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You want a woman who is financially stable yet you want q 22 year old bride!!

Were you financially stable at 22

Nigerian men are bloody hypocrites!

If you want a financially stable woman, go for someone in her 30s!!!

Table broken!

If am financially stable and he is not...he is not husband material....the point is if you want to marry a financially stable woman,u av to be stable too....else l assure you... the marriage won't be enjoyable..... Women are engineered to respect when you give them a reason to... #peace

CrazyPros:
Valid argument, though according to you there is still 10% that value independent women.
So will you prefer to be dependent?

My financial status depends on who I am dealing with.

To my parents and siblings, I am independent.
To the "average,typical Nigerian man",I rather act dependent.
I once picked my bill on a date.. Dude sent me an SMS saying "You insulted me today. I asked you out on a date,you ordered an expensive wine and paid for it, to show me you don't give a damn about me. ".
That was how it ended before it even started.
My friends blamed me.

My ex left me because according to him, I was too independent. I earned only 10K less than him. My salary was more regular.
I could afford to do things for myself (shop for groceries, change my hair, buy airtime, clothes, etc) without asking him for money. And that was quite "UNFEMININE"..It made him feel he was dating a fellow man. Women were not created/meant to be independent else what would they need men for?
He later got married to an OND holder who was teaching in a private nursery school.

She became a full time housewife after the marriage.
The funny thing is :On social media, he is part of those guys who abhor dependent women but encourage women to be financially stable... Meanwhile, he dumped an independent for a dependent one who needs him for everything including drinking water.

spiceadole:
I don't understand why this topic is still an issue.

Social media and reality are 2 different situations.

On social media, Nigerian men claim to love /prefer working class, independent women who do not have to depend on them for anything.
They say they prefer women who can pay their bills on a date.

In reality, Nigerian men prefer to marry dependent women.

Many jobless broke dependent ladies are married while the working class independent well to do, financially stable ones are single and avoided because they are seen as too "proud".
They are tagged "ashewo, olosho " and other unprintable names because the Nigerian man doesn't believe that a woman can be financially sufficient without selling her body to men.
In Nigeria, every financially successful woman must have been involved in some form of prostitution before she made it.

Even married women are seen this way, how much more a single lady??

As a lady, try taking up your bill on a date... That man will never want to have anything to do with you any more. In his mind, "what kind of lady pays her bills? If she can afford to eat without my money, then what can I offer her? "

That's the reason why some of us are advised not to show that we have money so that "men will not run away from us".
Society advises us "Do not buy a car while you are single"...

It's very easy to type and argue gibberish on social media but we all know that in reality...
If you put Miss A, probably an undergraduate or a jobless graduate or low-income salary earner
And Miss B, a working class well paid, business owner, financially stable lady...

90% of All Nigerian men would rush and go for Miss A.

A dependent woman is the Nigerian man's ideal woman. Nothing feeds a man's ego than woman who depends on him for "survival".

Such woman is easy to manipulate, use, disuse, abuse, maltreat and she won't bait an eyelid.

The smarter and more independent you are, the less attractive you are to men in reality.

Trust me.. by the time buhari is through with Nigeria, Nigerian men won't know when they will start marrying independent ladies.


But what you just typed is fake.. only broke men are afraid of approaching independent ladies.

spiceadole:
My financial status depends on who I am dealing with.

To my parents and siblings, I am independent.
To the "average,typical Nigerian man",I rather act dependent.
I once picked my bill on a date.. Dude sent me an SMS saying "You insulted me today. I asked you out on a date,you ordered an expensive wine and paid for it, to show me you don't give a damn about me. ".
That was how it ended before it even started.
My friends blamed me.

My ex left me because according to him, I was too independent. I earned only 10K less than him. My salary was more regular.
I could afford to do things for myself (shop for groceries, change my hair, buy airtime, clothes, etc) without asking him for money. And that was quite "UNFEMININE"..It made him feel he was dating a fellow man. Women were not created/meant to be independent else what would they need men for?
He later got married to an OND holder who was teaching in a private nursery school.

She became a full time housewife after the marriage.
The funny thing is :On social media, he is part of those guys who abhor dependent women but encourage women to be financially stable... Meanwhile, he dumped an independent for a dependent one who needs him for everything including drinking water.

It depends on his mentality.

You saw the reply a man gave me on the fourth page, he said if you marry a woman who wouldn't be scared of leaving the marriage because of her financial status then you as a man is useless.

Elder001:
It depends on his mentality.

You saw the reply a man gave me in the fourth page, he said if you marry a woman who wouldn't be scared of leaving the marriage because of her financial status then you as a man i useless.

That's the mentality of the average Nigerian man.
You can't blame him.
Traditionally, men were meant to be providers and women receivers.
A lot of men DO NOT LIKE women who can provide.
The same way, women DO NOT LIKE men who are receivers.

spiceadole:
That's the mentality of the average Nigerian man.
You can't blame him.
Traditionally, men were meant to be providers and women receivers.
A lot of men DO NOT LIKE women who can provide.
The same way, women DO NOT LIKE men who are receivers.

That's why I want buhari to complete his 8years,by the time that man is through with Nigeria, nobody will tell Nigerian men before they will start running away from dependent ladies.

BTW, that mentality you just described is on its lowest.. Most men who still share that mentality are villagers.

pocohantas:
Why should any sane woman be angry with this advice? It is for her own good.

That said, men should stop marrying these dependent women.
It is that easy. But will they?

Creating a thousand threads won't change the reality that lots of men love dependent women. Check around you, you will notice your jobless course mate is married. The ones with good jobs are still single. Don't start that story of how independent ladies are proud o. The only thing that's proud, is your EGO

No true word has ever been said. Am just looking at the comments. Give nigerian man one of this financially stable woman, and they will call her feminist.

I think what the average black man wants, is a beautifull, hardworking, intelligent and finacially stable woman that is COMPLETE submissive.


More like they want to have it all, just like the women. They just don't realize it yet. Maybe Ego.
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Elder001:
Just confirmed my words... You like dependent women because you know they'll be scared to walk away if you [s]abuse,cheat on them or treat them anyhow.
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I pity any lady who get married to you with this your ridiculous mentality.

You're missing the point. Women depend on men for many reasons. The more you limit yourself to finance, the more you affirm your gold digging profession.

I would advise you again, money isn't everything and stop searching for women with gold, go after one with character. Her character is more secured than her job.

nlanded:
Sense would not kill this babe!

This girl must make heaven for this truth.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
What if he's the one disturbing for marriage?

Na Hard economy cause all this useless talk. Giving lthe rise to gold digging in men to escalate.

Madam receive sense in the Name of.......

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
What if he's the one disturbing for marriage?

Na Hard economy cause all this useless talk. Giving the rise to gold digging in men to escalate.

make a counter thread about men too or direct ur grivances to the author, don't come whinning here because ur'e exposing urself as a GUILTY one.

(Vafter) ,

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Are you saying we don't have male gold diggers? Too bad people are now focusing on material stuffs in relationships, what they stand to benefit and what not.

What do u have to offer a man apart from the V somsin of muOst cases a man has to spend and show sacrifices before he's given, abeg its too early.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Im very observant and sensible. I don't go around billing someone's son.

You can say that again and again.

nellyelitz:
What do u have to offer a man apart from the V somsin of muOst cases a man has to spend and show sacrifices before he's given, abeg its too early.

My brother, they have nothing to offer save their V joint.

Acidosis:
You're missing the point. Women depend on men for many reasons. The more you limit yourself to finance, the more you affirm your gold digging profession.

I would advise you again, money isn't everything and stop searching for women with gold, go after one with character. Her character is more secured than her job.

If a woman isn't even gainfully employed we can't be friends in the first place. We ain't in the same cycle.

I'm not an alpha male, stop forcing me to accept your alpha male ideology.

Character won't run the home.. marriage is more than character and love.

I've told you before that even if I'm a billionaire I'll share bills.
My life, my choice.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
How many "rich" guys date Broke Girls? Don't mistake average with rich please. You can get a rich girl if you exude confidence

Don't go there please
A jobless girl is broke
Boys still marry girls with no source of income

Elder001:
You don't know where is paining you like seriously.

I don't just know why you feel angry when women are advised to make money or provide /contribute finances to move a marriage or relationship forward.

You'll suddenly start saying men are waiting for women's money or gold digging.

I'm asking you again, which person's money were you expecting to spend? since you don't want to make your own money.

wen they have no achievement its very easy to tell. they get angry!

Rooneyboy:
Your stupidity is topnotch.
I'm surprise someone could be this daft.

you are the most stupid person av ever come across in my life. did I quote u? get off my comments. idiot

highqueen:


whatever,even when I'm financially stable,it's the duty of the man to provide for all that's needed in the home.

keep praying, hopefully the maga that will marry you will come for u

Elder001:
Your mumu no be here.

So it's wrong for a lady to make money? ladies shouldn't make money because they get pregnant and have babies?

Linda ikeji, Paris Hilton, Fulurono alakija and other female billionaires they can't get pregnant or give birth abi?

Women in the west who work and share bills 50/50 with their husbands they don't also get pregnant, right?


This was how one married woman in family section said she can't work because she bleed monthly .


Don't go and make money ,keep depending on men for survival.


The difference between stupidity and genius is that genius has its limits -Albert Einstein

your entire generation mumu, animal

Acidosis:
All sane men love dependent women (work or no work), don't be carried away by the nonsense you read online. A wife is supposed to rely on her husband on many grounds (money inclusive).

If your wife don't rely on you, then check yourself, you're useless.

this is the kind of man that will become jealous wen his wife is gettin money. may God help u bro.
u can never marry a success driven lady wit dis mindset, na so so failures go dey attract u

EmpresFIDEL:
what about the guys that can't with for you to finish school b4 marriage

u shud have a say as wen to get married to any man, in fact u alone hav d final say young lady, dnt ever allow anyone pressure u to marry. u nor be zombie na

romenna:
this is the kind of man that will become jealous wen his wife is gettin money. may God help u bro.
u can never marry a success driven lady wit dis mindset, na so so failures go dey attract u

Funny thing is I've never dated a woman without a job or at least a degree The only difference between you and I is that unlike you, I'm not fanatically obsessed in how much she brings to the table, I don't care

Her financial contributions is a privilege, not your right.

romenna:
u shud have a say as wen to get married to any man, in fact u alone hav d final say young lady, dnt ever allow anyone pressure u to marry. u nor be zombie na

yeah.. that's right

Pataricatering:
Same men who insist on submission, same men who are intimidated by successful women ? Shior ! You can’t make a successful woman submit to your bs , I hope you guys know that ! Goodluck in eating your cake and having it ! Lol !

swt hrt, if u r a successful lady, who worked hard to attain success tru non dubious means, pls lets connect, i am equally successful too and u r guaranteed of mutual respect cos i knw wat it means to be successful tru diligence and hard work

spiceadole:
I don't understand why this topic is still an issue.

Social media and reality are 2 different situations.

On social media, Nigerian men claim to love /prefer working class, independent women who do not have to depend on them for anything.
They say they prefer women who can pay their bills on a date.

In reality, Nigerian men prefer to marry dependent women.

Many jobless broke dependent ladies are married while the working class independent well to do, financially stable ones are single and avoided because they are seen as too "proud".
They are tagged "ashewo, olosho " and other unprintable names because the Nigerian man doesn't believe that a woman can be financially sufficient without selling her body to men.
In Nigeria, every financially successful woman must have been involved in some form of prostitution before she made it.

Even married women are seen this way, how much more a single lady??

As a lady, try taking up your bill on a date... That man will never want to have anything to do with you any more. In his mind, "what kind of lady pays her bills? If she can afford to eat without my money, then what can I offer her? "

That's the reason why some of us are advised not to show that we have money so that "men will not run away from us".
Society advises us "Do not buy a car while you are single"...

It's very easy to type and argue gibberish on social media but we all know that in reality...
If you put Miss A, probably an undergraduate or a jobless graduate or low-income salary earner
And Miss B, a working class well paid, business owner, financially stable lady...

90% of All Nigerian men would rush and go for Miss A.

A dependent woman is the Nigerian man's ideal woman. Nothing feeds a man's ego than woman who depends on him for "survival".

Such woman is easy to manipulate, use, disuse, abuse, maltreat and she won't bait an eyelid.

The smarter and more independent you are, the less attractive you are to men in reality.

if u r a successful lady then lets connect, i can only be motivated by ur success, cant be intimidated at all. but make sure u r legitimately successful tho, dnt come n be braggin wit sugar daddy money cos dats wat we see on a daily

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
How many "rich" guys date Broke Girls? Don't mistake average with rich please. You can get a rich girl if you exude confidence

u cant speak for rich girls except u r one of them

Rooneyboy:
Your stupidity is topnotch. I'm surprise someone could be this daft.

your entire generation are stupid and daft, idiot. don't go and make money

wishful thinking.

spiceadole:
I don't understand why this topic is still an issue.

Social media and reality are 2 different situations.

On social media, Nigerian men claim to love /prefer working class, independent women who do not have to depend on them for anything.
They say they prefer women who can pay their bills on a date.

In reality, Nigerian men prefer to marry dependent women.

Many jobless broke dependent ladies are married while the working class independent well to do, financially stable ones are single and avoided because they are seen as too "proud".
They are tagged "ashewo, olosho " and other unprintable names because the Nigerian man doesn't believe that a woman can be financially sufficient without selling her body to men.
In Nigeria, every financially successful woman must have been involved in some form of prostitution before she made it.

Even married women are seen this way, how much more a single lady??

As a lady, try taking up your bill on a date... That man will never want to have anything to do with you any more. In his mind, "what kind of lady pays her bills? If she can afford to eat without my money, then what can I offer her? "

That's the reason why some of us are advised not to show that we have money so that "men will not run away from us".
Society advises us "Do not buy a car while you are single"...

It's very easy to type and argue gibberish on social media but we all know that in reality...
If you put Miss A, probably an undergraduate or a jobless graduate or low-income salary earner
And Miss B, a working class well paid, business owner, financially stable lady...

90% of All Nigerian men would rush and go for Miss A.

A dependent woman is the Nigerian man's ideal woman. Nothing feeds a man's ego than woman who depends on him for "survival".

Such woman is easy to manipulate, use, disuse, abuse, maltreat and she won't bait an eyelid.

The smarter and more independent you are, the less attractive you are to men in reality.

sad but true

ZIMDRILL:
You are using emotion to think simply becoz you are woman and the statement is against women

Let break it down

All abuse in marriages and relationships have links to financial stability

Ever since the begining of paid work men brought average 80% of family income meaning traditionally men were financial providers and meaning women would be attracted to someone who is financial provider in his right, without her looking into what she can provide financial. Hence we have women who ask “can you look after me” meaning she wants to be look after without providing but managing what the man brings on the table

We have women who set bars for men eg i want a man who drives a car but herself has nothing to her name not even a cat

So basically traditionally women have been depending on men financially and men have been taking advantage abusing women becoz a woman can not walk out from marriage becoz she was never a financial provider but depended. And becoz of year of being a depended they dont no were to start so many stay in those abusive marriages

So if a woman is financially stable before marriage, she wont marry to be looked after financially

So having her own income helps her if things turn sour in marriage

Many marriage from african born and raised couples who moved to the west are failing becoz most women are financially stable, women nolonger depend on man for finance she works and even brings more money. No more advantage for men eg he cheats and forgiven becoz without the man financially she is stuck, no more than you find most men being kicked out and also most women being abusive and in any small issue the man is being threatened to call police on him(in the west any violence towards a woman is big issue)

So basically from tradition women have been leeches they look for the fat man who can look after them

A financially stable women wouldnt be a victim of abuse via finance aka man being the provider she can easy walk out than a woman who depends on a man financially

Hope you got my point

well said