The aim of this post is to teach you the negative impact of too many compliments and how it affects a man's behavior online. You'll learn a lot from this post.

Kindly ignore typos if you see any — I don't use spellcheckers and I didn't proofread. So, typo is inescapable.


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In simple English, a compliment is a way to cage a man. It's a way to take away his freedom of speech and make him behave the way they want.

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I'm going to use Aírforce1 and Explórers to explain this demonic act people accidentally carry out online. They do it unconsciously, but I'll explain it.

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Your first impression with people shouldn't be a too good or too bad, but a mixture of good-bad-humorous. If it's too good, you're the one caging yourself.

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When you give a perfect first good impression, you've started a pretentious journey you can't finish.


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Here is the inside story. Explorèr creates educative threads and everyone hails him for that.

What everyone just did is to cage him into behaving a certain way. Since he gets lots of compliments, he wouldn't want to disappoint them. This is to say, he has been caged into pleasing these people.

When you get caged, your creativity diminishes or gets caged too. You'll keep doing the same or similar things over and over again just to keep the image they foisted on you. Anything contrary, they'll lose respect for you.

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For the first time, you're making sense.

The day he'll go contrary to this image and try to explore things outside the box, these people will start saying:

1. I'm so disappointed in you, Mr. Explorèrs
2. I never knew you'll stoop this low
3. I respected you
4. How could you?
5. You of all people
6. I can't believe you will do this immature thing
7. You made me speechless with this childish behavior
8. I thought you were different from the rest
9. I have just lost respect for you
10. Blah blah blah.


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Golden Tip

A perfect balance of Explórers and Aírforce1 is RoyalBlak007 / RB007.

From my observation, he was a crazy guy before (just like Aírforce1), then he switched to posting educative threads (just like Explórers).

During IàmJ's scandal, he was one of the people pioneering the case. He is humble and also arrogant.

I saw his humility when a guy created a thread to give 5k to anyone who answers his question correctly.

He got the answer, sent his account and the 5k was sent to him. This shows humility. Most Nairaland big boys won't do this to avoid anyone using it to attack them in the future.

In his case, he humbly did it. So, a balance of Aírforce1 and Explórers is RoyàlBlack007.


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plavic:
For the first time, you're making sense.

Your comment is not necessary. Have a nice day.

When I created a thread to drill a boy called IàmJ, this is what a man who complimented me before said:

H2Òssss: @iLegend, I must say, after reading that thread, I'm disappointed in you. I expected much more. You come across as someone who can keep emotions in check. This is totally childish, Bro. Guess you were pushed to the wall.

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This particular guy meant good for me. It seems he respects me, but I disappointed him. What he didn't know is: he is trying to cage me, but I'm already aware of this unintentional game everyone on earth plays.

When I notice this thing, I bluntly caution the person or use humor to wade the compliment.


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I'll show you how I waded a compliment below, but for now, this is the psychological explanation reply I gave the guy who was disappointed in me.

iLegend: It happens. This is why I always tell people "I'm not perfect" to avoid too much expectations.

No one should see me as their mentor, but as a business man. I leverage on opportunities — be it mature or immature, but I know my boundaries and when to stop or stay silent. It's part of the drill.

Take for example, my brother Explórers, we all love him and at the same time, psychologically pigeonholed him into a certain personality. Now, he's working for Nairaland like a robot trying to please everyone with sensible topics.

Whenever he tries something outside the personality we have forced on him, we attack him by saying, "Oh Explórers, I'm so dissapointed in you. I respected you so much." We say this to him, but we do worse. We have ripped him off his freedom of speech.

This is how people psychologically trap people not to think outside the box or have fun once in a while.

I'm too stubborn to be pigeonholed. I do feel for Mr. Explórers. We have caged him and so much is expected of him.

If he wants to have fun, he must use a different moniker. For me, I only use iLegend so you can see all my good and bad in one place. I call it 2 in 1 or buy 2 get 1 free.

Thank you for your input. I appreciate. I remain everyone's servant, iLegend.

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Below is another case of a man named Mímimiles93 giving a compliment to MrCòrk. It looks like Cork is a smart guy and he understands this psychological manipulation through compliments, so he replied him with just one word, "Noted." See screenshots.

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He knows this compliment is an indirect way to pigeonhole him, so after he typed noted, he ran away from the thread and never commented again.


He doesn't want to be caged. Smart people don't take all compliments — it's dangerous. It will affect their game, their shtick, and their behaviors, so they either ignore compliments (which makes them appear arrogant, but they're not), or reply with one line phrase or with humor.

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Yes, I have been abused on Nairaland and I have also gotten hundreds, if not thousands of compliments privately, but I have a way of replying most.

One way is: using humor to diffuse the compliment because compliment is a way to cage a man.

The same H20sśs guy came to my thread and said something I didn't like, so I bounced on him this time around.


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If I had swallowed those adulations he had been given me and being held in high esteem as he did last year, I would've been paralysed in replying him because I wouldn't want to offend a follower.

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In fact, he started following my articles in 2016 when I started posting on NL. I started posting on Nairaland at the end of May, 2016 and two weeks later, he became a follower.


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After the misunderstanding between us, he said, "iLegend makes sense at times." What he said is exactly how I want people to view me and not view me as a perfect being who won't make mistakes.

Make too much sense, you'll be in trouble. Make too much nonsense, you'll be in trouble. So, the game is to mix sense and nonsense to leave some room for controversy and argument = drama = fame + money.

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What I'm trying to say is: accepting all compliments is a sin and it will pigeonhole you into not being yourself and acting fake just to please people.

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This happens at homes too. A child will not be in the mood to go to Church today, because he or she knows it will be a boring service.

Since the parents' previous compliments and praises on his or her performances and usefulness in Church is still lingering, there won't be any chance to stay at home. This is to say, the child has been caged.


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If these kinds of caged people finally get out and see the freedom in not being caged, they do worse.

Example is the musician called Brymo. He was acting like a nice guy and was singing his best.

Compliments were coming from left and right and he was happy.

All of a sudden, he wasn't getting much attention anymore just like some controversial musicians, so he broke out of the cage and did something extreme.

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He was almost nàked in one of his music videos in the name of creativity, but the truth is: he was trying to get back his fame through controversy. He locked himself up — he wanted to be loved by everyone.

There is nothing like creativity in that song, but a stunt to be on the limelight again. The mistake he made was accepting all compliments and acting safe as he hides from drama, but 2face on the other hand, didn't accept all compliments neither did he hide from drama.

Drama makes the social media and the entertainment world go round. In the entertainment world, staying away from drama is staying away from money and fame.

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iLegendd:
Your comment is not necessary. Have a nice day.

I'm sorry.

The reason Fela didn't stay away from drama is because he knows the secret of money and fame as a musician. Some of you think he's only a freedom fighter.

Chimmanda is capitalizing on feminism because she knows it causes drama. Drama = fame and money. She is laughing to the bank behind the scene while others are arguing nonstop.


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There are four causes of a man's down fall.

1. Women (sent by agent of darkness)
2. Accepting all compliments (psychological cage)
3. Laziness (lack of focus)
4. Disobedience (never listening to the inner voice in you, but listening to the world just to please them)


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Extra tip: if you offer the people something great and behave the way you like, they will still love you. Only 2% of your fans will go.

Example:

1. Fela
2. R. Kelly
3. 2Face
4. www.wetclef.com
5. Dan Brown
5. Bob Marley
6. Michael Jackson, etc.


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Fela acts the way he likes by wearing pants, rubbing things on his body, yet he offers a liberating sound and people love him despite his behavior. Wearing pants and painting one's is childish, but since Fela offered something great, so people didn't notice the childishness. This childishness is what brought him money, fame, and uniqueness.


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R. Kelly gets accused of being gay, doing all kinds of crazy things, yet he offers a sound for the soul and people love him despite his behaviors. Too many controversies, but people still love him.


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2face acts the way he likes, impregnates as many women as he wants, yet sings meaningful, touching, and naughty songs and people love him. In fact, he stole Blackfaze's song, yet people supported him.

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At wetclef, the name sounds erótic, the handler of the site is troublesome, yet they offer great relationship books for men and clients continually buy them. See shop: www.shop.wetclef.com


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