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Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by Yuceeluv(f): 2:11pm On Nov 24, 2018
you are mistaking fear for love...You only think you're in love with him...the main issue is "YOU ARE SCARED OF STARTING ALL OVER".

What cracked me up was,devil wears high heels...I actually imagined it grin

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Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by Lizilicious(f): 2:12pm On Nov 24, 2018
Satan wore heels?
Damn! This world is messed up

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Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by ugolinze123(m): 2:12pm On Nov 24, 2018
you are definitely going to join the church someday after marriage so think twice before you make that decision cus u are already blinded with love....its your choice

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Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by uboma(m): 2:12pm On Nov 24, 2018
weyreypey:
Don't be unequally yoked with unbelievers.


The quote above sums up everything.

End of long story.
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by Nobody: 2:14pm On Nov 24, 2018
You prefer to worship brother Jesus but refuse to worship brother Brahman. Is brother Brahman not a white man also ?

Some one needs to deprogram both of you from Yahweh Virus.

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Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by Nobody: 2:14pm On Nov 24, 2018
Religion, deceiving and dividing the simple minded since eternity.

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Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by Nobody: 2:16pm On Nov 24, 2018
SweetBuns:
That church is occultic.
Sister please do the right tin and run!!!!!
Boys full everywhere

Not all are marriageable cry
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by dustydee: 2:18pm On Nov 24, 2018
LovingLife28:


I am torn because I really love him, he is my first boyfriend and we've shared a lot of memories together. I don't know what to do. I don't know if he is part of a cult or whether that is indeed the truth! How would I not wear any make-up on my wedding day? What if my kids want to take part in sports at school, do I tell them they have to wear dresses to run or in the gym? I never thought this would be the thing that would break us apart, I am torn and trying so hard to mentally switch off, but I don't know what to do.

We both love each other and since the arguments we've just not discussed the topic anymore, but I know it's only a matter of time. l'm scared of starting again, looking for someone all over again, What do I do? What would you do?
Honestly, this should be the least of your problems. In most of the wedding pictures I have seen, the women often times look more beautiful on a normal day than on their wedding days and makes me wonder why they do it in the first place. Worry about other things my sister.

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Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by slowbreeze(f): 2:19pm On Nov 24, 2018
LovingLife28:
Hello, I have been with my boyfriend for over a year. We started off well, in -love as you usually do and have shared some wonderful experiences. We're both Christians and I'd never thought of asking what he believed in exactly, I just assumed he was a 'normal' Christians. I even invited him to my church which he attended a few times.

Fast forward to 9 months down the line, I asked him about his church and he said 'you might find it strange, you might think I'm an extremist. So did digged a bit further and asked him what he meant He said 'well the women wear trousers and they don't wear make-up. Now at this point, I was thinking, well I do all these things and you why is he with me if I still do these things? And why allow me to fall deeply in love if I didn't really meet the 'criteria' A few months later, I pressed to attend his church.

So it turns out he is part of The Message church, and their prophet is 'William Branham', they have very strict rules over the women in the church but I don't see anything that the men have to give up per se. What disturbed me the most is that the teachings were mainly cantered around 'Brother Branham' and what he said and what he prophesied etc.

I found this experience very strange and alarming, why wouldn't they just preach straight from the Bible and that be it? They even have a Christian and non-Christian sboed asked where in the bible it said this and he said there isn't.

BUT, apparently Brother Branham' had a dream where God showed him hell and the devil was wearing very high heeled shoes and that's why it's not allowed. I had never heard of this church before meeting him, they all live in fear, even I started to live in fear and have paranoia about hell etc, it was mentally tormenting for me. We had some arguments around it, almost to the point of breaking up.

I think he thinks I'll 'convert' deep down, but the way I'm seeing it I can't. From my perspective, I'd be fine with him going to his church and me attending mine, but if we're thinking long term that would be tricky and probably not work and he would not be happy with it.

I am torn because I really love him, he is my first boyfriend and we've shared a lot of memories together. I don't know what to do. I don't know if he is part of a cult or whether that is indeed the truth! How would I not wear any make-up on my wedding day? What if my kids want to take part in sports at school, do I tell them they have to wear dresses to run or in the gym? I never thought this would be the thing that would break us apart, I am torn and trying so hard to mentally switch off, but I don't know what to do.

We both love each other and since the arguments we've just not discussed the topic anymore, but I know it's only a matter of time. l'm scared of starting again, looking for someone all over again, What do I do? What would you do?

My dear;coming from someone who has been married for a while now;pls don't mind those who say love is the ultimate.Two cannot walk together except they agree.He never told u abt his place of worship early enuf.He is an extremist & expects u to convert & u don't believe in his beliefs/style of worship and may never.Whether u like it or not;by d time uv past d honeymoon stage and reality of marriage hits u; u are expected to do d needful & convert.;& when u don't do so & it begins to cause marital problems;d whole world will blame u.
Just end it while u can as amicably as possible.A broken engagement is better than a broken marriage.

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Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by Nobody: 2:20pm On Nov 24, 2018
That church is a very good church. I grew up there as a young Christian, if you want to know Bible deeply, I will simply tell to make that church a place where to go.

They don't believe in Trinity, they believe in one God. They don't believe in women pastor. They don't believe in Bible school, they train every members to know the Bible truth etc, etc.

If you want to grow as a believer, make go to that church.

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Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by star2008(m): 2:20pm On Nov 24, 2018
Somehow somehow,ur eye is being open to what might cause you a deep pain when u are stucked in the institution called marriage.From what u post u are not ok with the teachings of the church n d effect on ur guy.

PLEASE take a deep breathe n think about ur happiness in marriage. Also don't forget u will have kid(s),what do u want to become of them.DON'T EVER THINK U CAN CHANGE HIM WITH LOVE WHEN U ARE MARRIED..My dear think deeply.
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by Nobody: 2:21pm On Nov 24, 2018
cheesy
Help ke? Read the Holy books and there you get your answer.
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by Nobody: 2:22pm On Nov 24, 2018
SweetBuns:
That church is occultic.
Sister please do the right tin and run!!!!!
Boys full everywhere

But "MEN" are hard to find. Boys (not age) don't marry and when they do, make poor husbands.

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Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by Jabioro: 2:24pm On Nov 24, 2018
Religion make you live a miserable life, being a liberal make you live your life to the fullest.Religion caged you and throw fear of unknow on to you, make you to experience unknow and speak about unknow..lt make you a rigid meanwhile God is not on a still material.HE does not gave them a rigid law .Even the earth is rotating..leave your brother Braham dream and live your personal dream sister!

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Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by Daeylar(f): 2:24pm On Nov 24, 2018
l'm scared of starting again, looking for someone all over again, What do I do? What would you do?
You marry him
You don't agree with a core part of him. Instead of you to leave, you say you are scared of starting over, oh well, no other choice then than to marry him then and carry your cross in peace kiss

babyfaceafrica:
what I don't understand is how can people start dating without knowing the church and denomination the other is going....what were you people discussing albinitio... .carry your cross

I was confused also
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by DONADAMS(m): 2:24pm On Nov 24, 2018
hmmmm
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by Daeylar(f): 2:26pm On Nov 24, 2018
humandroid:
You prefer to worship brother Jesus but refuse to worship brother Brahman. Is brother Brahman not a white man also ?

Some one needs to deprogram both of you from Yahweh Virus.
grin grin
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by prettysassygirl(f): 2:28pm On Nov 24, 2018
Leave that relationship, no matter how hard you try to reason it,religion would always be vital when marriage is involved. Two people who do not believe in the same thing can't stay peacefully togeda shikena.

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Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by shem4soul: 2:31pm On Nov 24, 2018
NwaAmaikpe:
shocked



Memories are built to be destroyed.
Walk away from him and get someone else.
My problem here is not his religious background but your sexual history.

Believe me,
It is not advisable for a woman who has only had one sexual partner to go into marriage because they will definitely crave for more experience and end up cheating.

Go into the world and get some experience before you think about marriage.

My sister when you've increased your body count, I'd advice you marry anyone that comes your way irrespective of their religious backgrounds because husbands are scarce now.

Are you wiser than the Prophetess who just married a man who worships and represents fetish deities?

'Husband no dey oooo'


who b this one?
so because of sex,she should quit d relationship
I wonder d advise u will give ur daughters and sisters in life...

I support her to quit d relationship but not on sex basis,
where is her pride as a lady if she keep on jumping from one man to another?
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by Lonestar124: 2:34pm On Nov 24, 2018
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Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by Julivas(m): 2:36pm On Nov 24, 2018
LovingLife28:
Hello, I have been with my boyfriend for over a year. We started off well, in -love as you usually do and have shared some wonderful experiences. We're both Christians and I'd never thought of asking what he believed in exactly, I just assumed he was a 'normal' Christians. I even invited him to my church which he attended a few times.

Fast forward to 9 months down the line, I asked him about his church and he said 'you might find it strange, you might think I'm an extremist. So did digged a bit further and asked him what he meant He said 'well the women wear trousers and they don't wear make-up. Now at this point, I was thinking, well I do all these things and you why is he with me if I still do these things? And why allow me to fall deeply in love if I didn't really meet the 'criteria' A few months later, I pressed to attend his church.

So it turns out he is part of The Message church, and their prophet is 'William Branham', they have very strict rules over the women in the church but I don't see anything that the men have to give up per se. What disturbed me the most is that the teachings were mainly cantered around 'Brother Branham' and what he said and what he prophesied etc.

I found this experience very strange and alarming, why wouldn't they just preach straight from the Bible and that be it? They even have a Christian and non-Christian sboed asked where in the bible it said this and he said there isn't.

BUT, apparently Brother Branham' had a dream where God showed him hell and the devil was wearing very high heeled shoes and that's why it's not allowed. I had never heard of this church before meeting him, they all live in fear, even I started to live in fear and have paranoia about hell etc, it was mentally tormenting for me. We had some arguments around it, almost to the point of breaking up.

I think he thinks I'll 'convert' deep down, but the way I'm seeing it I can't. From my perspective, I'd be fine with him going to his church and me attending mine, but if we're thinking long term that would be tricky and probably not work and he would not be happy with it.

I am torn because I really love him, he is my first boyfriend and we've shared a lot of memories together. I don't know what to do. I don't know if he is part of a cult or whether that is indeed the truth! How would I not wear any make-up on my wedding day? What if my kids want to take part in sports at school, do I tell them they have to wear dresses to run or in the gym? I never thought this would be the thing that would break us apart, I am torn and trying so hard to mentally switch off, but I don't know what to do.

We both love each other and since the arguments we've just not discussed the topic anymore, but I know it's only a matter of time. l'm scared of starting again, looking for someone all over again, What do I do? What would you do?
Help him by preaching the true gospel to him. I will admonish you to give the relationship a break and let him know what you are feeling about the whole thing.
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by Oreofepeters: 2:37pm On Nov 24, 2018
Church of Satan....
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by daveP(m): 2:37pm On Nov 24, 2018
LovingLife28:
Hello, I have been with my boyfriend for over a year. We started off well, in -love as you usually do and have shared some wonderful experiences. We're both Christians and I'd never thought of asking what he believed in exactly, I just assumed he was a 'normal' Christians. I even invited him to my church which he attended a few times.

Fast forward to 9 months down the line, I asked him about his church and he said 'you might find it strange, you might think I'm an extremist. So did digged a bit further and asked him what he meant He said 'well the women wear trousers and they don't wear make-up. Now at this point, I was thinking, well I do all these things and you why is he with me if I still do these things? And why allow me to fall deeply in love if I didn't really meet the 'criteria' A few months later, I pressed to attend his church.

So it turns out he is part of The Message church, and their prophet is 'William Branham', they have very strict rules over the women in the church but I don't see anything that the men have to give up per se. What disturbed me the most is that the teachings were mainly cantered around 'Brother Branham' and what he said and what he prophesied etc.

I found this experience very strange and alarming, why wouldn't they just preach straight from the Bible and that be it? They even have a Christian and non-Christian sboed asked where in the bible it said this and he said there isn't.

BUT, apparently Brother Branham' had a dream where God showed him hell and the devil was wearing very high heeled shoes and that's why it's not allowed. I had never heard of this church before meeting him, they all live in fear, even I started to live in fear and have paranoia about hell etc, it was mentally tormenting for me. We had some arguments around it, almost to the point of breaking up.

I think he thinks I'll 'convert' deep down, but the way I'm seeing it I can't. From my perspective, I'd be fine with him going to his church and me attending mine, but if we're thinking long term that would be tricky and probably not work and he would not be happy with it.

I am torn because I really love him, he is my first boyfriend and we've shared a lot of memories together. I don't know what to do. I don't know if he is part of a cult or whether that is indeed the truth! How would I not wear any make-up on my wedding day? What if my kids want to take part in sports at school, do I tell them they have to wear dresses to run or in the gym? I never thought this would be the thing that would break us apart, I am torn and trying so hard to mentally switch off, but I don't know what to do.

We both love each other and since the arguments we've just not discussed the topic anymore, but I know it's only a matter of time. l'm scared of starting again, looking for someone all over again, What do I do? What would you do?


If you love sanity, just run. I repeat, just run....
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by alizma: 2:38pm On Nov 24, 2018
LovingLife28:
Hello, I have been with my boyfriend for over a year. We started off well, in -love as you usually do and have shared some wonderful experiences. We're both Christians and I'd never thought of asking what he believed in exactly, I just assumed he was a 'normal' Christians. I even invited him to my church which he attended a few times.

Fast forward to 9 months down the line, I asked him about his church and he said 'you might find it strange, you might think I'm an extremist. So did digged a bit further and asked him what he meant He said 'well the women wear trousers and they don't wear make-up. Now at this point, I was thinking, well I do all these things and you why is he with me if I still do these things? And why allow me to fall deeply in love if I didn't really meet the 'criteria' A few months later, I pressed to attend his church.

So it turns out he is part of The Message church, and their prophet is 'William Branham', they have very strict rules over the women in the church but I don't see anything that the men have to give up per se. What disturbed me the most is that the teachings were mainly cantered around 'Brother Branham' and what he said and what he prophesied etc.

I found this experience very strange and alarming, why wouldn't they just preach straight from the Bible and that be it? They even have a Christian and non-Christian sboed asked where in the bible it said this and he said there isn't.

BUT, apparently Brother Branham' had a dream where God showed him hell and the devil was wearing very high heeled shoes and that's why it's not allowed. I had never heard of this church before meeting him, they all live in fear, even I started to live in fear and have paranoia about hell etc, it was mentally tormenting for me. We had some arguments around it, almost to the point of breaking up.

I think he thinks I'll 'convert' deep down, but the way I'm seeing it I can't. From my perspective, I'd be fine with him going to his church and me attending mine, but if we're thinking long term that would be tricky and probably not work and he would not be happy with it.

I am torn because I really love him, he is my first boyfriend and we've shared a lot of memories together. I don't know what to do. I don't know if he is part of a cult or whether that is indeed the truth! How would I not wear any make-up on my wedding day? What if my kids want to take part in sports at school, do I tell them they have to wear dresses to run or in the gym? I never thought this would be the thing that would break us apart, I am torn and trying so hard to mentally switch off, but I don't know what to do.

We both love each other and since the arguments we've just not discussed the topic anymore, but I know it's only a matter of time. l'm scared of starting again, looking for someone all over again, What do I do? What would you do?
young lady, if you can't cope with their doctrine quit. don't even think of having a family where you will be going to a separate church while your husband will be going to a separate one. this will affect your children negatively. you deserve the best so also your children as well as your husband. don't put yourself in a tight corner that you will soon regret. life is too short to be unhappy all through. I was in your situation some year ago but when I noticed I couldn't adjust after three year being in love together, one year cohabiting yet without serious misunderstanding aside the doctrine difference, I had to call it quit and I am not regretting it today. I love and miss her but my happiness, that of my children as well as her own happiness supersede whatever I called like ve then, hence I let happiness dominate
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by paddyofboss(m): 2:38pm On Nov 24, 2018
LovingLife28:
Hello, I have been with my boyfriend for over a year. We started off well, in -love as you usually do and have shared some wonderful experiences. We're both Christians and I'd never thought of asking what he believed in exactly, I just assumed he was a 'normal' Christians. I even invited him to my church which he attended a few times.

Fast forward to 9 months down the line, I asked him about his church and he said 'you might find it strange, you might think I'm an extremist. So did digged a bit further and asked him what he meant He said 'well the women wear trousers and they don't wear make-up. Now at this point, I was thinking, well I do all these things and you why is he with me if I still do these things? And why allow me to fall deeply in love if I didn't really meet the 'criteria' A few months later, I pressed to attend his church.

So it turns out he is part of The Message church, and their prophet is 'William Branham', they have very strict rules over the women in the church but I don't see anything that the men have to give up per se. What disturbed me the most is that the teachings were mainly cantered around 'Brother Branham' and what he said and what he prophesied etc.

I found this experience very strange and alarming, why wouldn't they just preach straight from the Bible and that be it? They even have a Christian and non-Christian sboed asked where in the bible it said this and he said there isn't.

BUT, apparently Brother Branham' had a dream where God showed him hell and the devil was wearing very high heeled shoes and that's why it's not allowed. I had never heard of this church before meeting him, they all live in fear, even I started to live in fear and have paranoia about hell etc, it was mentally tormenting for me. We had some arguments around it, almost to the point of breaking up.

I think he thinks I'll 'convert' deep down, but the way I'm seeing it I can't. From my perspective, I'd be fine with him going to his church and me attending mine, but if we're thinking long term that would be tricky and probably not work and he would not be happy with it.

I am torn because I really love him, he is my first boyfriend and we've shared a lot of memories together. I don't know what to do. I don't know if he is part of a cult or whether that is indeed the truth! How would I not wear any make-up on my wedding day? What if my kids want to take part in sports at school, do I tell them they have to wear dresses to run or in the gym? I never thought this would be the thing that would break us apart, I am torn and trying so hard to mentally switch off, but I don't know what to do.

We both love each other and since the arguments we've just not discussed the topic anymore, but I know it's only a matter of time. l'm scared of starting again, looking for someone all over again, What do I do? What would you do?
If the bed has not been defiled or something close to.that like.pre-intimacy after a year then he is the real.xtain . If not face ur church n leave him
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by mvem(m): 2:42pm On Nov 24, 2018
Ishilove:

The church is occultic. Any 'church' that has it's foundation built on the doctrines of a man, rather than the imppeccable word of God is of the devil. If you want to walk the long mile with him, will you seriously want your innocent children to grow up with such doctrines?

Sit down and think here. Forget about love for now because love is blind but na inside marriage eye dey clear.

Sometimes the heart makes decisions that the mind cannot, but we also know that the heart can be deceitful above all things. Be wise.
...all churches have doctrines ingrained in them from human influence, that's why all churches have different code of conducts and differing preaching
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by Macgreat(m): 2:45pm On Nov 24, 2018
� run run run
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by MissRaine69(f): 2:47pm On Nov 24, 2018
There is no such thing as “normal Christian” becaus if there was there would not be this many churches with very different views based on one Bible.
How is it an occult? Are there no churches in this land that base their teachings based on how the founder views the Bible?
Branham mixed Calvinist and Arminianism which according to the comments means it is an occult. Ignorance is a disease.
Has he treated you badly in any way?
Has he made mention that he expects you to attend his church?
You have to decide weather you are happy being with someone who views religion differently from you.
Having a different perspective of the same thing does not make you morally or religiously superior.
Labelling things you don’t understand as occult is hypocritical and narrow minded.
What’s important to you? Ask yourself that . Then you can make a decision.

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Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by Lonestar124: 2:47pm On Nov 24, 2018
Read these bible chapters below as a Christian we're made to live in subjection of holy doctrines which is the bible.

Jeremiah 4 vs 30; And when thou art spoiled, what wilt thou do? Though thou clothest thyself with crimsons, though thou deckest thee with ornaments of gold, though thou rentest thy face with painting, in vain shalt thou make thyself fair; thy lovers will despise thee, they will seek thy life.

Deut 22 vs 5; The woman shall not wear that which pertains to unto man, neither shall a man put on woman's garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the lord thy God.

This above bible chapters preach against makeups and women wearing trousers.if you love him you can rid of those habits and keep strait to his orders and church ordinances...if you both get married today you as a wife is made to be subjected to him as your husband.

It is be a wrong ideal for a wife and husband to attend a his or her specific choice of church.
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by yhemster(m): 2:47pm On Nov 24, 2018
With what I know, learnt, and still learning abt relationship/marriage, don’t marry anyone just cos of only love. What happens when the love � goes dim and both of parties ain’t on the same page to rekindle. Several other benefits that cannot be easily replaced by third paties must be share among couples. Both parties must be irreplaceable for one another.
From ur story, I will say run cos both of you doesn’t seem compatible religiously(spirituality and beliefs). As a guy I give you an exposè, you can’t and won’t be able to convince him to exactly what you want to happen in the marriage (except you’re metaphysically endowed wink cheesy).
Re: Help - My Relationship Is Threatened By Religious Differences by BestDude: 2:47pm On Nov 24, 2018
All these religious idiots that always fail to use their brain at the most important time. This is why I stay away from over religious people and I will never marry one.

I have this one lady I truly liked. She hardly talks or contribute to some important discourse. However, one day in the phone, something led to religion and come see how she found all the energy to start talking. I just lost the interest.

Fanatism is not healthy religious practice in my own book.

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