Errmm... OP please, can u teach us that "little Forensic research" that u performed? I think some of us want to learn o.

mysaviouralive:
Hello Admin pls move this to the front page and I will be in the comment section reading.

Pls I want to take a boldness step and I will not mind where it can lead to. I have to open an account now to post this. My wife is also a guest of nairaland and she will be seeing this post.

It happen that I got married to my wife over Nine yrs ago and we only have a Kid. I was working in a big company then before the new management came in and change the policy of the company and I was laid off. I was idle like 3yrs before I got another job. she is working in one of the biggest bank in Nigeria. Like 5yrs ago I noticed she will be smiling whenever she is chatting with one of her male colleague. I ask what are they normally discussing, but she told me that it was their office issue that they are discussing. I know the guy and his family and the guy has came to my house not more than four times.

It happen one day that I demanded to give her phone to browse because I was having problem with my phone. she gave me the phone around 10:30pm and I noticed she has has cleared all their chat. This make it look suspicious and I asked her immediately that why did you deleted the chat, but she told me it was a mistake. I think over it for sometime because I trust her then, but on the other hand my mind was telling me to find out more. As an IT expert I connected her phone to my system and do some forensic research on the phone, alas what I discovered was bad. My wife and the guy have been having an affair and chatting and sending their nude to themselves. I called her immediately and demanded to explain the pixture but she denial it and was telling me another story that she snap the pixture and to show me how she was Hot so that we can have sex that night.

she said I should show her where I got the nude pixs and before she came back from the office she has wipe all the pixs that I showed her thinking that I cannot recovered it anymore and I asked her why should you do that but was just begging me. I recovered all the pixs back and the chat she believe she has deleted and I have more proof that she has been cheating on me.

So I asked her to tell me the truth what is going on with the guy and her but she was just begging me. But I told him I dont want her to do or have anything with the guy again that if I catch her again she will not like what I will do for her, with the hope that she will change. Recently I noticed she stil chatting with the guy again and I rake on her to stop it but she told me that she was just explaining office issue she has when he (the guy) not around because she is the one that relief him on work.

This week they are still chatting late in the nite cos I always seen the chat, though she will delete it as soon as they chat finish but I always have the chat and also today they have chat alot to the extend that my wife was crying when she expecting good reply from the guy but the guy fail him and I noticed she has intimate with the guy rather than me her husband.

My wife can lie and so Promiscuous. I have called her severally to change but she did not, recently I heard she was talking with one of her online friend from Abuja when the guy told her he will be coming to visit her this coming week, and I expect my wife to tell me but uptill now she has not saying anything on it. This make me not to have much trust in her again because if she tell me something I will still think over it like five times again before I accepted.

So my plan now is to call the wife of her colleague and explain everything to the wife and I also planing of arresting her colleague because I still have the proof and dont mind what can come out of this, because I tired and cant continue like this anymore, ever since I have caught her I did not enjoy my home anylonger and I tried to erase it from my memory but not get it wright.

Pls save me and save my marriage if possible.

Thank you.

The only thing I have to say here is "is your wife a man that you use 'him' for her instead of 'her'?"

Ishilove:

Aunty, speak for yourself and stop your satanic generalisation.

Not just generalisation but satanic. Ok jokes apart, At the end, they both will settle. I also believe these stories on NL are made up, why on earth would you want your wife to read what you pasted publicly.

It's like trying to catch a Rat & openly setting a trap while the Rat is watching. No need, Just stone the Rat to death already

Jesus Christ was against divorce. Therefore Christianity is against divorce.
Read the book of Mark.

divinelove:


just go for separation then divorce. the Bible supports divorce on the ground of infidelity. send the unrepentant wh.ore away. most female bankers are like that

Lmao... cheating has absolutely nothing to do with your job status, only if it's brings about a public embarrassment especially to the company.

john650:
This is very sad. Your wife obviously does not have respect for you, otherwise, she would have stopped once you discovered her clandestine relationship.

There is no need being nice to any of the parties involved. For a starter, report your wife to her family. If they cannot call their daughter to order, be prepared to walk out of the relationship. Contact the other man's wife and let her know what the husband is up to. Contact your wife's employer and let them know how the man she is having a relationship with is tearing your family apart. Most employer's, especially the big ones will not condone such behaviour. Both of them will be reprimanded.

Like I said, you have to get tough with both of them. If she does not like your actions, let her leave. If you treat it lightly, the situation will only get worse. I've said in a recent thread that a married woman has no business having a close friendship with a man who is not their husband.

mogbojaiye:

Bro she is speaking for herself....

thank you dear, it can only be her o. But me I am a sis...lol

How is a comment denigrating women valid? Nigerian men and their useless backward mentality like the world revolves around them. They bash women online but will die on top their matter in real life.

shineeye1:


Whether it is male or female is immaterial. The comment made is true and valid!

Yes you're right because men are saints who don't fvck around

dancok:
the lady is saying the truth, you people are calling her, hypocrite, that's how women do.

It's a free world. Marry your fellow man.

HeWrites:


You said it all.

Most girls ain't loyal. I don't see myself tying the knot with a lady.. After all we owe each other nothing.

trapQ:
It's a free world. Marry your fellow man.

Stop stalking me bro.

And what's your concern if I want to marry or don't.

tiredoflife:


Leave the mumu
Dem think say we be oyinbo
Marriage needs this needs that
Wen she marry make she cheat cos husband no dey give her breakfast in bed

Telemudo don spoil our women
And dat useless Zeeworld

Oyinbo sef no get time for this nonsense.

But I told him I dont want her to do or have anything with the guy again that if I catch her again she will not like what I will do for her, with the hope that she will change.

Op, this is were you got it wrong. Your spouse cheated, you found out, she admitted, apologized and that is it? You told her if you catch her again? Like seriously? You hoped a cheating spouse would change just like that becuase you said 'if I catch you again?'!

Newton's 3rd law of motion: action and reaction are equal and opposite.

My dear, your reaction to something as grievious as a cheating spouse did not equate the initial action. You left some energy unaccounted for; and that is wrong. The left over energy propelled the action further more since the reaction did not ballance it out ab initio.

You are repeating the same mistake, thinking that a cheating spouse reading the bitter nagging of her hubby on Nairaland would make her change. You are sounding like a cymbal in its highest pitch. Nothing but empty rants, that's what she's going to see on your rants here.

I wish I could offer you succor in these hard times. But hedge is already broken, the serpent had struck not once, not twice... Your differential equation has gone past the 3rd order.

Only one phrase would better explain your case...

Our wife

Earthbound:

Please. You women are never satisfied. Trust me, I know. Nothing justifies a married woman flirting with anyone. That just sends very bad signals. Very bad. (when a woman flirts with me, I come to the conclusion that she's sexually attracted to me and I stand a chance for whatever) Stop trying to make it look like its the OP's fault his wife is sending another woman's husband her naked pictures.

Watching movies cannot solve this type of problems, madam.

I wonder too o, imagine someone saying the guy is not romantic enough. Do they think the man flirting with the wife will also have time for his own wife? Instead to call a spade a spade and a sin a sin, we will keep justifying rubbish. No wonder the society is what it is now. SMH

new day, new story. am scared of marriage. I don't want to end up in jail las las. #babydaddy

MaziOmenuko:


Op, this is were you got it wrong. Your spouse cheated, you found out, she admitted, apologized and that is it? You told her if you catch her again? Like seriously? You hoped a cheating spouse would change just like that becuase you said 'if I catch you again?'!

Newton's 3rd law of motion: action and reaction are equal and opposite.

My dear, your reaction to something as grievious as a cheating spouse did not equate the initial action. You left some energy unaccounted for; and that is wrong. The left over energy propelled the action further more since the reaction did not ballance it out ab initio.

You are repeating the same mistake, thinking that a cheating spouse reading the bitter nagging of her hubby on Nairaland would make her change. You are sounding like a cymbal in its highest pitch. Nothing but empty rants, that's what she's going to see on your rants here.

I wish I could offer you succor in these hard times. But hedge is already broken, the serpent had struck not once, not twice... Your differential equation has gone past the 3rd order.

Only one phrase would better explain your case...

Our wife

oga physics, na book go kee u. lol u too sabi

I'm not stealing you, just don't Constitute nuisance here with your idiocy

HeWrites:


Stop stalking me bro.

And what's your concern if I want to marry or don't.

The way y'all hate feminists one would think they are the cause of your failure in plus. Plus, I serve God almighty, not your idol

tiredoflife:


Oh I see where u are coming from
Online feminist but pussy cat wey dem pour water for village
Come talk this one for village if we no go use u serve eriwi

victorian:









Behind this moniker lies a man not a woman. No woman will say such senseless thing. Perhaps u are from the pit of hell, sent on earth to destroy homes.
What a waste of a human being u are.

shut up there. She is right.
Kiss the truth.

Only read the first line of your thrashy comment. Where did I mention feminism?
The way y'all hate feminists one would think they're the cause of your failure in life.

patani:


You self acclaimed feminist on this forum just make comments your brain upside down. Did I say its not possible for women to gain custody in Nigeria? Simple English, she can win the custody if the husband is a pussy man...Go back to secondary school if u ack asic comprehension madam

Most of you are simply pained women who wish you came as a man into the world. And you failed to realise that men and women have roles to play in the society an attempt to compete with each other is what makes you guys a failure..shior

trapQ:
I'm not stealing you, just don't Constitute nuisance here with your idiocy

Stealing indeed.


Monitor your life bro... You don't need to be monitoring me.

It's not a must to have the same view as you.

MetroBaba1:


Op, I Can't Handle A Cheating Girlfriend, Talk More Of a Cheating Wife

A girlfriend is disposable but a wife is not. So your analogy is not sound.

Which one be say you want arrest the 'innocent' man wey dey bulala your wife based on their mutual affair. Wetin be him crime?

Young man you no longer have a wife, but you should still have pride. Donate her to that colleague of hers and move on with your life, unless you're those kinds of weak ass 'woman wrapper' wussies who habitually cry 'my wife eh my wife oh' all over the place at the slightest provocation.

There's no such thing as salvaging a marriage ruined by a cheating wife. Don't be a bloody wimp. Get out, and get on. Forgiveness is a sin. Ahead ahead.

mrAMG:
Get a divorce and let sleeping dogs lie.

Marriage is not by force, you may you’re ready for it, you may think that’s what you want but clearly the sign says otherwise.

Let go and seek happiness elsewhere

Mature mind, I wonder how him manager write our wife

Please contact me for highly effective and destructive binding MAGUN.

What they do in secret will come to open in the eyes of the public.

Trust me.

dochenaj:

A girlfriend is disposable but a wife is not. So your analogy is not sound.

Understand The Simple Logic. Don't Quote Me If You Lack Basic Understanding.

trapQ:
The way y'all hate feminists one would think they are the cause of your failure in plus. Plus, I serve God almighty, not your idol

Not everyone who hates feminists are failures OK
Get that in ur fish brain
Money I have seen and still seeing u won't earn it in ur lifetime and even if u are an ashi in hell in ur after life
U serve God almighty but wen its time to marry ur people must pour drinks on the ground to ur forefathers
See how stupid and double standard u are

So while u boast u are a feminist
Why not give urself out in marriage don't involve family in anyway and see if ur feminist will work
Mumu na mumu

@op read this and save your life.


I had an uncle whose wife is a medical doctor. They were financially okay because my uncle was working with the UN. He found out his wife was cheating on him with their house boy. He forgave her and continued eating her food and sleeping with her.
They lived in peace for some few years during which time she became better at concealing her adulterous acts. Suddenly, my uncle fell sick and his legs started to decay.

To make matters worse, she had him confined to a room on ground floor of the house since he was bedridden and couldn't walk. On the guise of bringing somebody to care for him, she brought in another house boy who was fvcking her steadily. My uncle died some months later. He died a sad, lonely man. Interestingly, their last child who looked every inch like his father died of a mysterious ailment some few months after his father died. The woman is still alive screwing up and down. The mistake my uncle made was not reporting her to family who would have performed some cleansing rituals. Instead he chose to keep it to himself and he paid the price.

And I guess people who can spell"urhobo"
went to urhobo school. Mumu

tiredoflife:


Cos I went to urohobo school abi
Oga go light firewood