Good morning house, I'm sorry for typing this on a Sunday morning.

There's this lady that is always calling my boyfriend. He told me not to bother about her that she is not important.

He doesn't answer her calls whenever he's with me but I got to know he always calls her back immediately he leaves.

One day, we were in his house when her calls started coming in. He went with his phone to ease himself and I overheard him talking on the phone. I got hold of his phone and called the lady, I wanted to know the relationship between them and she insisted I ask him after I told her we are dating.

After that call, the calls reduced for a while but there are now back to what it was.

Whenever I complain, boify says I shouldn't bother about the people around him that his feelings for me Is what matters.

I'm not comfortable with the calls, I feel hurt and tired of the situation.

Am I paranoid? or are my reservations justified.?
What do you suggest I do?

I think you should leave the guy and come to Daddy

you are just snitching miss, he's dating u...make him no get female friends? he might get tired of your shit ..if u complain much..

Pubichairs:
you are just snitching miss, he's dating u...make him no get female friends? he might get tired of your shit ..if u complain much..

I'm not against him having female friends, I have male friends as well. Why can't he answer their calls when he's with me or why can't he tell me about them? I tell him stories about my male and female friends

Countrygirl:
Good morning house, I'm sorry for typing this on a Sunday morning.

There's this lady that is always calling my boyfriend. He told me not to bother about her that she is not important.

He doesn't answer her calls whenever he's with me but I got to know he always calls her back immediately he leaves.

One day, we were in his house when her calls started coming in. He went with his phone to ease himself and I overheard him talking on the phone. I got hold of his phone and called the lady, I wanted to know the relationship between them and she insisted I ask him after I told her we are dating.

After that call, the calls reduced for a while but there are now back to what it was.

Whenever I complain, boify says I shouldn't bother about the people around him that his feelings for me Is what matters.

I'm not comfortable with the calls, I feel hurt and tired of the situation.

Am I paranoid? or are my reservations justified.?
What do you suggest I do?

Are you guys involved intimately?

If not then that babe is his go to when he needs a woman's touch.

MJBOLT:

he's not telling you the whole truth,which probably means he's cheating

he's not telling the whole truth

DreamersVille24:


Are you guys involved intimately?

If not then that babe is his go to when he needs a woman's touch.

we are.... so what's the excuse

Countrygirl:
we are.... so what's the excuse

Well you should start doing yours too and see his reaction.

When a call comes in pretend you have to move away to talk, act fishy and all... if he doesn't budge then know it's time to walk away...if he protests then tell him that's how you've been feeling since and he must stop whatever he has with the other babe if he still wants you...

They can't be just platonic friends and he can't talk to her I your presence.

Just start withdrawing emotionally from that relationship to save yourself from heartache.

Can I send you a pm?

You have no right to monitor and question his calls. He is not your husband.

IamD18:
You have no right to monitor and question his calls. He is not your husband.

lol... come up with something better

Countrygirl:
lol... come up with something better

I said he is not your husband, stop disturbing and monitoring his calls until he's fully yours.

DreamersVille24:


Well you should start doing yours too and see his reaction.

When a call comes in pretend you have to move away to talk, act fishy and all... if he doesn't budge then know it's time to walk away...if he protests then tell him that's how you've been feeling since and he must stop whatever he has with the other babe if he still wants you...

They can't be just platonic friends and he can't talk to her I your presence.

Just start withdrawing emotionally from that relationship to save yourself from heartache.

Can I send you a pm?

Thanks for your contribution.... I'll try this

I can't access the email I used in registering

IamD18:

I said he is not your husband, stop disturbing and monitoring his calls until he's fully yours.

this isn't good enough but I've heard you

IamD18:

I said he is not your husband, stop disturbing and monitoring his calls until he's fully yours.

this your line is mostly used by men that cheats.

You're very naive and the kind of girl who fights over men.

On no account should you take your boyfriend's phone to call another lady simply because you think they're dating. That's something you talk to your boyfriend about. I've been in same situation, but guess what I did? I ignored. My principle is, once I catch you red handed; there's no us again...I walk away with my pride intact 'cause fighting would reduce you.

Looks like a serial player.. It's very obvious

IamD18:

I said he is not your husband, stop disturbing and monitoring his calls until he's fully yours.

.. Thank you very much. This is why I said that most people are hypocrites. There's a thread where a lady is claiming she will not do laundry for her bf because she is not yet his wife and a lot of people supported her. Please stop going through his phone,he is not your husband yet. The best advice. Thanks once again bro.

GrabHisBalls:
You're very naive and the kind of girl who fights over men.

On no account should you take your boyfriend's phone to call another lady simply because you think they're dating. That's something you talk to your boyfriend about. I've been in same situation, but guess what I did? I ignored. My principle is, once I catch you red handed; there's no us again...I walk away with my pride intact 'cause fighting would reduce you.

I can't fight over a man.. it was just a simple question and that was it.

Thanks

Countrygirl:
Good morning house, I'm sorry for typing this on a Sunday morning.

There's this lady that is always calling my boyfriend. He told me not to bother about her that she is not important.

He doesn't answer her calls whenever he's with me but I got to know he always calls her back immediately he leaves.

One day, we were in his house when her calls started coming in. He went with his phone to ease himself and I overheard him talking on the phone. I got hold of his phone and called the lady, I wanted to know the relationship between them and she insisted I ask him after I told her we are dating.

After that call, the calls reduced for a while but there are now back to what it was.

Whenever I complain, boify says I shouldn't bother about the people around him that his feelings for me Is what matters.

I'm not comfortable with the calls, I feel hurt and tired of the situation.

Am I paranoid? or are my reservations justified.?
What do you suggest I do?

.. You have no right to go through his phone because he is not yet your husband same way he can't go through yours until you become his wife. Is this not what you girls wanted?.Both of you are free to Bleep around until you become husband and wife.

Countrygirl:
I can't fight over a man.. it was just a simple question and that was it.

Thanks

By calling that lady; you were unintentionally fighting for him. Imagine if she hadn't given the vague reply of asking him; it would've been something else. You just don't do that, and hey, he isn't your husband. I know you love him, and he said he loves you too, but how can you tell if he truly loves you? How can you even tell if he'll end up with you? Since you don't have answers to those questions, don't call other women asking questions.

Whenever she call him in your presence, tell him to answer the call...

He doesn't seem to trust you.

for now stop going through his phone to avoid story that touches the heart...

GrabHisBalls:
By calling that lady; you were unintentionally fighting for him. Imagine if she hadn't given the vague reply of asking him; it would've been something else. You just don't do that, and hey, he isn't your husband. I know you love him, and he said he loves you too, but how can you tell if he truly loves you? How can you even tell if he'll end up with you? Since you don't have answers to those questions, don't call other women asking questions.

Noted... thanks

JONNYSPUTE:
.. You have no right to go through his phone because he is not yet your husband same way he can't go through yours until you become his wife. Is this not what you girls wanted?.Both of you are free to Bleep around until you become husband and wife.

Generalization.

Oreofepeters:
Whenever she call him in your presence, tell him to answer the call...

He doesn't seem to trust you.

that's when he says she is not important and he calls back to call her

Countrygirl:
Generalization.

.. Yes since you ladies are now claiming to only show commitment when you become husband and wife,why can't guys do same?

tosyne2much:
Looks like a serial player.. It's very obvious

It's been a while, how are you doing

tosyne2much:
Looks like a serial player.. It's very obvious

.. Bros don't blame the guy. Since they are not married he owed her no obligation to be faithful. The same thing applies to the girl.let her do whatever she likes after all they are claiming no commitment until they are married. So what's wrong in a guy doing same?. Did you not see their comment on the other thread where the girl is claiming she won't do the guys laundry because they are not yet married? She should stop going through his phones until they are married. Chikina.

youngest85:
I think you should leave the guy and come to Daddy

oponu ni e olorun ngbo. Didirin oshi. Daddy ko, step daddy ni.

The signs are always der. But pple never learn

Countrygirl:
that's when he says she is not important and he calls back to call her

For now you gotta stop the feeling of insecurity, trust me some things are better unseen....
Men hate being over jealous the more you try to find out the more his heart depart from you.
Besides he's not yet your husband hence it doesn't worth the stress...

I'm sure you couldn't sleep well at night for you to wake up so early on sunday morning to type this......

Church sef you won't go..

Oreofepeters:
For now you gotta stop the feeling of insecurity, trust me some things are better unseen....
Men hate being over jealous the more you try to find out the more his heart depart from you.
Besides he's not yet your husband hence it doesn't worth the stress...

I'm sure you couldn't sleep well at night for you to wake up so early on sunday morning to type this......

Church sef you won't go..

lol... I slept well... I couldn't go to church for other reasons..... thanks... I'll try to detach emotionally