pcguru1:


Very hard especially an adult. But young male being raped by female is not uncommon, just that men bottle up much more.

sure ...female adults do molest male kids but its kinder rare.

lefulefu:
sure ...female adults do molest male kids but its kinder rare.

Unreported not rare

MISEDUCATIONS:
im Zimbabwe we dont cut foreskins of babies. the boy must choose to when he is of age.

Really? Wish my wife and society can understand leaving a kid to decide and not think i joined a cult or using my kids destinies for ritual or whatever comes to their mind.

MrMacinterchi1:


He once mentioned being from Zimbabwe. And, most male are uncut. Don't see it as a new thing.

[quote author=MISEDUCATIONS post=70957441] Are you also from Zimbabwe? Uncut is not usual over here. Nigeria people think u r primitive or from an abominable religion

MISEDUCATIONS:
google is your friend

You cough out silly statistics and claim you found it on Google? Na wa o!
So Google is the authority you are quoting?

TEYA:

You cough out silly statistics and claim you found it on Google? Na wa o!
So Google is the authority you are quoting?

which other source is above Google?

Adakintroy:


Just because of something that happen when I was almost half consciouse. Something I can barely remember in detail. Before something can get a strong hold over ones mind as you love to say it. That person must have dwelled on event long enough.

I never dwelled on it. I only remembered it owing to the now convversation. Not bitter even as am remembering it. So we're does the shatter glass thing come from


Aunty pls leave me..am fine. Am a black man. I don't have a job now. That is what is on my mind.

Bro this people are to plenty to be wrong

Let's be honest.....if it was a man that had molested you, u for humble.....bro just chill abeg.....abi u never hear "train a child in the way of the Lord, when he grows up he won't depart from it" .....There is a reason for that statement

MISEDUCATIONS:
which other source is above Google?

I just saw your moniker now and I decided to walk away.

[quote author=jmichael259 post=70964589]

Really? Wish my wife and society can understand leaving a kid to decide and not think i joined a cult or using my kids destinies for ritual or whatever comes to their

[quote author=MrMacinterchi1 post=70964940]

jmichael259:


Really? Wish my wife and society can understand leaving a kid to decide and not think i joined a cult or using my kids destinies for ritual or whatever comes to their mind.

Lol. I'm a Nigerian bro. I was speaking generally on the uncut stuff. I know how we perceive thing here in Nigeria. Just like u are now, I was bewildered when I first heard about others from different race and countries not being cut.


Some whites are not, same with Indians too. The guy from Zimbabwe said that they do not cut babies when they are born; that they are given the chance to choose whether to get cut or not.
It's weird but things work differently in many place.

I'm cut and I like it just fine and it's more attractive to me than seeing those uncut. it looks weird to me but I guess not so to them.

NigPatriot:

Why do you chat like a dumb person?

you sound really smart.

TEYA:

I just saw your moniker now and I decided to walk away.

excuses everywhere.... i laugh

MrMacinterchi1:



Lol. I'm a Nigerian bro. I was speaking generally on the uncut stuff. I know how we perceive thing here in Nigeria. Just like u are now, I was bewildered when I first heard about others from different race and countries not being cut.


Some whites are not, same with Indians too. The guy from Zimbabwe said that they do not cut babies when they are born; that they are given the chance to choose whether to get cut or not.
It's weird but things work differently in many place.

I'm cut and I like it just fine and it's more attractive to me than seeing those uncut. it looks weird to me but I guess not so to them.

Yeah, i just do not want to give my kids a permanent scar. Let them choose for themselves. I have researched health and biblical records. It was a sacrifice for jews who lived before Jesus to gain access to his ransom. It is not a must for christianity and has no health advantage. Many have deformities or erectile dysfunction from circumcision. I DON'T HATE BEING CUT BUT WISH I KNEW WHAT UNCUT FEELS LIKE THEN I DECIDE.

SavoG:
I was sexually molested by my cousin who is female too. Just so she doesnt tell her mum that i was being molested sexually by a man in the compound they lived. Have been sexually molested by many people while growing up but i usually just accept it and move on, perhaps because i didnt really read meaning into sexual activities. Now am indifferent to sex. Could sleep with anybody without having any sort of attachment. Also i can sleep with any gender though by reason of maturity and being saved by God have given up on all those stuffs.

Offpoint:

Anyways, I wish anyone going through that shít quick recovery, cuz I believe the more you keep carrying it the more damage it's gonna done to you, the more it's gonna consume you and if care is not taken... it's gonna make you a monster.

Any idea where they can drop it?

eosigwe:
you sound really smart.

If it was a man that fvcked you and made you his bitch at that same age, will you be talking about being a man right now?

Admin401:
If it was a man that fvcked you and made you his bitch at that same age, will you be talking about being a man right now?

you going off the topic bro. But thanks anyways. I appreciate your mention.

hahahahahaha:
Any idea where they can drop it?

It's gotta be things of the mind, first of all - forgiveness. that's step one.

letterman:


worse

pocohantas:
Cold thread.

How can someone say she never knew males are sexually abused? You think women are angels or you just want to play ostrich?

It is advisable to see a therapist. It helps to talk about it.

Am not here to praise but I like your honesty post. I told a lady that was doubting this male molestation and rape on male child that if she wants to be sure, she should or somebody should raise a topic on male child molestation and rape, guys will surely talk.
Don't want to mention her and I known she has done that to a male child and she's reading all the post.

I am a victim, 3 maids raped me and my mother said its a lie.
I can remember everything, the way it happened and has being affecting me psychological even till date. it's not an easy stuff to clear off the mind.

Parents should listen to their male child and protect them because when it happens their is no evidence of blood flow unlike a female child to accuse the maid, aunt or mother. All this makes the male child to be thinking about sex even as an adult because they have being exposed to sexual life content at a tender age and worst is that nobody believe them rather put it as " didn't you enjoy it " saying which usually comes from ladies.
The only thing is just a therapist to help out.

Sierusvirus:

Am not here to praise but I like your honesty post. I told a lady that was doubting this male molestation and rape on male child that if she wants to be sure, she should or somebody should raise a topic on male child molestation and rape, guys will surely talk.
Don't want to mention her and I known she has done that to a male child and she's reading all the post.

I am a victim, 3 maids raped me and my mother said its a lie.
I can remember everything, the way it happened and has being affecting me psychological even till date. it's not an easy stuff to clear off the mind.

Parents should listen to their male child and protect them because when it happens their is no evidence of blood flow unlike a female child to accuse the maid, aunt or mother. All this makes the male child to be thinking about sex even as an adult because they have being exposed to sexual life content at a tender age and worst is that nobody believe them rather put it as " didn't you enjoy it " saying which usually comes from ladies.
The only thing is just a therapist to help out.

Sorry about your experience. You can't be so sure she has done that to anyone. Maybe she just like some other think the rate of male rape is negligible or can be pushed aside.

I know someone who was a victim and he speaks bitterly about it, even though he is in his late twenties. I honestly do not think any parent would tolerate the abuse of their male child. Boys should be encouraged to speak out. Parents can only act when their kids report such. You should see a therapist. Sorry you had to go through that.

jmichael259:


Yeah, i just do not want to give my kids a permanent scar. Let them choose for themselves. I have researched health and biblical records. It was a sacrifice for jews who lived before Jesus to gain access to his ransom. It is not a must for christianity and has no health advantage. Many have deformities or erectile dysfunction from circumcision. I DON'T HATE BEING CUT BUT WISH I KNEW WHAT UNCUT FEELS LIKE THEN I DECIDE.

That's it bro. We share the same beliefs with the Jews, especially Christians. The cut heals up when still an infant and the pains fade away in infantcy as they will never recall the pains of the cut. I would say it's better being cut then in infancy than latter in adulthood. The mare thought of it will discourage one from getting cut, if they wish too. lol.

If the circumcision was handled by non professional, then, surely there will be deformities. So, it's best to get it done professionally to avoid infections and possible deformities.

The foreskin keeps the "little man's" head less sensitive and is a form of protection to the head.
Uncut folks risks infections when not hygienic. So, they are always cautious about washing their "little man" to keep it cool. That's why it was considered unclean by most people.

All is well when proper care is taken, for both cut and uncut folks.

Arondizuogu:


Shebi you go marry born pikin, both boys and girls! May they be severely raped and molested by friends and family!!

May Your journey to hell be expedited

SGR1:


lol point me to the best of them all.... Mention the local gov area or community

my bag are packed and ready just waiting for your direction lol

Hahahaha make I go come back first I go gist you

Wow! This thread is truly eye opening. To every guy who shared their experience, I am so sorry that happened to you

I really do feel sorry for men

From what I see male cases of sexual abuse is widespread but largely unreported because society tells men to be strong and suck up anything negative. This is why men keep their problem to themselves and I also believe it's why men have a higher suicide rate.

Things need to change. This is sad

tomdon:



May Your journey to hell be expedited

You don already reach hell! See you, see Lucifer! Empty vessel!!

Bullhari007:
Hahahaha make I go come back first I go gist you

am waiting......

eosigwe:
no, I'm not against mehn sharing their experiences. I shared mine as well. I'm against using it as an excuse for your sexual problems. The trauma is not as bad as that please. A woman actually started that thread so I expect guys to jump in and look for sympathy. Share your experience and get out. Don't say it made you impotent. It's a lie

Sincerely, I advise you remove that your first comment about undermining the side effects of these experiences to these guys. This is a pure psychological issue and you are here weighing which pains or doesn't pains or makes sense or not. Like seriously?

Come off it pls.

What else would inspire a group of women, married and unmarried to just sight a boy of less than 10yrs old and then take turns with much joy at him and sexually abused him if not demons inside of them? Serious demonic possession!!!


The feminists are absent as well. There's a blank part of the psyche they have, that these kinds of revelation needs to full up, but they block it out and refuse to address it cos it doesn't appeal to the parasympathetic part of their brains, which would defy the pure impure logic that only ladies are suffering unimaginable things. I'm disappointed at y'all. Y'all are a bunch of hypocrites!!! Identity Unveiled!!!!


Funny enough, this very issue was raised two years ago on Nairaland, and one popular nairalander that i had respect for then opined that if a guy cums when raped by a lady, then it's no longer rape. All the respect I had for him from my guestmode era to my being a member of 6yrs went down the drain. Men also are part of the problem/reason why men that experience this don't come out. Men will vilify and mock and insult such men as weaklings, vegetables, etc cos they are "supposed to man up" and brush such off and "enjoy" life. Now that's the first issue.


In Ibadan almost a decade ago, a young boy in ss3 that was always acting like a girl opened up to me(A Levels) cos he saw I was "the only reasonable person around"


He was molested by an aunt that later won a beauty pageant in Abj. I was observant to notice he was all defensive and locked up when around girls, Pretty girls that likes him flocked to him, but he hated them with cruel hatred. If only a girl and him are about to be left in a class that seats 70 students, he gets all red alert and leaves. This was before he confessed. And ladies like boys that are handsome, but W doesn't give an eff. He was ready to stay single till he does, but I had to encourage him that it's not a good choice.


Everyday he got bullied by his fellow guys cos he was always looking and acting girly or not doing stuff guys were supposed to do. Yet when it's time for Physics and Further maths, they'll all flock round him to teach them.


What a world!!


All these Anties that would just be acting strange with their nephews and young boys.


It respects no age or class or women. Alhaja o, pastor Mrs o, principal o, headmistress o, teacher o, banker, etc all do such evil to young boys, but society expects these guys to man up. But we don't hear the word "woman up" anywhere.

Judgement Day will really be a very scary event.

RayJinble:



Bro this people are to plenty to be wrong

Let's be honest.....if it was a man that had molested you, u for humble.....bro just chill abeg.....abi u never hear "train a child in the way of the Lord, when he grows up he won't depart from it" .....There is a reason for that statement

Am not attacking anyone friend. Am not in support myself. I was only defending and angle she was coming from. It was a personal intechange. As this subject, I am wholly against any from of molestation. If you read my initial post you will see it..

Thanks.

Thank you for sharing. I have always believed that to understand the character/behaviour of people, it is best If you know their story. A lot of the scars of abuse manifest in the behaviour of the victims.

A Lot of men/boys who are gay today are like that because they were molested when young by evil people.

daveP:
What else would inspire a group of women, married and unmarried to just sight a boy of less than 10yrs old and then take turns with much joy at him and sexually abused him if not demons inside of them? Serious demonic possession!!!


The feminists are absent as well. There's a blank part of the psyche they have, that these kinds of revelation needs to full up, but they block it out and refuse to address it cos it doesn't appeal to the parasympathetic part of their brains, which would defy the pure impure logic that only ladies are suffering unimaginable things. I'm disappointed at y'all. Y'all are a bunch of hypocrites!!! Identity Unveiled!!!!


Funny enough, this very issue was raised two years ago on Nairaland, and one popular nairalander that i had respect for then opined that if a guy cums when raped by a lady, then it's no longer rape. All the respect I had for him from my guestmode era to my being a member of 6yrs went down the drain. Men also are part of the problem/reason why men that experience this don't come out. Men will vilify and mock and insult such men as weaklings, vegetables, etc cos they are "supposed to man up" and brush such off and "enjoy" life. Now that's the first issue.


In Ibadan almost a decade ago, a young boy in ss3 that was always acting like a girl opened up to me(A Levels) cos he saw I was "the only reasonable person around"


He was molested by an aunt that later won a beauty pageant in Abj. I was observant to notice he was all defensive and locked up when around girls, Pretty girls that likes him flocked to him, but he hated them with cruel hatred. If only a girl and him are about to be left in a class that seats 70 students, he gets all red alert and leaves. This was before he confessed. And ladies like boys that are handsome, but W doesn't give an eff. He was ready to stay single till he does, but I had to encourage him that it's not a good choice.


Everyday he got bullied by his fellow guys cos he was always looking and acting girly or not doing stuff guys were supposed to do. Yet when it's time for Physics and Further maths, they'll all flock round him to teach them.


What a world!!


All these Anties that would just be acting strange with their nephews and young boys.


It respects no age or class or women. Alhaja o, pastor Mrs o, principal o, headmistress o, teacher o, banker, etc all do such evil to young boys, but society expects these guys to man up. But we don't hear the word "woman up" anywhere.

Judgement Day will really be a very scary event.

toyflare:
Warning! Long post alert!
Men get molested, and we hide it because it's either unbelievable or sounds ridiculous. My life as a kid until adulthood wasn't funny at all. First, it was the neighbor's housemaid, I was about 7 at that time and my parents were busy with work so I had to stay at my neighbor's house after school till our house maid is back from school. One day I went there, the maid called me into the kid's room and took away my clothes, made me lay down and did things I didn't understand as a child. It was confusing, and I really didn't understand what she was doing but I remember she was on top of me unclad swinging back and forth. This continued after a while, then I told mom. She didn't understand me, so I stopped going there myself and our maid told my mom she met me outside when she came back from school. I guess this made her believe me, so I had to wait in school then.

Then I was molested again by my own friend f4cking best friend turned gay! I was 10 then, and my friend was 6 years older. He was enrolled in a boarding school, I guess he learned the shit from there. When he came back he would always come to the house as usual when I noticed when we play, he touched my genitals and I wasn't comfortable with it. One day I went to his house, he was alone and locked up the place, said he wants to show me something in the room and I followed him. He went to the kitchen and brought a knife, told me to take off all my clothes or he will stab me. I was like haha very funny and he started swinging the knife and told me he joined a cult group and I shouldn't dare him. I was scared as fvck, took my clothes off with speed, he ordered me to lay on the bed and started the thing (can't go into detail cause it makes me sick) but I cried so much. Then after it he was like don't worry, you will start enjoying it soon. So I stopped going to his house but he kept coming to my house and I would lock my self inside the room and my dad will come knocking that my friend is here and I should come out. Then he started begging me that his not in any cult group, but was attracted to him. I didn't care to listen to him! So one day he came with a fancy toy and told my Lil bro he got it for him, but won't give it to him unless I followed him home. So my Lil bro asked me to go get the toy for him and I refused so he started crying, I couldn't tell him what was going on. He was very little at that time and wanted his toy, so I agreed to go, but my plan was to take the toy and fight with my friend if he tried anything stupid , so I went with my brother (my friend lives across the street) but when we got there he insisted I come in alone or he won't give it to me. My brother was like okay I'm going home . So I went in and he locked the door, I asked him for the toy and he said he won't give it to me unless I let him touch me again, I said no!!! And headed for the door, he grabbed me and pushed me to the chair I tried pushing him off but he was very much stronger than I was. Long story short,

Then again 3 years ago I was raped by my church group leader! I won't mention the church. This woman is married and older than my own mother! All her 3 kids are schooling in the UK! Her husband is a manager in one of the top oil companies ( Name withheld). At my workplace, I was working in the customer care sector and meet clients daily. Lots of sugar mummy's wanted me to be there son, some told me directly others where hiding about it but opened up later. This woman was just good to me and at the same time always preaching to me about Jesus so I didn't suspect her in any way. She invited me to her church because I just moved to the state recently and didn't have a church at that time. So I started worshipping at her church, so one day she invited me to her house fellowship and I went, after the fellowship she asked me to wait behind so I could help her tidy the place and I did before I left she gave me 4k for TP, I refused but she insisted so I took it. I kept going for house fellowship every week and she always gave me TP (4k, 6k, 10k). Every time I asked her why she gave me so much just for transport, she will say she's encouraging me because she knew I wasn't earning much.
So one day I went for house fellowship, as usual, I stayed behind to arrange the place, then took the plates to the kitchen. I noticed someone walk into the kitchen and turned off the light I was like, ma did you off the light? She said yes. I said okay... But I'm still using it, she didn't answer me and kept walking close to me then suddenly hugged me. I just stood, and was like ma is there any problem, she said no! And kept hugging me. After a while she let me go and I rushed off the kitchen and started gathering my stuff to go home. But when I wanted to open the door, I noticed it was locked! I searched for the keys and it wasn't where it supposed to be. I started calling for her and told her I couldn't find the keys, she said she kept it in her daughter's room I should go there and take it. I went there to look for it but couldn't find the keys, so I told her and she said she's coming to get it but she didn't come out, she was inside her room and refused to answer me. I stood there thinking of what to do next, then my girlfriend started calling me! I told her I just left the fellowship and she was shouting at me that it's almost 11 pm and I'm not back yet, I pleaded with her that we had a meeting blah blah blah. I ended the calling and started calling madam to come open her door let me go home for christ sake. The woman no gree, I called my roommate and told him the situation of things and he told me not to worry, I shouldn't answer my girlfriends call again, he will call her and tell her my phone was stolen and they beat me up but I'm home sleeping.
I was there waiting in the sitting room till past twelve before she opened the door almost unclad and was smiling at me. At this moment I was already angry asked her to open the door let me go and she started shouting at me before I knew it she slapped me! And my body went cold instantly. She said I should forget about going home today except I do what she says. Then the next minute she started begging me that she's sorry, she's lonely and needed someone to talk to. I couldn't say anything, as she was begging her hands were already going inside my Jeans. I was like Ma please I beg you in the name of God please stop let me go. I started preaching to her that she's married and this is evil the woman stood up and started crying that she's sorry it's the devil's hand work.
At that point, I thought everything was fine but I need to leave immediately! She told me the key is in her child's room and where to get it. I didn't trust going into that room alone, but I went anyway, the key wasn't where she said it was. And I as I was about leaving the room to go tell her, she's already at the door, then walked in and closed the door. She told me I can't go, and she hasn't had sex in a long time, so If I don't want her to tell her husband I raped her I should allow her do what she wants or she will call her husband and scream on the phone.
My eyes flashed before my eyes again, I tried talking to her again and she started calling him on the phone and put it on speaker phone so I can see she's not playing about it. I thought of going to prison and losing my job and worse ending up in the news. Then I accepted on the condition we use protection, she already had everything with her, even a lubricant! Then I knew she planned the whole thing. The sad truth is at that time I was still a virgin and never had sex with a woman.

Again sorry for the long post, but before you ask what's the name of this movie I really don't care if you believe it or not! And if you think it has no physiological effect then you're very wrong. I'm very withdrawn and find it extremely difficult to trust anyone. I have no friends! I don't ever near a church or want to hear anything about churches. (she attends a big church and I see her on TV sometimes singing praises). The moment I see an older woman I look at you in disgust, and before you say anything I'm already hating you. It's been years and I'm battling depression, so I need sleeping pills to sleep properly. At some point, I turned to drugs and later stopped because of its effects physiologically.
Being forced against your will to have sex is rape! And men get raped too and I don't think it's fun when it's a woman your mother's age and if that's a fantasy for you then you need to get your brain examined.

OMG !!!!!

It's a very sad reality that most adults bear scars & deep wounds that may never heal. No matter how depressed, angered or guilt U may feel, the true God still loves U.
. U are not alone

It's time to heal & gradually let go of the pain, anger, guilt or low self esteem U may feel.

God has not condemned U over any despicable act that a depraved adult or older person forced U to do during your childhood or youth.
"When ever our hearts in self accusation make us feel guilty and condemn us. HE is above and greater than our consciences and HE knows everything" 1 John 3:20.
You have to be brave & get your life back on track.
Let go of the past. U don't repress the dark memory. No. But admit it that something nasty occurred in your past but now U are stronger to deal with it

1). Daily, make positive affirmations about yourself & firmly believe it. Gradually, your self esteem & self confidence returns.
2)This one no easy but U can do it.
Pls, Firstly, forgive yourself. It's NEVER your fault that U were raped or molested.
Pls remember. Someone ,Jesus Christ died for U because U are WORTHY of God's love.
3)Pls forgive the one who abused your trust& innocence.
when U hold some one down in a firm grip,U can't go forward.
When U forgive ,U have set them free &have inner peace & calm with God & fellow man.
4)Pray for Strength to rise above negative feelings. Hebrew4:16. Psalms 66:19,20.