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Re: I Want To Expose My Wife And Her Colleague In A Bank, They Are Having Affair by trapQ: 6:31pm On Aug 19, 2018

You and this war room sef grin

yettymuse:
you know you can raise an objection without being rude! Direct your anger and frustration to the Op. Table is turning now and you're gloating, take a chill pill, drink coke and watch war room! Cheers!

Re: I Want To Expose My Wife And Her Colleague In A Bank, They Are Having Affair by benswagtt(m): 6:35pm On Aug 19, 2018

yettymuse:
Divorce is not even an option because the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know. You just have to make your marriage work. I hate to hear about cheating causing dissolution in marriages or relationships.
.

like seriously?
what do u want to hear as the cause then?

Re: I Want To Expose My Wife And Her Colleague In A Bank, They Are Having Affair by toksbisola: 6:35pm On Aug 19, 2018

@Op; sorry about your predicament. For the record, there’s absolutely nothing wrong in checking your spouse’s phone which acts in itself as a check-mate; but when that occurs, trust has just gone down the drain. To state clearly, there’re no 2 ways to this, your wife is certainly cheating on you. It’s not only when you catch someone red-handed before you term it cheating. Emotionally, she certainly is cheating on you and what she’s doing is disgusting to say the least especially since you've been married for a few years with kid/s. The question is what again does your wife want? Is she bored/tired of you? Does she now resent you that much? You need to find out the answers to these questions. On the other hand, if she's tired of the marriage, she might as well let you know; at least then you know where you stand; rather than her mis-behaving this way.

Unfortunately, your wife has lost all form of self-respect for herself as a MARRIED WOMAN WHO HAS NO SHAME IN CARRYING ON HER EMOTIONAL EXTRA MARITAL AFFAIRS. This may be due to your neglecting her; maybe/may be not who knows? Although it would have been balanced if your wife tells her side of the story to either agree or disagree with some of the things you've asserted to here. Having said that, things like what you have narrated happens when a woman has no respect for her man/husband. If a man/woman has utmost respect for themselves, then he/she has no business being in close contact and cheating with with another man/woman other than their spouse.

You’re a bit too soft; no offence and hope non taken; be a man and wake up and smell the coffee to the advertised drama that your wife is performing and PUT AN END TO IT as it’s obvious; you’re not in control of your home otherwise your wife wouldn’t have the audacity or even the liver to carry out all what you have narrated above. Sometimes it’s good for a woman to know the tough side of her man and that in itself deters misbehaviour. I am not saying that you should be a tyrant/bully neither should you be a walk-over/weakling. Rather, YOU NEED TO BE FIRM WHEN YOU SAY CERTAIN THINGS ABOUT WHAT YOU WOULD NOT TOLERATE SUCH AS YOUR WIFE KEEPING CLOSE LINKS WITH OTHER MEN IRRESPECTIVE OF WHETHER THE MAN IS HER WORK COLLEAGUE OR NOT. THE SAME RULE SHOULD APPLY TO YOU AS WELL REGARDING OTHER WOMEN. THE MARITAL HOME/BED SHOULD BE WITHOUT DEFILMENT.

You mentioned that you want to arrest her work colleague? What for? I don't see how you can arrest him. Instead of the arrest, you have to sit-up and tackle this head-on with you wife and if she wants to stay with you, then you give her the option to stop this shameful act and if she’s not willing to do that, then you simply tell her THE CONSEQUENCES OF WHAT HER REFUSAL WOULD LEAD TO. Which will include reporting her to her family, alerting the wife of her male colleague that she is cheating on you with or to the other extreme you getting a divorce. The choice is hers; and BE FIRM when you tell her that.

From your write-up, I presume that you have spoken to her severally times without any change; hence, you’ve now been boxed into a corner and you now need to address this problem as a matter of urgency and with that, there are 3 options here;

1) You leave her and let her carry on with her philandering ways and have a less stressful life along with peace of mind;
2) You stay with her and continue to confront her as she continuously cheats on you again and again; or
3) You stay in the marriage and develop a thick skin and ignore her until she is tired and then she’ll come back to her senses and stop her philandering ways herself.

The choice is yours and no one else can make that decision for you whether to stay or end your marriage. Also let me point out the fact that that HIV and AIDS ain’t written on anyone’s forehead and it only takes a single encounter to become infected. Be warned and be wise.

As your wife is reading this, let me digress a bit and ask your wife this question; if it was your husband doing exactly as you are doing to him now would you like it? i.e your husband is having this late chat with his female work colleague or any other female and being very close to her and also doing what you are doing would you like it? I can guarantee that you would raise the house down; fight with your husband, quarrel with him, nag him as well etc. The saying; DO ON TO OTHERS WHAT YOU WANT DONE TO YOU comes to mind. If you know that you will not like this, then stop doing it to your husband. Rectify this disgusting act you are carrying on that will eventually bring shame to you as a wife and face your family without the distraction from other men. Apologies to your husband and stop your wayward ways (sorry i sound harsh but it’s called tough love). If your husband decides to leave you today, you think your work colleague you are messing around with would leave his wife for you? I really pity you as he's only there to mess you and your marriage up and the speed in which he would cut ties with you if your husband divorces you would surprise you. Don’t say you were not warned as a word is enough for the wise.

I rest my case

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Re: I Want To Expose My Wife And Her Colleague In A Bank, They Are Having Affair by Nobody: 6:36pm On Aug 19, 2018

trapQ:
You and this war room sef

na all of us must watch am o grin

Re: I Want To Expose My Wife And Her Colleague In A Bank, They Are Having Affair by benswagtt(m): 6:38pm On Aug 19, 2018

pocohantas:
Exactly!!!
A wise man buildeth his home...

OP, please follow this advice. Don't listen to all these alphas that would tell you to divorce your wife. They want you to be an unhappy bachelor like them!

Lolzzz! I don't seeing happiness coming forth in that relationship. I dunno of others, but I ain't unhappy. I'll choose my present status a billion times over that marriage

Re: I Want To Expose My Wife And Her Colleague In A Bank, They Are Having Affair by 99miles(m): 6:43pm On Aug 19, 2018

it takes the grace of God to change a person,........... divorce her!
Over 70% of people here have opted for divorce, the voice of the people is the voice of God.
And please go for a DNA test for that your kid.

Re: I Want To Expose My Wife And Her Colleague In A Bank, They Are Having Affair by rafcrown(m): 6:43pm On Aug 19, 2018

THURDERBOLT FOR IJEBU LAND.CHOP AND DIE. huh

Re: I Want To Expose My Wife And Her Colleague In A Bank, They Are Having Affair by Grace001: 6:47pm On Aug 19, 2018

tiredoflife:
There is no final warning
Didn't he marry her traditionally
Una dey use the gods play

So what's your point? He should continue to marry a promiscuous wife even when she refuse to change because of the gods?
What you're saying is based on the little you know. You forgot that the gods can be appeals in situation like this, in fact follow the woman with curse if she tries to do nonsense.

I don't wish this for you, but should in case your find yourself in this situation I'm you will do your wedding anniversary to praise her for her promiscuous act and even buy her gifts because of the gods and so you don't use the gods play.

Re: I Want To Expose My Wife And Her Colleague In A Bank, They Are Having Affair by chigoziri2403(m): 6:49pm On Aug 19, 2018

FisifunKododada:
Hmm see question!

so you sef dey work for bank and dey knack your married colleague -someone's wife. If not why ask this question?

na your wife I go knack

Re: I Want To Expose My Wife And Her Colleague In A Bank, They Are Having Affair by ImaIma1(f): 6:51pm On Aug 19, 2018

Wilfredpat22:
SIR, that is we women for you. It is so difficult for us to close our legs especially if we have been sleeping with countless men before marriage.

Her colleague has been enjoying her with you and you are the weaker man here. I will advice you to take a divorce. If my man cheats, I don’t even want to hear forgiveness, I am exiting from the house (that is if it his house)

And sir, it is only the colleague you are aware of, she might have been opening her treasure for the Bank manager, Auditor, Security guard... etc

Please take CHARGE AND DONT BE A SISSY

You are loose does not mean every woman is. Please speak for yourself alone.

Re: I Want To Expose My Wife And Her Colleague In A Bank, They Are Having Affair by Nobody: 6:54pm On Aug 19, 2018

@Op,
I really appreciate u for yur PATIENTS over yur wife,

Things can still be corrected bro.

plz don't think of divorce now coz I bet u things will return back to it's normal place.

Look for a mentor (Relationship Expert) to assist you to sort it out by sitting two of u down.... (u and yur wife) and promise u, u gonna SMILE and Have peace of mind in yur marriage.

Re: I Want To Expose My Wife And Her Colleague In A Bank, They Are Having Affair by trapQ: 6:59pm On Aug 19, 2018

Stop saying nonsense. I am from urhobo too and what you're saying is pure bullshit.
I believe you know that Christianity is also against your culture. I hope you also know your culture is incompatible with Western values so pls when you have kids don't send them to school so they can practice your culture very well, okay?

tiredoflife:
Keep looking for equity
These cultures were made wen men need to have more kids and wives to use as workers for his farms

It hasn't being reviewed and never would
There is no equal rights in traditions

So keep asking irrelevant questions

Re: I Want To Expose My Wife And Her Colleague In A Bank, They Are Having Affair by mankettle(m): 7:00pm On Aug 19, 2018

mrdino:
Good one. I have a feeling, you are a legal practitioner

Re: I Want To Expose My Wife And Her Colleague In A Bank, They Are Having Affair by tiredoflife(m): 7:02pm On Aug 19, 2018

trapQ:
Stop saying nonsense. I am from urhobo too and what you're saying is pure bullshit.
I believe you know that Christianity is also against your culture. I hope you also know your culture is incompatible with Western values so pls when you have kids don't send them to school so they can practice your culture very well, okay?

Eriwi twist ur neck there
What I am saying is bullshit
Tell ur wife to do am
Make u know and chop her food
U will meet me in the after life to open gate for me when I come in fifty years time

Re: I Want To Expose My Wife And Her Colleague In A Bank, They Are Having Affair by trapQ: 7:03pm On Aug 19, 2018

Can't spell the tribe you're claiming...mumu

tiredoflife:
I had a very rich uncle who died like dis in ajegunle
Way back 1993
He caught his wife and the lover
According to traditions the lover was fined
But since he is the most senior urohobo man of our clan in lagos
The ritual can't be done in his house
He was to go to the village to meet his elders
So he kept the suppose fine in his box
The wife went there and took part of the money to make food for him
He ate it and that was the end of him
As they were to travel the next day as the last stage is what must be done in the village

Re: I Want To Expose My Wife And Her Colleague In A Bank, They Are Having Affair by tiredoflife(m): 7:04pm On Aug 19, 2018

Grace001:
So what's your point? He should continue to marry a promiscuous wife even when she refuse to change because of the gods?
What you're saying is based on the little you know. You forgot that the gods can be appeals in situation like this, in fact follow the woman with curse if she tries to do nonsense.

I don't wish this for you, but should in case your find yourself in this situation I'm you will do your wedding anniversary to praise her for her promiscuous act and even buy her gifts because of the gods and so you don't use the gods play.

Oga go back and read all I have being saying
And u will know

Re: I Want To Expose My Wife And Her Colleague In A Bank, They Are Having Affair by tiredoflife(m): 7:07pm On Aug 19, 2018

trapQ:
Can't spell the tribe you're claiming...mumu

So it makes me a non member of the tribe ekpa doh

Re: I Want To Expose My Wife And Her Colleague In A Bank, They Are Having Affair by trapQ: 7:09pm On Aug 19, 2018

I hate cheating men.

jembalord:
I hate cheating women

Re: I Want To Expose My Wife And Her Colleague In A Bank, They Are Having Affair by trapQ: 7:10pm On Aug 19, 2018

Ogolo... speaking the language means nothing if you can't spell it.

tiredoflife:
So it makes me a non member of the tribe ekpa doh

Re: I Want To Expose My Wife And Her Colleague In A Bank, They Are Having Affair by tiredoflife(m): 7:15pm On Aug 19, 2018

trapQ:
Ogolo... speaking the language means nothing if you can't spell it.

Cos I went to urohobo school abi
Oga go light firewood angry

Re: I Want To Expose My Wife And Her Colleague In A Bank, They Are Having Affair by trapQ: 7:17pm On Aug 19, 2018

You will end up six feet before killing any woman. Is marriage by force?

NgwaManNaija4LF:
Guy you are very dull, you should have shot her leg first before any other thing,don't you have any gun with you? Please do..I don't give room for doggish ladies..strangling will be another choice if I may suggest...pls if the hellhoe is still living with you then you are about to be infected with HIV if you don't man-up now.

Come back here and give testimony bro after the job weldone...Say no to cheating wife.

Re: I Want To Expose My Wife And Her Colleague In A Bank, They Are Having Affair by MPESA(m): 7:19pm On Aug 19, 2018

tiredoflife:
U go die like fowl
U catch ur wife dey cheat
U get evidence
She still dey cook u dey chop
U dey Bleep am
Na warn u dey warn am
U must be Yoruba
So I no surprise
I am urohobo
For my culture say u don know and u still dey chop her food and Bleep am
She still dey ur house
Eriwi our juju for don knack u down
By now maggot go don chop u so that the guy can continue

U are a useless man
Forming u love ur wife there till she kills u all in the name of sex and say na self defence

No wonder una dey die like fowl
Keep warning her
Ode

E no go better for u

You are the best Sir.
Eating her food And sleeping with her will definitely kill him because he has known of all this evil and abominable acts of hers and still keep mute.
Seriously I don't believe that she can change again because she has be caught and warned yet she still engage in the acts again and nothing to justify reasons of cheating wife under her husband roof.

Re: I Want To Expose My Wife And Her Colleague In A Bank, They Are Having Affair by trapQ: 7:22pm On Aug 19, 2018

The truth that all women are cheats including your mother?

ayokellany:
Why does the truth hurt your soul so passionately ?

Re: I Want To Expose My Wife And Her Colleague In A Bank, They Are Having Affair by tiredoflife(m): 7:25pm On Aug 19, 2018

MPESA:
You are the best Sir.
Eating her food And sleeping with her will definitely kill him because he has known of all this evil and abominable acts of hers and still keep mute.
Seriously I don't believe that she can change again because she has be caught and warned yet she still engage in the acts again and nothing to justify reasons of cheating wife under her husband roof.

Read the idiot
He started with he was working in a big company
He lost his job
She works with a big bank
The marriage was based on pay cheque
Now the weakling can't talk cos he lost hi job
She feeds him even though he claims he has a new job

That there is the real deal why he can only warn her
Wen no be say na Lagos marriage abi abuja marriage
U paid money on her head
Take her home if u still want her
Ritual has to be done

Even if u are born again
She don invite Satan to ur home
Pray can't save him
He will die
I give him six months
He will die
If he no pay money for her head
He is free
Nothing go do am

Re: I Want To Expose My Wife And Her Colleague In A Bank, They Are Having Affair by lokya(f): 7:27pm On Aug 19, 2018

Ignore her,pretend u are having an affair with a younger girl and see what happens

Re: I Want To Expose My Wife And Her Colleague In A Bank, They Are Having Affair by trapQ: 7:28pm On Aug 19, 2018

Isn't that what you men ask women whose husbands are cheaters to do? Pray and fast? You can't take a little of your own medicine?

ayokellany:
Some of you women can be so foolish. So because you do not do all those fantasy thing u did to woo your wife mean she should be fucqing around.

Madam, you need a plank to your head. Without any iota of remorse you no fit get sense forever.

A wise man build his home that fucq around town. I can’t even comprehend the “foolishry” am reading on NL.

Re: I Want To Expose My Wife And Her Colleague In A Bank, They Are Having Affair by MPESA(m): 7:29pm On Aug 19, 2018

chiommy123:
there could be reasons for her promiscuity but when it's addressed she may change

Nwannem , no reason to justify a cheating wife , she's married for Christ sake

Re: I Want To Expose My Wife And Her Colleague In A Bank, They Are Having Affair by trapQ: 7:31pm On Aug 19, 2018

Newsflash you're in 2018, not 1918. We see everyday how women are granted custody of their kids right here in Nigeria.
tongue

patani:
Lol, keep living in fools paradise.. As long as he stays in Nigeria, he has the right to his son. Unless he is a pussy man.....

Re: I Want To Expose My Wife And Her Colleague In A Bank, They Are Having Affair by Ekez(m): 7:31pm On Aug 19, 2018

Oga you are a very good man considering the way you are handling these issue of infidety ,thumbs up,
But for me i can't stay in the same roof with a cheat is not possible.
Ma advice is don't fight nor arrest that guy but file for a divorce cause she will be a LovePeddler.

Re: I Want To Expose My Wife And Her Colleague In A Bank, They Are Having Affair by MPESA(m): 7:32pm On Aug 19, 2018

Uchenaija:
Once you start, it's hard to cure immorality, it's like drug.

What do you want: your wife back? Divorce? Ending your wife's or/and her colleagues job? Destroy the lives of two families? Forgiving and managing your wife? Managing life alone with your kid?

After careful thought, state exactly want you want, what will truly make you happy then your want would determine your decisions & outcome.

No one can make the choice for you in glaring facts.

Modified: I remembered your wife was reading this too, so let me send her a message:

Stolen waters are sweet, And food eaten in secret is pleasant but the aftermath is as bitter as wormwood. And your disgrace would never be wiped away.

Elderly words of wisdom. shocked

, RESPECT.

Re: I Want To Expose My Wife And Her Colleague In A Bank, They Are Having Affair by prince049(m): 7:33pm On Aug 19, 2018

It experts how can I know how to check whatsapp abi na hack...No knowledge is a waste

Re: I Want To Expose My Wife And Her Colleague In A Bank, They Are Having Affair by chiommy123(f): 7:33pm On Aug 19, 2018

MPESA:
Nwannem , no reason to justify a cheating wife , she's married for Christ sake

am not justifying her promiscuity at all but if you listen to married women complain at times you may not blame them that much

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