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Incomparable:
God bless you. Why would husbands be treating wives as if women are not human being who don't have feelings (emotions)

why should wives unleash viper tongues and not think men have feelings?

MarieSucre:
Uncle it's not any God's grace. Stop treating a woman like an inferior and you will not hit her.

You meet people by the bustop, in banks, your oga at work, hospital workers, police men, I SARS officers, fellow drivers that annoy you, insult you, some will hit you, so how many have you beaten. Stop making excuses for your bad behaviour.

you don't hit them because of repercussions. but they also check themselves. women don't check themselves and they know the consequences

MarieSucre:
Why don't you marry your ego and give birth to little eg-ren since its more important to you than family.

baby mama
side chic's
surrogate
sugar mummy
desperate women
lots of options that will obey
what do you have
sperm donor?

metro10:
Please, don’t deceive yourself. Healing and forgiveness does not work in a vacuum. It starts with TRUTH and GENUINE conversation. Real repentance and transparency is void in this man. What is marriage by the way? It’s a covenant built in love, truth and transparency. These are decent attributes this man lacks. If I were this woman, I will think smart and wise, if I still need to be in this marriage. A lot of people are in jail they call marriage just because society expects them tied to it.
I am happily married and I won’t treat my wife like that. I live in the states, women are wiser and can’t be used as doormats. As a Christian, my heart bleeds when I see someone, using outdated tradition and customs to devalue another. Jesus never told us to do that. Jesus never took from others for self gain. He always gave.

Ladies, please use you number 6. God gave you the topmost part of your bodily system for a reason!

this is Nigeria not America BROS. over there you don't have choice so stop talking self righteous

TheKingIsHere:
If she had sense knowing that family is higher than ego, why bring up the cheating allegations in the first place? Didn't she know then that family is higher than ego?

you de mind the hypocrite

cococandy:
Apparently that’s not true since the man can easily ask her to leave. And he did ask her to leave. So that means his property can’t be hers. But since she owned it, she has never asked him to leave did she? Says a lot

The evidence is against you. Many women have been cheated out of property they acquired with their men because they allowed only his name to be on it. Dishonestly is foul. Stop it

did these women go and insult their husbands parents prior to eviction. freedom after speech not guaranteed

cococandy:
Scammed out of what?

You’re kidding right? I didn’t read past that. You’re obviously biased.

Jut ask yourself this. if a man did a business with his woman. They shared the profit and she used her for her family (at this point all of you would be calling for her head already), then expects her name to be out solely on the proceeds from the man’s share after asking him to pack out and it backfired, would you be saying she was scammed?

I know it’s really difficult for you guys to put yourselves in other people’s shoes that’s reason why a lot of you support injustice. Otherwise if you’re able to ask yourself “if I’m this other person who would I feel”? , We wouldn't be having conversations like this.

what if your husband accused you of cheating and then insulted your family and reminded you that he brought you and your lineage from the gutter.put yourself in his shoes.

MIKOLOWISKA:
what if your husband accused you of cheating and then insulted your family and reminded you that he brought you and your lineage from the gutter
.put yourself in his shoes.

If he accuses me of cheating, then I’ll try to find out why he thinks I’m cheating. No one wakes up and accuses another of cheating. What led to that? If I were him, I’d focus on proving to her that I didn’t cheat. Over-reacting and tantrum throwing is a way of trying to stop the wife from digging deeper into the cheating issue. If there’s nothing to indicate that he might be involved with another lady inappropriately, she won’t accuse him of it.

As for @bold, Keep manufacturing things that no one said.

cococandy:
If he accuses me of cheating, then I’ll try to find out why he thinks I’m cheating. No one wakes up and accuses another of cheating. What led to that? If I were him, I’d focus on proving to her that I didn’t cheat. Over-reacting and tantrum throwing is a way of trying to stop the wife from digging deeper into the cheating issue.

so he should just stand there speaking grammar while his parents and his LINEAGE are being humiliated

we all have breaking points
she decided to Test his and now bearing the consequences

throwing insults is not digging

she shud have spied on him instead of starting war she cannot finish

now she's begging upandan

who lose?
you think it's easy to find husband for rich man pikin?

If there’s nothing to indicate that he might be involved with another lady inappropriately, she won’t accuse him of it.

As for @bold, Keep manufacturing things that no one said.

sugah:
Read what you have written and ask yourself who's typing nonsense.

you sef you know you have no argument? why you're talking sideways like crab? are his parents family or not?

kmcutez:
This guy you go sabi nag for real life. Replying and quarreling with every post that you do not agree with. Are you a fish seller?

In fact, I just dey laugh since! He is the only guy with time on his hands in this thread, that has taken pains to carefully cut-and-paste everyone's comments, and respond to each one, line by line. I don't know why the matter dey pepper im body like dis. Or is he the woman's husband?

funmisticqueen:
if he had replied calmly instead of in anger she wouldnt have gotten to the point of insulting his parents. they both messed up

women don't do calm unless they fear the other person. he has been forming gentleman so she thought she can shout him down. he's mistake

funmisticqueen:
you just have made up your mind that she wont listen to you, you know her mumu button, press it na. where there is a will, there is a way

that's the button he tried to press (get out of my house) bfor realising it's made in China

cococandy:
If he accuses me of cheating, then I’ll try to find out why he thinks I’m cheating. No one wakes up and accuses another of cheating. What led to that? If I were him, I’d focus on proving to her that I didn’t cheat. Over-reacting and tantrum throwing is a way of trying to stop the wife from digging deeper into the cheating issue. If there’s nothing to indicate that he might be involved with another lady inappropriately, she won’t accuse him of it.

As for @bold, Keep manufacturing things that no one said.

I also do think the man is cheating.
He has found a small girl and he is acting the big God. But the wife has decided to overlook his philandering ways and work on her marriage so I wish them the best.

cococandy:
If he accuses me of cheating, then I’ll try to find out why he thinks I’m cheating. No one wakes up and accuses another of cheating. What led to that? If I were him, I’d focus on proving to her that I didn’t cheat. Over-reacting and tantrum throwing is a way of trying to stop the wife from digging deeper into the cheating issue. If there’s nothing to indicate that he might be involved with another lady inappropriately, she won’t accuse him of it.

As for @bold, Keep manufacturing things that no one said.

You talking like a cheater wife

MIKOLOWISKA:
My initial comment did not deserve the kind of response from you.
BROS
when you insult a stranger that did not insult you
you deserve every kind of response



There is no way issues about a house should lead to a marriage breaking up. It's not worth it.

anger doesn't care about what is worth it or not

why we should avoid it at all costs



I know the OP is pained, and rightfully so. I suggested what will make him stronger in the marriage.
BROS if he goes back if will not be stronger
she will believe she can always beg him
that is why he wants to bring her to her knees so she never tries it again cos he tried trusting her and she went for the jugular and missed
a guy tried this with a classmate of mine
she stabbed him to death
never wound what you can't kill
it will not give a second chance



Leaders are not necessarily rulers or dictators.
it's safer to be feared than to be loved
pm history shows


If his wife is a good woman as I hope,

she isn't if not she will not nag him to the edge


she will respond positively to reconcillations from him. It will even surprise her.
Meanwhile he gets to heal and save his marriage.

this is not a marriage
never was
her parents just off loaded her on him to hide the shame
dem plenty for no estate


He also will be able to have peace of mind-
he can never have peace of mind knowing his wife doesn't trust him



this is non existent in a troubled marriage.
He can easily make enough money to buy or build houses within a few years and in an honest way.
it's not about the house or the money
it's about total obedience at this point
dude doesn't care about trust again
he's going for safety not idealism



That's what God can do but it normally works when the marriage front is stable.
abeg
many successfu happy divorceed men out there




Now let me tell you some things, I have been in a successful marriage for over a decade.
I don't know you so I'll take your word for it
good for you


I have a joint account with my wife and she is a sole signatory also in my business accounts. My marriage has been tested many times and we came out successfully and stronger each time.

Hmmm
no comment



It's not good to be dividing funds or to operate different accounts in a marriage- my thoughts.

your thoughts
not gospel

works for you
not for everyone


It's not also good to be exchanging bad words online.

depends on outcome


Apologies for my coarse words.

accepted

I also expected you to offer some words of reconciliation after this your thorough analysis. Wow!

MIKOLOWISKA:
that's the button he tried to press (get out of my house) bfor realising it's made in China

guy i've been laughing since from your comments, you took out time to reply almost everyone against the man you are one funny guy

hahahaha,I laugh in French.some people are just too bitter hence they personalise d situation n fail to criticize constructively.the OP should just settle with his wife.no perfect man or woman out there.if he feels there are better women out there,he should just expect d biggest shocker of his life.d problem started from d foundation.both parties didn't trust themselves enough to not share d money.well what do I know.I don't live with them.

I am not familiar with this issue but I believe that she may have decided to put her name only in those document as an insurance against your travelling out wth your sick dad. As your rightly inferred , she was trying to be smart ..... she probably did not believe your dad was sick enough to seek medical solution outside the country but was a kind of decoy by a smart Alec to swindle her.


She sees you more like a smart gold digger.

Carry on as you have decided to: let her have the property.


NB: don't trust the reaction of her people on this: when you dust settles you are definitely going to learn whenand how the seed of her action was planted from within her people through some seemingly innocuous statement

ExtraExtra:
Women are the backbone of the family, they make or mar the home, since they help bring life to the world suffice it to say they sum up what we call family, 99% of successful, longlasting home or family is the ability of the woman to hold the "forte".

My attention was drawn to this forum and this topic https://www.nairaland.com/4617351/husbands-pride-wants-ruin-home#69371294 and it is sad that most people drew conclusion on a one sided story though i wouldnt blame those involved because they judged based on what was said and the individual involved needed public validation for her wrong doing, a public display i dont approve of but since external persons and relations are already involved i'd like to clear some details.

"Dee" comes from a very well to do family while i dont so when we got married, i made her feel we are in this together, not one above the other but as partners in EVERYTHING. To be fair to her she brought up the business idea we did years ago, in other to put forth money to start up, i made sure i had equal money as her for it, goal was to own a property, build et al. Unfortunately my dad's ailing health deteriorated to the extent that he had to be flown out, when the profit came, i told her and she agreed, she decided we split it into two so she use hers for the initial plan. As the first born i went with my dad, back here she got the property and started building, when i came back the remaining money with me was used to complete it, what was left was used for my parents house. Being a trust worthy person i feel she is, i didnt bother to check documents cos i felt she would do the right thing by putting both our names which she kept in a bank.

Now, i work and own other businesses so i'm always in contact with alot of people from both genders so to her she feels i may have lost guard by cheating which is not true: i dont have password on my phones, i always make and receive calls right in front of her but she still think i'm hiding something and that was the genesis of the problem weeks ago, i rebuked her to cut it out immediately but she was out for blood, she insulted me like never before, when i didnt give her face, she extended her TOXIC words to my parents, my family, my background and my personality, that was when i lost it, if not for my cousin that was there i would have hit her, out of anger i told her to get the hell out of the house which of course i didnt mean, then she shocked me saying the house is ONLY in her name, i was numb and speechless, in other for me not to react in a brutal way i left the house, told her i would never step there again if she doesnt change it to my name ONLY. My cousin who was there when it happened told my people, they called me so i had to explain things, right now her family knows what happened and none is supporting her.

YES i said she should put my name only cos she belittled and betrayed me which tells me if it was in both our names she will raise shoulder and feel above me.YES i requested for transfer and i will go through with it, i cannot be away from my kids and still be in the same state, it doesnt make, when it is sucessful, i will get a place conducive amd comfortable for my kids, they will be with me. I told her recently not to bother with the name change anymore, she can have the house all to herself for all i care.

I wont divorce her because i dont believe in that, once i move with the kids she can come along if she wants but right now we are seperated. I wanted a partner, she displayed stupidity not smartness, what the future holds i dont know, she made her bed she should lay on it.

MIKOLOWISKA:
women don't do calm unless they fear the other person. he has been forming gentleman so she thought she can shout him down. he's mistake

this your mentality has to change. You will have daughters someday

MIKOLOWISKA:
women don't do calm unless they fear the other person. he has been forming gentleman so she thought she can shout him down. he's mistake

this your mentality has to change. You will have daughters someday. Are you yoruba?

Biglittlelois:
guy i've been laughing since from your comments, you took out time to reply almost everyone against the man you are one funny guy

are you sure he is not an alternate moniker for the op?

MIKOLOWISKA:
that's the button he tried to press (get out of my house) bfor realising it's made in China

that one no be mumu button, na destroy my marriage button

KingTom:
what is more shocking is the plethora of fools who are supporting him! so she should change it to his name so when next he says get out! He'll actually throw her out? people just dey abandon brain use yansh think these days

Only a terrible fool will type something likw this.

Yagazie2016:
I also expected you to offer some words of reconciliation after this your thorough analysis. Wow!

nothing wow about it

MIKOLOWISKA:
it is where the woman threw it when running her mouth.

Yes, and the man was quiet all this while he didn't also say mean words to her

ExtraExtra:
Women are the backbone of the family, they make or mar the home, since they help bring life to the world suffice it to say they sum up what we call family, 99% of successful, longlasting home or family is the ability of the woman to hold the "forte".

My attention was drawn to this forum and this topic https://www.nairaland.com/4617351/husbands-pride-wants-ruin-home#69371294 and it is sad that most people drew conclusion on a one sided story though i wouldnt blame those involved because they judged based on what was said and the individual involved needed public validation for her wrong doing, a public display i dont approve of but since external persons and relations are already involved i'd like to clear some details.

"Dee" comes from a very well to do family while i dont so when we got married, i made her feel we are in this together, not one above the other but as partners in EVERYTHING. To be fair to her she brought up the business idea we did years ago, in other to put forth money to start up, i made sure i had equal money as her for it, goal was to own a property, build et al. Unfortunately my dad's ailing health deteriorated to the extent that he had to be flown out, when the profit came, i told her and she agreed, she decided we split it into two so she use hers for the initial plan. As the first born i went with my dad, back here she got the property and started building, when i came back the remaining money with me was used to complete it, what was left was used for my parents house. Being a trust worthy person i feel she is, i didnt bother to check documents cos i felt she would do the right thing by putting both our names which she kept in a bank.

Now, i work and own other businesses so i'm always in contact with alot of people from both genders so to her she feels i may have lost guard by cheating which is not true: i dont have password on my phones, i always make and receive calls right in front of her but she still think i'm hiding something and that was the genesis of the problem weeks ago, i rebuked her to cut it out immediately but she was out for blood, she insulted me like never before, when i didnt give her face, she extended her TOXIC words to my parents, my family, my background and my personality, that was when i lost it, if not for my cousin that was there i would have hit her, out of anger i told her to get the hell out of the house which of course i didnt mean, then she shocked me saying the house is ONLY in her name, i was numb and speechless, in other for me not to react in a brutal way i left the house, told her i would never step there again if she doesnt change it to my name ONLY. My cousin who was there when it happened told my people, they called me so i had to explain things, right now her family knows what happened and none is supporting her.

YES i said she should put my name only cos she belittled and betrayed me which tells me if it was in both our names she will raise shoulder and feel above me.YES i requested for transfer and i will go through with it, i cannot be away from my kids and still be in the same state, it doesnt make, when it is sucessful, i will get a place conducive amd comfortable for my kids, they will be with me. I told her recently not to bother with the name change anymore, she can have the house all to herself for all i care.

I wont divorce her because i dont believe in that, once i move with the kids she can come along if she wants but right now we are seperated. I wanted a partner, she displayed stupidity not smartness, what the future holds i dont know, she made her bed she should lay on it.

Will u accept her back n move in back if she change d this the document to both ur names like MR & MRS n next of kin will b ur first child .
Wat u move back in ? cuz I feel this idea of mine makes u both owner n also helps build ur family stronger

ExtraExtra:
Women are the backbone of the family, they make or mar the home, since they help bring life to the world suffice it to say they sum up what we call family, 99% of successful, longlasting home or family is the ability of the woman to hold the "forte".

My attention was drawn to this forum and this topic https://www.nairaland.com/4617351/husbands-pride-wants-ruin-home#69371294 and it is sad that most people drew conclusion on a one sided story though i wouldnt blame those involved because they judged based on what was said and the individual involved needed public validation for her wrong doing, a public display i dont approve of but since external persons and relations are already involved i'd like to clear some details.

"Dee" comes from a very well to do family while i dont so when we got married, i made her feel we are in this together, not one above the other but as partners in EVERYTHING. To be fair to her she brought up the business idea we did years ago, in other to put forth money to start up, i made sure i had equal money as her for it, goal was to own a property, build et al. Unfortunately my dad's ailing health deteriorated to the extent that he had to be flown out, when the profit came, i told her and she agreed, she decided we split it into two so she use hers for the initial plan. As the first born i went with my dad, back here she got the property and started building, when i came back the remaining money with me was used to complete it, what was left was used for my parents house. Being a trust worthy person i feel she is, i didnt bother to check documents cos i felt she would do the right thing by putting both our names which she kept in a bank.

Now, i work and own other businesses so i'm always in contact with alot of people from both genders so to her she feels i may have lost guard by cheating which is not true: i dont have password on my phones, i always make and receive calls right in front of her but she still think i'm hiding something and that was the genesis of the problem weeks ago, i rebuked her to cut it out immediately but she was out for blood, she insulted me like never before, when i didnt give her face, she extended her TOXIC words to my parents, my family, my background and my personality, that was when i lost it, if not for my cousin that was there i would have hit her, out of anger i told her to get the hell out of the house which of course i didnt mean, then she shocked me saying the house is ONLY in her name, i was numb and speechless, in other for me not to react in a brutal way i left the house, told her i would never step there again if she doesnt change it to my name ONLY. My cousin who was there when it happened told my people, they called me so i had to explain things, right now her family knows what happened and none is supporting her.

YES i said she should put my name only cos she belittled and betrayed me which tells me if it was in both our names she will raise shoulder and feel above me.YES i requested for transfer and i will go through with it, i cannot be away from my kids and still be in the same state, it doesnt make, when it is sucessful, i will get a place conducive amd comfortable for my kids, they will be with me. I told her recently not to bother with the name change anymore, she can have the house all to herself for all i care.

I wont divorce her because i dont believe in that, once i move with the kids she can come along if she wants but right now we are seperated. I wanted a partner, she displayed stupidity not smartness, what the future holds i dont know, she made her bed she should lay on it.

Bro read her post again, she called you a good Man and that she has been pleading with u... I'm sure she really love you and don't want you to go. Please forgive and forget.. she might have done wrong but she isn't the type that'll wish you bad. This is the devil at work to destroy your good relationship. Not many husband and wife do joint business and make good profit, it seems you two are really meant for each other. Don't let the devil use you sir. She might also be right about your "Ego". Try and reason from her point of view. She putting her name in the property was a bad idea but if she can correct her mistake now, then forgive and forget. Maybe she use her name alone for fear od you kicking her out one day or replacing her with a mistress one day (not that she's suspecting you tho)... If you've been together for 2-3 years without her ever threatening you to pack out of the house, then it means her reasons for using her name alone is not for her to throw you out of the house. Please don't allow the Devil to destroy your lovely union. She should add your name to the property too.. i really don't know about her putting you as full owner cuz she used her money to build the house as well... I'm sure she want her name there for future purpose.

Chikicaka:
Yes now, they later got back together, thinking of it now that was a very foolish move from both parties. A Second chance was the name

Thanks for the book title. Just an exact for this lovers' quarrel

MIKOLOWISKA:
no she's the lucky one my friend
she's hot and lucky to get cold man.

If you are referring to the couple here, I wouldn't know which one is cold and which one is hot. But if you are referring to me, I'm the hot one while my wife is the gentle one.

MIKOLOWISKA:
yet she is begging upandan now. parents house is real

You are clearly a talkative and a huge nag..You can nag for Africa dude !!..You have been yapping like a loose canon for hours and days!!..dont you freaking getting tired!??

Remove the Chair undermeath which you brought to sit on quarrelling like an unpaid housegirl and get a life..

Gosh!!!

MIKOLOWISKA:
men have no womb but treat infertilit
think before you talk


men ba

I don't understand how anything you wrote correlates to what i wrote...but i guess trolling is the in thing so happy Sunday