AmConfused:


Eya.. lemme tell u what to do. Stick with bobo and overlook.
the truth is nobody is actually "perfect".
I think the idea of maintaining a relationship is to. overlook the flaws, and just go with the good flow. because the next person u might meet after ur current one might be a typical douchebag.. and then u will wish u never left ur other partner in the first place.

I know. But I've really never attracted douchebags into my life. Besides, if this has to fizzle, then I'll be out of relationships for a long time, setting a better pace for what I want and taking it upon myself to improve myself.

And yes, he's not perfect, but there are some things which I consider as a deal-breaker to me, and I've noticed a few. There are things you can and cannot condone in relationships, likewise me, likewise him.

mrphysics:
amconfused too.

Oya come let's be confused together

Airtimex:



You seem more confused than the OP. God is ur strenght

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OP. You have to be disciplined to succeed or achieve greatness. The same applies to relationship...


You don't expect to enjoy the same freedom like a single girl. Somebody somewhere really cares and wishes to know what you are doing at a particular time. Not necessarily monitoring as you assumed.

Guys that tends to settle down with you will try to check on you and know most of ur movements(Not all)

As for spiritually, he is not the cause of your setback. Check yourself very well and kill that spirit that wants you to live your life the way you want.

We all need to be in order once in a while. This is discipline and has nothing to do with your freedom...

Negative

UyaiIncomparabl:


I'm not confused. I just don't have a choice.

You always have a choice my dear...

He is nice but you don't want him. Work on your ego to enjoy your relationship...

Avoid those things that causes the unnecessary argument.

You are indirectly looking for a man to control. Better be careful

ceeroh:
Everyday

Lolz Why??

Airtimex:



You always have a choice my dear...

He is nice but you don't want him. Work on

your ego to enjoy your relationship...

Avoid those things that causes the unnecessary argument.

You are indirectly looking for a man to control. Better be careful

Ego what? The way you just jumped into conclusion ehn!

The truth is, he always wants to win every argument(s). That's not a good trait. I'm not argumentative like that, sometimes I just feel drained and walk out.

And I'm not looking for a man to control neither do I want a bossy man too. We are partners, I don't seek a lord.

CreamyBanana:
chinyere na my life. i never think of breakup with her since 9 years wey we don dey together.

Pls get married to her.You both have been together for 9years almost a decade,


what are you still waiting for??

MannieA:



Pls get married to her.You both have been together for 9years almost a decade,


what are you still waiting for??

it will happen this year. money was an issue but we are gradually reaching our set goals. it will surely be this year.

GOFRONT:


I have been looking forward to breaking up with my Gf due to unmatched genotype......Even tho the spirit is willing but the flesh has been weak, but the day finally came yesterday....

I'm typing this with a wounded heart but I know it will heal with time......Faith, I wish you quick recovery wherever you are right now...

This hit me right in the feels. Feel like crying rn

UyaiIncomparabl:


Ego what? The way you just jumped into conclusion ehn!

The truth is, he always wants to win every argument(s). That's not a good trait. I'm not argumentative like that, sometimes I just feel drained and walk out.

And I'm not looking for a man to control neither do I want a bossy man too. We are partners, I don't seek a lord.

My dear. Winning argument doesn't mean you are right. Allow him to win. With time things will definitely relax.

He keeps arguing is because you are his strength. No man argues alone.

Airtimex:



My dear. Winning argument doesn't mean you are right. Allow him to win. With time things will definitely relax.

He keeps arguing is because you are his strenght. No man argues alone.

Why can't he just be calm and not look forward to winning at all? Must he argue and always be defensive?

Well, okay. Advice taken.

UyaiIncomparabl:


Why can't he just be calm and not look forward to winning at all? Must he argue and always be defensive?

Well, okay. Advice taken.

You will live long my dear...

UyaiIncomparabl:


I know. But I've really never attracted douchebags into my life. Besides, if this has to fizzle, then I'll be out of relationships for a long time, setting a better pace for what I want and taking it upon myself to improve myself.

And yes, he's not perfect, but there are some things which I consider as a deal-breaker to me, and I've noticed a few. There are things you can and cannot condone in relationships, likewise me, likewise him.

yeah that's the ideal I guess, developing yourself more.. I think I'm with you on that.

I know there are things one can't condone in a relationship, but sometimes to make things work, that's if U actually want things to work, one has to mellow for the other. two wrongs can't make a right, and like sum1 I know would say, most times in a relationship, one person has to be "mumu"(not literally tho)for the other person.

and I hope it's not power lust that's worrying you two. power to have the final say and be in charge, if it's that.. then its very bad o

AmConfused:

No offence ma'am

Airtimex:
OP. You have to be disciplined to succeed or achieve greatness. The same applies to relationship...


You don't expect to enjoy the same freedom like a single girl. Somebody somewhere really cares and wishes to know what you are doing at a particular time. Not necessarily monitoring as you assumed.

Guys that tends to settle down with you will try to check on you and know most of ur movements(Not all)

As for spiritually, he is not the cause of your setback. Check yourself very well and kill that spirit that wants you to live your life the way you want.

We all need to be in order once in a while. This is discipline and has nothing to do with your freedom...

discipline.. so easy to say and advice.
sometimes what we want isn't what is right, and I think one of the hardest decisions one can make is choosing between what's right and what we want.

the whole thing just tire me sef. looking forward to our break up jare

still doing friends with benefits

AmConfused:


discipline.. so easy to say and advice.
sometimes what we want isn't what is right, and I think one of the hardest decisions one can make is choosing between what's right and what we want.

the whole thing just tire me sef. looking forward to our break up jare

My dear I know what you want, and you are not really a spiritual person afterwards.

The best to achieve ur hrt dsr is to remain single...if you breakup with him plz don't hook up again, it might get worst.

I hate seeing women breakup relationship with unnecessary reasons...

Airtimex:



My dear I know what you want, and you are not really a spiritual person afterwards.

The best to achieve ur hrt dsr is to remain single...if you breakup with him plz don't hook up again, it might get worst.

I hate seeing women breakup relationship with unnecessary reasons...

maybe you're right.
but from what I've posted, give me a necessary reason to break up

marvin906:
still doing friends with benefits

you kant comman kee Ursef...lol

marvin906:
still doing friends with benefits

you kant comman kee Ursef...lol

No monitoring spirit...i dey mi lane

UyaiIncomparabl:
Every frigging day! The friction is just too much. We have tooooo much issues I can't deal. He's too argumentative, defensive and thinks he's better than you in all ramifications, never agrees to your opinion, Infact he knows too much. I'm like that too, and that causes too much friction. I don't want two perfectionists as partners. I'm seriously pressed. We have too many differences than similarities, and that's not too good.

But then, I think he's the most sincerest, blunt, truthful and faithful person I've ever known and will ever know in my entire life. I don't think I'll ever meet someone as sincere and true to me as he is. I think he's the best, truth be told. He's literally my best friend and supporter, but I think he deserves better, maybe not better as you may think, but someone better to accept his perfectionism and flaws too, likewise me.

I don't know what to do.

He can change if he wants. But I advice you to pull out from the relationship if neither party is willing to change.

vingeophysicist:
He can change if he wants. But I advice you to pull out from the relationship if neither party is willing to change.

It's really hard.

I love him too much, but then I think love isn't enough. What amazes me is his lack of zeal to want to change. I've done all that I can. I admit, I have a lot of freaking flaws too, we are both perfectionists and it's too bad.

blissgregory:
No monitoring spirit...i dey mi lane

Kaziah, how far!

AmConfused:


yeah that's the ideal I guess, developing yourself more.. I think I'm with you on that.

I know there are things one can't condone in a relationship, but sometimes to make things work, that's if U actually want things to work, one has to mellow for the other. two wrongs can't make a right, and like sum1 I know would say, most times in a relationship, one person has to be "mumu"(not literally tho)for the other person.

and I hope it's not power lust that's worrying you two. power to have the final say and be in charge, if it's that.. then its very bad o

That's the problem right there. The normal thing 'be a fool for him'. I really don't know how to be a fool and have tried being a fool, but sorry, I can't displease myself to please another.

I'm not power drunk, or is it lust? Lol. He's the bossy one. And I so hate bossy people, authoritarians who demands subservience like food.

To say I'm confused is an understatement.

AmConfused:

Oya come let's be confused together

Two people can't be confused together. Friends with benefits remains the best option for broke boys like us.

CreamyBanana:
chinyere na my life. i never think of breakup with her since 9 years wey we don dey together.

Better take it to the next Level like Buhari...







Remember, no be Engineering course oooo

UyaiIncomparabl:


That's the problem right there. The normal thing 'be a fool for him'. I really don't know how to be a fool and have tried being a fool, but sorry, I can't displease myself to please another.

I'm not power drunk, or is it lust? Lol. He's the bossy one. And I so hate bossy people, authoritarians who demands subservience like food.

To say I'm confused is an understatement.

Buy a book on relationship for him to read. He will unlearn some of those things.

Most people grew up bossy, truth is, life configures us and we are supposed to be flexible than rigid.

Everybody should be teachable and learnable even if he is a Prof

AmConfused:


lol so are u gonna call it quits or stay?

I always feel like quitting most of the time ...but I will stay and see where the relationship will take us to..

But I miss being single

vingeophysicist:
He can change if he wants. But I advice you to pull out from the relationship if neither party is willing to change.

you people and this "pull out" of an advice ehh.. if you're in a relationship with someone you really love, it's very very hard to call it quits, however ur mind and ur head conceive the idea.

for me, calling off a relationship is hard because I can't just imagine getting to know a new person over again from afresh, getting to know their imperfections and all that, the pretence that comes with new relationship most times, etc.

the stress no be here