All my life I never envisaged I will ever get caught in a circle like this. I always pictured having a quiet relationship with no stress and worry or insecurities. Date a cute loving matured and responsible girl.

the total opposite is what I get now. sometimes I think foolishly deep at my past if I had done something bad that could warrant this.

I am going through series of panic and depression everyday with no one to talk to. I'm left in my own worthiness all by myself


let me go straight to my sad story.

I graduated in 2017 and currently working and earning a cool amount of salary enough for a bachelor. I had dated just 4 girls and the 4th one now is like a pit I jumped into. the other 3 relationship all didn't end well. and it broke my trust completely. I couldn't trust any girl anymore I hated relationships. I was single for 2 years until when this girl came along. we started chatting and fastfoward 3 months. she was all over me begging me for a relationship. even though told her I could not hold a relatinship now because of my mindset about girls and how i can never trust dem anymore. she encouraged me and said she too had been betrayed and it doesn't stop her from loving again. I fell for this and we started dating. she loves me so much and didn't hide her feeling. always all over me. showing me to the world.

our pastor knew and literary everyone in our circle knew about us. but I had one issue. I was scared this was not going to end well. she was too open and has a huge low self esteem.

my curiousness made me to doubt her. i couldnt trust her and I decided i wanted to know who i was dating.

I am a programmer and I manage to get access to her facebook and this was the start of my emotional torture.

I found out about all her exes and I was depressed. she was pregnant for one and aborted the child. this guy I knew very well and we often talk. she also travelled to Zaria to meet a guy and slept over then had sex. the guy broke up with her the next day after finding out she had an abortion and was still obviously in love with the ex guy.

I was disappointed and depressed. I wanted to end the relationship at that moment. I had sleepless nights fordays. the mere image I painted in my mind haunted me.

I confronted her. and she was crying. saying I should forgive her. and that loved me bla bla bla. but she still lied that she never had an abortion when she didn't know I had found out and was very sure. this further raised my fear. she can still lie.

just last week I got to know my family don't accept her.

please advise what I should do. mu love for her jas waxed cold and I don't want to break her heart if I tell her in leaving her as I am her source of joy right now. I am scared what would happen afterwards and at thesame time scared not to loose a loving girl who loves me so much and shows it unconditionally.

if I keep staying and we eventually break up as I have that feeling she will feel used. and I don't want that as virtually every guy she met used her as I had found out.

please I need y'all to advise me properly. is this wort it?

confusedGuy:
All my life I never envisaged I will ever get caught in a circle like this. I always pictured having a quiet relationship with no stress and worry or insecurities. Date a cute loving matured and responsible girl.

the total opposite is what I get now. sometimes I think foolishly deep at my past if I had done something bad that could warrant this.

I am going through series of panic and depression everyday with no one to talk to. I'm left in my own worthiness all by myself


let me go straight to my sad story.

I graduated in 2017 and currently working and earning a cool amount of salary enough for a bachelor. I had dated just 4 girls and the 4th one now is like a pit I jumped into. the other 3 relationship all didn't end well. and it broke my trust completely. I couldn't trust any girl anymore I hated relationships. I was single for 2 years until when this girl came along. and we started dating. she loves me so much and didn't hide her feeling. always all over me. showing me to the world.

our pastor knew and literary everyone in our circle knew about us. but I had one issue. I was scared this was not going to end well. she was too open and has a huge low self esteem.

my curiousness made me to doubt her. i couldnt trust her and I decided i wanted to know who i was dating.

I am a programmer and I manage to get access to her facebook and this was the start of my emotional torture.

I found out about all her exes and I was depressed. she was pregnant for one and aborted the child. this guy I knew very well and we often talk. she also travelled to Zaria to meet a guy and slept over then had sex. the guy broke up with her the next day after finding out she had an abortion and was still obviously in love with the ex guy.

I was disappointed and depressed. I wanted to end the relationship at that moment. I had sleepless nights fordays. the mere image I painted in my mind haunted me.

I confronted her. and she was crying. saying I should forgive her. and that loved me bla bla bla. but she still lied that she never had an abortion when she didn't know I had found out and was very sure. this further raised my fear. she can still lie.

just last week I got to know my family don't accept her.

please advise what I should do. mu love for her jas waxed cold and I don't want to break her heart if I tell her in leaving her as I am her source of joy right now. I am scared what would happen afterwards and at thesame time scared not to loose a loving girl who loves me so much and shows it unconditionally.

if I keep staying and we eventually break up as I have that feeling she will feel used. and I don't want that as virtually every guy she met used her as I had found out.

please I need y'all to advise me properly. is this wort it?

Right you are the source of your own problems no one else.

“we started chatting and fastfoward 3 months. she was all over me begging me for a relationship. even though told her I could not hold a relatinship now because of my mindset about girls and how i can never trust dem anymore. she encouraged me and said she too had been betrayed and it doesn't stop her from loving again. I fell for this”

So despite knowing that you were not ready you still managed to fall for all that tripe?
The red flag should have been how she was begging you, what was wrong with taking your time and getting to know someone at YOUR own pace?
See this is the problem with “indomie” style relationships
Very quick to form but most lack substance, no common ground why are you surprised when things fall apart?

You can be that change she needs.

MissRaine69:


Right you are the source of your own problems no one else.

“we started chatting and fastfoward 3 months. she was all over me begging me for a relationship. even though told her I could not hold a relatinship now because of my mindset about girls and how i can never trust dem anymore. she encouraged me and said she too had been betrayed and it doesn't stop her from loving again. I fell for this”

So despite knowing that you were not ready you still managed to fall for all that tripe?
The red flag should have been how she was begging you, what was wrong with taking your time and getting to know someone at YOUR own pace?
See this is the problem with “indomie” style relationships
Very quick to form but most lack substance, no common ground why are you surprised when things fall apart?

this you just said right here it my problem. I know I had messed up from start. I saw all the signs.

I just didn't take caution. I am an introverted reserved guy and I felt what suits me is a girl who would do the loving more. I felt they are hard to come by and I better hold on to this one

please what can I do now?

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
You can be that change she needs.

hmmmm....whoa

can you explain further pls?

Haunting Shadows!
Her past is ruining her present.
If you tell them to take things easy, they will reply you :I'm living for the moment, live like today will be the last....

Shallow Beings!


Dear Op, Break up! No time!

You can't handle her past, you don't have faith in the relationship, you don't love her. What's left?

MariaLavina:
Haunting Shadows!
Her past is ruining her present.
If you tell them to take things easy, they will reply you :I'm living for the moment, live like today will be the last....

Shallow Beings!


Dear Op, Break up! No time!

You can't handle her past, you don't have faith in the relationship, you don't love her. What's left?

hmmm...thank you

nothing like a nice guy

its either you are a dumbass or a wise person

pick a name

lilmax:
nothing like a nice guy

its either you are a dumbass or a wise person

pick a name

hmm

confusedGuy:


hmmm...thank you

I see that you re a wimp, a fucking pússy ass nigga, and then instead of changing girls maybe u shld change urself.

I think we were in thesame boat, my girl once had an abortion, Excpet she told me about it herself and thats cuz i made her realise that i dont judge. My response to the situation was that... if u have not been tru d bad, u re never gonna recognise d good. She has been tru d bad, and i hope she has leant her lessons.

What i look for in a girl is sn who is focused, has kind of bubbling energy as opposed to some moody bítch, and how open she is. I dont really care about past cus it doesnt matter much. I focus on d essense.

What you should ask yourself is ... who is this girl really? Dont judge her by situations cus u re def gonna impose ur ideals on her.

Well i know you will prolly get more irked by this but then dude just break up with her and go look for some shít virgin and be happy from day 1 till death part u guys.

Edit. Never invade pple's privacy without invitation or permission. Always respect pples privacy. If u invade even a goat's privacy enuf, shìt is gonna fight u, let alone a human being

.

confusedGuy:


I confronted her. and she was crying. saying I should forgive her. and that loved me bla bla bla. but she still lied that she never had an abortion when she didn't know I had found out and was very sure. this further raised my fear. she can still lie.

AND


and at thesame time scared not to loose a loving girl who loves me so much and shows it unconditionally.

How can u reconcile the above two statements?
You are your own problem...What u need now is not advise but a mind of your own!

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
You can be that change she needs.

But people don't really change...sad fact...

Confusedguy, wipe your tears.

You need to work so much on yourself else you will continue moving from one mess to another called relationship.
Define what you want.
Seems you don't really know what you want.

Gaspardd:


I see that you re a wimp, a fucking pússy ass nigga, and then instead of changing girls maybe u shld change urself.

I think we were in thesame boat, my girl once had an abortion, Excpet she told me about it herself and thats cuz i made her realise that i dont judge. My response to the situation was that... if u have not been tru d bad, u re never gonna recognise d good. She has been tru d bad, and i hope she has leant her lessons.

What i look for in a girl is sn who is focused, has kind of bubbling energy as opposed to some moody bítch, and how open she is. I dont really care about past cus it doesnt matter much. I focus on d essense.

What you should ask yourself is ... who is this girl really? Dont judge her by situations cus u re def gonna impose ur ideals on her.

Well i know you will prolly get more irked by this but then dude just break up with her and go look for some shít virgin and be happy from day 1 till death part u guys.

Edit. Never invade pple's privacy without invitation or permission. Always respect pples privacy. If u invade even a goat's privacy enuf, shìt is gonna fight u, let alone a human being

thank you. I realised how stupid I was.

Grayjoy:
You need to work so much on yourself else you will continue moving from one mess to another called relationship.
Define what you want.
Seems you don't really know what you want.

thank you

You really need to work on yourself else you will be moving from one mess to another called relationship.
Define what you want.
It seems you don't really know what you want in a relationship.

iLegendd:
Confusedguy, wipe your tears.

#respect sir, i sight u

I don't get it.......is it a must to be in a relationship


Is clear that most people nowadays are bleeped up and will just mess your life.



Meanwhile, anybody saying you should not spy on the privacy of your spouse/fiancee really needs to have his head check...So it's better to marry a cheat and w.hore all because you don't want to invade privacy.....Hiv infection is awaiting people with such stupid mentality in this cheating generation.

This girl is a known runs girl in the lekki area and she has given a few people HIV .her name is Sandra . I will upload more pics of her later .she said someone gave it to her so she will spread it too

Torg77:
This girl is a known runs girl in the lekki area and she has given a few people HIV .her name is Sandra . I will upload more pics of her later .she said someone gave it to her so she will spread it too

For real

egwekwe:
I don't get it.......is it a must to be in a relationship


Is clear that most people nowadays are bleeped up and will just mess your life.



Meanwhile, anybody saying you should not spy on the privacy of your spouse/fiancee really needs to have his head check...So it's better to marry a cheat and w.hore all because you don't want to invade privacy.....Hiv infection is awaiting people with such stupid mentality in this cheating generation.

I swear....the painful thing is i knew all these and still jumped into it

confusedGuy:


this you just said right here it my problem. I know I had messed up from start. I saw all the signs.

I just didn't take caution. I am an introverted reserved guy and I felt what suits me is a girl who would do the loving more. I felt they are hard to come by and I better hold on to this one

please what can I do now?

Free yourself

confusedGuy:


this you just said right here it my problem. I know I had messed up from start. I saw all the signs.

I just didn't take caution. I am an introverted reserved guy and I felt what suits me is a girl who would do the loving more. I felt they are hard to come by and I better hold on to this one

please what can I do now?

please don't insult introverted guys.. they maybe be reserved but are smart

egwekwe:
I don't get it.......is it a must to be in a relationship


Is clear that most people nowadays are bleeped up and will just mess your life.



Meanwhile, anybody saying you should not spy on the privacy of your spouse/fiancee really needs to have his head check...So it's better to marry a cheat and w.hore all because you don't want to invade privacy.....Hiv infection is awaiting people with such stupid mentality in this cheating generation.

Onye ara

confusedGuy:


I swear....the painful thing is i knew all these and still jumped into it

The main problem is that you lack real friends and kinda lonely hence the reason for jumping from one relationship to another...

Most guys nowadays fill the void of loneliness by been in the midst of male friend always while playing FIFA and going out together..

Forget relationship and face your future....

Gaspardd:


Onye ara

You're ignored.

I even thought she was cheating

The poor girl has done nothing wrong

I think she broke your trust as you cannot stay with a girl who dare to sleep with someone else. You need to quit right now in order to stay safe from any other such issue in the future. There is no forgiveness for this crime in my book. Stay blessed!

for a start hacking her facebook is totally wrong, you also have also broken her trust. And yes she had an abortion what if you didnt find out? are you also that clean that you cannot move on or get back and make the relationship work. nobody is a saint we all have a past but please if you cannot live with it cut her off dont mess her up the more

confusedGuy:
All my life I never envisaged I will ever get caught in a circle like this. I always pictured having a quiet relationship with no stress and worry or insecurities. Date a cute loving matured and responsible girl.

the total opposite is what I get now. sometimes I think foolishly deep at my past if I had done something bad that could warrant this.

I am going through series of panic and depression everyday with no one to talk to. I'm left in my own worthiness all by myself


let me go straight to my sad story.

I graduated in 2017 and currently working and earning a cool amount of salary enough for a bachelor. I had dated just 4 girls and the 4th one now is like a pit I jumped into. the other 3 relationship all didn't end well. and it broke my trust completely. I couldn't trust any girl anymore I hated relationships. I was single for 2 years until when this girl came along. we started chatting and fastfoward 3 months. she was all over me begging me for a relationship. even though told her I could not hold a relatinship now because of my mindset about girls and how i can never trust dem anymore. she encouraged me and said she too had been betrayed and it doesn't stop her from loving again. I fell for this and we started dating. she loves me so much and didn't hide her feeling. always all over me. showing me to the world.

our pastor knew and literary everyone in our circle knew about us. but I had one issue. I was scared this was not going to end well. she was too open and has a huge low self esteem.

my curiousness made me to doubt her. i couldnt trust her and I decided i wanted to know who i was dating.

I am a programmer and I manage to get access to her facebook and this was the start of my emotional torture.

I found out about all her exes and I was depressed. she was pregnant for one and aborted the child. this guy I knew very well and we often talk. she also travelled to Zaria to meet a guy and slept over then had sex. the guy broke up with her the next day after finding out she had an abortion and was still obviously in love with the ex guy.

I was disappointed and depressed. I wanted to end the relationship at that moment. I had sleepless nights fordays. the mere image I painted in my mind haunted me.

I confronted her. and she was crying. saying I should forgive her. and that loved me bla bla bla. but she still lied that she never had an abortion when she didn't know I had found out and was very sure. this further raised my fear. she can still lie.

just last week I got to know my family don't accept her.

please advise what I should do. mu love for her jas waxed cold and I don't want to break her heart if I tell her in leaving her as I am her source of joy right now. I am scared what would happen afterwards and at thesame time scared not to loose a loving girl who loves me so much and shows it unconditionally.

if I keep staying and we eventually break up as I have that feeling she will feel used. and I don't want that as virtually every guy she met used her as I had found out.

please I need y'all to advise me properly. is this wort it?

Igbo Siri na

Nwa aka gara n'ike, oburu na orutaghi aru, oruta nsi


You invade her privacy to see where she won a contract of 50mill

Oga 50% of our girls has done abortion and it's we the guys that got them pregnant and give them money to abort.

Everyone has a past (good or bad)

Pls don't waste her time

continue with you stereotype