In the last 48 hours I have gotten clear confirmation that my boyfriend (who is African) is sleeping with and dating others. He has lied to me and told me it is only me. He has suddenly turned on the charm and made all kinds of promises to me. He wants me to pretend that I don't see it. Women and even men, am I to just close my eyes to it and accept it? It feels terrible knowing he is drifting elsewhere. If he has others that he likes why not just let me go and be with them. He tells I'm the only one that really knows him which meant he told the least lies to me. But now there are so many. Should I leave? Does this mean that he does not care about me at all? Or is this just a part if his culture?

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Vonnshelly:
In the last 48 hours I have gotten clear confirmation that my boyfriend (who is African) is sleeping with and dating others. He has lied to me and told me it is only me. He has suddenly turned on the charm and made all kinds of promises to me. He wants me to pretend that I don't see it. Women and even men, am I to just close my eyes to it and accept it? It feels terrible knowing he is drifting elsewhere. If he has others that he likes why not just let me go and be with them. He tells I'm the only one that really knows him which meant he told the least lies to me. But now there are so many. Should I leave? Does this mean that he does not care about me at all? Or is this just a part if his culture?

Lock up, pray hard for God to talk to u about him, if his Urs .

— Even if we urge you to leave, you wouldn't.

This is evident by the fact you let him manipulate you. You tolerate his lies and deceit. Still yet, you welcome his advances. So embrace him until you're fed up.

— In his sick way, maybe he cares about you.

— Definitely not culture!

Did he tie your leg to stay? i believe you can think, so think with your brain not your heart, relationship with a cheat is not a must, there are way better guys out there, cry your heart out if necessary cos of the heartbreak, when you're done, wipe your tears, harden your heart and make up your mind to forget him, you'll be fine.

You are not a real woman. Men don't cheat on real women, they don't.

They'll only cheat if sex is the only thing you are offering them.

Change your ways.
Improve in your hygiene.
Don't be a pest.
Don't expect love from him.
Learn how to converse.
Worship him.
Don't ask for any damn from him.
Stop moving around the house with wrapper.
Be a good cook.
Beg him for sex.
Do laundry for him.
Be submissive.
Clean the house.

Just be a REAL WOMAN and bring more than sex to the table.

If he cheat on you after doing the aforementioned........Call me BASKAD

IamD18:
You are not a real woman. Men don't cheat on real women, they don't.

They'll only cheat if sex is the only thing you are offering them.

Change your ways.
Improve in your hygiene.
Don't be a pest.
Don't expect love from him.
Learn how to converse.
Worship him.
Don't ask any damn from him.
Stop moving around the house with wrapper.
Be a good cook.
Beg him for sex.
Do laundry for him.
Be submissive.
Clean the house.

Just be a REAL WOMAN and brings more than sex to the table.

If he cheats on you after doing the aforementioned........Call me BASKAD

Really? But Beyonce is a real woman who brings more than sex to the table but Jay-Z still cheated on her.


Hillary Clinton is a woman of substance but she got cheated on.

GrammarNazi1:
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You're the reason I checked in here..

Ebong, kilowa?

milemimi93:
You're the reason I checked in here..

Ebong, kilowa?

I have modified the post.

GrammarNazi1:

Really? But Beyonce is a real woman who brings more than sex to the table but Jay-Z still cheated on her.


Hillary Clinton is a woman of substance but she got cheated on.

Queen B bought a "jet" for Jay Z and nigga still went ahead to fvck "em other holes..



... There's no manual to keep a woman or man..

GrammarNazi1:

Really? But Beyonce is a real woman who brings more than sex to the table but Jay-Z still cheated on her.


Hillary Clinton is a woman of substance but she got cheated on.

Their husbands alone are in the right position to endorse your speculations about their wives.

You don't know them very well. You don't.

GrammarNazi1:

I have modified the post.

I wanted to see some corrections.
I always feel fly seeing you do your job..

You're the reason I don't proofread my posts. Because I know my autocorrect @Grammar grammar is here

IamD18:

Their husbands alone are in the right position to endorse your speculation.
You don't know them very well. You don't.

But Jay-Z confessed that he cheated on B.

IamD18:
You are not a real woman. Men don't cheat on real women, they don't.

They'll only cheat if sex is the only thing you are offering them.

Change your ways.
Improve in your hygiene.
Don't be a pest.
Don't expect love from him.
Learn how to converse.
Worship him.
Don't ask for any damn from him.
Stop moving around the house with wrapper.
Be a good cook.
Beg him for sex.
Do laundry for him.
Be submissive.
Clean the house.

Just be a REAL WOMAN and bring more than sex to the table.

If he cheat on you after doing the aforementioned........Call me BASKAD

To say a man won't cheat if a woman brings more than sex to the table is myopic as it illogically assumes that other factors apart from the ones you have outlined cannot be reasons some men cheat.

milemimi93:


Queen B bought a "jet" for Jay Z and nigga still went ahead to fvck "em other holes..



... There's no manual to keep a woman or man..

Thank you for this information.

You know he's cheating on you but you go ahead to turn a blind eye and stay

you claim its cause you love him while its the money thats tripping you

you eventually marry him, it becomes worse, you think you can now control him into stopping it bc of a simple ring

he starts abusing you

you come to social media to play victim

women are dumb

Lol. I bring a lot to the table. Trust me. I have been there for him through some pretty turbulent times and supported him through his many struggles. I also cooked and was a comfort to him and a freak in bed. And I asked for nothing but love and affection. And still...

Most ladies want a guy others want to sleep with. High value males are in shirt supply hence we don't mind as far as we are the main chick.

Amakavula:
Most ladies want a guy others want to sleep with. High value males are in shirt supply hence we don't mind as far as we are the main chick.

In that case, most Nigeria ladies have serious mental illness

IamD18:
You are not a real woman. Men don't cheat on real women, they don't.

They'll only cheat if sex is the only thing you are offering them.

Change your ways.
Improve in your hygiene.
Don't be a pest.
Don't expect love from him.i
Learn how to converse.
Worship him.
Don't ask for any damn from him.
Stop moving around the house with wrapper.
Be a good cook.
Beg him for sex.
Do laundry for him.
Be submissive.
Clean the house.

Just be a REAL WOMAN and bring more than sex to the table.

If he cheat on you after doing the aforementioned........Call me BASKAD

All these for a guy who is not your husband. Don't give people who wrong advice.

Vonnshelly:
Lol. I bring a lot to the table. Trust me. I have been there for him through some pretty turbulent times and supported him through his many struggles. I also cooked and was a comfort to him and a freak in bed. And I asked for nothing but love and affection. And still...

Honestly you may not get it as you wish. Naturally people want things they can't get. With the way you going I can tell that if anything happens you may be in serious distress cos he won't stop at breaking your hearts but also the lungs. I know you already know what to do but you can't let go and you are looking for someone to tell you that which you want to hear. Sorry dearie but I won't go that way. Stop that sex part, don't cook for him always cos you are not his wife

IamD18:


Their husbands alone are in the right position to endorse your speculations about their wives.

You don't know them very well. You don't.

Then you don't know what u re saying, u dont!
According to ur definition, a real woman brings more Dan sex to d table, ND if dts d only thing u bring, a man will cheat, really? Where did u get such conclusion from?

Brah! Stop trying to justify a cheating man, if u like bring sex to d table, or bring money to d table, or intelligence, a man who still wanna have a taste of oda ladies, will. There is no rule, don't try to claim to have solve the mystery of cheating men.

#youjustdontknowwhatyouaresaying

IamD18:
You are not a real woman. Men don't cheat on real women, they don't.

They'll only cheat if sex is the only thing you are offering them.

Change your ways.
Improve in your hygiene.
Don't be a pest.
Don't expect love from him.
Learn how to converse.
Worship him.
Don't ask for any damn from him.
Stop moving around the house with wrapper.
Be a good cook.
Beg him for sex.
Do laundry for him.
Be submissive.
Clean the house.

Just be a REAL WOMAN and bring more than sex to the table.

If he cheat on you after doing the aforementioned........Call me BASKAD

I am calling u a BASKAD already, cos there are several ladies out there who do wat u wrote above, but their men still cheat, these men literally turned their wives to slaves.

I mean just look at d trash u wrote, u want a lady to worship a man that doesn't give her Ntin? U want a lady to beg for sex with a man dt will eventually call her a slut or a nymph for always asking for sex? U want a lady to cook, do laundry, be submissive, not ask for anything for a man that doesn't know his role as a man in a relationship.

U listed all dese as things a lady should bring to d table, if a lady does all diz, wat should a man do? Just to change her surname?

Honestly men that believe that we re in a generation that responsibilities of the house should be shared equally has no right to demand for a wife that will be submissive to him, u can't expect a woman to assume the role of a man ND also that of a woman ND still be submissive to her husband, of what use is such a man?

IamD18:


Their husbands alone are in the right position to endorse your speculations about their wives.

You don't know them very well. You don't.

Then op's boyfriend alone is in the right position to endorse your speculations about the Op.


You don't know her very well. You don't.

Dear op, you deserve better. Yes you are in love with this guy who you think is the best thing in your life. You are so attracted and attached to him that you overlook his flaws even though they hurt so much. You think your life revolve around him that you can't afford to lose him.You are so into him to condone him sharing what should be intimate between you two alone (sex). You sacrifice so much yet he's not grateful enough to be loyal to you.
Even when he has made it clear he wants an open relationship, you still stay.

Is this the best thing you can ever be for yourself? An option? There are African men out there who are faithful with their partners, so don't fall for the culture thing. You deserve better.

BTW as for your question, only helpless, desperate, independent, dickmatized, lazy and valueless women will pretend not to see their cheating partners. A woman with self esteem, career, self worth, and confident will define her relationship.

MariaLavina:
Then op's boyfriend alone is in the right position to endorse your speculations about the Op.


You don't know her very well. You don't.

Lol.

Thanks for this reply.

You see why I don't like engaging in conversations with members of Nairaland?

Intelligent people argue in order to learn, but even when these ones see that their arguments are weak they defend their arguments with tenuous points.

GrammarNazi1:


Lol.

Thanks for this reply.

You see why I don't like engaging in conversations with members of Nairaland?

Intelligent people argue in order to learn, but even when these ones see that their arguments are weak they defend their arguments with tenuous points.

Lol... I see


Yes...conversing with some people here is exhausting much more arguing with them. I can relate .

Well the hint is : Never argue with a man who's trying to prove a point. He will see nothing but his own sense

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no, girl, stay. after all, this man sees your worth and therefore treats you accordingly.