yettymuse:
Divorce is not even an option because the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know. You just have to make your marriage work. I hate to hear about cheating causing dissolution in marriages or relationships.

By the way your wife could be flirting and not cheating completely... Are you still doing those things you were doing during courtship? 9 years is a long time and trust me you must have begin to adopt the mama and papa style. When was the last time you both went for a dinner, movies, walk, vacation...?
Do you even still remember to call your wife sweet names?? Some foot massage after a hectic day?... Raunchy whatsapp message whilst at work?, breakfast in bed.... Little gift, lingeries, etc..

How's is your sex life? Do you communicate your fantasies and cravings? , when was she last time she got an orgasmic gift and said "THANK YOU"! Hunku you're married so no limits, no boundaries... Set everything on fire!

Maybe your marriage needs a rejuvenation, we sef dey get bored sometimes..

Reignite 'em romantic spark and set the atmosphere on fire. Instead of snooping, change your mode of dressing, stay trim and fit, wear a clean hair cut and smear some cologne mix n match.

If all this doesn't work, pray and watch WAR ROOM, please watch this movie and your marriage would be back to how it was.

tiredoflife:


Keep looking for equity
These cultures were made wen men need to have more kids and wives to use as workers for his farms

It hasn't being reviewed and never would
There is no equal rights in traditions

So keep asking irrelevant questions

luxy44:
Is she still your wife? This one na our wives na. What exactly are you fighting for?

mrAMG:
Get a divorce and let sleeping dogs lie.

Marriage is not by force, you may you’re ready for it, you may think that’s what you want but clearly the sign says otherwise.

Let go and seek happiness elsewhere

Ishilove:

Aunty, speak for yourself and stop your satanic generalisation.

ochardbaby:
Bros,
If I would advise you as a brother,this is gonna be my message.

I never forget for one second any hand that have helped put food on my table,no matter what they do once it’s not life threatening.

For 3 good years she was the Mr of the house without you mentioning that she change to Mrs Idi Amin.

Because if things change for 3 years no be 3 months ohhhhhh,if any woman can be keep the ball rolling for 3 years. Please for this and any other good qualities that you know,but will not mention now because you are angry.


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Angelyna:
Hope the husband is reading this.... This is the only advice I've got for you too... Try it and thank us later....if you still need your home... The follow this advice. Happy Sunday

mysaviouralive:
Hello Admin pls move this to the front page and I will be in the comment section reading.

Pls I want to take a boldness step and I will not mind where it can lead to. I have to open an account now to post this. My wife is also a guest of nairaland and she will be seeing this post.

It happen that I got married to my wife over Nine yrs ago and we only have a Kid. I was working in a big company then before the new management came in and change the policy of the company and I was laid off. I was idle like 3yrs before I got another job. she is working in one of the biggest bank in Nigeria. Like 5yrs ago I noticed she will be smiling whenever she is chatting with one of her male colleague. I ask what are they normally discussing, but she told me that it was their office issue that they are discussing. I know the guy and his family and the guy has came to my house not more than four times.

It happen one day that I demanded to give her phone to browse because I was having problem with my phone. she gave me the phone around 10:30pm and I noticed she has has cleared all their chat. This make it look suspicious and I asked her immediately that why did you deleted the chat, but she told me it was a mistake. I think over it for sometime because I trust her then, but on the other hand my mind was telling me to find out more. As an IT expert I connected her phone to my system and do some forensic research on the phone, alas what I discovered was bad. My wife and the guy have been having an affair and chatting and sending their nude to themselves. I called her immediately and demanded to explain the pixture but she denial it and was telling me another story that she snap the pixture and to show me how she was Hot so that we can have sex that night.

she said I should show her where I got the nude pixs and before she came back from the office she has wipe all the pixs that I showed her thinking that I cannot recovered it anymore and I asked her why should you do that but was just begging me. I recovered all the pixs back and the chat she believe she has deleted and I have more proof that she has been cheating on me.

So I asked her to tell me the truth what is going on with the guy and her but she was just begging me. But I told him I dont want her to do or have anything with the guy again that if I catch her again she will not like what I will do for her, with the hope that she will change. Recently I noticed she stil chatting with the guy again and I rake on her to stop it but she told me that she was just explaining office issue she has when he (the guy) not around because she is the one that relief him on work.

This week they are still chatting late in the nite cos I always seen the chat, though she will delete it as soon as they chat finish but I always have the chat and also today they have chat alot to the extend that my wife was crying when she expecting good reply from the guy but the guy fail him and I noticed she has intimate with the guy rather than me her husband.

My wife can lie and so Promiscuous. I have called her severally to change but she did not, recently I heard she was talking with one of her online friend from Abuja when the guy told her he will be coming to visit her this coming week, and I expect my wife to tell me but uptill now she has not saying anything on it. This make me not to have much trust in her again because if she tell me something I will still think over it like five times again before I accepted.

So my plan now is to call the wife of her colleague and explain everything to the wife and I also planing of arresting her colleague because I still have the proof and dont mind what can come out of this, because I tired and cant continue like this anymore, ever since I have caught her I did not enjoy my home anylonger and I tried to erase it from my memory but not get it wright.

Pls save me and save my marriage if possible.

Thank you.

Ishilove:

SERIOUSLY

seborrhic:

So because she provided for the family for 3years when the man was jobless gives her the right to not only be sending nudes but fucking outside?
Some of you people are so sickening in your thought processes.
As promiscuous and "immoral" as the western world is termed to be by pretenders in Nigeria, cheating in a legalized marriage,no matter the circumstances is against societal and established laws,and someone here is justifying cheating because the wife fed a family for 3years.
If he now feeds the family for 10years I bet your type would fully encourage and support her prostituting and bringing her clients to the home when the husband is even around.
Sick people all around nairaland.

nanauju:


Look at this bloody fool hiding under a woman's moniker and dissing senseless advice. No one takes you serious here man.

chiommy123:
for better for worse. report her to her family so it does come as a surprise to them when you make your decision

chigoziri2403:
which state and which bank please

Earthbound:

Please. You women are never satisfied. Trust me, I know. Nothing justifies a married woman flirting with anyone. That just sends very bad signals. Very bad. (when a woman flirts with me, I come to the conclusion that she's sexually attracted to me and I stand a chance for whatever) Stop trying to make it look like its the OP's fault his wife is sending another woman's husband her naked pictures.

Watching movies cannot solve this type of problems, madam.

franchasng:
You have found concrete evidence that your wife is cheating on u the husband and you are here seeking for advice, u are a disgrace!

Go and tell your father this and take whatever advice he gives u.

The only condition all law books; religious, psychological, moral, etc approves for a divorce is if the woman is found cheating on her husband!

Don't go fighting anybody, just go back and tell your father if he is alive and then get his blessing to go on with the divorce, then get a divorce, simple!

I cannot tolerate a cheating girlfriend talk more of a cheating wife.

I can forgive my wife any other offense but the day she cheats, that's the day we end the marriage.

If she catches me cheating too, its up to her to divorce me or not.

Me if I catch her, she goes, if she catches me, I go if she asks for me to, its that simple

seborrhic:

So because she provided for the family for 3years when the man was jobless gives her the right to not only be sending nudes but fucking outside?
Some of you people are so sickening in your thought processes.
As promiscuous and "immoral" as the western world is termed to be by pretenders in Nigeria, cheating in a legalized marriage,no matter the circumstances is against societal and established laws,and someone here is justifying cheating because the wife fed a family for 3years.
If he now feeds the family for 10years I bet your type would fully encourage and support her prostituting and bringing her clients to the home when the husband is even around.
Sick people all around nairaland.

Vikkioshio:
@OP If you still want your marriage, divorce isn't an option. Sit with your wife & talk, to know what the problem is & involve your spiritual heads, including persons she listens to. Keeping praying for her & love her more even though is not easy Please try watch this movie 'Fireproof Your Marriage '

nanauju:


Look at this bloody fool hiding under a woman's moniker and dissing senseless advice. No one takes you serious here man.