Eyah una Sabi make love now una no Sabi settle situation dis one pass my power oo as una do am una no call me na chaii chimo abeg make she keep that belle oo

Do you mean

The lady u called ur girlfriend want to kill somebody

After now she will b lookin for child

Going from one pastor to another

Ur story is tale or someone asked u to post it here

But by any means it's true

Den find a way and don't kill dat child


Wats do hard in keeping ur virginity wen u are not ready for marriage


Ur mata just tire

May God in his infinite mercy hlp u on this and send angels to watch over u and ur unborn baby and wife

kingsilly:
It’s her body, you not the one carrying the baby so it’s easy for you to say keep the baby. She’s not ready to be a mother, nor the responsibility that comes with it. Any decision she makes you support not trying to avert it

Exactly,How prepared are the both of them financially,mentally emotionally etc to become parents?
I am pro choice and these are issues they should consider.
I wonder why they could not just play safe so as to avoid this in the first place.

praxs:
Its not yet confirmed but we are suspecting pregnancy. I am 28yrs of age and my girl is 22years. We started dating not too long. We made love sometime last month and she missed her perioed. We used strip and it shows she is pregnant. We will go for a proper test today to confirm. Now here are the issues disturbing me:

A: She wants abortion but I don't want that: she's a student, hence keeping it will be complicated for her.

B: I have been thinking of ways to convince her but she's adamant, abortion is the best for her. Please more ideas for me on how to convince her. And if I successfully convince her to keep the pregnancy, how do we go about this?

C: Both of us come from a very strick family.

D: I am still thinking of how to report myself to her family. I could end up in police station tho. Do I go straight to see her parents (suicidal), do I go tell their pastor so we could find a way to break it to her parents. Do I go tro her parents siblings?

What is just the best way to report myself?

I need your advice's urgently please, coz we are doing the test this afternoon.

shame on you for sleeping with someone you're not married to.... Pray God forgives you

damola1:
God.. smartness..Money .

Happened to me exactly 10years ago at 22years too. Both of us were 22. And had him at 23.

My son is 10 now. Glory to God. The mom wanted same too but na... got her an apartment near school. Driver. Car. Maid.

She came out with 4.2 cpga second best in her dept at Unilag then.

But was very tough cos my business suffered. But eventually came out top.

I can’t imagine life without my son. Best decision ever.

Are you married to her?

Let her abort and then you will know peace.... Keeping it will only rightly complicate issues for the two of you. When both of u re ready then u can have ur own babies

Iammercy2018:
Report to your parents first then move further to report yourself to her parents, before any decision could be made, whether to abort or keep.

Anything other than this you're on the verge of going to jail if anything happens to her when you go for the abortion without the consent of her parents

Report to your parents + her parents = both fam make a decision

Wat has happened has happened

Why should a man go to another man's house to tell him that he impregnated his daughter?

Restroom:
A student midwife, came to my office one day in July 2017.She was pregnant and wore a ring. She gave me the impression she was married. When she came, she was broke and wanted to do a seminar work. I did it for her, n didn't press for money when she said she would give me some other day. What I didn't know, was that she was under intense pressure psychologically and hungry. She kept sizing me and trying to read me. Well, she went for her seminar and some days, she came back with my money. Some how, she found my company relaxing. So she kept coming around. Around DEC last year she delivered a baby girl.

Around March this year, she finally opened up to me about her pregnancy and baby. You know why I am relating this story? She was impregnated by a staff of UBTH school of midwifery. The guy was mad with the girl for allowing herself to become pregnant.

He wanted abortion, but girl said no way. So, he cut her off. To reduce attention on herself, she started wearing ring in her hand, so when her lecturers saw her , they thought she was married. She told her parents what happened, and they came to gbege the guy. He told the girl s parent he can't marry a girl like her and insulted her badly. Threatened her, not to bring the child to him, that he won't accept. He said she was free to do anything, but he will never accept the child because he has a girl he wants to marry.

She also told me that, when, she finally delivered, it was the guy's NHIS she used to pay for her delivery in UBTH. As difficult, as the period was for her, she said it was her Christian friends encouragement and support that pulled her through that trial.She also thanked me for encouraging her.

She is in Warri now....finally graduated from school of midwifery. last time I saw the baby in early June, she was big n beautiful. Good enough, her parents have been of support to her in caring for the baby.It appears the girl's mother is happy with baby been around.

Now, this girl made the right decision to keep the baby and she is happier for it today. What's my point, tell your girl to keep the baby...it is not the end of the world.

My friend attended classes with pregnancies, gave birth and completed her program.

Her conscience is clean and clear, because she didn't commit abortion.

Many people think that commit formication is smart
When unwanted pregnancies results, they reason that abortion, done in secret, to conceal the acts of fornication is smarter

so the system keep breeding a world full of fornicators and child murderers...breakers of God's command.

Fornication is already enough

Just Dont add murder to it !

Tell your girl to show respect for Jehovah God, you, her reproductive ability and the unborn baby in her womb, which is a gift from God.

And you, stay from fornication till you are ready to marry!

Fornication is a right to all, Bible supports it as long as its between unmarried people.

IF U R NOT READY TO SETTLE DOWN WITH HER, PLS LEAVE THE POOR GIRL ALONE.

Marry her...but,why u no wear condom.ehn!just 100naira u don buy one...some girls sef no dey try,dem just value prick pass dia future.

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I jst realised i hv noting to say

PrecisionFx:



Fornication is a right to all, Bible supports it as long as its between unmarried people.

HOW SURE R U ABOUT WHAT U JUST SAID?

My broz I can never advice you to abort the baby.go and see her family bcoz you are not the first person or last DAT make a mistake in the world.my broz there is nothing when eyes see DAT will make it drop blood don't be afraid of her family OK be a man

I have a friend who would have been aborted,but the mother being a stunch catholic refused saying it'd again st her faith Even when the pregnancy was dangerous to her health.Luckily even against the expectations of the doctors she gave birth to him.Today he is married and is a big boy..He is so greatful to his mother and keeps telling his story to everyone. You do not know what that child would be.May be he would be the one to find the cure for AIDS which claims the lives of 2 persons every minute or he could end up tlike that my friend who is now the pillar of his family.Let her know this and the fact the their are alternatives to abortion and also the fact fact that abortion is murder.Let her go for scan,so that she can see her baby move in her womb.Finally be prayerful.

egbarison:
HOW SURE R U ABOUT WHAT U JUST SAID?

100% sure.

Read ur 10 commandments.

praxs

The time you were doing samakwe you didn't ask for our opinion on which style to use. Now that you scored a wonderful goal (to be verified by VAR later) you are now asking us nonsense question.

your mom will be proud of u what many married couples are looking for, you got it just so sudden, in slimcase's voice praxs ajigijaga




bro go relax. how are you sure the lady we are discussing about is just interested in dating you and not marriage? don't be carried away with what I called mistake


beside she's just a young girl that don't no her bearing yet. so you better let her take her decision but make sure one of her friends is involve in her decision


I don't know why u wnt her to leave the pregnancy. if is for fantasy pls quit that mentality but if is because you're scared, don't follow her to any clinic if she insist on abortion o. you need to be sensitive with this critical issues

Simplep:
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Are you the pregnant girlfriend?

Adebowale89:
your mom will be proud of u what many married couples are looking for, you got it just so sudden, in

Unmerited favor ,

Go and marry her immediately
Hope you are working with good payment

When you dey fycck am, you no remember us.

See the way you want to spoil this small girl's life.

A girl that is supposed to be buried deep in her books, trying to be the best she can be, but instead is busy collecting unprotected diccks.

Make una continue.
I met a Yoruba lady today in her late 20s, who was selling cooked noodles. She is very pretty and very intelligent but didn't have anyone to send her to school.

Some girls have someone to send them to school and they waste the opportunity.

if you were able to convince her to date you in the first place, definitely you can still do it again. meanwhile I don't want you to self-centered about this. you both need to sit down and reason what is good for both parties.

Contrary to what anybody tells you,don't use a condom

Bro.... do you want to raise a bastard? If you don't mind...fine. If not....why claim the pregnancy? Are you sure you are the one responsible?...dating for one month and she is 4 weeks pregnant...did the strip indicate she is 4 weeks pregnant? ....helloooo?..is anyone at home? It is not easy for a woman to decide to have an abortion...especially if she has religion....and despite the guy almost always pushing her to do it. Now here you are.... begging her not to do it....ready to face her people and stand up for her... but.....she is adamant.... determined to have the pregnancy aborted. Why? ... I'm almost sure she knows you are not responsible. You said your piece...let her be...just don't be an accomplice. If she wants to....let her do it on her own.

[quote author=praxs post=69772235]Its not yet confirmed but we are suspecting pregnancy. I am 28yrs of age and my girl is 22years. We started dating not too long. We made love sometime last month and she missed her perioed. We used strip and it shows she is pregnant. We will go for a proper test today to confirm. Now here are the issues disturbing me:

A: She wants abortion but I don't want that: she's a student, hence keeping it will be complicated for her.

B: I have been thinking of ways to convince her but she's adamant, abortion is the best for her. Please more ideas for me on how to convince her. And if I successfully convince her to keep the pregnancy, how do we go about this?

C: Both of us come from a very strick family.

D: I am still thinking of how to report myself to her family. I could end up in police station tho. Do I go straight to see her parents (suicidal), do I go tell their pastor so we could find a way to break it to her parents. Do I go tro her parents siblings?

What is just the best way to report myself?

I need your advice's urgently please, coz we are doing the test this afternoon.[marry her]

Bros why bothering us with this your agony ?
When you were doing it did you ask for our orders ?
You knew both of you where from strict families yet you went ahead ?
Your cross tho
There are many important issues to be discussed in this country now

praxs:
Its not yet confirmed but we are suspecting pregnancy. I am 28yrs of age and my girl is 22years. We started dating not too long. We made love sometime last month and she missed her perioed. We used strip and it shows she is pregnant. We will go for a proper test today to confirm. Now here are the issues disturbing me:

A: She wants abortion but I don't want that: she's a student, hence keeping it will be complicated for her.

B: I have been thinking of ways to convince her but she's adamant, abortion is the best for her. Please more ideas for me on how to convince her. And if I successfully convince her to keep the pregnancy, how do we go about this?

C: Both of us come from a very strick family.

D: I am still thinking of how to report myself to her family. I could end up in police station tho. Do I go straight to see her parents (suicidal), do I go tell their pastor so we could find a way to break it to her parents. Do I go tro her parents siblings?

What is just the best way to report myself?

I need your advice's urgently please, coz we are doing the test this afternoon.

Give her assurance!

oolongtea:


boy, how old are u? u have to learn to stop embarrassing yourself.. he should get her mother's number without her consent and talk your quoted trash. "her mother" "my people". once this child is here, mother becomes the girl in question here who does not want this child and father becomes this 28yr old who is obviously unprepared to be a father but is carried away with the wishful euphoria of the idea of having a cute newborn without factoring in cold hard facts into what it takes to bring a child here and how life will NEVER be the same after this and all the risk and all that could go wrong that one has to accept as far as a newborn is concerned.
this "her mother" you're talking of, maybe your nigerian parents traumatized u so u cant understand the concept of adult independence but everybody lives it. this girl's life will not revolve around her mother's sentiments and the responsibility this dude is foolishly jumping into without properly weighing will not be eased by her mother's moans and sighs in future. and the level of disrespect for this girl to suggest he should contact her mother without her consent. u obviously dont respect women and u are not very bright. if u were, u would weigh in the tremendous responsibility of parenthood and realize that if something this serious is attempted to be done by cutting corners with the number 1 person involved, then it wont end well for anyone and it's a sign to abort mission. it's like russia planning a war that vladmir putin knows nothing about, it will backfire. stop underestimating the importance of what this girl chooses to do about this.

u know what life is like for the average nigerian. imagine that life with a mother who hates u from her whole heart. u ppl have to be careful the advices u give and the spiritual consequences it will have in the long run. bringing innocent souls here that will curse the ones who brought them into such an unfair circumstance and u'll be somewhere saying but your hands are clean while life fvcks u shege. u'd probably pee yourself in joy if given a south african visa just so u can escape nigeria yet here u are suggesting an unstable 28 yr old boy should usher in a baby into a hard life with a 22 yr old girl he's dated for a very short time who absolutely does not want the pregnancy.
i am yet to see one of the keep-the-baby crusaders ask this boy what he does, how much he earns, what his living condition is like, the distance b/w him and the gf, what his realistic plans are for this child, if he plans to marry the mother, if the mother wants to marry him, if he does not plan to marry the mother.. who does he think will, if he loves the child so much why is he ok with the possibility of another man raising him if the mother marries someone else, what are their genotypes, has it ever crossed his mind the child could be born disabled, does he have a child-friendly environment to raise a child in the current nigerian climate(corruption, sexual abuse, kidnaps)

just goat-ish sentimental advices of keep it that wont matter in the long run and will keep everyone miserable and always hoping. the way u think is not what works and the ones who built countries that u would love to go to wouldnt have such great countries if they refuse to apply logic like u. why didnt u suggest he transfer the pregnancy to the girl's mother so he can kuku leave the girl out of the whole thing since u're already suggesting he leave her out of it when she can literally not be left out of it except she gets an abortion. mtchew

Wise words...
OP, listen to this guy.
There is much more than just making a decision to keep a baby, a whole lot more.
The country is hard. Fending for one mouth isn't beans not to talk of fending for a helpless mouth in the form of a child.
Do not coerce or push someone into a decision they will hate you for forever.
A baby needs a willing father and a willing mother to raise it properly. Think about this very well.
Meanwhile, how are you taking care of your responsibilities currently? Answer this first and then you have your own answer on what becomes of that baby when born into this cold and hard part of earth called Nigeria.

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praxs:
Its not yet confirmed but we are suspecting pregnancy. I am 28yrs of age and my girl is 22years. We started dating not too long. We made love sometime last month and she missed her perioed. We used strip and it shows she is pregnant. We will go for a proper test today to confirm. Now here are the issues disturbing me:

A: She wants abortion but I don't want that: she's a student, hence keeping it will be complicated for her.

B: I have been thinking of ways to convince her but she's adamant, abortion is the best for her. Please more ideas for me on how to convince her. And if I successfully convince her to keep the pregnancy, how do we go about this?

C: Both of us come from a very strick family.

D: I am still thinking of how to report myself to her family. I could end up in police station tho. Do I go straight to see her parents (suicidal), do I go tell their pastor so we could find a way to break it to her parents. Do I go tro her parents siblings?

What is just the best way to report myself?

I need your advice's urgently please, coz we are doing the test this afternoon.

I can really relate bro. However, I'm not sure how best to advise you. But please take note of the following points:
1. I'm not sure how best you can try and abide by her decisions.
2. Are you financially buoyant enough to cater for yourself, her pregnancy and the eventual upbringing of the child?. This is because after abuses all sorts of things as predicted by you from her parents, her financial responsibilities may become yours sooner.
3. In regards to the second point, any shortcomings from you to her may lead to time to time conflicts and "even curse" no matter how much you must have loved each other. This might happen as a result pain she would be passing through during the course of pregnancy.
4. Think, think and think over it especially because of inassuarance of her parents and relative support.
5. Suicidal might be an understatement when the unwanted pregnancy distress starts.
6. However bro, believe me, everything is 80% based on your financial capability....in making life much more easier for her.
Remain blessed.

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I think your attitude is pushing her to have abortion ...women contemplate abortion if the man is not helping issue. For a woman to allow you Bleep her without condom is a sign she want your fruit in her. Do the needful and she will change her mind. I once asked my girl to commit abortion . Today i am regretting my action cos each time I see that child I feel remorse how I could 've been used by devil to kill her. Wixkid, tuface, fella, all will go to heaven for not killing anyone but you and I might go to hell for encouraging abortion...May God help us

Restroom:
A student midwife, came to my office one day in July 2017.She was pregnant and wore a ring. She gave me the impression she was married. When she came, she was broke and wanted to do a seminar work. I did it for her, n didn't press for money when she said she would give me some other day. What I didn't know, was that she was under intense pressure psychologically and hungry. She kept sizing me and trying to read me. Well, she went for her seminar and some days, she came back with my money. Some how, she found my company relaxing. So she kept coming around. Around DEC last year she delivered a baby girl.

Around March this year, she finally opened up to me about her pregnancy and baby. You know why I am relating this story? She was impregnated by a staff of UBTH school of midwifery. The guy was mad with the girl for allowing herself to become pregnant.

He wanted abortion, but girl said no way. So, he cut her off. To reduce attention on herself, she started wearing ring in her hand, so when her lecturers saw her , they thought she was married. She told her parents what happened, and they came to gbege the guy. He told the girl s parent he can't marry a girl like her and insulted her badly. Threatened her, not to bring the child to him, that he won't accept. He said she was free to do anything, but he will never accept the child because he has a girl he wants to marry.

She also told me that, when, she finally delivered, it was the guy's NHIS she used to pay for her delivery in UBTH. As difficult, as the period was for her, she said it was her Christian friends encouragement and support that pulled her through that trial.She also thanked me for encouraging her.

She is in Warri now....finally graduated from school of midwifery. last time I saw the baby in early June, she was big n beautiful. Good enough, her parents have been of support to her in caring for the baby.It appears the girl's mother is happy with baby been around.

Now, this girl made the right decision to keep the baby and she is happier for it today. What's my point, tell your girl to keep the baby...it is not the end of the world.

My friend attended classes with pregnancies, gave birth and completed her program.

Her conscience is clean and clear, because she didn't commit abortion.

Many people think that commit formication is smart
When unwanted pregnancies results, they reason that abortion, done in secret, to conceal the acts of fornication is smarter

so the system keep breeding a world full of fornicators and child murderers...breakers of God's command.

Fornication is already enough

Just Dont add murder to it !

Tell your girl to show respect for Jehovah God, you, her reproductive ability and the unborn baby in her womb, which is a gift from God.

And you, stay from fornication till you are ready to marry!

May you be blessed my brother. I had closed the thread when I saw the initial comments urging on the abortion but my conscience wouldn't permit to leave without seeing that the guy had gotten some form of good advice. Thanks for this.

Praxs, at 28 you are not a baby and men your age marry wives who are in school. In every university (government owned at least, make I for talk the ones I sure) in Nigeria, female students carry pregnancy successfully without failing. She's not in secondary school.

praxs:
Hi everyone..
I don't know where to start from. God has been faithful and good to me even when I don't deserve it.
Sometime around june2017, I posted here on how I got an assistant job with an International Organization https://www.nairaland.com/3848668/thank-nairaland-got-job. I was overwhelmed and you all Rejoiced with me.
Today, God has taken me to anoda level just 8months into my job. I am favoured to be the Accounts Mgr.
Don't mind the grammatical errors, I am not thinking straight as I am typing this.
God almight will favour just as he did to me, God bless and stay safe. You are next in line

Plus, as shown in your earlier post in January, you have a job to hold forth a modest home.

You can help her to carry the child in honour by putting a ring to it if you'd like to spend a life with her as your wife. You have known of the pregnancy very early, so quickly inform both families so an impromptu arrangement can be made for marriage can be made. No need to call too many people. But your babe will have more boldness carrying that child with a ring (not engagement o, wedding ring).

Man up and cater for your new home and may Jehovah bless you for refusing to commit murder as a convenient option. If you and/or your woman are in Lagos, please send me a PM.