Kinggnicole:
You were wrong and you apologised.
I just hope you are not considering quiting your job. He's already rubbing it in your face that you are not fertile. Imagine adding jobless to the mix. He'll rub that in too forgetting he asked you to leave.

He's already abusing you emotionally. You have to be strong dear. And by being strong you have to know when to leave.

alterswerve:
So you won't Google.. POF is Premature Ovarian Failure

Wow.. See.. Truthfully, under the law, if he decides to divorce cos of this issue, you know he'll win, cos his lawyer will say you deceived him into the marriage.

It's a tough one.

He's really pissed cos he's feeling that he was deceived into the marriage. He could be wondering how many other things you're keeping from him ry now.

Do what he wants if your marriage is of very high priority to you and let him know you're doing it to show him how sorry you are and for peace to reign between both of you.

Always staying with the kids doesn't guarantee that nothing bad will ever happen to them, and let him know that too.

It's a sacrifice or penance I think you should make IF YOUR MARRIAGE IS OF A HIGHER PRIORITY TO YOU THAN YOUR CAREER and his pay can take care of all y'all well.

My only scare now is that he doesn't begin to demand for more sacrifices from you

Wish you the best

Femsyn:
Hmm. Are you sure there isn't more to this? Cos I find his reaction way overboard.

You have three kids already, don't you?

Who gives birth to more than 3 children these days sef?

alterswerve:


It's very easy for you to say leave..
This is a marriage with three kids.. Don't do this, please

Homeboiy:
young girls una dey see am so

Marry on time but una go dey form say u can't marry a man wey no de earn 200k


Well I already know that any man wey dey marry woman wey don pass 30yrs Na rescue mission he go so


It's like buying newspaper in the evening

Homeboiy:
young girls una dey see am so

Marry on time but una go dey form say u can't marry a man wey no de earn 200k


Well I already know that any man wey dey marry woman wey don pass 30yrs Na rescue mission he go so



It's like buying newspaper in the evening

sholatech:
Honestly madam, if I'm your husband, I will forgive this easily. Most spouses have done worse and they have built successful homes.

Just pray to God to help him absorb this. God already shows he loves you by blessing you with three kids..you have male an female. I will call this awesome!

Please and please, don't resign your job.

Biglittlelois:



Stop this guy, early menopause doesnt happen to most ladies, the ratio is 1:1000, it is very rare.

Belafonte:
Give him time, he'll come around. You did betray his trust by not informing him earlier. These things can't be rushed. Maybe he's wondering what else you are hiding from him. But I'd say give him time.

Kinggnicole:

Lol..were you expecting me to give the cliche Nigerian wife "pray that God touches his heart" advice?

I say it again! She has to leave if it gets to that point. From the write up above, her husband is outright disrespectful and obviously doesn't care about her needs and wants. Imagine telling her to stay and take care of the children so that nothing happens to them since she knows she's not fertile. How insensitive!

OP apologise to him again(if you need to because this is an issue of trust and is quite sensitive too) but tell him squarely that you are not quitting your job. Also give him some more time. If he's not budging , you know what to do.

Wilfredpat22:
The truth is that you deceived him. Well we all deceive men one way or the other. You started dating when you were 29, what happened between 21-28, you were sleeping around with married men I guess

This is as a repercussion for the evils you must have done in school and to other women’s homes. Now yours will be shattered. We ladies don’t hear or listen and eventually it will lead to our downfall
You are heartless. Pray you don't have issues.

Let your husband look for some one fertile and responsible. By the way Are you sure those kids are his?

Wilfredpat22:
The truth is that you deceived him. Well we all deceive men one way or the other. You started dating when you were 29, what happened between 21-28, you were sleeping around with married men I guess

This is as a repercussion for the evils you must have done in school and to other women’s homes. Now yours will be shattered. We ladies don’t hear or listen and eventually it will lead to our downfall


Let your husband look for some one fertile and responsible. By the way Are you sure those kids are his?

PamaB:
Hello Madam, I sincerely feel your pain. At this point all you would do is try to please him. Don't let him feel like your refusing to quit the job, but make him understand why you need to keep the job. Show him lots of love despite his behavior, treat him like a king, take care of your children, pamper him , as long as he loved you, he will soften his heart that's for sure. Don't make the mistake of involving families yet, that should the the very last option. No matter how long it takes be relentless and make sure u add value.