EVILFOREST:
OKAFOR’s LAW
NEVER make the mistake of marrying a LADY you love more.
Settle for a LADY that LOVES you more.
Come back and thank me
For you will look ROBUST in that MARRIAGE.

You are suffering because you LOVE her so much and doesn’t love you at all
SORRY MAN, always ask the elders

Marriage is meant to be enjoyed & not to be managed. Sir, I feel ur worries and pains. Pls, run for ur dear life, that lady will kill u, take all ur properties, & still go ahead to marry who she truly loves. I can tell u she came for the money. Get a good lawyer, file for a divorce base on threat to ur life I'm telling u, ur request would be granted by the court as long as u can u ve prove...pls, run for ur life, some women are evil, jezebel, agents of darkness.

EVILFOREST:
OKAFOR’s LAW
NEVER make the mistake of marrying a LADY you love more.
Settle for a LADY that LOVES you more.
Come back and thank me
For you will look ROBUST in that MARRIAGE.

You are suffering because you LOVE her so much and doesn’t love you at all
SORRY MAN, always ask the elders

Eviforest. How will I know a woman that loves me more than I love her. Any signs to help a brother please.

At the beginning when I saw "she let you know all her where abouts, I stopped reading".
You are really a novice. Most girls that does that are cheats.

In marriage I consider some action as intolerable acts.

A wife that still relating with ex-boyfriends is not a wife.

A wife that is confronting husband with weapons in order to injure him and not for self defense is not a wife.

A wife who has no one she regards from both husband and her family during anger and frustration to persuade and caution her to listen and show regrets for her misconduct, she's not a wife.

A wife who refuse to listen to her husband's advice and always act against the warning of her husband, she's not a wife.

A wife that always glad in sadness of her husband she's not a wife.

A wife who doesn't fear God, will lack shame, one whose lacking shame won't fear God.

Blame yourself for lacking skill of discovering bad side of the woman you have chosen as wife.

Think and decide by yourself.

Bros I think you married the devils cousin

Sarkin:
person way marry unrepentant OLOSHO. no need for DNA sef, I'm sure na the gateman get am, not even the son.

No offense royalamour

Gbam!!! This is real....now I'm rethinking about marriage.....

bastard that is what you are.mumu.thunder faya you.how can u allow harlot to control ur fuckin life.you are not man...umust be goat

stop getting married to ladies who are still emotionally attached to their ex but una no go hear.

Sarkin:


There's absolute no need for diplomacy here.
I Would have divorced her lineage the moment her ex was complimenting her pussy and she abhors it.
He married an irredeemable prostitute.
I'm sure if this naive gentle man dies she won't morn for more than 1 hour and will climb her ex the next day.

My Brother Marriage is beyond that! Those are the things he would have taken into Consideration before Marrying her...

From his write up, she is Evil but Divorce is not done just like that

Seriously, Have been married for 6 year now and I can never take quarter... anyway, follow this advice here and also add to get restriction order against her having her parents, aunty, brothers and even her ancestors in copy.

BlacSmit:
If this is truth. I advice that you secure yourself first and move out of the shared apartment cos your relationship is very toxic at the moment.

Secure your finance and priceless valuables as well.

Your can start the divorce proceedings from your hideout like dino melaye. (sarcasm intended)

You spoke my mind

Acidosis:


You didn't address the ex issues before your wedding. Marriage will not automatically erase a woman's feelings toward an ex. If she didn't get over her ex before marriage, she won't in marriage. Aside the change of name and that band, marriage changes nothing. A cheat and a careless person will always remain the same until a conscious effort is made; it doesn't matter where you conduct your wedding, Paris or Rome.

More importantly, the world these days don't give a fck about married women, you can go ahead to wear 25 wedding bands. The same kind of conversations you hold before marriage will always come back to live. Those randy buddies won't care whether you're married to a Pope or a Senator.
Gone are the days were people consciously respect married women. A married woman that wants to be respected needs to respect herself before marriage.

Bottom line, your wife hasn't changed. You only decided to get played at the onset. I bet you didn't even care to know about her past (you're probably one of those folks who claim they don't care about the past). Oh well, the past will always come to haunt those who fail to address them. Getting to know about these exes after 2 years in marriage shows the kind of courtship you had.

On whether to divorce her or not? I think you should listen to your in-laws. When your own in-law tells you to quit after several attempts to correct their daughter, trust me, only a f00l will advise you to continue. I don't know more than her parents who raised and trained her. They probably even know more than you do, so listen to them and listen to that inner voice.

Now unless you're marrying a total virgin, you need to dig deep without raising trust issues. Don't ever make the mistake you made in this marriage in your next attempt.

All the best bruv.

Dessy96:

shut up fool.... you strong man

You are telling everyone to shut up. You are the bigger fool. Woman wrapper. Idiot. Someone is telling him the plain truth you are talking like a nuisance.

EfemenaXY:


Divorce. Divorce. Divorce.

Divorce isn’t always the answer to marital problems and should never be taken lightly especially when there are children involved.

This should only ever be the last resort if all else has failed.

Besides, there’s always three sides to every story:

~ His side
~ Her side
~ The truth

Based purely on your side of the story, you need to do some serious soul searching and ask yourself why your wife changed overnight.

The first few years of marriage are the honeymoon stage. You courted this woman for 11 months. That’s quite a while to have studied her. There is no way a person can keep up the pretence for 11 long months (unless yours was a long distance relationship?). There must have been red flags. You just chose to ignore them.

Nonetheless, there HAS to be a reason why she’s suddenly turned 360^os on you. Obviously there appears to be:

1. An emotional black hole in your relationship. The ex turning up is a symptom of the underlying issues with your marriage. A woman would only turn to an ex or another man if her emotional needs aren’t being met. For example when discussing with your wife, do you seek her opinion / input or do you wave aside her views? Do you say “Thank you” to make her feel appreciated when she gives / does something you are a recipient of? What is your sex life like with her? Do you take the time to satisfy her needs? Or is it all about you, you, and you? Is life with you one endless boring routine? Or do you make efforts to spice it up?

2. Trust Issues. When a wife starts stashing away huge sums of cash in secret, it means she’s preparing a nest egg for herself and her kids without you in the picture. Most times this action arises from betrayal or if she perceives you to have betrayed her. Have you ever cheated on her? Or done something to make her feel insecure in your union?

3. Immaturity. A refusal to acknowledge one’s fault / mistake and apologise accordingly is usually down to misplaced pride and immaturity. Wisdom comes with age. How old is your wife?

For a marriage to work, both parties have to roll up their sleeves and get stuck in. You have to ask yourself if there’s any part of you that wants to salvage the marriage. If you do, then you need to ask your wife if she’s still interested in the marriage too.

If the answer is “yes” from both of you, then both of you need to make the effort to save it. Start by seeking help from a neutral third party such as a marriage counsellor. Book a couple of sessions with them so you and wifey can talk through your issues.

Your problems didn’t start today. They’ve festered for over four years so you need to be patient and not expect everything to be miraculously resolved in one day. A lot of patience, perseverance, and constant communication will be needed to get your relationship back to a healthy state.

It is well.

Nonsensical. What other things do you want to hear ? Someone was stabbed, starves and treated like a rag in his own house and you re here itemizing theoretical possibilities for his predicament. I guess you'll say all this to defend him when he is no more (God forbid)

If it were the woman that narrated this, you won't be talking about version of this situation

7figuresalary:
Don't divorce her dawg!!!! Don't!!! She loves u selflessly... I can assure u that from the depth of my heart...

You are a wicked human figure.....

OKOATA:
You are telling everyone to shut up. You are the bigger fool. Woman wrapper. Idiot. Someone is telling him the plain truth you are talking like a nuisance.

She sounds like a nuisance and she look like one from afar....

Evercurious:



But she is right on point. Cos thats what men want

She-devil.....who go marry this one ?

Good Bros,

It is obvious the lady scammed you with "Entry level Behaviour" and she is not such a reflection of what she claimed to be.
See, truth be told a promiscuous lady will forever be even if she gets married to the most faithful man.

My brother divorce is hard to do in Nigeria,As the legal procedure will drain you physically and financially,Rather separation is advisable.

My Advice

1. Stop having sex with her, if she is in the mood just stylishly discharge her.

2.Stop eating her food otherwise you will wake up one day in land of the deads

3. Rent a small apartment(far to your house) where you can be rotating your sleep.

4.Don't fight her ooo, just be neutral if she engages in conversation,please converse with her to any length.

5. Be more close to your son and spend quality time with him, if he has started school check him frequently.

6. Don't reduce your spendings on her rather spend intelligently.

7.Pray for God direction on this matter

OKOATA:
You are telling everyone to shut up. You are the bigger fool. Woman wrapper. Idiot. Someone is telling him the plain truth you are talking like a nuisance.

Bitch

CarlosTheJackal:
I will be stupid to advise you to divorce your wife now because the day my wife stand me will mean the end of any marriage.


You are a sissy abeg

Wa gbayi......no dulling

Is not well oooo, I wonder how you were able to accommodate all these nonsense, they apologised what? Who said she would stop it?the highest level of insult and disregard is for a married person to be sleeping with another person, she is equally tired of the marriage.

Listen, she is gonna kill you, collect ur money and elope with her ex, use this opportunity to divorce her when u still have i., ur priest or pastor should not even beg on her behalf.
Many pretend a lot. I wish you luck.

EfemenaXY:


Divorce. Divorce. Divorce.

Divorce isn’t always the answer to marital problems and should never be taken lightly especially when there are children involved.

This should only ever be the last resort if all else has failed.

Besides, there’s always three sides to every story:

~ His side
~ Her side
~ The truth

Based purely on your side of the story, you need to do some serious soul searching and ask yourself why your wife changed overnight.

The first few years of marriage are the honeymoon stage. You courted this woman for 11 months. That’s quite a while to have studied her. There is no way a person can keep up the pretence for 11 long months (unless yours was a long distance relationship?). There must have been red flags. You just chose to ignore them.

Nonetheless, there HAS to be a reason why she’s suddenly turned 360^os on you. Obviously there appears to be:

1. An emotional black hole in your relationship. The ex turning up is a symptom of the underlying issues with your marriage. A woman would only turn to an ex or another man if her emotional needs aren’t being met. For example when discussing with your wife, do you seek her opinion / input or do you wave aside her views? Do you say “Thank you” to make her feel appreciated when she gives / does something you are a recipient of? What is your sex life like with her? Do you take the time to satisfy her needs? Or is it all about you, you, and you? Is life with you one endless boring routine? Or do you make efforts to spice it up?

2. Trust Issues. When a wife starts stashing away huge sums of cash in secret, it means she’s preparing a nest egg for herself and her kids without you in the picture. Most times this action arises from betrayal or if she perceives you to have betrayed her. Have you ever cheated on her? Or done something to make her feel insecure in your union?

3. Immaturity. A refusal to acknowledge one’s fault / mistake and apologise accordingly is usually down to misplaced pride and immaturity. Wisdom comes with age. How old is your wife?

For a marriage to work, both parties have to roll up their sleeves and get stuck in. You have to ask yourself if there’s any part of you that wants to salvage the marriage. If you do, then you need to ask your wife if she’s still interested in the marriage too.

If the answer is “yes” from both of you, then both of you need to make the effort to save it. Start by seeking help from a neutral third party such as a marriage counsellor. Book a couple of sessions with them so you and wifey can talk through your issues.

Your problems didn’t start today. They’ve festered for over four years so you need to be patient and not expect everything to be miraculously resolved in one day. A lot of patience, perseverance, and constant communication will be needed to get your relationship back to a healthy state.

It is well.

No three sides about this story! The woman doesn't deserve this man. Its a harmful relationship, quite unfortunate.

AdetolaAdeniyi:
Well, I am a Christian and because of my faith, i would not advice you to divorce her. But, that does not mean you should be a fool. Leave the house if your life is in Danger.

Abeg stop that joor...christian this and that....

New year wahala. But some of you guys are extraordinarily skillful at complicating your lives.

I can't take 0.1% of the poo you have been enduring like one mumu. Tufiakwa.

demelza:
To hook a Nigerian man is very easy.

Simply pretend and act humble.

Be the first to apologise.

Kneel down and give him food.

In fact, pretend to be submissive

Before you know, you don marry.


@Op, sorry o!
Get a lawyer to help.

Don't mind him. Most Nigerian men are gullible.

Zieina:


royalamour @op, I hope you read this.

You made a mistake marrying that lady you call your wife now. Pls, it's very important for people to be able to spot red flags in their relationship before taking things to the next level. Now, the red flag in yours is this:

1. her parents always calling your parents and calling you
2. her parents always calling your parents and calling you to tell you not to let other girls win you over.

This is a clear sign that something isn't right with their daughter. Your gf's parents have no business calling your parents often or you. It's their daughter dating you not them so they have no business calling. By calling you, they were overselling their daughter, repackaging her as a good person and manipulating you in the process. Overselling her because they know she's mentally disturbed. I hope you get the rest of my point.

The dad out of guilt is now encouraging you to do the needful if you can no longer take the heat. Her parents knows who she is but like every parent, they wanted her to get married. So they worked together to deceive you.

You are smart.....

Bluntly! You're not enough to be a man,you have no gut to push your life forward.Divorce her without mind what would happen to her because she doesn't care about you.lf do not do away with something terrible will to end of fifth year of your wedding anniversary..Bookmark this for your transcrit to heaven or hell.l have told you your dice lucky words

Chisos, some people are very patient oooo, your name should be patience.
If I'm in your shoes, I'll jejely go to a more farther place and get an apartment, come home one day you know she won't be at home, move your few things and zoom off without any trace.

Definitely parents will start calling and disturbing, make it clear that, you are done for good and don't want to die young.

Let me tell you something, gentle and kind people like you are always victims of other people's stupidity, if they know you don't take rubbish, they will not even try it with you, she probably knows that you're someone who forgives with a soft heart.
Just imagine, after all what she did cheating, you still dashed her 1.2m, appreciating her for cheating and disrespecting you shebi?

I have told people that, whenever you condone any foolish behavior from anybody, you are giving them a license to further misbehave, people won't threat you right because you are kind!

demelza:
To hook a Nigerian man is very easy.

Simply pretend and act humble.

Be the first to apologise.

Kneel down and give him food.

In fact, pretend to be submissive

Before you know, you don marry.


@Op, sorry o!
Get a lawyer to help.

so so true, no one is perfect everyone has flaws but when we carry respect and submissiveness on our head, lies, deceit and feigning is what we would get, respect is reciprocal and trust is earned.

GL Op, you need it

femijay8271:


Hello sir, send me a mail on Aikbeatz@gmail.com let's talk

We can learn from your private advice sir.