| Re: Crazy Over A Nigerian Man by Nobody: 3:58pm On Dec 20, 2018 |
Suzette911:
Sister in USA lol
When I sit back and analyze things I can tell that he does care for me. My gut feeling says he loves me but probably into polygamy. He is from Benin City lol aghhhh! edo guy.. i rest my case 2 Likes |
| Re: Crazy Over A Nigerian Man by Eberechi24(f): 3:59pm On Dec 20, 2018 |
Suzette911:
Sister in USA lol
When I sit back and analyze things I can tell that he does care for me. My gut feeling says he loves me but probably into polygamy. He is from Benin City lol Lefulefu, see your brother |
| Re: Crazy Over A Nigerian Man by dingbang(m): 4:01pm On Dec 20, 2018 |
Suzette911:
Sister in USA lol
When I sit back and analyze things I can tell that he does care for me. My gut feeling says he loves me but probably into polygamy. He is from Benin City lol  Benin? Damn..your gut feeling is damn right!!!! 1 Like |
| Re: Crazy Over A Nigerian Man by Nobody: 4:01pm On Dec 20, 2018 |
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| Re: Crazy Over A Nigerian Man by Nobody: 4:03pm On Dec 20, 2018 |
dingbang:
Benin? Damn..your gut feeling is damn right!!!! na edo guy ooo.. my fellow edo brother with an unmarried cousin... lol. op ruuun. 1 Like |
| Re: Crazy Over A Nigerian Man by Suzette911: 4:03pm On Dec 20, 2018 |
lefulefu:
aghhhh! edo guy.. i rest my case What is wrong with that...I am non judgemental. I am stubborn when I am in love... hahaha |
| Re: Crazy Over A Nigerian Man by Nobody: 4:05pm On Dec 20, 2018 |
Eberechi24:
Lefulefu, see your brother  Eberechi24:
Lefulefu, see your brother we edo guyz still get small of that yoruba demon blood in us be we can be lomantic sha. |
| Re: Crazy Over A Nigerian Man by Suzette911: 4:08pm On Dec 20, 2018 |
lefulefu:
na edo guy ooo.. my fellow edo brother with an unmarried cousin... lol. op ruuun. He didn't have to choose me...He is already here and works very hard...very ambitious. I have tried to figure out what he wants from me. I started feeling sorry for him putting myself in his shoes. I asked do you miss ypur wife. He keep saying it's not his wife. I ask what do u want from me...He says just love me 1 Like |
| Re: Crazy Over A Nigerian Man by Suzette911: 4:13pm On Dec 20, 2018 |
Jayslicky:
You found a good guy and you're taking him for granted, anyways there're many girls who would pounce on him if you leave. I hope so. |
| Re: Crazy Over A Nigerian Man by Nobody: 4:13pm On Dec 20, 2018 |
Suzette911:
He didn't have to choose me...He is already here and works very hard...very ambitious. I have tried to figure out what he wants from me. I started feeling sorry for him putting myself in his shoes. I asked do you miss ypur wife. He keep saying it's not his wife. I ask what do u want from me...He says just love me but why is he denying his wife. i just feel sorry for the lady sha. |
| Re: Crazy Over A Nigerian Man by Suzette911: 4:14pm On Dec 20, 2018 |
MariaLavina:
How sure are you he is a good guy? Like we don't know what lots of you Nigerian men in diaspora do. 
But then he may be a good guy, no one can tell. Benin city |
| Re: Crazy Over A Nigerian Man by Suzette911: 4:17pm On Dec 20, 2018 |
Ishilove:
Dear Smitten poster, here are some questions for you-
1) What is his occupation/source of income?
2) Is he a legal resident? What is his legal status?
3) Can you describe his inner circle? He works hard to hard. I don't know if he has landed status but I know he does have a visa perhaps and working in a good field.i have not been around his friends or family. |
| Re: Crazy Over A Nigerian Man by Nobody: 4:30pm On Dec 20, 2018 |
Suzette911:
If he is already in Canada and works why would he need a visa.... I am not worried about helping him if he is genuine. Seeking the opinion of Nlers is the worst thing u can do to urself.. Half of them have this stereotype of Nigerians in diaspora while the remaining half are just angry to see another brother getting it right.. Its a dog eat dog world here. So if u love whatever it is u share with him do not bring it here but rather deal with it personally b/w the both of u & with a clear mind.. These people here will only mess up ur head, poison ur mind & in turn cloud ur judgements which will eventually lead to an inevitable more troubled and chaotic relationship with ur man. Do the right thing. 2 Likes |
| Re: Crazy Over A Nigerian Man by carter009(m): 4:41pm On Dec 20, 2018 |
I agree with you, please OP don't take any stupid advice from some ladies here, even some guys too. ojun50:
If u follow any advice frm here u are on yr own,,,,,jst do whtapp will make u happy 1 Like |
| Re: Crazy Over A Nigerian Man by carter009(m): 4:49pm On Dec 20, 2018 |
100% true, many here are frustrated, @OP don't listen to there stupid advice.. dairykidd:
Seeking the opinion of Nlers is the worst thing u can do to urself.. Half of them have this stereotype of Nigerians in diaspora while the remaining half are just angry to see another brother getting it right.. Its a dog eat dog world here. So if u love whatever it is u share with him do not bring it here but rather deal with it personally b/w the both of u & with a clear mind.. These people here will only mess up ur head, poison ur mind & in turn cloud ur judgements which will eventually lead to an inevitable more troubled and chaotic relationship with ur man. Do the right thing. 3 Likes |
| Re: Crazy Over A Nigerian Man by MissRaine69(f): 4:59pm On Dec 20, 2018 |
Look, this is your life and your happiness no one can make decisions for you regarding which direction to take. Knowing someone and knowing about someone are not one of the same. You can’t ask Nigerians about the mannerisms and behaviour of one Nigerian. It’s not that straightforward . This is a land where stereotypes, tribalism and all manner of isms prevail
That said you are running a bit, you need to walk. Meeting someone’s family is a big deal in Nigetria, you don’t introduce anyone and everyone it does not work that way it’s a whole different culture out there.
Have you met his friends?
You need to know more about this man, that’s pertinent.
Would you not give your daughter ( if you have one) the same advice?
Why did you feel it was necessary to snoop?
Even if he was married how would we know?
If things don’t feel right walk away
If he makes you happy stop with the dramatics. If you feel insecure for whatever reason then maybe a relationship is not ideal right now. Focus on you. 1 Like |
| Re: Crazy Over A Nigerian Man by Nobody: 5:07pm On Dec 20, 2018 |
Suzette911:
Hello Everyone,
How is everyone doing. Looking for a bit of advise from people from Nigeria. First off I am Canadian(black)and I met this guy from Nigeria in september. He lives anf work in Canada. I am 35 with two kids. He says he is 38 with no kids.He came up to me and began talking to me, i was somewhat agitated because i really didnt plan on meeting someone. We exchanged numbers and I didn't think anything would develop out of this. He waited 2 days and tried to get in contact with me. I ignored him after a few messages. He eventually calls and I asked him so who are you supposedto be again. I knew he felt out of sorts but of course a lady has to play hard to get. I noticed how persistent he was and I decided to talk to him via texts and calls. Currently we have been on three dates and counting. I really seem to be enjoying this young man's company for some reason. He is very sweet , says the right things, treats me very well. It feels like I knew him for so long. I am very open and honest with him. I feel like I can call him whenever and he calls me whenever. We spend a lot of time on the phone. Honestly speaking we are kind of fast paced,we have made love once which we both wanted.I have a very deep liking to him and I am smitten by him. I can't say that I love him but it's getting there. I can't help it I am somewhat of a detective or PI if you want to call it that. I went snooping on his Facebook page and saw a lady with his same last name. I asked him if he was married. He struggled somewhat before he gave me an answer. He said it was his cousin and ever since we are just arguing. He is accusing me of other relations of which I am innocent of. We blew things so bad, we have been arguing for days. I genuinely care about him and I am stuck at this point because I honestly don't want to date anyone married but I dont want to walk away if he isn't. It's been so bad I think I am causing him to go grey because I am giving him an extremely hard time. He has invited me to spend time with him but I just can't go. I told him let's go to Nigeria,he said he will take me. I really want to go with him to see the place and experience his culture and meet his family
I don't know what to do. I feel stuck. I amso miserable I wonder why he wants me...what should I do. hmm |
| Re: Crazy Over A Nigerian Man by Suzette911: 5:36pm On Dec 20, 2018 |
dairykidd:
Seeking the opinion of Nlers is the worst thing u can do to urself.. Half of them have this stereotype of Nigerians in diaspora while the remaining half are just angry to see another brother getting it right.. Its a dog eat dog world here. So if u love whatever it is u share with him do not bring it here but rather deal with it personally b/w the both of u & with a clear mind.. These people here will only mess up ur head, poison ur mind & in turn cloud ur judgements which will eventually lead to an inevitable more troubled and chaotic relationship with ur man. Do the right thing. 1 Like |
| Re: Crazy Over A Nigerian Man by Suzette911: 5:38pm On Dec 20, 2018 |
dairykidd:
Seeking the opinion of Nlers is the worst thing u can do to urself.. Half of them have this stereotype of Nigerians in diaspora while the remaining half are just angry to see another brother getting it right.. Its a dog eat dog world here. So if u love whatever it is u share with him do not bring it here but rather deal with it personally b/w the both of u & with a clear mind.. These people here will only mess up ur head, poison ur mind & in turn cloud ur judgements which will eventually lead to an inevitable more troubled and chaotic relationship with ur man. Do the right thing. Thank you for your comment and sincerity of heart. I am still giving us a chance although still very vigilant but I am hoping that it works and we get a shot at genuine love 2 Likes |
| Re: Crazy Over A Nigerian Man by Suzette911: 6:10pm On Dec 20, 2018 |
MissRaine69:
Look, this is your life and your happiness no one can make decisions for you regarding which direction to take. Knowing someone and knowing about someone are not one of the same. You can’t ask Nigerians about the mannerisms and behaviour of one Nigerian. It’s not that straightforward . This is a land where stereotypes, tribalism and all manner of isms prevail
That said you are running a bit, you need to walk. Meeting someone’s family is a big deal in Nigetria, you don’t introduce anyone and everyone it does not work that way it’s a whole different culture out there.
Have you met his friends?
You need to know more about this man, that’s pertinent.
Would you not give your daughter ( if you have one) the same advice?
Why did you feel it was necessary to snoop?
Even if he was married how would we know?
If things don’t feel right walk away
If he makes you happy stop with the dramatics. If you feel insecure for whatever reason then maybe a relationship is not ideal right now. Focus on you. yeah I understand. What you are saying. I honestly thinks he loves me and probably i am a tad insecure. By nature I am a jealous person in relationships and i have a very curious nature and just love to know stuff.My mind just won't stop. I think we are a bit too quick but the chemistry is just there. It feels like we know each other for so long. I feel like I can say whatever I want with him. He is not private at all or so I would think. We're free and open with each other so I just go with the flow with him although the last couple of days I shave been driving him crazy and I thought it would end but he weathered it with me quite well. When it's spontaneous it's better instead of planned. We just go with the flow. But when i am with him I am young at heart and feel like a giddy school girl. Priceless. 1 Like |
| Re: Crazy Over A Nigerian Man by Suzette911: 6:24pm On Dec 20, 2018 |
MissRaine69:
Look, this is your life and your happiness no one can make decisions for you regarding which direction to take. Knowing someone and knowing about someone are not one of the same. You can’t ask Nigerians about the mannerisms and behaviour of one Nigerian. It’s not that straightforward . This is a land where stereotypes, tribalism and all manner of isms prevail
That said you are running a bit, you need to walk. Meeting someone’s family is a big deal in Nigetria, you don’t introduce anyone and everyone it does not work that way it’s a whole different culture out there.
Have you met his friends?
You need to know more about this man, that’s pertinent.
Would you not give your daughter ( if you have one) the same advice?
Why did you feel it was necessary to snoop?
Even if he was married how would we know?
If things don’t feel right walk away
If he makes you happy stop with the dramatics. If you feel insecure for whatever reason then maybe a relationship is not ideal right now. Focus on you. yeah I understand. What you are saying. I honestly thinks he loves me and probably i am a tad insecure. By nature I am a jealous person in relationships and i have a very curious nature and just love to know stuff.My mind just won't stop. I think we are a bit too quick but the chemistry is just there. It feels like we know each other for so long. I feel like I can say whatever I want with him. He is not private at all or so I would think. We're free and open with each other so I just go with the flow with him although the last couple of days I shave been driving him crazy and I thought it would end but he weathered it with me quite well. When it's spontaneous it's better instead of planned. We just go with the flow. But when i am with him I am young at heart and feel like a giddy school girl. Priceless. lefulefu:
but why is he denying his wife. i just feel sorry for the lady sha. I am not sure if he has a wife 1 Like |
| Re: Crazy Over A Nigerian Man by Bannylove13: 6:37pm On Dec 20, 2018 |
Suzette911:
yeah I understand. What you are saying. I honestly thinks he loves me and probably i am a tad insecure. By nature I am a jealous person in relationships and i have a very curious nature and just love to know stuff.My mind just won't stop. I think we are a bit too quick but the chemistry is just there. It feels like we know each other for so long. I feel like I can say whatever I want with him. He is not private at all or so I would think. We're free and open with each other so I just go with the flow with him although the last couple of days I shave been driving him crazy and I thought it would end but he weathered it with me quite well. When it's spontaneous it's better instead of planned. We just go with the flow. But when i am with him I am young at heart and feel like a giddy school girl. Priceless. I am not sure if he has a wife Don't come to nairaland to seek opinion.. Lots of scum in here with so derange brain..hating. Guy is real with you.. don't rush things..don't fall so hard.. Time will tell.. But here ..lots of fools hating on a successful brother.. Becareful with the Yoruba demons..those ain't real. 2 Likes |
| Re: Crazy Over A Nigerian Man by Emmy713: 7:04pm On Dec 20, 2018 |
Suzette911:
Hello Everyone,
How is everyone doing. Looking for a bit of advise from people from Nigeria. First off I am Canadian(black)and I met this guy from Nigeria in september. He lives anf work in Canada. I am 35 with two kids. He says he is 38 with no kids.He came up to me and began talking to me, i was somewhat agitated because i really didnt plan on meeting someone. We exchanged numbers and I didn't think anything would develop out of this. He waited 2 days and tried to get in contact with me. I ignored him after a few messages. He eventually calls and I asked him so who are you supposedto be again. I knew he felt out of sorts but of course a lady has to play hard to get. I noticed how persistent he was and I decided to talk to him via texts and calls. Currently we have been on three dates and counting. I really seem to be enjoying this young man's company for some reason. He is very sweet , says the right things, treats me very well. It feels like I knew him for so long. I am very open and honest with him. I feel like I can call him whenever and he calls me whenever. We spend a lot of time on the phone. Honestly speaking we are kind of fast paced,we have made love once which we both wanted.I have a very deep liking to him and I am smitten by him. I can't say that I love him but it's getting there. I can't help it I am somewhat of a detective or PI if you want to call it that. I went snooping on his Facebook page and saw a lady with his same last name. I asked him if he was married. He struggled somewhat before he gave me an answer. He said it was his cousin and ever since we are just arguing. He is accusing me of other relations of which I am innocent of. We blew things so bad, we have been arguing for days. I genuinely care about him and I am stuck at this point because I honestly don't want to date anyone married but I dont want to walk away if he isn't. It's been so bad I think I am causing him to go grey because I am giving him an extremely hard time. He has invited me to spend time with him but I just can't go. I told him let's go to Nigeria,he said he will take me. I really want to go with him to see the place and experience his culture and meet his family
I don't know what to do. I feel stuck. I amso miserable I wonder why he wants me...what should I do. My dear I will urge you to make proper investigations the lady with same surname might be the sister or a relationship you never can tell secondly don't judge a book by its cover there are bad people everywhere and we also have good ones am currently dating a black American girl whom I met on fb which I have no negative plans against her and besides I need no favour from her too because I think I have what it takes to make a comfortable living in Nigeria. 1 Like |
| Re: Crazy Over A Nigerian Man by spankyflex(m): 7:08pm On Dec 20, 2018 |
lefulefu:
in nigeria when a person is swearing and saying car will hit him or otherwise then u know for sure he's lying to u. why are so out to spoil this man reputation. Op pls be wary of posters like this who see negativity in everything. I personally bear the same surname with my cousin and that doesn't mean she is my wife 3 Likes |
| Re: Crazy Over A Nigerian Man by BlackAdam55(m): 7:22pm On Dec 20, 2018 |
Suzette911:
yeah I understand. What you are saying. I honestly thinks he loves me and probably i am a tad insecure. By nature I am a jealous person in relationships and i have a very curious nature and just love to know stuff.My mind just won't stop. I think we are a bit too quick but the chemistry is just there. It feels like we know each other for so long. I feel like I can say whatever I want with him. He is not private at all or so I would think. We're free and open with each other so I just go with the flow with him although the last couple of days I shave been driving him crazy and I thought it would end but he weathered it with me quite well. When it's spontaneous it's better instead of planned. We just go with the flow. But when i am with him I am young at heart and feel like a giddy school girl. Priceless. well it seems likes he treat you right, well follow your heart no one can decide for you, if he's real good luck to you,and if he's not good luck to you as well.  1 Like |
| Re: Crazy Over A Nigerian Man by MissRaine69(f): 7:26pm On Dec 20, 2018 |
Suzette911:
yeah I understand. What you are saying. I honestly thinks he loves me and probably i am a tad insecure. By nature I am a jealous person in relationships and i have a very curious nature and just love to know stuff.My mind just won't stop. I think we are a bit too quick but the chemistry is just there. It feels like we know each other for so long. I feel like I can say whatever I want with him. He is not private at all or so I would think. We're free and open with each other so I just go with the flow with him although the last couple of days I shave been driving him crazy and I thought it would end but he weathered it with me quite well. When it's spontaneous it's better instead of planned. We just go with the flow. But when i am with him I am young at heart and feel like a giddy school girl. Priceless. You can’t foster anything productive or sustain longetivity if you allow the emotional mind to govern everything. You will always bicker and quite frankly it’s exhausting. Now regarding this issue of does he have a wife does he not. It’s best you find out now rather than assume because he says so then it’s true. There are instances when the wife is actually in on this and she is aware that her man is doing what he needs to do because he needs residency. I am not saying that is the case here but you need to be aware of it as a possibility. You have to allow yourself to be pragmatic as things tend to be blurred and become half seen or not seen at all when you start to fall for someone. All the best . 2 Likes |
| Re: Crazy Over A Nigerian Man by mikejj(m): 7:28pm On Dec 20, 2018 |
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| Re: Crazy Over A Nigerian Man by victorian(f): 7:38pm On Dec 20, 2018 |
lefulefu:
. abeg take ur time to read d story..u will laugh.the bros claimed he has never married b4 and op snoop thru im facebook page and saw a lady bearing the naija bros surname.now d naija bros is denying and saying na im sister be dat..i wan die for laugh ;-) . victorian and highqueen come and read tory oo. I have read it. If her mind is restless and unsettled about what the guy is saying, she should just follow her mind and quit! They are not married yet, so I wonder what's she's missing about and giving herself sleepless night for. Op, if your mind is warning you to steer clear from the guy, listen to your mind and ignore the yearning of the heart. Our guardian spirits can never lead us wrongly. For me, I don't see any big issue in this matter. She should follow her mind and cut him off! He will never take her to Nigeria to see his family and that's the hard truth. The guy is married in Nigeria. The earlier op realise the better for her. Have stopped taking Nigerian men serious. Immediately I notice any foul play, I cut off! No time to waste and I don't have a heart anymore for someone to break. So no need guessing or worrying.. No time jare. Mo raye oshi. |
| Re: Crazy Over A Nigerian Man by victorian(f): 7:40pm On Dec 20, 2018 |
lefulefu:
na edo guy ooo.. my fellow edo brother with an unmarried cousin... lol. op ruuun. |
| Re: Crazy Over A Nigerian Man by victorian(f): 7:40pm On Dec 20, 2018 |
lefulefu:
na edo guy ooo.. my fellow edo brother with an unmarried cousin... lol. op ruuun. She should run and not look back! Edo guy? Red flag! 1 Like |
| Re: Crazy Over A Nigerian Man by havilla(f): 7:45pm On Dec 20, 2018 |
Suzette911:
Hello Everyone,
How is everyone doing. Looking for a bit of advise from people from Nigeria. First off I am Canadian(black)and I met this guy from Nigeria in september. He lives anf work in Canada. I am 35 with two kids. He says he is 38 with no kids.He came up to me and began talking to me, i was somewhat agitated because i really didnt plan on meeting someone. We exchanged numbers and I didn't think anything would develop out of this. He waited 2 days and tried to get in contact with me. I ignored him after a few messages. He eventually calls and I asked him so who are you supposedto be again. I knew he felt out of sorts but of course a lady has to play hard to get. I noticed how persistent he was and I decided to talk to him via texts and calls. Currently we have been on three dates and counting. I really seem to be enjoying this young man's company for some reason. He is very sweet , says the right things, treats me very well. It feels like I knew him for so long. I am very open and honest with him. I feel like I can call him whenever and he calls me whenever. We spend a lot of time on the phone. Honestly speaking we are kind of fast paced,we have made love once which we both wanted.I have a very deep liking to him and I am smitten by him. I can't say that I love him but it's getting there. I can't help it I am somewhat of a detective or PI if you want to call it that. I went snooping on his Facebook page and saw a lady with his same last name. I asked him if he was married. He struggled somewhat before he gave me an answer. He said it was his cousin and ever since we are just arguing. He is accusing me of other relations of which I am innocent of. We blew things so bad, we have been arguing for days. I genuinely care about him and I am stuck at this point because I honestly don't want to date anyone married but I dont want to walk away if he isn't. It's been so bad I think I am causing him to go grey because I am giving him an extremely hard time. He has invited me to spend time with him but I just can't go. I told him let's go to Nigeria,he said he will take me. I really want to go with him to see the place and experience his culture and meet his family
I don't know what to do. I feel stuck. I amso miserable I wonder why he wants me...what should I do. you didn’t tell us if you snooped through the ladies Facebook page. Did she have pictures of both of them? Any kids? Does he have more than one picture of her on his page? I guess this can be little clues. Having the same surname isn’t enough evidence as I have male cousins with the same surname as me on my fb page. 1 Like |
| Re: Crazy Over A Nigerian Man by jesmond3945: 8:00pm On Dec 20, 2018 |
Suzette911:
yeah I understand. What you are saying. I honestly thinks he loves me and probably i am a tad insecure. By nature I am a jealous person in relationships and i have a very curious nature and just love to know stuff.My mind just won't stop. I think we are a bit too quick but the chemistry is just there. It feels like we know each other for so long. I feel like I can say whatever I want with him. He is not private at all or so I would think. We're free and open with each other so I just go with the flow with him although the last couple of days I shave been driving him crazy and I thought it would end but he weathered it with me quite well. When it's spontaneous it's better instead of planned. We just go with the flow. But when i am with him I am young at heart and feel like a giddy school girl. Priceless. I am not sure if he has a wife if you have decided to listen to your heart instead of your head no problem. Everybody on this thread can only advise but when taking you have to be neutral so as to process the information and make an informed decision. If i were you i would do more digging to be sure he is clean but the dopamine levels in your blood stream is still high and making you not to judge correctly. |
,can you imagine him get female cousin wey they answer him surname 