nairalee:
I ask myself this question every other day. If I get married today it'd be to satisfy my mother.

1) I'm perfectly happy in my current unmarried state
2) I do WHATEVER I want without explanation to ANYBODY
3) I don't worry about keeping late nights cos when I'm late I can just sleep over at a friend's place without wondering if my wife will suspect foul play
4) Having Variety Sex
5) No unnecessary affiliations (wife's parents, families, friends, neighbors, pastors, acquaintances) it's too cumbersome
6) Maybe it's just me but I noticed married people automatically look older?
7) Cost of marriage in Nigeria sef is enough to start a small scale business
It's more expensive keeping a married life than a single life
9) Problems of alimony, compensation etc when the marriage goes sour (case in point Jeff Bezos)
10) Too numerous to mention

Might sound childish but marriage makes no sense to me except for 1 reason

Why Marry?
1) To raise up a child in a conventional family home

I don't still know why society and family can't just let one be!

Your "why marry" point trumps every other points you listed actually

Regiinald:
please speak for yourself and not others.
infact you have no facts to prove what you wrote up there.

shut up

ceeroh:
Marriage is not for everyone!

i know right

Regiinald:
you wouldn't want to get married because marriage is not for everyone.
your answer sounds childish

what do you want him to answer then, he is right, marriage is not for everyone.. People like you push your beliefs upon people and build societal pressure on them, marriage is by choice , take it or leave it

Regiinald:

my response got you vexed really fast.
well, that's another attribute of a child.

piglet

ceeroh:


You'll end up derailing this thread by yourself. Grow up and let people air their views.

he's probably some Muslim freak (no offense) or one of those idiot that push social beliefs on people.. I would gladly support the opinion of Any man who wants to remain a bachelor for life because it's his choice and not everyone can survive the emotional/financial crap that comes with marriage, so people just choose make it easy for themselves and choose not to marry

MissRaine69:

I am content with our situation.
Thank you for your concern.

you just defeated a screen warrior

Most people are saying they don't wanna get married. That's just a total self denial of primitive human existence. God himself in his higher wisdom made woman to be a helpmate to the man and for companionship with the understanding of the critical needs and basic desire of the man he created. Yet some on nairaland derives pleasure trying to subvert natural Principe. Anywhere na forming sha. If you have met the wrong person or encountered difficulties in your life don't let is twist your understanding of marriage and why you should get married. As for me i believe in love....( calm down am not naive). I want to love and be loved. Companionship. And to groom healthy children.

MissRaine69:

Just because I don’t subscribe to how you see life does not mean I have less then a life then you, that’s just absurd and archaic thinking. You and I are a different type of people. People like me exist in abundance. Why I would want to spend this one life I have trying to prentend to fit in, please others or conform and be unhappy is an utter waste of life in general.

give him more , all these hurt guys that think marriage can fix everything, they'll end up cheating when you start looking unattractive (cos of giving birth) and start beating you in front of your kids or shouting at you all the time, turning you into their kitchen slave, many women are suffering this now.. See guys you can instead of living in what will be HELL for the rest of your life, flex, club, Bleep as you want live your life to the fullest, we only have one life remember

nairalee:
I ask myself this question every other day. If I get married today it'd be to satisfy my mother.

1) I'm perfectly happy in my current unmarried state
2) I do WHATEVER I want without explanation to ANYBODY
3) I don't worry about keeping late nights cos when I'm late I can just sleep over at a friend's place without wondering if my wife will suspect foul play
4) Having Variety Sex
5) No unnecessary affiliations (wife's parents, families, friends, neighbors, pastors, acquaintances) it's too cumbersome
6) Maybe it's just me but I noticed married people automatically look older?
7) Cost of marriage in Nigeria sef is enough to start a small scale business
It's more expensive keeping a married life than a single life
9) Problems of alimony, compensation etc when the marriage goes sour (case in point Jeff Bezos)
10) Too numerous to mention

Might sound childish but marriage makes no sense to me except for 1 reason

Why Marry?
1) To raise up a child in a conventional family home

I don't still know why society and family can't just let one be!

please accept the award for the best and most sensible comment on niaraland this month, people who usually contribute to front page stuff on this forum are either ranting or not making any sense with whatever they write

Nicoddemus:
Most people are saying they don't wanna get married. That's just a total self denial of primitive human existence. God himself in his higher wisdom made woman to be a helpmate to the man and for companionship with the understanding of the critical needs and basic desire of the man he created. Yet some on nairaland derives pleasure trying to subvert natural Principe. Anywhere na forming sha. If you have met the wrong person or encountered difficulties in your don't let is twist your understanding of marriage and why you get married. As for me i believe in love....( calm down am not naive). I want to love and be loved. Companionship. And to groom healthy children.

Right, right, you said it clearly: “As for me” Good luck with your marriage.

Now Can you leave others to decide how they want to live their lives?


I strongly advise if you are still struggling to water the seed, don’t follow the stupid society norms to get married. “Some” of these people are actually sad and want to bring you to their state.

Many men in the US are leaving the work force early cause they realize how easy, cheap and less stress life is when you are single (MGTOW). It gives you freedom to do anything. You can be anywhere when you want. Save up a lot of cash in the long run and do what makes you happy. You are the key to your happiness after all.

However, if you got the money and especially with a woman you can relate with, then you can get married.

For those saying they can just pop out kids without legal binding, I guess they have not weighed the effect of such actions on the kids.
Believe you me most of the kids from single parents long for that security and warmth that only marriage can bring.
The fact that your father or mother isn't there together with you when you are growing up sometimes make them ask if their fathers or mothers aren't good enough.
When the ask the needed questions (cos they mist ask) what kind of reply will you give?

U see, no matter how selfish we tend to be, the kids are already having psychological breakdown during their formative yrs.

Come to the western world where such abound, watch some reality shows and u will see the effects of this on the children even as adults.

It's devastating and most times help shape who these kids will be in the future.

I will suggest that if u are not cut out for marriage, then don't pop out kids. A simple survey on this sometime ago shows that kids want to have both parents with them as daddy and mummy than the opposite. Even kids from the rich and mighty.

Regiinald:
please speak for yourself and not others.
infact you have no facts to prove what you wrote up there.

He spoke nothing but the truth

Splinz:




Whilst sheer thoughts like having little angels run around my house shouting: 'Daddy! Daddy! Daddy!' excites me a lot, I wouldn't be a proud father of such children if I don't marry their mother.

Why? Simple. I don't wanna breed bastards.

So you still take that definition of bastard seriously, many married men are breeding kids of other men, country should force paternity test and see families destroyed

Debramaye:
give him more , all these hurt guys that think marriage can fix everything, they'll end up cheating when you start looking unattractive (cos of giving birth) and start beating you in front of your kids or shouting at you all the time, turning you into their kitchen slave, many women are suffering this now.. See guys you can instead of living in what will be HELL for the rest of your life, flex, club, Bleep as you want live your life to the fullest, we only have one life remember

i see ur own pain and reasons yet don't let it twist your understanding of marriage. I pray to God you meet the right guy

Quorax:
he is right. Most of you think Marriage is an achievement, you breed like rat, hence we have over 200M people, many of these are from families with little resources.

reasonable comments like this lights a spark of hope in my heart for my country Nigeria

Nicoddemus:

i see ur own pain and reasons yet don't let it twist your understanding of marriage. I pray to God you meet the right guy

sorry but did I tell you I'm looking for a man? There's more to life than marriage, mtchew Nigerians and their basic mentality

Debramaye:
reasonable comments like this lights a spark of hope in my heart for my country Nigeria

That comment is actually gold. You should watch the “Rat Race” videos on YouTube.

We have been brainwashed with many redundant things in this life, especially in Nigeria.

TO HAVE FREe kpekus

gracile:
Reginald or whatever, tajbol4splend, ioswhite you guys can you stop shoving your opinions down people's throats? It's not only childish but irritating please.
Live and let live!

you are on point, the main reason mods moved this to fp is so people can air their views and NOT PUSH IT ON OTHERS

Debramaye:
sorry but did I tell you I'm looking for a man? There's more to life than marriage, mtchew Nigerians and their basic mentality

Haba! Fine babe like you? Maka why?

Not all men are bad naa. . .

OP is an idiot, sorry to say. The topic clearly solicited the views of others but he just kept shutting them down. Silly thing

dasparrow:


Marraige nowadays has become a joke. The rate at which married women are getting infected with AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases by their philandering husbands is a great cause for concern. There is just too much infidelity and domestic violence in today's marraiges.

Most married people - especially Nigerians - are miserable though they won't admit it. They pretend to be happy and post happy pictures on Facebook while they secretly nurse their sexually-transmitted-diseased private parts in the secret and cry themselves to sleep at night. You think we don't know? Yeye dey smell!

abeg two bottles for you, this made my day that has not yet started

Debramaye:
sorry but did I tell you I'm looking for a man? There's more to life than marriage, mtchew Nigerians and their basic mentality

more to life like freedom, making more money but alone, clubing....hope you'll still Bleep yourself

DonMekino:
so guys in the house....aside giving birth to children, is there any other pressing need to get married?? just want ur views

Companionship
Blessings
Responsible image etc

dasparrow:


Marraige nowadays has become a joke. The rate at which married women are getting infected with AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases by their philandering husbands is a great cause for concern. There is just too much infidelity and domestic violence in today's marraiges.

Most married people - especially Nigerians - are miserable though they won't admit it. They pretend to be happy and post happy pictures on Facebook while they secretly nurse their sexually-transmitted-diseased private parts in the secret and cry themselves to sleep at night. You think we don't know? Yeye dey smell!

Most?? Totally not true. If you want to remain single, no biggie, but it doesn't help demonizing what is one of the most important institution out there.

MrBrownJay1:


see as you are foaming from the mouth because intelligent people have views that differ from yours...lol!

when you have intelligent points to discredit MY VIEWS, holla at me!

As in, he dey seriously foam for mouth. D mumu guy is obviously dense and immature. U asked a question, people r answering u and u still dey do oversabi. Even d kids he says he wants, doubt if he can handle them.

Debramaye:
he's probably some Muslim freak (no offense) or one of those idiot that push social beliefs on people.. I would gladly support the opinion of Any man who wants to remain a bachelor for life because it's his choice and not everyone can survive the emotional/financial crap that comes with marriage, so people just choose make it easy for themselves and choose not to marry

Definitely not you, why the contacts and the photo? Aunty, with this ya terrible attitude plus this ya shapeless body, opss! I mean bag-of-beans shape, you will have hard time getting toasters see, let alone suitors. Seemed you are a case of empty barrel makes the loudest noice!

Nicoddemus:

more to life like freedom, making more money but alone, clubing....hope you'll still Bleep yourself

your dlck d scratch you? .. I'm not looking for sex, I have money and I like the life I'm living, traveling anywhere by plane and I don't like clubbing let me tell you.... I'm just enjoying life, you think I'm one of those girls that can't do with being by herself? Think again fam, guys like you who think a girl should always be with a guy irritate me.. Seriously

Oluwo1:


Close your eyes and look at the married people around you.. how many are happy? Marriage is good if you find the right person to get into the agreement with but most people dont have their personal reasons for getting married apart from what their parent, religion leaders , friends and culture has taught them

people might think am lying I've not seen an unhappy marriage out of my closest five. And im adding to the number