Shookonekilla:
I see alot of error in your thinking

1. You seem.to think money would give you someone who you would love , maybe but it won't give you someone who would love you

2. It takes alot more than what you call specs ... Which is physical beauty to make a marriage last and work.

3. Marriage is not for everyone with your mind set you will be heading to the divorce court or you would.run out on your family ... Please I beg of.you do not get married, don't make someone's daughter's life miserable... You are not a husband material at.all.. (I say this as a friend who doesn't know you or care about you)

4. I repeat marriage is not for everyone , not everyone should be married and from what you wrote up there judging by how you think, please do not get married. You will only make her life misreable...it seems you think you are doing any woman you marry a favor?

Bros please remain single the world.will be better off... We have too many men.like you who got married and turned out to be totally irresponsible hence giving men a bad name...

REMAIN SINGLE PLEASE

NEVER EVER EVER GET MARRIED

YOU ARE NOT MATURE ENOUGH TO BE MARRIED

DONT SPOIL SOMEONE'S DAUGHTER'S HAPPINESS

PLEASE

Eberechi24:
pls leave that beautiful soul alone, you don't Worth her.
You will break her and make her bitter eventually if things start moving for you,
you will leave her for "your beautiful girls"
Stay single.

Antina:
"But this lady is the only lady willing to stand by me in this tough moment in my life"

"Given the fact that I hate divorce and don’t trust myself not to misbehave when things start moving again"

What advise do you need again? Someone that is willing to stand by you through trying times, still you don't trust yourself when you have money cos u can still misbehave?

She is not your type sir! Please don't make the mistake of marrying her. Don't make her life miserable!

Most of you guys! Na those Oloshos u dey find, after you will be crying "Girls are hoe"

resurgent2019:


Thank you for responding. But you cannot say I shouldn’t marry. Time is running out and I have to get children within the institution of marriage. I know my mindset is a problem but I am between a rock and a hard place here. I have to make a move since the resources to attract the kind of women I like is not there. I can’t be left hanging. Maybe I would learn to love the woman in question.

Shookonekilla:


If children is your.problem.you can adopt a child.. but I wouldn't subject any woman to the torture of calling you her husband with this mindset

It's so unreal and someone with such a warped mindset actually might end up married? Small wonder why divorce rates are so high.

Shookonekilla:
I see alot of error in your thinking

1. You seem.to think money would give you someone who you would love , maybe but it won't give you someone who would love you

2. It takes alot more than what you call specs ... Which is physical beauty to make a marriage last and work.

3. Marriage is not for everyone with your mind set you will be heading to the divorce court or you would.run out on your family ... Please I beg of.you do not get married, don't make someone's daughter's life miserable... You are not a husband material at.all.. (I say this as a friend who doesn't know you or care about you)

4. I repeat marriage is not for everyone , not everyone should be married and from what you wrote up there judging by how you think, please do not get married. You will only make her life misreable...it seems you think you are doing any woman you marry a favor?

Bros please remain single the world.will be better off... We have too many men.like you who got married and turned out to be totally irresponsible hence giving men a bad name...

REMAIN SINGLE PLEASE

[/b]NEVER EVER EVER GET MARRIED[b]

YOU ARE NOT MATURE ENOUGH TO BE MARRIED

DONT SPOIL SOMEONE'S DAUGHTER'S HAPPINESS

PLEASE

resurgent2019:


I guess I am only being childish with my vain needs but I still have to get married. I can’t on account of my thought process not get married.

And when I advocate that I am scared, it doesn’t mean I wouldn’t treat her right:she would be my wife for Christ sakes! But I might not be as loving as I would want to.

Please get this distinction and keep your comments coming.

I really appreciate you all..

Shookonekilla:


I still don't understand how someone.with such a warped sense of reasoning will be someone's husband ??

Oh my goodness !!

First of all ,let me reiterate! YOU DO NOT HAVE TO GET MARRIED !!! YOU WANT TO ! STOP ASSUMING YOU HAVE TO !

frankly you are not fit for.marriage yet.. you got a ways to go in the mental.maturity aspect...

You don't understand the difference between your wants and your needs

You think you will be doing the lady a favor because you married her due to your financial handicapp

Her life with you will be only comparable to the most gnarly horror movie ever made

You are very immature and unfit for marriage

I say again

MARRIAGE IS NOT FOR EVERYONE ESPECIALLY NOT YOU

resurgent2019:


Sorry I am coming back to you, don’t you think the bolder verdict is too harsh for a man who admits being attracted by a bit of physical beauty?

I have admitted that I might not have what I takes to pursue that hence my resignation to settling down with what is available and willing.

I need advice and not condemnation. Thanks once more and keep’ em coming.

resurgent2019:


Ok, now you are taking it personal. I knew I would encounter your kind. Thanks for your advice all the same.

Shookonekilla:


Truth smarts
Meaning truth hurts , but embracing truth sets you free

You may see it as harsh condemantion but it is the unedited, unbiased, truth
Marriage is not for everyone and certainly not you

You will be better off to society single , and you would be happier than to burden yourself with guilt of taking this myopic mindset into marriage and making some lady's life misreable till the point she contemplates suicide

Please remain single

Shookonekilla:


Truth smarts
Meaning truth hurts , but embracing truth sets you free

You may see it as harsh condemantion but it is the unedited, unbiased, truth
Marriage is not for everyone and certainly not you

You will be better off to society single , and you would be happier than to burden yourself with guilt of taking this myopic mindset into marriage and making some lady's life misreable till the point she contemplates suicide

Please remain single

Shookonekilla:


It's not personal

Come.on grow up.. read.my.comments , there is nothing personal about it

I am just being frank

resurgent2019:


Thank you.

Shookonekilla:


You are welcome

But please

Make.me one promise
For now you will.put this nonsese idea about getting.married out of your head !

Please for now at least

You are far from ideal for marriage

You are a disaster waiting.to happen

A murdered wife

A battered wife

A crushed heart

A suicidal wife

All waiting to happen

Please leave people's daughters alone please

I beg of you

resurgent2019:


What exactly is your angst with my issue? Millions of Nigerian men are in the same position: they want something better, but the were blessed with the available.

I am not against your advice but you make it seem like my issue is unheard of. Maybe you are just trying to say I should apply the breaks on my plans. You certainly can’t mean I should not marry at all! Who I offend na?

Thanks all the same.

Shookonekilla:


That is what I mean

For now do not get married

You will drive the lady to commit suicide

Or you might wake up and kill her one day

[/b]Your thought process shows a severely fractured personality devoid of depth[b]

As shallow as a sand castle at the beach

You are not meant to be married please I beg of.you

resurgent2019:


This is way too personal.

I would not allow you tempt me to return your insults.

You have not been civil at all.

Thanks all the same.

Nutase:
Wisdom brought you here to seek advise and I hope you will have the wisdom to heed to the advice you receive here.

1) Money can buy you a partner of your choice but it doesn't guarantee you her love.
2) Beauty is vain and it fades.
3) Happy marriages don't just happen it takes a lot of conscious effort and work to make it happen and last.
4) Do not marry out of pity or for the wrong reasons but look for someone you can tolerate.
5) That slay queen you are yearning for might be your downfall.
6) Life is full of uncertainties. That fair weather slay queen you're hoping to marry when the going gets good might not be able to stand by you and give you the moral support you would require from a spouse when the going gets tough.
7) Love is a choice and can happen at anytime. It might not be at first sight (which is often infatuation). If you look closely you might find reasons to love anyone.

Use your tongue to count your teeth before making that decision.

Chubhie:
Find yourself first. Let your goals and milestones be your motivation. Women will come once you are in alignment. This is a gift nature bestows on them to sniff you out.

resurgent2019:

Hmmmmmmm. God bless you.