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Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Robynwelo1(f): 9:54am On Jul 21, 2018 |
dazzlingd: She. She. She. She. She. Abeg let us hear word. 2 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by TonyeBarcanista(m): 9:55am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Amberon11:Pls do well to watch your choice of word. A man doesn't necessarily need to include his wife's name in the documents of the family property, neither is a wife forbidden from owning properties but she must inform her husband if she was a good wife; this will enable the man know where he stand and he would determine whether or not he is comfortable with it. As you can see the man isn't a poor man, she deceived him and he's has told her to keep the house (that's my man). 3 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by TonyeBarcanista(m): 10:00am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Vicyace:Did he just wake up from the blues to tell her to get out of the house? Did you miss where she was using toxic language at him and insulting his family? Any woman that doesn't regard my parents and family is unfit to be my wife even if she has 100 kids from me. Any man would react same way under such situation, some will back it up with follow-up resetting slap. I blame the man, he has been a pussyniggar from the onset that is why the situation got to this level. 2 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by monchazfarms: 10:01am On Jul 21, 2018 |
PrecisionFx: If the man is of value to the woman,she would've at least informed him of her intention of using just her name for the property,not letting him know shows that she's cunny and doesn't trust the man.The man is really pained because he felt betrayed. 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by pocohantas(f): 10:06am On Jul 21, 2018 |
chronique: It is funny how once the table turns, you guys come crying about ego. Which human being doesn't have ego? Which human doesn't want respect? Or you men convinced yourselves you want and deserve it more? Everyday there is a story of a woman who gets thrown out of her home. I don't see you typing epistle on how her ego got bruised. I don't see you come to tell us how women shouldn't collect money from men. You and your cohorts never talk about how made men treat their dependent wives. Everyone should treat their spouses as they will love to be treated. Women learnt from the experiences of their mothers. Yes,a wise woman builds her home. What does a wise man do? 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by TheKingIsHere: 10:07am On Jul 21, 2018 |
olubankemi: She omitted the part of her insulting the husband in the presence of his cousin. That omission was deliberate 2 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by umuna(m): 10:07am On Jul 21, 2018 |
foyeks2001: That is one problem with women! once they have been able to achieve a thing, the whole world will hear about it. Thank GOD the woman's family have heard about her actions and they are not pleased with her. I know that was the reason she is seeking for peace and advise. What is lion share? are they doing boy friend and girl friend relationship? Hello men in the house, Do not do joint ventures with your wife in any thing that will bring money on the long run, rather encourage her to invest, guide and advise her until she is successful, than going into a joint venture with her. Ensure you make provisions for all your children needs so that she will not be using it against you! women, very funny creatures! 2 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Jazmiynne: 10:08am On Jul 21, 2018 |
All of you going on about how the woman didn't give details.... She already said all of these same things in her own thread na. There's really not much difference in the two stories aside from the emotional blackmail evident in the man's story which still tallies with what the lady referred to as pride. HEseesall: HEseesall: Money was shared evenly between husband and wife. Husband used his own to fly with his father abroad for treatment and build a house for his parents. Wife used all of hers for the house. He's now coming here to say how he used some of the remainder to complete the house. Lol how much was that remainder considering it had already been divided amongst other huge projects whereas the complete sum from the woman was on the building project. I think it takes only basic mathematics to know who owns the house. Oga ExtraExtra you were joking when you said she should leave? Lol, she was joking too when she said the house is in her name And if the house is jointly named you think she would raise her shoulders above you abi? But your own shoulders will be down when house built mainly in her money is named completely in ONLY your name especially as your family is now against her abi? So that anytime you and your family decide to 'jokingly' order her out of the house again, she'd be stranded as many women today are abi? Bravo solution! You want to be transferred to another state and bring your children with you. Congratulations wise man. That would do great wonders to the well being of your children to grow without their mother because their father has to prove his manliness. You try. All of you castigating the woman... Don't forget that Oga ExtraExtra himself stated that his wife married him from a wealthy home while he didn't have so much. Not once did he state that during their marriage his wife was bossy or disrespected him by virtue of her having more money. Rather the woman brought up a business idea for she and her husband in the spirit of team work to build their own empire. Today, the man owns other businesses by virtue of his woman's support. And someone here has the mind to say she was cheating. Oga ExtraExtra say the truth and let the devil be ashamed - you are the one cheating on your wife both in your dealings with her and by extramarital affairs. Don't come here to play victim. Lol Oga ExtraExtra you are a clown! Please save us the drama on Nairaland and sort your family issues. 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by TheKingIsHere: 10:09am On Jul 21, 2018 |
MarieSucre: If the man was cheating, why is she so desperate to reconcile with a cheating husband? 2 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Amberon11: 10:10am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Did you watch your choice of words when castigating the woman? But a woman must include her husband's name right? You Nigerian men can't take half of what you dish out to women and that's a fact. How did she deceive him, she did the right thing. So many women also contribute in building with their spouses but at the end they're swindled out of it. This woman is a smart woman and deserves a trophy. TonyeBarcanista: 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by lastclaire4(f): 10:12am On Jul 21, 2018 |
ExtraExtra: The truth is you are the terrible person, selfish and very in considerate. Stop putting emotions that you don't want divorce. Did you read your conditions well? You want her to change the name on the property you jointly built to your name ONLY. Brother, can you help me with a word from the dictionary to qualify you. From what you said it shows the kind of attitude you have. You are not a man after God's heart. Why not put your sister in that position and see if you will agree to put the husband's name ONLY in the property. So supposing that was the case, wouldn't you have driven her out? You are probably saying you don't want to divorce cos of what you stand to lose. THE PAINFUL TRUTH IS ALWAYS BITTER. YOU BOTH WILL HAVE YOUR NAMES ON THE PROPERTY. OGA, ONLY YOUR NAME CANNOT BE ON THE PROPERTY FOR A HOUSE YOU JOINTLY BUILT. Going by your analysis, her contribution is even more. Go home and make peace and have both names on the property. 4 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by TonyeBarcanista(m): 10:13am On Jul 21, 2018 |
teemy:My brother, did she informs him from the onset that the property was in her name so as to enable the man appreciate the true situation of things in the family? Was she anticipating his death or divorce that made her act so craftily? Why would a wife be insulting parents and family of her husband or even a random person? I get disgusted seeing one insult his own parents not to talk of my parents. And who wouldn't act the way the man acted under such situation? Personally, I would! She can return home when she is ready to respect my family! Thank God the man isn't a poor man, she can have the entire property to herself (Even if he was a poor man I'd advice him to go look for smaller apartment) 3 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by oshe11: 10:14am On Jul 21, 2018 |
makydebbie:Kids? Well..... I'm not known for pretence and I don't Your lots were blaming the Man without hearing his side of the story and Now You all are bothered about salvaging the marriage after finding out she was wrong? If you had read my OPINION till the End, You'd see my thought about his decision and also NOTICE I wasnt in support of DIVORCE AND NEITHER WAS HE. PS: I said MIGHT with capital letter for a reason ma'am 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Evacroft: 10:15am On Jul 21, 2018 |
So u did not think that ur wife also was joking when she said she owned the house, but wants her to accept urs as a joke. U made it even worse coming here. Why can't u call ur wife and converse with her, telling a woman to pack out of ur house is no joke or an unintentional gesture. You took ur own money and used it for the treatment of ur dad which isn't bad since u guys had agreed which by the way she can't go against in the first place else she will be tagged a wicked woman. U now used the other part in finishing a house for them even though u guys don't have one, using only the remaining smaller amount for ur project. And u tell her to pack out of the house and want her to obey u and not fight to keep her home. I pray u guys settle, cos u both did wrong towards each other. U didn't watch ur utterances towards each other. And that cousin of urs hope he only came for a visit? ( greet him for me ,cos he's the real mvp) olofofo, one day he will do this and loose his teeths. 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by TonyeBarcanista(m): 10:17am On Jul 21, 2018 |
chronique:Too bad you learnt the hard way For me, I've always had that philosophy! Even if her father is Dangote, I rather soak my garri than collect from her 2 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by ATTITUDE2: 10:20am On Jul 21, 2018 |
foyeks2001:and you think he meant it? it was the anger speaking nothing serious. BTW she as know him Kong enough to know when he mean it. |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Youngzedd(m): 10:20am On Jul 21, 2018 |
NoToPile: For sure. 1 + 1 = 1 to those who know what they are doing. |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by NoToPile: 10:21am On Jul 21, 2018 |
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Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by NoToPile: 10:34am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Youngzedd: Very good @topic They will most likely reconcile but my own ish is the inlaws matter, they might make life miserable for the woman since they now know 'it's not our sons' house. Then because of this incident she ll be tagged as a proud disrespectful woman, then the issue of 'it's because her family is rich' will begin to play out, resentment will come in etc etc. They most likely won't consider that she may not have shown any sign of disrespect all these years. Before you know it ideas are being pumped into the OP's head and if he's not careful, extended family interference will be what might cause separation not necessarily this matter. 6 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by BanMePls: 10:35am On Jul 21, 2018 |
The only advise I have for you is that you should settle your issue with your wife amicably. In her epistle, she confessed you are a good man. From your story, you haven't painted her bad too. This thing is just one of those thing, try and reach a middle ground as you have put here. 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Nobody: 10:37am On Jul 21, 2018 |
MizMyColi:It is a time bomb waiting to explode or implode when a woman has money whether from her connection, self efforts or family. You just tolerate until u can stand on ur own and bail. You don't know what u did wrong, just knowing she contributed to ur successes is a problem to her. 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Miarose: 10:37am On Jul 21, 2018 |
I think he is cheating. All his moves are that of one who wants to get his wide away from him. 1. She accuses u of cheating.. You refused to give her ASSURANCE but asked her to pack out. 2. She threw her bombshell and you moved out. 3. She shifted ground and offered to include your name but you insisted it must be only yours. 4. You now initiate transfer request from your state away from her. Oga, talk true. You know who is doing you. Hope that one will build a house with her money and put it in your name.Rubbish.. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by NoToPile: 10:39am On Jul 21, 2018 |
TonyeBarcanista: Why is it not necessary to include the wife's name in documents of family property Why does her owning or not owning a property a determinant factor for where a MAN stands? Why won't he be comfortable with it? Let's assume he's not comfortable with it wifey wont/cant acquire a property right? Will appreciate your response, trying to get how some Nigerian men think. Thank you. 6 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by JoannaSedley(f): 10:44am On Jul 21, 2018 |
ikennaf1:I will try to see if I can find it. |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by babytoun: 10:50am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Bros I know how pained one can be in this scenario but please tread with caution. ...one true Mark of a real man is managing our emotions and not making rash decisions . one thing you should not discount is that even in her lopsided story she did not forget to state that YOU ARE A GOOD MAN. When marriage happens for couples from families with different financial status ...it takes time and hard work for both parties to agree on extended family related commitments....it becomes more difficult when the richer family is the bride's I will subscribe the documents be changed to carry both of your names but it should not be based on a do-or-die basis . please for the sake of your children tread softly ...those of us who are from broken homes don't wish same for even our enemies . |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Notatribalist(m): 10:51am On Jul 21, 2018 |
ExtraExtra:u decided to use ur part of the profit to send ur parents abroad for treatment she agreed,did she also agree with ur decision to build them house from same proceed? Ok let's assume yes,so u watch her purchased the land,started laying foundation, when the house was almost completed you came with ur left over peanut yo support, so you want to claim ownership Abi?ok you sent her packing out of the house over little argument,less I forget you didn't mean it lol.. What a joke of a man you are..ur wife deserve a real man that will really appreciate her beautiful personality. You're not a MAN yet,try grow up ok? 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by RealTreas(f): 11:00am On Jul 21, 2018 |
All I see is a fucking greedy Nigerian man and only the greedy ones like you will support you. The woman did the right thing. If the woman had spent the money on other things, there will be no house. So, the woman owns the house, you can go and build your own house and have your name on your house. Let her return the money that you contributed. That house is her investment, she can do whatever she wants to do with her house. Women suffer a lot in Nigeria, both from greedy husband and from wicked in-laws. May God save us from this unfair society. Amen. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Mintayo(m): 11:02am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Mark 10:7 [7]For this reason a man shall leave [behind] his father and his mother and be joined to his wife and cleave closely to her permanently, Mark 10:8 [8]And the two shall become one flesh, so that they are no longer two, but one flesh. There is no two in Marriage. There is no me, I, mine etc it's we, us. This is the beginning of your problem. You should find a way to reconcile with your wife stop listening to outsiders who doesn't even know what it means to be married. |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by DMerciful(m): 11:03am On Jul 21, 2018 |
You reason like a child and as such in no position to comment. when people are angry a lot of words they dont mean comes up but at the time the woman used her name only there was no apparent trouble meaning she's is deceitful. the issue the man has is the deceit which can be attributed to she doesnt really love the man, thats the issue the man has with her, its not about the property hence he wouldnt have so easily let go Notatribalist: 2 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by MIKOLOWISKA: 11:03am On Jul 21, 2018 |
spongeisback:your father is a bastard your mother is a prostitute 2 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by vastolord4(m): 11:05am On Jul 21, 2018 |
[quote author=Acidosis post=69564915] You're wrong, the idea of having "my house" and "your house" in a so called marriage fast tracked the separation. The more you have things in common with your spouse (includes joint investments, businesses, love, kids, sex, even eating together), the more difficult it is to separate. Marriage is all about togetherness, marriage has its own principles.[/quote that's a wise post. Very wise] |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by DMerciful(m): 11:05am On Jul 21, 2018 |
If you are in the woman's position you would have realised what she has done. Now she has to live with the consequence of her action. All of you comparing the liberties of a man with that of a woman are not realistic. Men and women do not have the same liberties even in a strong feminist society RealTreas: 1 Like |
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