Ok so first off, something about me,I have lousy social skills, I'm kinda an introvert so I have very few friends.
There's this girl, I've known her since we were in junior secondry, we're in the same university rn. She's practically my best friend, she helps me out in my times of need and I enjoy her company and appreciate her friendship.
Recently, she told me she has feelings for me over whatsapp, I went offline immediately and has been since. This is the very first time I'm being in this situation, like its the first time a girl is telling me she has feelings for me so I don't know what to say or what to do.
The thing is, I'm not particularly fond of commitments. People trusting me with anything scares me. I'm afraid of relationships.
She's very nice, like the best, but I'm just not interested in dating rn.
So how do I make her understand this? I don't want to hurt her and I certainly don't want to lose our frienship. But I feel like our friendship will be badly affected if I say no to her.
What do I do?

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You are too young to have girlfriend, Face your book forget about any relationship thang.



Or better still give me her number so I can continue from where you stop.

Just give me her number. I will take care of the rest for you

EpicMaurice:
Ok so first off, something about me,I have lousy social skills, I'm kinda an introvert so I have very few friends.
There's this girl, I've known her since we were in junior secondry, we're in the same university rn. She's practically my best friend, she helps me out in my times of need and I enjoy her company and appreciate her friendship.
Recently, she told me she has feelings for me over whatsapp, I went offline immediately and has been since. This is the very first time I'm being in this situation, like its the first time a girl is telling me she has feelings for me so I don't know what to say or what to do.
The thing is, I'm not particularly fond of commitments. People trusting me with anything scares me. I'm afraid of relationships.
She's very nice, like the best, but I'm just not interested in dating rn.
So how do I make her understand this? I don't want to hurt her and I certainly don't want to lose our frienship. But I feel like our friendship will be badly affected if I say no to her.
What do I do?

Hmmm honestly its up to you, but sincerely if she's a good person like you mentioned it won't be bad. After university esp when work starts ,dating becomes abit much harder as there's hardly time

Omoekun931:
Just give me her number. I will take care of the rest for you

Is this the advice he's asking for?

guy shine your eyes ...and allow the love flow, Toto no de hungry u?

Just be plain and honest with your answer. You're not interested

EpicMaurice:
Ok so first off, something about me,I have lousy social skills, I'm kinda an introvert so I have very few friends.
There's this girl, I've known her since we were in junior secondry, we're in the same university rn. She's practically my best friend, she helps me out in my times of need and I enjoy her company and appreciate her friendship.
Recently, she told me she has feelings for me over whatsapp, I went offline immediately and has been since. This is the very first time I'm being in this situation, like its the first time a girl is telling me she has feelings for me so I don't know what to say or what to do.
The thing is, I'm not particularly fond of commitments. People trusting me with anything scares me. I'm afraid of relationships.
She's very nice, like the best, but I'm just not interested in dating rn.
So how do I make her understand this? I don't want to hurt her and I certainly don't want to lose our frienship. But I feel like our friendship will be badly affected if I say no to her.
What do I do?

Just cope and paste what you typed up here for here .
Case closed!

Just tell her you're not ready!

pcguru1:


Hmmm honestly its up to you, but sincerely if she's a good person like you mentioned it won't be bad. After university esp when work starts ,dating becomes abit much harder as there's hardly time

thing is, I don't think I'm ready to date.
I open nairaland and everyone just seems to be having relationahip issues, I'm afraid I can't handle it, afraid I'll do something wrong, afraid that if we ever break up we'll never be friends again, afraid of hurting my best friend.

How do I get over these fears

Tamarapetty:
Just be plain and honest with your answer. You're not interested

wouldn't that affect our friendship

You be serious agbaya....girl tell you say she dae monkey for you, your best response na to excommunicate her.

No need asking for advice on how to tell her off, you've already done that, you think it's easy for a female to make the first move at a relationship.

Infact my friend you better call that girl immediately and apologize to her and if your spinelessness will permit you give her the desired bleeping that is due her.

AmazingELixir:


You be serious agbaya....girl tell you say she dae monkey for you, your best response na to excommunicate her.

No need asking for advice on how to tell her off, you've already done that, you think it's easy for a female to make the first move at a relationship.

Infact my friend you better call that girl immediately and apologize to her and if your spinelessness will permit you give her the desired bleeping that is due her.

I haven't really told her off.
Just been offline so it would seem I haven't read the text.


And seriously life is not all about sex

EpicMaurice:



thing is, I don't think I'm ready to date.
I open nairaland and everyone just seems to be having relationahip issues, I'm afraid I can't handle it, afraid I'll do something wrong, afraid that if we ever break up we'll never be friends again, afraid of hurting my best friend.

How do I get over these fears

Obviously because people don't look for solutions for happiness, its when there's problem you see a NL post. Also it depends the fact she has said her feelings to you, it's obvious you guys can't just be friends whichever way it goes. Finding people like her are scarce my brother, if you have no intention of dating her, please let her know why and try to be friends , if not move on. There are so many friends I'd never imagine we won't be talking today, that's just life. You will lose some friends along the way. Later in the future you will understand. Take care bro.

EpicMaurice:



I haven't really told her off.
Just been offline so it would seem I haven't read the text.


And seriously life is not all about sex

Also don't do that, be forward and say your mind she will appreciate it or not. At least she cant call you a coward.

pcguru1:


Obviously because people don't look for solutions for happiness, its when there's problem you see a NL post. Also it depends the fact she has said her feelings to you, it's obvious you guys can't just be friends whichever way it goes. Finding people like her are scarce my brother, if you have no intention of dating her, please let her know why and try to be friends , if not move on. There are so many friends I'd never imagine we won't be talking today, that's just life. You will lose some friends along the way. Later in the future you will understand. Take care bro.

thanks a lot

EpicMaurice:


wouldn't that affect our friendship

Don't lie to her too, shebi she's your friend? Explain to her why u don't wanna date for now, i expect her to understand and respect your decision. If she starts behaving weirdly after, expect am

pcguru1:


Also don't do that, be forward and say your mind she will appreciate it or not. At least she cant call you a coward.

ok I will.
thanks

Guy is gay

EpicMaurice:



ok I will.
thanks

just tell us the truth that you have another love interest, and you dont find her attractive.

If you tell her will you die?

Agree so you can be shining her pussycat

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Just say yes. I understand how you feel. It took balls for her to share her feelings. Get outside your comfort zone. Try something new. Doesn't mean you'll stop being friends. Best relationships are those with your friends. Give it a shot!

phrancys001:
Guy is gay

not funny bruh

pryme:


just tell us the truth that you have another love interest, and you dont find her attractive.

Not really.
I just don't feel like I need a relationship atm, but I also don't want our friendship to end

leonard002:
Just say yes. I understand how you feel. It took balls for her to share her feelings. Get outside your comfort zone. Try something new. Doesn't mean you'll stop being friends. Best relationships are those with your friends. Give it a shot!

Thanks a lot.
I feel like I know what I have to do now

It is obvious you dont like her, maybe she is not as attractive as you want a girl to be.

it will be good if she is still a virgin and not ready for sex. Otherwise una go bleep una Gp together to 1. Something.

my Best friend asked me a question a few weeks before her wedding why l didn't marry her. l just kept mute. the truth was l knew all her secrets and based on my moral standards she wasn't just good enough for me because am a very good person who deserves better. but honestly the best relationship you could be in is with a best friend the synergy is just out of this world. l meet my fiancee within the same period she wasn't perfect but l love very little thing about her and Today shez my strength and my best person in the whole world, bottom line you most feel something special for her in order to be in a relationship with her.

EpicMaurice:



thing is, I don't think I'm ready to date.
I open nairaland and everyone just seems to be having relationahip issues, I'm afraid I can't handle it, afraid I'll do something wrong, afraid that if we ever break up we'll never be friends again, afraid of hurting my best friend.

How do I get over these fears

your fears are valid bro..

Ay04z:
it will be good if she is still a virgin and not ready for sex. Otherwise una go bleep una Gp together to 1. Something.