loyalbae:

Why can't you mind your business please? Your advice is unsolicited.

Sent you a PM.

Ishilove:

I should be asking you the same. Why did you quote me if you aren't a busybody? Did you mind your business when you quoted me?

Kettle calling pot black

I quoted you because you seem so hell bent on condemning him. It is his choice for crying out loud. Stop being a "judgina" . It is ladies like you that pretends and do worse things behind closed door. Can't you just read and ignore?

loyalbae:


I quoted you because you seem so hell bent on condemning him. It is his choice for crying out loud. Stop being a "judgina" . It is ladies like you that pretends and do worse things behind closed door. Can't you just read and ignore?

Loyalbae, you keep asking me questions that you should be asking yourself. Can't you also read and ignore too?

You don't know pim about me so stop your baseless assumptions. I will NEVER have children outside wedlock, unlike you two.

Anyway, you're both after the same thing so I understand why you're being so pokenosey on my quotes.

I don't know anything about you and I don't even care to know. You will never have children outside wedlock, well and good but don't condemn those who wants to. It is our choices. Simple!

boomssey:
@poster,do u reside in Lagos?

@boomssey
I reside in Lagos.
Any ideas?
Let's hear them.

OP I always share same view as you do until when mumcy said it's haram (forbidden )..
I wish I am a pilot and would have used that as an excuse for contract marriage..
It's Haram in a nutshell.

I think this way most times,am just not ready to be exclusive to one person for life.

I believe in both parents living together(married) and raising kids! But no one knows the Op's reasons for wanting to tow this route! But I'll advice the OP to date that lady and then marry her legally.

To the ladies that talked about fertility clinics and surrogacy......this question might be silly but I need to know; if he wants to go by this, then who breast feeds the baby? I understand someone donates egg and a surrogate caries the baby and delivers. Kinda confusing, can you ladies explain this better in a layman's language?

Thankyou

austinosita:
I believe in both parents living together(married) and raising kids! But no one knows the Op's reasons for wanting to tow this route! But I'll advice the OP to date that lady and then marry her legally.

To the ladies that talked about fertility clinics and surrogacy......this question might be silly but I need to know; if he wants to go by this, then who breast feeds the baby? I understand someone donates egg and a surrogate caries the baby and delivers. Kinda confusing, can you ladies explain this better in a layman's language?

Thankyou

The baby is usually not breastfed.The child is fed with milk formula.In exceptional cases,you might find a nursing mother who is willing to breastfeed the baby.

thorpido:
The baby is usually not breastfed.The child is fed with milk formula.In exceptional cases,you might find a nursing mother who is willing to breastfeed the baby.

The baby is usually not breastfed!!? Mhen, I don't think I would ever want to try this! Why would you not breast feed your baby or choose for the baby not to be breastfed?

Read(Red) all the plights of guys about women rejection. There's always a woman out there for every man. You just need to lower the qualities or standard you seek in a woman. No woman is ugly as long as you have little cash to tvsh her!

austinosita:


The baby is usually not breastfed!!? Mhen, I don't think I would ever want to try this! Why would you not breast feed your baby or choose for the baby not to be breastfed?

Read(Red) all the plights of guys about women rejection. There's always a woman out there for every man. You just need to lower the qualities or standard you seek in a woman. No woman is ugly as long as you have little cash to tvsh her!

The surrogate mother usually gives up the child soon after birth.That means the baby can't get to breastfeed.
Sadly,not all babies get to breastfeed because the mothers fail to lactate,so the child has to be fed with formula.

thorpido:
The surrogate mother usually gives up the child soon after birth.That means the baby can't get to breastfeed.
Sadly,not all babies get to breastfeed because the mothers fail to lactate,so the child has to be fed with formula.

Oh Really!

Thanks for educating me

@ daddytime,

Any success so far? Kindly update this thread when you can. Thanks

austinosita:


The baby is usually not breastfed!!? Mhen, I don't think I would ever want to try this! Why would you not breast feed your baby or choose for the baby not to be breastfed?

Read(Red) all the plights of guys about women rejection. There's always a woman out there for every man. You just need to lower the qualities or standard you seek in a woman. No woman is ugly as long as you have little cash to tvsh her!

There's a man for every woman but there's never a woman for every man. Research has shown that men outnumber women by 105 men to a 100 women and this doesn't balance out until both genders are in their 50s.

[quote author=uboma post=51827378]@ daddytime,


Any success so far?
Kindly update this thread when you can.
Thanks[/quote

Still on the matter bro..will definitely update thread..

[quote author=daddytime post=51827727][/quote]

noted.
Cheers

Babymama

......Dance to your Daddy, my little baby
Dance to your Daddy, my little lamb
You shall have a fishy, in a little dishy
You shall have a fishy when the boat comes in.

Na lullaby o.

I kinda feel for you and for everyone wanting a baby now. It's not easy mehn... wanting that little guy/babe that carries plenty of your DNA. It could be daunting...

Why not just do it the right way? Yeah...wetin concern aproko me ba? Na night shift cause am

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In essence, you're looking for a babymama that you may or may not be serious with

You want to bring an innocent child into a dysfunctional family structure? you're selfish!!


you men should continue spoiling our family values because of your selfishness and wickedness.

God bless you. Once he is done achieving his aim. He will dump her like a dirty piece of rag. No wise lady will fall for this crap.

I've been thinking about this man's case for the past few days. Although it's ideal; reality came and spoiled it for me. What he is offering is a full blown baby daddy and baby mama situation with the "feelings" which seem more cold. One has to put into consideration the fact that one might meet someone else and start a family.

What about the child?

This can work only if only one is able to put aside his selfish needs for love. If one is able to decide they want a number of kids, agreed, with this person and they would dedicate their life to those kids. It has to be for the sake of having children only.This can't be a selfish choice. He would have to start as he means to go on.

So, daddytime; are willing to sacrifice love to have children?

You can't live and bond with one family and have a child outside that circle of trust. It's too much to ask for.

If you are meant to have kids then you need to have a loving relationship first that is the natural order of things. Unless you're willing to sacrifice your heart for the fruit of your lions.

He has no selfish needs for love. He only needs a woman to use and once the baby arrives, he flees

Ishilove:

'strings or no strings attached', meaning she could end up as a baby mama, in futherance of a worrying trend that is making nonsense of the standard family structure.

When the child you seek is born and his/her peers ask them why mummy and daddy ain't married, what is the child supposed to say? The child grows up with the mindset that a standard nuclear family system isn't important, there by further eroding the already badky eroded family systems world over.

Society is evolving, agreed, but the evolution is tilting heavily towards the negative. What was anathema before is now seen as normal.

Before you tell me that I don't know what you've been through in your quest for The She among shes, let me remind you that many of us have our sob stories, some more gory than others, but in all sincerity is that a justification for bringing innocent kids into the world to be raised in dynsfuntional family systems? I was born and raised in a very sturdy family system that has moulded and shaped my world outlook, and I use the lenses of my upbringing to critically access the society as it is now. Sad stuff.

At the end of the day the ripple effects affect these innocents ones who bear the consequences of the actions of their selfish and near sighted parents.

PREACH

Ishilove:


PREACH

You no well

LotusFan:


You no well

Sometimes I mesmerise myself

[quote author=daddytime post=51827727][/quote]

How far with your quest bro? I intend.on.doing the exact samething as.you. Have you been successful in your quest?

kunleweb:


How far with your quest bro? I intend.on.doing the exact samething as.you. Have you been successful in your quest?

Broda Kunle. ..

I'm settled thanks to God. I didn't quite have follow through with this any longer, but trust me bro, it's worth trying out.

daddytime:


Broda Kunle. ..

I'm settled thanks to God. I didn't quite have follow through with this any longer, but trust me bro, it's worth trying out.

Great Sir. Congrats

kunleweb:


Great Sir. Congrats

Thanks mate...

kunleweb:


Great Sir. Congrats

Thanks mate...how Kubwa you go host me this xmas ooo.. see you next week.

daddytime:


Thanks mate...how Kubwa you go host me this xmas ooo.. see you next week.

Hahaha. Me.ke. New frontiers.bro. After years of research and.planning the time is here. This December,moving to setup my.own plantation. Farming rules bro