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UyaiIncomparabl:
I'm alright.
How're you today?

CyberWolf:
OP is not really sincere. A made man looking for a wife material won’t offer to take a girl you meet at ATM stand straight away to an eatery. The girl politely told you she wants to go to the market to buy food stuff, if you really have good intention of keeping her, you would’ve collected her number and offer to call her later. From there, get to know her better, about what she do for a living, where she come from, about her family and all that before taking her out. You barely know the girl and you already arranged for her to pass the night at your place? .. See you’re a novice when it comes to girls matter and the girl already understands that perfectly so, she just want to chop your money as much as possible. You should be thankful that her boyfriend didn’t join in setting a masterplan for you, yes she definitely has a boyfriend and she is just using you.... Your pomposity is already shown with the way you reply some members here and with that kind of attitude, you won’t get a wife material other than leeches and scammers.

pansophist:
I won't jump on the bandwagon calling the girl names, but if you (op) will point fingers at her, make sure you are not blameworthy.

Asking for a date from someone whom you have no historical familiarity with is not the best idea, as both of you have no mutual base to evaluate potential compatibility, shared values and character. It is indeed, insincere to defame her for not meeting your idea of her, as you should know from the onset that anything should be expected.

Even if you didn't mean to impress her with money, the gesture of persuading her out for a meal instantaneously even when she had other plans inadvertently positioned you as someone to be exploited. You do not stock tubers in front of a goat and expect it not to be consumed.

Perhaps, you should take responsibility that your game has a glitch, and restrategize to filter the unfavourable ones, while retaining the one you desire.

IamPlato:
...


Is That So


So You Are His Love

UyaiIncomparabl:
Lol. That was an harmless convo. How're you doing Danny?

Auladimeji:
Honestly, I'm angry with you for spending 9,750 naira on a bitch

KOPT33:
Now, boys, here are the lessons I learnt from this episode

1. You must always take a lady out on a date. It doesn't matter if you spend 1k. It is one of the truest test of character and compatibilty
2. You must learn the joy that comes with knowing how to say a firm NO and stick to it
3. If a girl wants to eat your money or burden you with bills, the signs will always be there. You must look out for the signs and say no if above your capacity.
4. If you catch any weird vibes from a girl, trust your guts and bang the door on her face
5. Remember that love is not all about money. Some girls will love you to pieces for who you are, but if you want to prove you have money, there are many girls specifically designed for no other thing than for spending that your money, and your behavior will surely attract them.

KOPT33:
The money really isn't an issue. I spend more on night-outs with my guys.

The main issue I had is the complete lack of tact. Like, she didn't even feel the need to put up a good impression for me.

Many girls have something to offer, but finding them means that one must go through all these hoops.

revontuli:
You sir, managed to date a pig in human skin. I can almost hear her oink and gobble down heaps of food nonstop. Good that you ditched that gluttonous sow before she ate you too!

czarina:
This is sooo funny
How do people chug all of that on "dates". More like a binge eating party

Only broke guys complain because of bills.
Make money and bills will be scared of you, it's time y'all face the sad reality.

Hey, you're immature for bringing this online .

KOPT33:
I meet girls everywhere and I take many things at face value.

I don't why you think offering somebody something amounts to wanting to impress.

I go out all the time, people, male and female offer me stuff, it is a great way to build rapport.


Because I had this experience doesn't mean there's a glitch somewhere.

KOPT33:
Now, boys, here are the lessons I learnt from this episode

1. You must always take a lady out on a date. It doesn't matter if you spend 1k. It is one of the truest test of character and compatibilty
2. You must learn the joy that comes with knowing how to say a firm NO and stick to it
3. If a girl wants to eat your money or burden you with bills, the signs will always be there. You must look out for the signs and say no if above your capacity.
4. If you catch any weird vibes from a girl, trust your guts and bang the door on her face
5. Remember that love is not all about money. Some girls will love you to pieces for who you are, but if you want to prove you have money, there are many girls specifically designed for no other thing than for spending that your money, and your behavior will surely attract them.


Remember you are the man. Define what you want, make an allowance for a little amount of bullshit, but never wallow in bullshit.

Love is a game of numbers, and if you keep trying, you will meet a compatible person.

Bleep Chisom whose story I am about to tell below.
..........................................................................................


My longterm and serious relationship ended about three months ago when my girlfriend got an opportunity to travel to Germany for further studies. I have been lonely since then, and also in the market for a serious relationship. I have been on several dates which didn't go further. I am seriously in the market for love, and I have a set amount of money budgeted for dating, social and other 'love-hunting' activities per month.

Enter Chisom (almost her real name). I met her at the ATM when I went to withdraw money last week Thursday.

I approached her, and she was very welcoming of my advances. We spoke for a while on the ATM queue, I asked her where she was going to, she said she was hungry, and wanted to withdraw money in order to go to the market to buy foodstuffs.

I asked if she would be interested in coming with me to one amala and ogufe joint since I was headed there. She said great. So we went there to order food. Usually, whenever I go to that joint, I spend not more than N1500 on a meal. So I asked Chisom to order, and she ordered food of N3200. In my mind, I was okay, this doesn't feel right, but let it pass. It is the thing we do for love, right?

So I went home and all through the week, we spoke a few times and arranged to have a proper date night on Wednesday after work, and then she will crash in my house and go to work from there the next morning.

Wednesday came, we went to a lounge opposite my street which I frequent both for the food and atmosphere.

Chisom came looking tattered, like she didn't even feel the need to make a good impression. I let it slide because I felt it was because of her work (she's an engineer's assistant). After a little while, I asked if she would like to order food and drink, she said yes.

I called the waiter to bring the menu, I ordered one large shawarma and chips with 1 bottle of water = N1850

Now what did Chisom order?

1. Cow leg peppersoup
2. Barbecue chicken and chips
3. 3 shots of whisky
4. 1 large hollandia yogurt

Everything = N6550

Whoa dude!

We ate on and made light conversation. I picked her brain and the more we talk, the more I was happy I brought her out on a date as a means of evaluating aspects of her character.

When we'd finished eating, and I was trying to enter serious conversation with her, she kept looking at the food service area, ignoring me. She then said:

"Dear, those pies are calling me," I told her to ignore the pies.

"Dear, the chicken burgers are calling me."

"Ignore the chicken burgers"

"Dear, won't you buy me a burger?"

"No, I think I am over the limit of what I budgeted for food"

"Dear, those chicken fillets must be really hot"

"Yes, they might you -- feel free to order some for us."

In my mind I was like so this is what guys mean when they say some girls are hungry.


I ended the night early (after the food, we were meant to hang out in the lounge's club until 1 am). I told her I wasn't feeling well.

I walked her to her street, and hugged her, said my bye. She then said:

"Is it only bye-bye you will tell me?"

I thought she maybe wanted a goodnight kiss, so I leant to kiss her, she pushed my face away and (I kid you not) said "give me money for taking me out na"

I bluntly told her "I have been spending money and time on you since we met, the least you could do is be grateful and less demanding".

With that said, I turned around, and walked the short distance to my street. Blocked her contacts everywhere, and sent her a text message that read: "Dear, thanks for coming out tonight. I caught some really strange vibes from you and I won't be talking to you anymore. Good luck in life."

cc:
Mynd44 -- can this make heaven?
Ishilove
Biacan
lalasticlala -- promise land, please.

Ioannes:
The story sounds made up. Imagine!

Cow leg peppersoup, Barbecue chicken and chips, 3 shots of whisky and 1 large hollandia yogurt

And on top of that she could still see meat pie and burgers winking at her?

I'm sure the op exaggerated.

UyaiIncomparabl:
That's an eyesore. I'm a Lady and I'm not gonna be biased in anyway. I feel ashamed when I read stuffs about dates gone wrong with a shaming character exhibited from girls. It's annoying.

I do not pass my limits when I'm invited for dates. In fact, I get scared of going to dates. I do not need someone to have a wrong perception of me or to use me as a centre of discussion amongst friends. I order what you order or even less. This story right here is what you get when you follow leeches, broke and hungry girls. Ladies need to give themselves self respect. Well, KOPT33, you bleeped up, immediately she amounted those damn bills, you shoulda shared it amongst you two.

I don't want to be too judgmental, but if I find out that as a girl, you have nothing or less to offer, you possess those attributes, I completely cut off. I can't be carrying two burdens at once. One reason why I do not keep female friends. A fragment of them have little/less to offer. I still await that one that'll surprise me.

KOPT33:
Now, boys, here are the lessons I learnt from this episode

1. You must always take a lady out on a date. It doesn't matter if you spend 1k. It is one of the truest test of character and compatibilty
2. You must learn the joy that comes with knowing how to say a firm NO and stick to it
3. If a girl wants to eat your money or burden you with bills, the signs will always be there. You must look out for the signs and say no if above your capacity.
4. If you catch any weird vibes from a girl, trust your guts and bang the door on her face
5. Remember that love is not all about money. Some girls will love you to pieces for who you are, but if you want to prove you have money, there are many girls specifically designed for no other thing than for spending that your money, and your behavior will surely attract them.


Remember you are the man. Define what you want, make an allowance for a little amount of bullshit, but never wallow in bullshit.

Love is a game of numbers, and if you keep trying, you will meet a compatible person.

Bleep Chisom whose story I am about to tell below.
..........................................................................................


My longterm and serious relationship ended about three months ago when my girlfriend got an opportunity to travel to Germany for further studies. I have been lonely since then, and also in the market for a serious relationship. I have been on several dates which didn't go further. I am seriously in the market for love, and I have a set amount of money budgeted for dating, social and other 'love-hunting' activities per month.

Enter Chisom (almost her real name). I met her at the ATM when I went to withdraw money last week Thursday.

I approached her, and she was very welcoming of my advances. We spoke for a while on the ATM queue, I asked her where she was going to, she said she was hungry, and wanted to withdraw money in order to go to the market to buy foodstuffs.

I asked if she would be interested in coming with me to one amala and ogufe joint since I was headed there. She said great. So we went there to order food. Usually, whenever I go to that joint, I spend not more than N1500 on a meal. So I asked Chisom to order, and she ordered food of N3200. In my mind, I was okay, this doesn't feel right, but let it pass. It is the thing we do for love, right?

So I went home and all through the week, we spoke a few times and arranged to have a proper date night on Wednesday after work, and then she will crash in my house and go to work from there the next morning.

Wednesday came, we went to a lounge opposite my street which I frequent both for the food and atmosphere.

Chisom came looking tattered, like she didn't even feel the need to make a good impression. I let it slide because I felt it was because of her work (she's an engineer's assistant). After a little while, I asked if she would like to order food and drink, she said yes.

I called the waiter to bring the menu, I ordered one large shawarma and chips with 1 bottle of water = N1850

Now what did Chisom order?

1. Cow leg peppersoup
2. Barbecue chicken and chips
3. 3 shots of whisky
4. 1 large hollandia yogurt

Everything = N6550

Whoa dude!

We ate on and made light conversation. I picked her brain and the more we talk, the more I was happy I brought her out on a date as a means of evaluating aspects of her character.

When we'd finished eating, and I was trying to enter serious conversation with her, she kept looking at the food service area, ignoring me. She then said:

"Dear, those pies are calling me," I told her to ignore the pies.

"Dear, the chicken burgers are calling me."

"Ignore the chicken burgers"

"Dear, won't you buy me a burger?"

"No, I think I am over the limit of what I budgeted for food"

"Dear, those chicken fillets must be really hot"

"Yes, they might you -- feel free to order some for us."

In my mind I was like so this is what guys mean when they say some girls are hungry.


I ended the night early (after the food, we were meant to hang out in the lounge's club until 1 am). I told her I wasn't feeling well.

I walked her to her street, and hugged her, said my bye. She then said:

"Is it only bye-bye you will tell me?"

I thought she maybe wanted a goodnight kiss, so I leant to kiss her, she pushed my face away and (I kid you not) said "give me money for taking me out na"

I bluntly told her "I have been spending money and time on you since we met, the least you could do is be grateful and less demanding".

With that said, I turned around, and walked the short distance to my street. Blocked her contacts everywhere, and sent her a text message that read: "Dear, thanks for coming out tonight. I caught some really strange vibes from you and I won't be talking to you anymore. Good luck in life."

cc:
Mynd44 -- can this make heaven?
Ishilove
Biacan
lalasticlala -- promise land, please.

KOPT33:
I don't have any proof but I can tell you that my story is 99% accurate. I changed names and did not mention some identifying details. But the story is as true as can be.

Rayhandrinni:
love, do you live in lagos?

UyaiIncomparabl:
Yup. Anything?

UyaiIncomparabl:
That's an eyesore. I'm a Lady and I'm not gonna be biased in anyway. I feel ashamed when I read stuffs about dates gone wrong with a shaming character exhibited from girls. It's annoying.

I do not pass my limits when I'm invited for dates. In fact, I get scared of going to dates. I do not need someone to have a wrong perception of me or to use me as a centre of discussion amongst friends. I order what you order or even less. This story right here is what you get when you follow leeches, broke and hungry girls. Ladies need to give themselves self respect. Well, KOPT33, you bleeped up, immediately she amounted those damn bills, you shoulda shared it amongst you two.

I don't want to be too judgmental, but if I find out that as a girl, you have nothing or less to offer, you possess those attributes, I completely cut off. I can't be carrying two burdens at once. One reason why I do not keep female friends. A fragment of them have little/less to offer. I still await that one that'll surprise me.

CAPSLOCKED:
STATEMENT JUST PROVED TONS OF CLUMSY GUYS ON NAIRALAND RIGHT.
ESPECIALLY THEIR RINGLEADER; DONSTAN18.

CAPSLOCKED:
STATEMENT JUST PROVED TONS OF CLUMSY GUYS ON NAIRALAND RIGHT.
ESPECIALLY THEIR RINGLEADER; DONSTAN18.

UyaiIncomparabl:
That's an eyesore. I'm a Lady and I'm not gonna be biased in anyway. I feel ashamed when I read stuffs about dates gone wrong with a shaming character exhibited from girls. It's annoying.

I do not pass my limits when I'm invited for dates. In fact, I get scared of going to dates. I do not need someone to have a wrong perception of me or to use me as a centre of discussion amongst friends. I order what you order or even less. This story right here is what you get when you follow leeches, broke and hungry girls. Ladies need to give themselves self respect. Well, KOPT33, you bleeped up, immediately she amounted those damn bills, you shoulda shared it amongst you two.

I don't want to be too judgmental, but if I find out that as a girl, you have nothing or less to offer, you possess those attributes, I completely cut off. I can't be carrying two burdens at once. One reason why I do not keep female friends. A fragment of them have little/less to offer. I still await that one that'll surprise me.