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Divay22:
My kids won't have any bestie other than me and their father.
I'll make them so free with me to tell anything and everything.

Damn
Reading all these is just heartbreaking

true talk and never overlook their little acusation about any "anty"

Offpoint:
I've finally see someone who reason like me, how can shít that happened like 10-20 years ago affects your sex life?

They were molested by female, I was molested by both gender as a guy... my uncle son made me suck his dìck for straight 1 year while I was 7, no one would believed me.

My grandpop last wife daughter, made me her intimacy gadget at 8, she kept doing that shít until I moved out of the village then.

At 10 I still face same shīt from my uncle's daughter, she was 15 or so.. this was the worst of 'em all cuz I was to share bed with her. she molested me almost every night until I left her dad place at 12.

None of these shít affects my sex life, I've done all I can to get rid of the psychological trauma and I've overcome it.

All this niggas with feminine attitude. One said his aunt was always making him suck her breasts when he was young so he grew up hating girls with big breast. Lol. Breast and toto is now a cause of depression. It's ok

robosky02:
true talk and never overlook their little acusation about any "anty"

Noted. Thanks

eosigwe:
All this nigga with feminine attitude. Some said he's aunt was always making him suck her breasts when he was young so he grew up hating girls with big breast. Lol. Breast and toto is now a cause of depression. It's ok

Lol, I think they just wanna trend online... it might be the opposite in reality.

toyflare:
Warning! Long post alert!
Men get molested, and we hide it because it's either unbelievable or sounds ridiculous. My life as a kid until adulthood wasn't funny at all. First, it was the neighbor's housemaid, I was about 7 at that time and my parents were busy with work so I had to stay at my neighbor's house after school till our house maid is back from school. One day I went there, the maid called me into the kid's room and took away my clothes, made me lay down and did things I didn't understand as a child. It was confusing, and I really didn't understand what she was doing but I remember she was on top of me unclad swinging back and forth. This continued after a while, then I told mom. She didn't understand me, so I stopped going there myself and our maid told my mom she met me outside when she came back from school. I guess this made her believe me, so I had to wait in school then.

Then I was molested again by my own friend f4cking best friend turned gay! I was 10 then, and my friend was 6 years older. He was enrolled in a boarding school, I guess he learned the shit from there. When he came back he would always come to the house as usual when I noticed when we play, he touched my genitals and I wasn't comfortable with it. One day I went to his house, he was alone and locked up the place, said he wants to show me something in the room and I followed him. He went to the kitchen and brought a knife, told me to take off all my clothes or he will stab me. I was like haha very funny and he started swinging the knife and told me he joined a cult group and I shouldn't dare him. I was scared as fvck, took my clothes off with speed, he ordered me to lay on the bed and started the thing (can't go into detail cause it makes me sick) but I cried so much. Then after it he was like don't worry, you will start enjoying it soon. So I stopped going to his house but he kept coming to my house and I would lock my self inside the room and my dad will come knocking that my friend is here and I should come out. Then he started begging me that his not in any cult group, but was attracted to him. I didn't care to listen to him! So one day he came with a fancy toy and told my Lil bro he got it for him, but won't give it to him unless I followed him home. So my Lil bro asked me to go get the toy for him and I refused so he started crying, I couldn't tell him what was going on. He was very little at that time and wanted his toy, so I agreed to go, but my plan was to take the toy and fight with my friend if he tried anything stupid , so I went with my brother (my friend lives across the street) but when we got there he insisted I come in alone or he won't give it to me. My brother was like okay I'm going home . So I went in and he locked the door, I asked him for the toy and he said he won't give it to me unless I let him touch me again, I said no!!! And headed for the door, he grabbed me and pushed me to the chair I tried pushing him off but he was very much stronger than I was. Long story short, he did it again, gave me to the toy, I went to him, gave it to Lil bro and he hugged me. I went into the room and cried seriously asking God to forgive me. But it didn't stop here, it continued for years until I got older and strong enough and fought him one day before it all ended. Up till now, I still haven't told my brother what really happened.

Then again 3 years ago I was raped by my church group leader! I won't mention the church. This woman is married and older than my own mother! All her 3 kids are schooling in the UK! Her husband is a manager in one of the top oil companies ( Name withheld). At my workplace, I was working in the customer care sector and meet clients daily. Lots of sugar mummy's wanted me to be there son, some told me directly others where hiding about it but opened up later. This woman was just good to me and at the same time always preaching to me about Jesus so I didn't suspect her in any way. She invited me to her church because I just moved to the state recently and didn't have a church at that time. So I started worshipping at her church, so one day she invited me to her house fellowship and I went, after the fellowship she asked me to wait behind so I could help her tidy the place and I did before I left she gave me 4k for TP, I refused but she insisted so I took it. I kept going for house fellowship every week and she always gave me TP (4k, 6k, 10k). Every time I asked her why she gave me so much just for transport, she will say she's encouraging me because she knew I wasn't earning much.
So one day I went for house fellowship, as usual, I stayed behind to arrange the place, then took the plates to the kitchen. I noticed someone walk into the kitchen and turned off the light I was like, ma did you off the light? She said yes. I said okay... But I'm still using it, she didn't answer me and kept walking close to me then suddenly hugged me. I just stood, and was like ma is there any problem, she said no! And kept hugging me. After a while she let me go and I rushed off the kitchen and started gathering my stuff to go home. But when I wanted to open the door, I noticed it was locked! I searched for the keys and it wasn't where it supposed to be. I started calling for her and told her I couldn't find the keys, she said she kept it in her daughter's room I should go there and take it. I went there to look for it but couldn't find the keys, so I told her and she said she's coming to get it but she didn't come out, she was inside her room and refused to answer me. I stood there thinking of what to do next, then my girlfriend started calling me! I told her I just left the fellowship and she was shouting at me that it's almost 11 pm and I'm not back yet, I pleaded with her that we had a meeting blah blah blah. I ended the calling and started calling madam to come open her door let me go home for christ sake. The woman no gree, I called my roommate and told him the situation of things and he told me not to worry, I shouldn't answer my girlfriends call again, he will call her and tell her my phone was stolen and they beat me up but I'm home sleeping.
I was there waiting in the sitting room till past twelve before she opened the door almost unclad and was smiling at me. At this moment I was already angry asked her to open the door let me go and she started shouting at me before I knew it she slapped me! And my body went cold instantly. She said I should forget about going home today except I do what she says. Then the next minute she started begging me that she's sorry, she's lonely and needed someone to talk to. I couldn't say anything, as she was begging her hands were already going inside my Jeans. I was like Ma please I beg you in the name of God please stop let me go. I started preaching to her that she's married and this is evil the woman stood up and started crying that she's sorry it's the devil's hand work.
At that point, I thought everything was fine but I need to leave immediately! She told me the key is in her child's room and where to get it. I didn't trust going into that room alone, but I went anyway, the key wasn't where she said it was. And I as I was about leaving the room to go tell her, she's already at the door, then walked in and closed the door. She told me I can't go, and she hasn't had sex in a long time, so If I don't want her to tell her husband I raped her I should allow her do what she wants or she will call her husband and scream on the phone.
My eyes flashed before my eyes again, I tried talking to her again and she started calling him on the phone and put it on speaker phone so I can see she's not playing about it. I thought of going to prison and losing my job and worse ending up in the news. Then I accepted on the condition we use protection, she already had everything with her, even a lubricant! Then I knew she planned the whole thing. The sad truth is at that time I was still a virgin and never had sex with a woman.

Again sorry for the long post, but before you ask what's the name of this movie I really don't care if you believe it or not! And if you think it has no physiological effect then you're very wrong. I'm very withdrawn and find it extremely difficult to trust anyone. I have no friends! I don't ever near a church or want to hear anything about churches. (she attends a big church and I see her on TV sometimes singing praises). The moment I see an older woman I look at you in disgust, and before you say anything I'm already hating you. It's been years and I'm battling depression, so I need sleeping pills to sleep properly. At some point, I turned to drugs and later stopped because of its effects physiologically.
Being forced against your will to have sex is rape! And men get raped too and I don't think it's fun when it's a woman your mother's age and if that's a fantasy for you then you need to get your brain examined.

Bros,

I feel for you......hindsight is a better teacher.
1. You should have called your gf again and put it on speaker and threaten madam.......tell your gf to report at the police and bring them over
2. You should have called her bluff and allowed her to call her husband. It was better you dealt with accusation than allow yourself to be abused. I have always told myself that if any lady threatens to shout and accuse me of attempted rape, I will tell her to simply go on and do so. I will tell the crowd to please take me to the Police station so that I can be properly "arrested". I will tell the police that I requested to be brought to the station as I deem it a better alternative to get myself off the hook.
3. You mean you cannot physically knock her out and break the door?

Kaycee7:
Thought you're vehemently opposed to molesting the girl child. Well, it will interest you to know that most of those pedophiles are victims that did not have their cases attended to. They don't even know that they're just propagating a heinous cycle. But of course, you think men sharing their experiences is just weak guys seeking sympathy.

no, I'm not against mehn sharing their experiences. I shared mine as well. I'm against using it as an excuse for your sexual problems. The trauma is not as bad as that please. A woman actually started that thread so I expect guys to jump in and look for sympathy. Share your experience and get out. Don't say it made you impotent. It's a lie

aragon4realz:
I was molested when I was 7 by our house help,7 by my sisters friend who is 25 pretty with big boobs, 10 by my lesson teacher but the truth is I enjoyed them all and asked for more like Oliver twist, don't hate me for this

I completely understand the enjoyment part.. But as you grow older you realize how too soon it was for u to get engaged in such 'enjoyment'

mapet:
Bros,

I feel for you......hindsight is a better teacher.
1. You should have called your gf again and put it on speaker and threaten madam.......tell your gf to report at the police and bring them over
2. You should have called her bluff and allowed her to call her husband. It was better you dealt with accusation than allow yourself to be abused. I have always told myself that if any lady threatens to shout and accuse me of attempted rape, I will tell her to simply go on and do so. I will tell the crowd to please take me to the Police station so that I can be properly "arrested". I will tell the police that I requested to be brought to the station as I deem it a better alternative to get myself off the hook.
3. You mean you cannot physically knock her out and break the door?

he said he was virgin. It was a good opportunity to explore. Forget those things he's saying. He's looking for sympathy

Bullhari007:
@12 my friends paid Olosho #200 to disvirgin me, after that, I became an Expert on totology , b4 mom forced marriage on me, I have chop more than 300 kpomo , different sizes and varies... I'm in earlier 30s , successful in business, with beautiful wife and 4kids, but not done with women I'm thinking of marrying wife No2 from Calabar or kogi I heard their women are $ex-maniac , I need someone to equal my prowess on bed.. my wife prefer co-wife than side Chick

your matter strong o bros

eosigwe:
he said he was virgin. It was a good opportunity to explore. Forget those things he's saying. He's looking for sympathy

Why are you hell bent on making others' submission too far reaching. Were you there when it happened? It is because of people like you that a lot of men die in silence. We are not all built the same, our mental strength differs, some are very strong and others are just trying to hang in there.
Heck! There are people who later develop mental issues which are not even sexually related. I am very sure you will dismiss this kind of cases because you don't understand what they are going through.

On another issue concerning the sexual problems emanating from early sexual abuse in life, why do you feel it is false? So you think sexual problem in male is just limited to erectile dysfunction? What of the physiological aspect of sex? Let's even take a step back, what if the toddler contracts an incurable disease? Like HPV, HIV etc.

Bros abeg! Try to view the world from others view point and stop making other men feel any less of a man because they ain't built up like you.

scotweezy:
Bros abeg! Try to view the world from others view point and stop making other men feel any less of a man because they ain't built up like you.

OK. Thanks for your input. God bless you

eosigwe:
OK. Thanks for your input. God bless you

Same to you bro! One love.

Ellabae:
wish I could hold u right now nd tell u it's gonna be fine. Jst be strong dear.

haba! aunty!! hold him? do you want to molest him again?

Kimcutie:
Females think is only them that's molested.

I'm female but i don't think so. This happened to one boy when we were growing up, their maid was molesting him and he spoke up. Even females molest other female children too,it happened to me but i never spoke up.

SOME WOMEN BELEIVE DAT D BEST WAY 2 DISCIPLINE A CHILD IS 2 SIT ON DEM

Amhappy:
I'm female but i don't think so. This happened to one boy when we were growing up, their maid was molesting him and he spoke up. Even females molest other female children too,it happened to me but i never spoke up.

Really...how?

eosigwe:
but all this niggaz saying they can't get over it.. like WTF... how? you were molested at the age of 4,5,6,7 or even 8 and right now you are 28, 29, 30+ and you saying you can't get over it, you hate women, your John Tommy does not erect, you have lost confidence, yen yen yen. That is total bullshit. Total crap. You guys are weak. You have erectile dysfunction. Quit excessive masturbation. Those situations you experienced as a child are not the cause of your sexual problems right now. I was seriously molested by our househelp for 4 years. Between 4 and 8 years. If I hear say I never get over am. So much weakness in the world mehn. Everyone's seeking sympathy.

Modified.

Please for those misquoting me, I do not support such abominable act. Child molestation is totally wrong. Be it a male child or a female child. It's completely wrong. Offenders should be severely punished. But that you were wrongly touched at 4 and you cannot perform your sexual duty at 34, that is not the cause. You should seek treatment.

Dude, nobody ever gets over sexual abuse. No matter how old you think you are or how long ago the incident was. In some severe cases the experience is so traumatic the brain represses those memories only to resurface later in life

SavoG:
I was sexually molested by my cousin who is female too. Just so she doesnt tell her mum that i was being molested sexually by a man in the compound they lived. Have been sexually molested by many people while growing up but i usually just accept it and move on, perhaps because i didnt really read meaning into sexual activities. Now am indifferent to sex. Could sleep with anybody without having any sort of attachment. Also i can sleep with any gender though by reason of maturity and being saved by God have given up on all those stuffs.

Looking at this thread closely,I'm of the opinion that contrary to my earlier standview I think my several molestation experience has made me see ladies as intimacy gadgets.

Any lady I roll with don't ever want to go cos I treat them like toys, I mean I just do crazy things with their bodies and I could give a lady a head for as long as possible, finger them,make them squirt and cum and make love to them in crazy positions.

So yes I think sexual molestation affect the victims in different ways but thank GOD that since I gave my life to Jesus I have stopped all the sexual recklessness.

May GOD heal all the victims.

my step mum abused me for long maltreated me and beat me in the process. now me and her son are very close.

WavesOfGlory:
Most men will go to the grave with their stories. Others were even led to believe that it's because they were fine boys that's why the Aunty was always bribing them with kisses and small touch touch for errands... they go through the rest of their lives with "fineboy" arrogance.

It's not just aunties or sisters or friends of the family but male cousins and head boys....

Maybe I'm still dealing with them, maybe I'll get over it someday or maybe I'll be comfortable sharing later in the future....but I'm not ready now

eosigwe:
your matter strong o bros

walihi village people use that thing swear for me

MISEDUCATIONS:
i was barely grade 5 when two older girls forced themselves on me and my friend. i remember i bled because they tried to pull back the foreskin but it was too tight around my pènìs head. may God help men.

Foreskin? Which part of the world is this and how did you manage to remain uncut?

guys love keeping things to their self, like seriously, we suffer more of this then the females, just that we are always strong to overcome

Pedophiles everywhere

From the thread majority of the culprit so far are relatives and house helps. This is a lesson for all parents

HaileSelassie:
I completely understand the enjoyment part.. But as you grow older you realize how too soon it was for u to get engaged in such 'enjoyment'

the earlier the better...we are still riding hard and strong since 1991

Nobody deserves their innocence to be taken away especially by those you love and trusted and it even hurts more when it’s any member of your family. May God heal and comfort any victim of sexual abuse.

MISEDUCATIONS:
dont you think that this macho attitude is the reason black men make up the biggest number of rapists? that they need therapy because they dont even see they are sick mentally and emotionally??

Black men make highest number of rapists? How did you come about that? Na wa o!

Bullhari007:
@12 my friends paid Olosho #200 to disvirgin me, after that, I became an Expert on totology , b4 mom forced marriage on me, I have chop more than 300 kpomo , different sizes and varies... I'm in earlier 30s , successful in business, with beautiful wife and 4kids, but not done with women I'm thinking of marrying wife No2 from Calabar or kogi I heard their women are $ex-maniac , I need someone to equal my prowess on bed.. my wife prefer co-wife than side Chick

did i hear you say kogi


Which part of kogi exactly are you talking about?

mykelswa:
my step mum abused me for long maltreated me and beat me in the process. now me and her son are very close.

We are talking sexual abuse not beating

tiger2080:
I was molested at the age of 7yrs by my neighbour 3 sister Juliet, caro,Kate we were so close then they eat in my house an I also eat there.they watch film in my house too.when nobody is at home they take me inside their room to act b.f.I remembered all what was going on they will pull my short nika and suck my dick made me sleep on them an insert my dick inside their pussy.you no by then I don't usually release sperm because I was so young they will Bleep me round till my dick got red,kiss me, suck an lick me. gave me malt an milk.i could not tell anybody this even my parents.I later got over it until the girls now started school an later we pack out of d compound.the other girl was an ss2 girl by then I was 9yrs she was 17yrs.she will tell how handsome I am that she like me sometimes she wll tell other student that am her brother. she protected me when I was in school and does not let other senior student to flog me.she Bleep me inside d garden,class after closen,and also took me to her house when her parent not at home.she Bleep d living hell at of me an she gave me money 24hrs buy me ice cream,eggroll,meat pie so many.her name was ife. but am grown up now.

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