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Driggs:
I am not ready for commitments and I told my girl to chill for some more time.. I am an ambitious young man and I must own the world before I decide to marry.. My kids must chop life pass DJ Khalid pikin..

She agreed and everything is fine.. She's not a beggy beggy slayqueen.. She works with Oando. Lately, I was robbed and my belongings was carted away.. So, I had to use her phone to contact my parents so they can know I am fine until I retrieve my SIM.

Fast forward to yesterday, my mom called and asked me about the "nice girl who has been calling her and sending her massive airtime". I was dumbfounded and just hung up.. I called Lillian and she was all teary on the phone when I confronted her saying "she just wanted to be friendly with her "mother-in-law" blah blah..

That was when I flared up. It was like rubbing salt on an Okada accident wound..

She's been calling and I am not picking.. My mom's been calling too, I guess she's explained the situation to her..

A lady that is so desperate to tie me down with marriage by doing stuffs I didn't bargain for can go ahead and tie my destiny later..

Should I flee? Should I give her another chance?

If you are not ready for commitment then let her go. I believe, from your narration, that she has a goal of having a man who will be absolutely committed to her, which starkly is contrary to yours.

From what you have said there is a huge possibility that you will end up not marrying her, if you finally reach your goals on the basis that she doesn't match your class.

I just wish she is here on nairaland to witness what you have just said about her.

Talking will solve everything. Nothing bad in what she did IMHO. But if She went too far according to your personal constitution no lele. Your life your rules. If you see her as someone you can marry then tell her your position. Find out her own expectations from the relationship. If you can't marry her, then its time to move. Don't #WasteHerTime2019.

u just wake up wan provoke person, what's the aim of the relationship if it ain't for marriage?
if you don't like her familiarity with ur own mum, tell her shikina, u can't hate on a lady who already feels she is a part of you and your family already .u can't handle this simple thing I wonder how u will handle a family later on. Is nairaland ur sense?

Driggs:
I am not ready for commitments and I told my girl to chill for some more time.. I am an ambitious young man and I must own the world before I decide to marry.. My kids must chop life pass DJ Khalid pikin..

She agreed and everything is fine.. She's not a beggy beggy slayqueen.. She works with Oando. Lately, I was robbed and my belongings was carted away.. So, I had to use her phone to contact my parents so they can know I am fine until I retrieve my SIM.

Fast forward to yesterday, my mom called and asked me about the "nice girl who has been calling her and sending her massive airtime". I was dumbfounded and just hung up.. I called Lillian and she was all teary on the phone when I confronted her saying "she just wanted to be friendly with her "mother-in-law" blah blah..

That was when I flared up. It was like rubbing salt on an Okada accident wound..

She's been calling and I am not picking.. My mom's been calling too, I guess she's explained the situation to her..

A lady that is so desperate to tie me down with marriage by doing stuffs I didn't bargain for can go ahead and tie my destiny later..

Should I flee? Should I give her another chance?

Baba if you are not interested give me her number, bro you got a gold and you are complaining.

firstolalekan:
I swear to GOD, this guy is a bloody fooooooooooooooooooooool

I don't know why some girl just get unfortunate to be with assholes


What a senseless kid your are


You are not even matured enough for relationship talk more of marriage

That girl will be doing herself a huge favor if she dumps you as soon as possible.



ODE>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

God bless you my brother.Thats same guy coming in 5 years to lament that no good wife again in Nigeria.But ladies are the cause of this nonsense.They are just naturally attracted to irresponsibility all because of good looks and six packs.There is this lady that frequents my Estate to see her boyfriend.my friend is trying to get to know her she dey form.But she spends her hard earned money feeding her broke and jobless boyfriend who is obviously not mentally and financially ready for marriage.He has gone back to Canada.Nonsense!

But I won't give up on her,I intend giving her number to my guy as soon as I get it.

franchasng:
She didn't do anything wrong please forgive her.

You are a man, so you won't understand the pressure ladies face to get married, always consider that.

At least you confessed that she is a good lady, so why throw the bathwater with the crying baby, huh

Meanwhile, our destinies differ, some of us may never make it so big like we desire until we settle down. Success takes time, and if you keep waiting, maybe by the time your big success is destined to occur, you may have lost all the amazing ladies worthy to be your wife, and will be left with slay queens professing fake love based on the big success you have achieved.

You can agree with her to settle down and not give birth yet until a certain agreed time, strict agreement, and that's if truly she meets the criteria of your dream wife or woman, if not, please sincerely let her go so she doesn't keep wasting her time cos time don't wait for ladies, their biological clock tic faster than ours, my opinion though, wish you the best in whatever you decide

good

very good

Mtcuww

Driggs:
I am not ready for commitments and I told my girl to chill for some more time.. I am an ambitious young man and I must own the world before I decide to marry.. My kids must chop life pass DJ Khalid pikin..

She agreed and everything is fine.. She's not a beggy beggy slayqueen.. She works with Oando. Lately, I was robbed and my belongings was carted away.. So, I had to use her phone to contact my parents so they can know I am fine until I retrieve my SIM.

Fast forward to yesterday, my mom called and asked me about the "nice girl who has been calling her and sending her massive airtime". I was dumbfounded and just hung up.. I called Lillian and she was all teary on the phone when I confronted her saying "she just wanted to be friendly with her "mother-in-law" blah blah..

That was when I flared up. It was like rubbing salt on an Okada accident wound..

She's been calling and I am not picking.. My mom's been calling too, I guess she's explained the situation to her..

A lady that is so desperate to tie me down with marriage by doing stuffs I didn't bargain for can go ahead and tie my destiny later..

Should I flee? Should I give her another chance?

Diary of a broke man!

Na so I take lost the best,keep forming James Bond.

He who finds a Woman!!!! Ask google

When a Woman Loves !!!! Ask google.

AryEmber:
Poor thing was just trying to secure her future but some ladies are funny sha oh, who stays with a guy that told you he does not want commitment?

age may not be on her side.

Calm down. She did nothing wrong.

@ poster the way you sound you still a kid not mature yet still eating from mumy pot.u wan just Bleep the girls puna to satisfy ur urge an move ahead but she was so smart to tie u down. The main point is that ladies never you pressurized a guy for marriage let him proposed at his own.Those who have ears let them hear.

Driggs:
I am not ready for commitments and I told my girl to chill for some more time.. I am an ambitious young man and I must own the world before I decide to marry.. My kids must chop life pass DJ Khalid pikin..

She agreed and everything is fine.. She's not a beggy beggy slayqueen.. She works with Oando. Lately, I was robbed and my belongings was carted away.. So, I had to use her phone to contact my parents so they can know I am fine until I retrieve my SIM.

Fast forward to yesterday, my mom called and asked me about the "nice girl who has been calling her and sending her massive airtime". I was dumbfounded and just hung up.. I called Lillian and she was all teary on the phone when I confronted her saying "she just wanted to be friendly with her "mother-in-law" blah blah..

That was when I flared up. It was like rubbing salt on an Okada accident wound..

She's been calling and I am not picking.. My mom's been calling too, I guess she's explained the situation to her..

A lady that is so desperate to tie me down with marriage by doing stuffs I didn't bargain for can go ahead and tie my destiny later..

Should I flee? Should I give her another chance?

That's gold you want to throw away

gaby:
Funny title though, made it sound like you were some ram about to be tied down and slaughtered for Salah or Christmas.

I quite understand and love your honesty. I say honesty because you didn't hide your immaturity and by extension unpreparedness for a married life. The young lady wouldn't understand what bullet you are saving her from and to take a walk seeing how you aren't ready yet.

This is where most couples make the mistake. There are often times subtle quiet signals to tell how disastrous or successful a marriage would turn out from courtship, but we usually ignore those tell tale signals due to a fear of the unknown and go hoping for the best from a clear hopeless situation like the young lady in your story.

I don't quite know how old or young you are bro, but i would want to let you know that you can never have yourself prepared enough financially in life because you will always keep trying to satisfy the insatiable nature of the human life.

Wish you well bro and wish me a happy birthday today..

I could like your post a thousand times...
HAPPY HAPPY BIRTHDAY

firstolalekan:
I swear to GOD, this guy is a bloody fooooooooooooooooooooool

I don't know why some girl just get unfortunate to be with assholes


What a senseless kid your are


You are not even matured enough for relationship talk more of marriage

That girl will be doing herself a huge favor if she dumps you as soon as possible.



ODE>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

oga calm down, when u jam d desperate ones u will understand.

Mr Driggs you don't deserve her.Leave her for a good and deserving man to marry .You are very wicked wasting the time of such a good girl.How I wish I can track you down and snatch her from you.I promise you if u give me her number before end of February, I promise to send you our wedding invitation . please give her to me I beg of you.If you loose that girl you will regret it for life.

DOAI:
I could like your post a thousand times...
HAPPY HAPPY BIRTHDAY

Thanks so much sister of life...

Bros, you need to find your bearing on time. Otherwise, you will lose her like it's a joke. Don't be trivial on matters like this! Is it wrong to call your mum as mother in-law? Or you don't consider her as wife material yet? Why are you wasting her time? What is it you really want? Are you comfortable having her as a girlfriend for a few more years at the detriment of her own desire to settle down?

Bros, if you are not ready, then let her go. When you finish making all the money in the world, you can find another woman by them. Cheers!

at times, the ones who really love us will cross the line to show it.2years of her life and this is what you got Call her & sort things out...time no dey....damn!!

The OP na learner, I hope ge doesn't end up loosing her

robinso01:
In my own point of view, I see nothing bad in what she did at all, she did it on her own ,bro I'd advice you to stick with the girl, majority of the girls outside now can't do what she did, all they want is money everytime,pls pick her call.

Driggs:
I am not ready for commitments and I told my girl to chill for some more time.. I am an ambitious young man and I must own the world before I decide to marry.. My kids must chop life pass DJ Khalid pikin..

She agreed and everything is fine.. She's not a beggy beggy slayqueen.. She works with Oando. Lately, I was robbed and my belongings was carted away.. So, I had to use her phone to contact my parents so they can know I am fine until I retrieve my SIM.

Fast forward to yesterday, my mom called and asked me about the "nice girl who has been calling her and sending her massive airtime". I was dumbfounded and just hung up.. I called Lillian and she was all teary on the phone when I confronted her saying "she just wanted to be friendly with her "mother-in-law" blah blah..

That was when I flared up. It was like rubbing salt on an Okada accident wound..

She's been calling and I am not picking.. My mom's been calling too, I guess she's explained the situation to her..

A lady that is so desperate to tie me down with marriage by doing stuffs I didn't bargain for can go ahead and tie my destiny later..

Should I flee? Should I give her another chance?

I don't normally respond on Naira land but permit me to say this.
You are being very Foolish and Childish.

You don't need to own the world to get married as you wouldn't see a girl that loves you for you but for your money by then, who may end up killing you for your money, a girl who doesn't need a penny from you is treating your mother in law well and you are flaring?

What happens if you don't make that money?
Would you be a reverend Father?


All you need is a source of income and a will to love your wife regardless of tomorrow, a woman that loves you and is willing to marry you when you don't own the world, would help preserve your seed and fortune when you end up owning the world.

Grow Up

robinso01:
In my own point of view, I see nothing bad in what she did at all, she did it on her own ,bro I'd advice you to stick with the girl, majority of the girls outside now can't do what she did, all they want is money everytime,pls pick her call.

No!He shouldn't for the love of Christ!
This guy is not mentally ready.I pray the relationship hits the rocks,a better man is coming to take his wife.The op is food for slay Queens.That is his destiny.

gaby:
Funny title though, made it sound like you were some ram about to be tied down and slaughtered for Salah or Christmas.

I quite understand and love your honesty. I say honesty because you didn't hide your immaturity and by extension unpreparedness for a married life. The young lady wouldn't understand what bullet you are saving her from and to take a walk seeing how you aren't ready yet.

This is where most couples make the mistake. There are often times subtle quiet signals to tell how disastrous or successful a marriage would turn out from courtship, but we usually ignore those tell tale signals due to a fear of the unknown and go hoping for the best from a clear hopeless situation like the young lady in your story.

I don't quite know how old or young you are bro, but i would want to let you know that you can never have yourself prepared enough financially in life because you will always keep trying to satisfy the insatiable nature of the human life.

Wish you well bro and wish me a happy birthday today..

Thank you for this

Jaynom:
And you're expecting her to stick around for you to conquer the world? You're sleeping with her. You have full access to her body and you don't want her to tie you down? Deep down you know you're only Using Her to cure your Kónji!

what does sleeping with her have to do with anything? ?

The lady is acting all holy now because she feels she has seen a maga to marry. After marriage the real character will come out. Women and their selfishness!

Driggs:
I am not ready for commitments and I told my girl to chill for some more time.. I am an ambitious young man and I must own the world before I decide to marry.. My kids must chop life pass DJ Khalid pikin..

She agreed and everything is fine.. She's not a beggy beggy slayqueen.. She works with Oando. Lately, I was robbed and my belongings was carted away.. So, I had to use her phone to contact my parents so they can know I am fine until I retrieve my SIM.

Fast forward to yesterday, my mom called and asked me about the "nice girl who has been calling her and sending her massive airtime". I was dumbfounded and just hung up.. I called Lillian and she was all teary on the phone when I confronted her saying "she just wanted to be friendly with her "mother-in-law" blah blah..

That was when I flared up. It was like rubbing salt on an Okada accident wound..

She's been calling and I am not picking.. My mom's been calling too, I guess she's explained the situation to her..

A lady that is so desperate to tie me down with marriage by doing stuffs I didn't bargain for can go ahead and tie my destiny later..

Should I flee? Should I give her another chance?

You're just an immature child.

franchasng:
Some guys love to be well achieved before they settle down. Some wish to own their own house(s), at least 2 solid cars, a well established business or company; not all guys love to marry working for someone whether big company or small company.

Some wish to achieve a lot, while some achieve it, some don't, but that's the wish of majority of Igbo guys especially, and I suspect the op is an Igbo guy, check well, u can take it to bank

This is me right now

I know I am not getting married until I have built my own house, even if it is just a three bedroom bungalow. Also, I must have a certain amount of money in interest yielding investments before thinking of marriage. I cannot be married and still be answering "yes sir" to a landlord or a boss.

Lexusgs430:
Why have you tied her down for 2 years? What is the essence of a relationship?

sexual gratification

Madcow:
You are a buffoon... you see a girl that likes you and your family and you are wasting time deceiving yourself... i hope she dumps your confused self and finds a real man who will value her... dodoyo! okpomu!! didirin oshi

Even Oga Madcow is pissed.Guy how far?

Mumu post

Dinho20:
NOT A BIG DEAL.
AS FOR ME, NO ONE CAN TIE ME DOWN, BECAUSE WHAT I NEED/WANT IS NOT IN NIGERIA,
WETIN DEY HUNGRY ME DEY FOR EUROPE.

good

pursue that if, indeed that is what you want