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Zoharariel:
Do not allow her abort the pregnancy. Get her mother's phone number without her consent and text her the following:

"Dear Mrs. so so & so,

Blessings of the kingdom to you & your family in Jesus name. In this end times, all have sinned & have come short of the glory of God.

Your beautiful & virtuous daughter (insert her name here e.g Ada) is pregnant and contemplating abortion.

The bible warns us against abortion in Psalm 127: 3 - "Children are a heritage from the LORD, offspring - a reward from him"

I am ready to take full responsibility. May Jehovah Selichot - "God of Forgiveness" forgive us our sins - Amen!"

Now, after sending her this sms, switch off your phone for 3days and inform one of your Uncles about this incident.

You can never go to jail because of this. Ari iru eleyi ri, a fi n deru ba oloro nii.

praxs:
Its not yet confirmed but we are suspecting pregnancy. I am 28yrs of age and my girl is 22years. We started dating not too long. We made love sometime last month and she missed her perioed. We used strip and it shows she is pregnant. We will go for a proper test today to confirm. Now here are the issues disturbing me:

A: She wants abortion but I don't want that: she's a student, hence keeping it will be complicated for her.

B: I have been thinking of ways to convince her but she's adamant, abortion is the best for her. Please more ideas for me on how to convince her. And if I successfully convince her to keep the pregnancy, how do we go about this?

C: Both of us come from a very strick family.

D: I am still thinking of how to report myself to her family. I could end up in police station tho. Do I go straight to see her parents (suicidal), do I go tell their pastor so we could find a way to break it to her parents. Do I go tro her parents siblings?

What is just the best way to report myself?

I need your advice's urgently please, coz we are doing the test this afternoon.

Surulady:
You are a counselor pls dm your contact I need to talk to you personally God bless you @poster if you do any other thing contrary to this hmmmm May God help you

MarieSucre:
The op might be 28 but the girl is 22, and she doesn't want the child because she does not want to dedicate 3 compulsory years of her life to raising a child when she can instead be in school.

Housing:
You sound like a prophet of doom I have read all your comments in respect of the subject matter and its all negative.

You keep mentioning 22years, her education and her life as the abortion is a sure safe process. Your types believe she has not enjoy her life and have enough fun in her twenties, but most of your likes ends up in Shiloh and night of miracles.

You think I am hash with my words, that will be the consequences of those your wrong, pessimistic ideas. Feminism is not about fun and be freedom.

There is no total freedom in life, for any sensible, reliable and responsible individual.

praxs:
Its not yet confirmed but we are suspecting pregnancy. I am 28yrs of age and my girl is 22years. We started dating not too long. We made love sometime last month and she missed her perioed. We used strip and it shows she is pregnant. We will go for a proper test today to confirm. Now here are the issues disturbing me:

A: She wants abortion but I don't want that: she's a student, hence keeping it will be complicated for her.

B: I have been thinking of ways to convince her but she's adamant, abortion is the best for her. Please more ideas for me on how to convince her. And if I successfully convince her to keep the pregnancy, how do we go about this?

C: Both of us come from a very strick family.

D: I am still thinking of how to report myself to her family. I could end up in police station tho. Do I go straight to see her parents (suicidal), do I go tell their pastor so we could find a way to break it to her parents. Do I go tro her parents siblings?

What is just the best way to report myself?

I need your advice's urgently please, coz we are doing the test this afternoon.

oolongtea:
boy, how old are u? u have to learn to stop embarrassing yourself.. he should get her mother's number without her consent and talk your quoted trash. "her mother" "my people". once this child is here, mother becomes the girl in question here who does not want this child and father becomes this 28yr old who is obviously unprepared to be a father but is carried away with the wishful euphoria of the idea of having a cute newborn without factoring in cold hard facts into what it takes to bring a child here and how life will NEVER be the same after this and all the risk and all that could go wrong that one has to accept as far as a newborn is concerned.
this "her mother" you're talking of, maybe your nigerian parents traumatized u so u cant understand the concept of adult independence but everybody lives it. this girl's life will not revolve around her mother's sentiments and the responsibility this dude is foolishly jumping into without properly weighing will not be eased by her mother's moans and sighs in future. and the level of disrespect for this girl to suggest he should contact her mother without her consent. u obviously dont respect women and u are not very bright. if u were, u would weigh in the tremendous responsibility of parenthood and realize that if something this serious is attempted to be done by cutting corners with the number 1 person involved, then it wont end well for anyone and it's a sign to abort mission. it's like russia planning a war that vladmir putin knows nothing about, it will backfire. stop underestimating the importance of what this girl chooses to do about this.

u know what life is like for the average nigerian. imagine that life with a mother who hates u from her whole heart. u ppl have to be careful the advices u give and the spiritual consequences it will have in the long run. bringing innocent souls here that will curse the ones who brought them into such an unfair circumstance and u'll be somewhere saying but your hands are clean while life fvcks u shege. u'd probably pee yourself in joy if given a south african visa just so u can escape nigeria yet here u are suggesting an unstable 28 yr old boy should usher in a baby into a hard life with a 22 yr old girl he's dated for a very short time who absolutely does not want the pregnancy.
i am yet to see one of the keep-the-baby crusaders ask this boy what he does, how much he earns, what his living condition is like, the distance b/w him and the gf, what his realistic plans are for this child, if he plans to marry the mother, if the mother wants to marry him, if he does not plan to marry the mother.. who does he think will, if he loves the child so much why is he ok with the possibility of another man raising him if the mother marries someone else, what are their genotypes, has it ever crossed his mind the child could be born disabled, does he have a child-friendly environment to raise a child in the current nigerian climate(corruption, sexual abuse, kidnaps)

just goat-ish sentimental advices of keep it that wont matter in the long run and will keep everyone miserable and always hoping. the way u think is not what works and the ones who built countries that u would love to go to wouldnt have such great countries if they refuse to apply logic like u. why didnt u suggest he transfer the pregnancy to the girl's mother so he can kuku leave the girl out of the whole thing since u're already suggesting he leave her out of it when she can literally not be left out of it except she gets an abortion. mtchew

Teegelop:
All you just want is for them to terminate the pregnancy and you know the bible frown against such act.
Let the baby live and they both face the consequence of formication.

Kudducini:
What if she dies while trying to abort the pregnancy?

Anfieldboss:
You're not considering the possibility of complications that can come with abortion. They should take responsibility for their actions.

kushercain:
Chairman you keep talking about bringing up a child as if it is impossible, so what the op is 28? And so? Have you not heard of a hustling teenager who brought up a child without help from anybody? Sure it wont be easy but that's life for you, you face the consequence like a man and brace the storm why do you keep hammering on abortion If your mom had popped the pills you are suggesting the young girl pops you wouldn't be here typing this terrible advice.

@op whatever you do don't inform her people without her knowledge talk to her. She has her valid reasons weigh your choice well because things will never be the same again. Αll the best

Treasuredlove:
actually 22 and 28 is plenty adult and the day they were weak enough to have sex outside marriage was the day they altered their lives forever.
Mr op, the choice is yours but doing the right thing is what will really work for you.
Don't be surprised, if she eventually goes on with the abortion and complications arise, she will claim it was all your fault. That is double wahala
Even condoms aren't 100 percent safe, please people, stay away from premarital sex and multiple partners

Ma2seater:
How did you know the pregnancy is yours? These girls ain't loyal, bro!

duduade:
A cheap pack of condoms which goes for less than #500 would have saved you all these issues...
Your nemesis just started!!!!

Elviswifey1:
That's what u get when u refused to keep urself till marriage. Fornication is a sin,fornication is a sin,fornication is a sin.no other ways to justified d act.refrain from premarital sex n save ur self d headache. As for solution,first of all repent from d act genuiely bcs as I dey look u if u come out from this one u go do again as e dey totori u.repent wit her then Jesus will give u solution not us.jisike

praxs:
Its not yet confirmed but we are suspecting pregnancy. I am 28yrs of age and my girl is 22years. We started dating not too long. We made love sometime last month and she missed her perioed. We used strip and it shows she is pregnant. We will go for a proper test today to confirm. Now here are the issues disturbing me:

A: She wants abortion but I don't want that: she's a student, hence keeping it will be complicated for her.

B: I have been thinking of ways to convince her but she's adamant, abortion is the best for her. Please more ideas for me on how to convince her. And if I successfully convince her to keep the pregnancy, how do we go about this?

C: Both of us come from a very strick family.

D: I am still thinking of how to report myself to her family. I could end up in police station tho. Do I go straight to see her parents (suicidal), do I go tell their pastor so we could find a way to break it to her parents. Do I go tro her parents siblings?

What is just the best way to report myself?

I need your advice's urgently please, coz we are doing the test this afternoon.

oolongtea:
no child should live as a punishment, born to parents unready to love it. getting abortion pill from hospital is N5k, it's not like it's free. the payment of that 5k will be them facing the consequences. bye





for those screaming complications of abortion, however u think an abortion is done, that is not how it is done. abortions are carried out with a single pill designed to halt the secretion of progesterone(pregnancy hormone). shortly after the pill is ingested, menstruation begins and there are no risks.





how many of the males here saying 28 is so mature got married at 28? 28 is not a child, almost 30 but in the nigerian society, an average 28 yr old male is not ready to settle down except he was born into money. he needs time to write jamb, finish uni, do nysc, get a job, move out of parent's house, have some savings and get a solo apartment. then there's the mental growth that i wont talk about cos only 1% of nigerian men bother about that.
there are ppl more mature than their age and OP is not one of them. he has no clue what he is doing. i dont know the average age of the males in this forum but i wasnt born yesterday. any mature man here would know there are questions OP would have asked that would show a man in a slight predicament but if given the right counsel will take charge of the situation but this is not the case here. yes, there are other options and abortion is the best thing to do in this case. 1 yr from now, whatever OP does, he will see the truth in this. when he finally matures and is ready to make moves with his life, he'll be glad he didnt make irreversible mistakes thta could have held him back.

and to the person talking about hustling teenagers who have single handedly raised children, oya typical nigerian lemme teach u something. anytime in life u have to compare yourself to ppl at the bottom, it means you're not so far from there. instead of telling nigeria that afghanistan is worse so we should not feel bad, why not say canada is better so we should not relax and work harder to catch up? why are nigerians so drawn to suffering and the idea of delayed gratification that has done them elaaa like 1million times? 98% percent of ppl on this site would choose not to be born in the first place if they could. yet, look at your parenting standards. instead of using a teenage hustler that raised a child the hard way to encourage OP, why not tell him about billionaires that started from the bottom just to give their children silver spoons at birth and tell him to work to give his child that kind of life.. why does the standard comparison have to be absolute wretchedness? if it has come to that, spare the person not yet here such a life, it's only fair to not bring them here. that's all.

Surulady:
You are a counselor pls dm your contact I need to talk to you personally God bless you @poster if you do any other thing contrary to this hmmmm May God help you

praxs:
Its not yet confirmed but we are suspecting pregnancy. I am 28yrs of age and my girl is 22years. We started dating not too long. We made love sometime last month and she missed her perioed. We used strip and it shows she is pregnant. We will go for a proper test today to confirm. Now here are the issues disturbing me:

A: She wants abortion but I don't want that: she's a student, hence keeping it will be complicated for her.

B: I have been thinking of ways to convince her but she's adamant, abortion is the best for her. Please more ideas for me on how to convince her. And if I successfully convince her to keep the pregnancy, how do we go about this?

C: Both of us come from a very strick family.

D: I am still thinking of how to report myself to her family. I could end up in police station tho. Do I go straight to see her parents (suicidal), do I go tell their pastor so we could find a way to break it to her parents. Do I go tro her parents siblings?

What is just the best way to report myself?

I need your advice's urgently please, coz we are doing the test this afternoon.

PrecisionFx:
Why should a man go to another man's house to tell him that he impregnated his daughter?

praxs:
Its not yet confirmed but we are suspecting pregnancy. I am 28yrs of age and my girl is 22years. We started dating not too long. We made love sometime last month and she missed her perioed. We used strip and it shows she is pregnant. We will go for a proper test today to confirm. Now here are the issues disturbing me:

A: She wants abortion but I don't want that: she's a student, hence keeping it will be complicated for her.

B: I have been thinking of ways to convince her but she's adamant, abortion is the best for her. Please more ideas for me on how to convince her. And if I successfully convince her to keep the pregnancy, how do we go about this?

C: Both of us come from a very strick family.

D: I am still thinking of how to report myself to her family. I could end up in police station tho. Do I go straight to see her parents (suicidal), do I go tell their pastor so we could find a way to break it to her parents. Do I go tro her parents siblings?

What is just the best way to report myself?

I need your advice's urgently please, coz we are doing the test this afternoon.

Iammercy2018:
will he just go there alone and open his mouth to say *i impregnated your daughter? use ur head na!!

praxs:
My family isn't the issue.. The won't have choice than to accept my decision after the insults.. She's hellbent on abortion, and I am not comfortable with that.. Too risky for me,..convincing her is the issue here then the best way to bring myself to her family. The pregnancy is 4weeks old

PrecisionFx:
U are the one who really needs to start making use of ur brain, if u have none pls start using ur spinal chord at least.

U don't fukkin tell a man that u impregnated her daughter, Are u Mad?

If u like Goan try it make person carry hammer split ur he a into 2.

It's the sole duty of the girl or her siblings to tell their mother about the pregnancy n their job ends there.

stop being Silly intentionally.