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tintingz:
I'm just emphasizing how he will be more attracted to ladies even without a girlfriend.

soviete:
ohh..i love intelligent girls please let's skip the introduction.. Will you marry me ?

PrecisionFx:
"" If you are a man think back on every mistake you ever made, trust me you usually made them again and again right ? Now at some point your perspective changed and it was due to age ""

Story.
A silly man will keep making those mistakes for life n won't even regard it as a mistake.


"" The older you got your mind matured gained wisdom through repeated experience and self teachings
""

This is just a generalization n not not fact for men. Some Men want wisdom, Some Men dont. Some Men keep living the same dangerous lifestyle till whichever day it will kill dem. In fact even as their lungs de fail n dem dey for hospital admission bed,dem go still go hospital toilet go smoke.

Men don't get matured @ 30 or at any older age for that matter. Maturity is connected with many factors.

id4sho:
Thanks man, no vacancy

thegentleman:
Have not proposed to her to marry me, but of recent we have been talking about how it will work out, it's all in my hands now... she seems ready, but don't want to start what I won't e able to finish because seems there is more to marriage hearing from people that are already in it.

pocohantas:
"Nigerian girls can't marry a man without money, they don't believe in humble beginnings"... yet when they see a Nigerian girl ready to begin with them, they start second-guessing and discouraging themselves.

Confusion...



Here comes the defender of confused alpha males

Dorcas212:
lol 50k job and you want to get married?? Combination of 110k are you kidding me?


As a single i spend more than that in a month. How will you raise children? Depend on relatives? My brother think very well

thegentleman:
she's my girlfriend... we have been talking about marriage lately, just for me to propose, she told me point blank she's ready if I am.

BanjiHols:
Life after school is different from school/NYSC times..welcome to the real World

My advise for you is to go ahead and marry her only if you know that she is a ride or die galfy.(a focused lady that can be there come rain come shine)
Cos its hard to find tru love after school/NYSC.

You can always further your education as long as u are compatible.


If not focus on your career.


My dear, don't bank on what you know people to be before marriage, In marriage a lot of things change, people change, not intentionally, situation, challenges change people, When your girlfriend/boyfriend tell you "I will be there come rain come shine" my brother/sister don't bank on it, I repeat don't bank on it, am not saying don't trust people, but beware that situation change people, everyone has his/her breaking point.

TBH, love begin to grow long after marriage, when you have face a lot of challenges together and overcome it, when both of you have been & seen difficult times (this does not mean only financially) together and still standing, that's when you begin to really and genuinely begin to love each other earnestly.

I do tell most unmarried and single guy/ladies that when you have not spend reasonable time with your partner be it girlfriend and boyfriend what you feel, I don't call it LOVE yet, love takes a lot of time to grow, you must have seen the positive and negative side of each other and accept it. that is when you begin to say I really love you. Any other thing is just attraction, likes etc. but not love love is a strong word. I advise people not to use it carelessly.

thegentleman:
lol sho mo age mi ni ? considering am 28, if I marry at age 30... my first child will be around 20 when am 50... it's not good to raise a child when u are old, I had a fair share of it, my parents where old when I was growing up, and I know how tough it is... no one is ready to help u train a child at the current times, one has to plan well.

That's the reason I posted it the first place so as to know if am on the right track or sliding away.

thanks for your advice

BanjiHols:
Life after school is different from school/NYSC times..welcome to the real World

My advise for you is to go ahead and marry her only if you know that she is a ride or die galfy.(a focused lady that can be there come rain come shine)
Cos its hard to find tru love after school/NYSC.

You can always further your education as long as u are compatible.


If not focus on your career.

He's earning 50k ..his wife to be is earning 60k.

They can't run a home with a joint income of 110k?

You people will just be spewing bullshît. There are people who are earning 25-30k monthly yet they have families, own houses and some even maintain their own cars.

thegentleman:
lol sho mo age mi ni ? considering am 28, if I marry at age 30... my first child will be around 20 when am 50... it's not good to raise a child when u are old, I had a fair share of it, my parents where old when I was growing up, and I know how tough it is... no one is ready to help u train a child at the current times, one has to plan well.

That's the reason I posted it the first place so as to know if am on the right track or sliding away.

thanks for your advice

thegentleman:
I'm a of dude of about 28 years, I just finished my NYSC program and I secured a job that pays me about 50k, my girlfriend who is about 25 years too just acquired a job that pays her about 60k per month too.

Is it advisable I go for M.Sc. program or just settle down for marriage with my girlfriend and then follow my career later.

We both stay at Ibadan, the city is averagely okay.

What's your take ?

pocohantas:
"Nigerian girls can't marry a man without money, they don't believe in humble beginnings"... yet when they see a Nigerian girl ready to begin with them, they start second-guessing and discouraging themselves.

Confusion...

Dorcas212:
lol 50k job and you want to get married?? Combination of 110k are you kidding me?


As a single i spend more than that in a month. How will you raise children? Depend on relatives? My brother think very well

thegentleman:
I'm a of dude of about 28 years, I just finished my NYSC program and I secured a job that pays me about 50k, my girlfriend who is about 25 years too just acquired a job that pays her about 60k per month too.

Is it advisable I go for M.Sc. program or just settle down for marriage with my girlfriend and then follow my career later.

We both stay at Ibadan, the city is averagely okay.

What's your take ?

Dorcas212:
lol 50k job and you want to get married?? Combination of 110k are you kidding me?


As a single i spend more than that in a month. How will you raise children? Depend on relatives? My brother think very well

Dorcas212:
lol 50k job and you want to get married?? Combination of 110k are you kidding me?


As a single i spend more than that in a month. How will you raise children? Depend on relatives? My brother think very well

tosyne2much:
50k to start your family? That's too risky man

Forget about her own contribution.. You know women can swear talk you to do anything especially when it comes to marriage matter

I will advise you to put both marriage and Msc aside and focus on your current job

thegentleman:
she's my girlfriend... we have been talking about marriage lately, just for me to propose, she told me point blank she's ready if I am.

Dorcas212:
lol 50k job and you want to get married?? Combination of 110k are you kidding me?


As a single i spend more than that in a month. How will you raise children? Depend on relatives? My brother think very well

thegentleman:
I'm a of dude of about 28 years, I just finished my NYSC program and I secured a job that pays me about 50k, my girlfriend who is about 25 years too just acquired a job that pays her about 60k per month too.

Is it advisable I go for M.Sc. program or just settle down for marriage with my girlfriend and then follow my career later.

We both stay at Ibadan, the city is averagely okay.

What's your take ?

thegentleman:
I'm a of dude of about 28 years, I just finished my NYSC program and I secured a job that pays me about 50k, my girlfriend who is about 25 years too just acquired a job that pays her about 60k per month too.

Is it advisable I go for M.Sc. program or just settle down for marriage with my girlfriend and then follow my career later.

We both stay at Ibadan, the city is averagely okay.

Consider the level of your girlfriend in her family. She might be one of the children or the main child the parents expect to assist them after securing a job. Hear me, no matter how little the salary may be, she must send to them. Same applies to you because one Yoruba adage says: A ti fe 'yawo ko soro, owo obe loni ra (To get married is not a problem but carrying out your responsibilities as the head may be difficult sometimes. Additionally, your wife will also be asking from you even if her salary doubles your own. She only assists you. Think deeply.

What's your take ?

divinelove:
He is just sampling opinion he will still decide what to do

sexdoll:
the problem with sampling so many opinions like he's doing right now is that he will end up being more confused than he was ab initio.

besides, he's the one wearing the shoes so he should know where it pinches him.

most people who will give him advice will be biased in their opinions sort of, and that's simply because they are speaking from their own personal experience and views but there's no guarantee that what worked for Mr. A will surely work for Mr. B.

what good decision makers do is to quickly make a decision and then stick to that plan to make it work rather than being stuck in a mud where people will be telling you to do this or do that and in the end you will not even know what to do again.

if you want to get married, get married.

if you want to go for masters, go for masters.

if you think you can do the both, then do the both.

i don't even know why you will need someone to tell you what will be good for you.