permission and you both decided that he used his own portion for your father in-law's treatment abroad. ( This is expected of a good child and more so, the first son of the family; the African way which we cannot shy away from). If table were to be turned, I believe the two of you would have agreed to do the same thing to your dad. You both built a house, though, with the substantial portion of the fund coming from your side of the profit from the business eailier mentioned. By your assertion, it means he also partly funded the building project. Though on a relatively low scale compared to yours. The situation, I think now is this: Am sorry if I use strong words here; you betrayed a trust and that was why your hubby was angry. And I believe that while the period lasted , it was probable that you sought advice from someone outside your nuclear family. Your husband trusted you to the point of not checking the building documents from start to finish. How you were able to achieve this beats my imagination. You plotted this all along and someone somewhere acted as an accomplice to you. You betrayed a trusting husband. In your own words, you described your husband as a good man. The real issue I see that you have presently, is not the idea of him leaving the house. It is the idea of the children's welfare. If I may ask you, how do you share the financial responsibilities of all upkeeps of your nuclear family? My dear, somebody advised you wrongly or you did not think it through properly before embarking on that act of betrayal. I will tell you the truth;. you already set your marriage up for divorce by that act of betrayal. If your Pastor or any other person tells you other wise, they will only be deceiving you. I know that there are lots of theoretical marriage counselore here, however, be wise get your good husband back. Dont let them make you to push your husband away. Find a way to placate him. He believed in your judgement that you would do what was right for the two of you. That was why he did not telegiude you while the building project was on. If you handle this right, your family will be stronger for it. However, if you take the advice of some of is here that you should take him to the cleaners; my dear, you may end up losing that house, your kids and a host of other things that may be meaningful to you. Not that he will drag the house. You will realise better, when he stays like two months away from home that the God given role of a man in the family is not an easy one. I see you as a family oriented woman. My line may not go down well with those that are not. Peace and please, get your home back.. Your kids need it more than you two! 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by LondonLord: 2:52am On Jul 15, 2018 |
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Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by johhnnie(m): 2:53am On Jul 15, 2018 |
weavesquad: May God bless you! |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by gare(f): 2:54am On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall: If he shows some remorse you can put his name as a couple owner and a clause must be signed that at no cause should the house be sold, if not let him go to blazes, in my own case from the purchase of land to completion of the building it's my name and that of my spouse that's on the documents and the property can't not be sold except we both agree. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by johhnnie(m): 2:54am On Jul 15, 2018 |
lekonso: Thank you! |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by johhnnie(m): 3:03am On Jul 15, 2018 |
Let me remind you again, that you have set your self on a war path that may take long to re-allign. Please, be prepared for the aftermath. I pray this is settled before long. Don't allow people here to deceive that you don't need your husband. You need him. Some are wired to be family oriented and you are such a woman. Once this is settled, you will notice changes in him that you may need lots of perseverance and endurance with good patience. He may start teleguiding you and double check every details of your transactions , activities etc. Don't be surprised if he starts going through your phone. Because, deep in him, you have opened up a suspicious part of him that was sleeping. This is how we ignorantly destroy the beautiful relationship that we hold so dear. In your opinion, you may think you were being careful. Rather you were being careless. I towed this line of argument based on the points picked from your story line, your perception of your husband as well as the good natured ( family oriented) woman I perceive you to be. Otherwise, I would have advised differently. |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by qrymz(m): 3:09am On Jul 15, 2018 |
HEseesall: I know a lot of people are advising you to respect your husband but think about this....... ......don't you think he's gonna throw you out anytime there's a disagreement? Where are you gonna move to then. And he's probably gonna put another woman in the house you built with you money. I'm sorry to say but this sounds like you got a husband who's tired of you. I'm married and when I'm pissed at my wife, I don't talk to her or stop eating her food but never want her away from me cos seeing her alone makes my day. I'll only send her packing when she disgusts me. I'm not saying authoritatively that he's leaving you but always think about the possibility so no toothpick leg lady is gonna come eat what you labored for. Tryna resolve this any other way but not by changing back to his name. It was totally your money afterall 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by ALLNIGERIANSMAD(m): 3:16am On Jul 15, 2018 |
sholatech:best advice ever. Op, that is it, if he refuse after that, move on with your children. 1 Like |
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