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Jaysolu:
He ain't wrong tho
Jst cuz yu guys didn't turn out like dat doesn't mean others will
I have a friend who matches this research

And who's to say those that have a father figure around don't have these traits too? You people should use your brain before you type sometimes. What he typed up there is full of craps, nothing but baseless assumptions. Just because you walk around with messed up niggaz doesn't mean everyone is.

wetdick:
i didn't project any stereotype but if i was to use stereotypes, are stereotypes not true? it is very funny to read when you talk about observation, it shows you lack the basis and knowledge of how research is done. i am not here to blow any grammar but to state my facts as i see it.

so basically, we should call the observation of those that observe human behaviour and write a book about them as invalid, i just laugh in french.you people keep getting everything wrong, so you think i have to get some template before i can observe. pls abeg....

the reality is single women can not make a man. we may keep denying the truth but facts are not emotional

girls who do not have a father figure in their lives always have problems in their relationships, also many of these girls most times end up being single mothers, prostitutes, runaways, drug addicts than girls who had a father-mother relationship, the importance of a father in a child whether boy or girl is very important

Your arguement is the one that’s flawed deny it all you like.

Stereotypes are not facts that’s why the word stereotype is used. You are generalising, using sterotypes and being very biased to support an arguement that is without fact or actual proof. Look at your responses to those that share my sentiments. What is the theme there?
You make it sound like single motherhood is a choice for that vast majority of women.
Drug addicts, prostitutues do come from two parent households too.
And what of father’s who sexually abuse thier daughters?
Domestic violence?
Anyway you are set on your point of view why you posted something when you have NO inclination of accepting other points of view is beyond me.

ShinqRambq:
D way Assumptions fly around without Research in Nairaland ehhnn,Boys from single mothers possess the characteristics of a father-figure and are very manly and strong most especially dose only child.Dey grow up to fill in d missin number first in Kindergarten den in reality

According to his argument he has observed therefore we should accept.

MissRaine69:
Your arguement is the one that’s flawed deny it all you like.

Stereotypes are not facts that’s why the word stereotype is used. You are generalising, using sterotypes and being very biased to support an arguement that is without fact or actual proof. Look at your responses to those that share my sentiments. What is the theme there?
You make it sound like single motherhood is a choice for that vast majority of women.
Drug addicts, prostitutues do come from two parent households too.
And what of father’s who sexually abuse thier daughters?
Domestic violence?
Anyway you are set on your point of view why you posted something when you have NO inclination of accepting other points of view is beyond me.

i am tired of arguing with you, if stereotypes are not real then we wont be talking about stereotypes, streotypes can sometimes be facts, lets take for example the stereotype that white people are rich and black people are poor, if we look at it very well, it is a fact, anyway, i didnt even use that in my observation.

this is not about man and woman fight, it is about the importance of having a strong nuclear family, I guess, you cant see the bigger picture of my write up.

what of mothers that sexually abuse their sons, or women who abuse their maid, or women who do domestic violence, you are blaming me of not accepting your point of view but you cant accept mine.

wetdick:
i am tired of arguing with you, if stereotypes are not real then we wont be talking about stereotypes, streotypes can sometimes be facts, lets take for example the stereotype that white people are rich and black people are poor, if we look at it very well, it is a fact, anyway, i didnt even use that in my observation.

this is not about man and woman fight, it is about the importance of having a strong nuclear family, I guess, you cant see the bigger picture of my write up.

what of mothers that sexually abuse their sons, or women who abuse their maid, or women who do domestic violence, you are blaming me of not accepting your point of view but you cant accept mine.

I will accept a point of view that’s logical and concise
Yours lacks both
So here we are.

MissRaine69:
I will accept a point of view that’s logical and concise
Yours lacks both
So here we are.

you can abuse or discredit as you like, it doesnt change a thing.

Single Mums cant raise their sons to be MEN

Jaysolu:
He ain't wrong tho
Jst cuz yu guys didn't turn out like dat doesn't mean others will
I have a friend who matches this research

Stop insulting research by calling this “research”.

The Op's observations is partially correct.It is difficult for single mums to raise boys( to men ) with certain personality traits.

gloria34:
Not true. According to u, d ladies raised under those homes usually come out bad but i was raised by my mum, not just me but 5 girls and we are all doing well.

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good. a lot of kudos to you. u put in a lot of effort and focus.
In all i mentioned traits i observed about those in these categories.

the issue of turning out well has a lot of factors to it.

It is well.

wetdick:
you can abuse or discredit as you like, it doesnt change a thing.

Abusing is your forte ( your responses to posts here is evidence) even labelling others emotional?
Irony beyond irony.
I merely disagree with your generalisations .

MissRaine69:
Abusing is your forte ( your responses to posts here is evidence) even labelling others emotional?
Irony beyond irony.
I merely disagree with your generalisations .

LOL, can you just move on

oyatz:
The Op's observations is partially correct.It is difficult for single mums to raise boys( to men ) with certain personality traits.

And the mothers that are doing this on their own with no sons that have ever broken any law manage how?
It’s not who raises you, it’s how you are raised.

wetdick:
you can abuse or discredit as you like, it doesnt change a thing.

Single Mums cant raise their sons to be MEN

And what exactly is a man?
What traits quantify you to be labelled a man?

MissRaine69:
And what exactly is a man?
What traits quantify you to be labelled a man?

A man is brave, courageous, independent and self-reliant, a leader and leads by example, take personal responsibility for his life without blaming other people, knows how to face rejection and move on with his life, control his emotions and know how to cope with life difficulties, he protects his loved one and he his loyal.

wetdick:
pls stop being emotional, there are successful boys from single mother homes also there are many who came out angry. just because you are a lawyer doesnt not mean everybody made it

Your point?
People just let sentiments get in their way of progressing, if you wanna make it, make your weakness your strength, being raised by a single parent shouldn't be an excuse for failure, nothing should.
Every one in life has the right to make their own decisions.

wetdick:
so i have to be in a lap coat and employ an attendant to do research and observe, LMHO,

Don't just conclude to things, i doubt you made any research and what's with gender thing?
Male and females brought up by single parents shouldn't see their parents as the reason for their failure when they can make their own decisions.

wetdick:
you are taking it the wrong way, this is not an insult. there are plenty of young men without fathers who didnt make it and wished they had a father in their life

So you mean if their father were with them, they would have made it?
Sigh
*spits*
Guy you go like keep quiet.
Cause if one doesn't motivates himself, he cannot make it, Nothing comes from luck.
Hardwork and prayer is the key.

ShinqRambq:
gay,don't quote me in ur life again

You are just being childish, Nigeria mentality though
Someone saying Hi doesn't make him gay.
Get your shit together bruh

tracyberry:
You are just being childish, Nigeria mentality though Someone saying Hi doesn't make him gay. Get your shit together bruh

Shut up and read his signature before u comment ur brain-disease here again

ShinqRambq:
Shut up and read his signature before u comment ur brain-disease here again

I don't see the essence of being aggressive and being insultive.
Don't quote me again boy.

wetdick:
I have noticed something really strange from boys who grew up or are from single mothers homes. single mothers might be those that the father left when the boy was young or the father died or they divorced and the mother didn't allow the father visitation

i know some guys from single mother home, I observed that many of them always look for a strong father figure in their lives, many of these types of men tend to be mama's boys which might be good for the mother but very bad for his future girlfriend and wife.

many of these boys suffer from low self-esteem and lack of confidence in themselves and abilities, sometimes depression and addiction

many of these boys lack the meaning of what is it to be a man, the reality is that no mother can teach her son how to be a man.

they also do not know who to talk to about their emotions, they feel alone, thus making them angry with the world, some of these boys are easily enticed to join cultism and other types of group that encourage brotherhood.

there are lot of research that shows that boys raised in single mother homes are more likely to be criminals, you can see that in yahoo-yahoo boys and many criminals in our society, many of them lack a father figure and man figure mentorship.

i also noticed that many of these type of boys suffer from emotional, physical abuse and neglect from their mothers

there is also tendency for these type of boys to be drop out or runaways

and lastly, many of them are very emotional, they are more in touch with their feminine side than their masculinity side. very bad if they want to have a good and stable relationship.

I agree with everything you said.... I lost my father when i was just 5. When i got to the university i joined SVC and even became their D3 in just 100level, thank God I'm no longer a member. Everything you said is about me, i also have low self esteem, never been in a relationship. Na just last year i be disvirgin myself

tracyberry:
I don't see the essence of being aggressive and being insultive.
Don't quote me again boy.

Body dey sweet u dis afternoon.Maybe ur a lesbian fightin for ur case through his

DON'T QUOTE ME AGAIN,SMALL GIRL

wetdick:
A man is brave, courageous, independent and self-reliant, a leader and leads by example, take personal responsibility for his life without blaming other people, knows how to face rejection and move on with his life, control his emotions and know how to cope with life difficulties, he protects his loved one and he his loyal.

No what you have there is an ideal, a social construct that has its basis in a rigid patriarchal society. So all those that don’t fit this description of yours are what inadequate? They are not men?
And for my own curiosity what is a woman?

My dear, just stroll to the nearest police station and interview the inmates in the cells about their parental background.

A disproportionately large numbers of prostitutes, drug addicts, juvenile deliquents and armed brothers are products of dysfunctional families where the fathers and the mothers don't live together to raise their kids.

Many African-Americans are raised by their single mothers and you can see the outcomes.

In the next 25years, watch out for similar traits among children of the now common 'Baby Mamas'

MissRaine69:
And the mothers that are doing this on their own with no sons that have ever broken any law manage how?
It’s not who raises you, it’s how you are raised.

the only part i can relate with is the lack of confidence and i think that is prolly because i'm an introvert ..A trait i got from my mum .not because i lived with my mum all through..


p.s my dad is not dead, they are just seperated..

now the fuc.ker is trying to seperate me from my mum shiits like what the op wrote ..

oyatz:
My dear, just stroll to the nearest police station and interview the inmates in the cells about their parental background.

A disproportionately large numbers of prostitutes, drug addicts, juvenile deliquents and armed brothers are products of dysfunctional families where the fathers and the mothers don't live together to raise their kids.

Many African-Americans are raised by their single mothers and you can see the outcomes.

In the next 25years, watch out for similar traits among children of the now common 'Baby Mamas'

We are in America now?
A land where you face prejudice before you are even born.

MissRaine69:
No what you have there is an ideal, a social construct that has its basis in a rigid patriarchal society. So all those that don’t fit this description of yours are what inadequate? They are not men?
And for my own curiosity what is a woman?

interesting, you always prove my point why women can not train a boy into a man

so being brave, courageous, independent and self-reliant is a social construct and an idea

being a leader that leads by example is a social construct

so a man taking personal responsibility for his life without blaming other people is because of the rigid patriarchal society

a man that knows how to face rejection and move on with his life is because of the rigid patriarchal society

a man that control his emotions and know how to cope with life difficulties is a social construct

a man that protects his love ones and his loyal is a social construct.

so you believe there are no men like this? i am laughing, you are very funny.

what is the definition of a man according to you?

tracyberry:
So you mean if their father were with them, they would have made it?
Sigh
*spits*
Guy you go like keep quiet.
Cause if one doesn't motivates himself, he cannot make it, Nothing comes from luck.
Hardwork and prayer is the key.

Pls learn to read and understand before commeting

what is the role of a father in a boy life, a father is like a role model for a boy, from young he imitates everything his father does, his father supports and encourages him to be a man.

A Boy that has a father figure is more likely to be successful in life than boys from a single mother home.

i have seen that in real life, boys and girls their father helped in getting a job or achieving a dream.

Also, many boys from single mother home suffer more from unemployment than boys who have a father figure reason is that their mother do not have the average social network or the financial means to help him achieve his dreams or the social network for him to get a job.



pls next time stop saying what you read in one motivation speech book.

tracyberry:
Don't just conclude to things, i doubt you made any research and what's with gender thing?
Male and females brought up by single parents shouldn't see their parents as the reason for their failure when they can make their own decisions.

you are just making everything seems like a blame game, no body is an island, every man once in a while needs support

tracyberry:
Your point?
People just let sentiments get in their way of progressing, if you wanna make it, make your weakness your strength, being raised by a single parent shouldn't be an excuse for failure, nothing should.
Every one in life has the right to make their own decisions.

pls stop spitting nonsense from motivational books, are you a man- NO, do you know what those boys pass through no, so you think people just become successful overnight without support.

The role of the father is to provide encouragement and support to his son, do you know how many boys that would have been brought up the right way if they had a father figure in their lives, we boys imitate our fathers, when we are young and we see our father polishing his shoes, we want to copy that, when we see our father doing repairs in the house, we imitate him, when he is barbing his hair, we imitate him. when we grow up to be men, we are already doing it because of we imitated our fathers, that is how many boys learn to drive their father's car.

when a boy has no father in his life, he goes to his peer groups, and if they are damn bad, they will lead him the bad way.

if you think a father is not important in a boy life, why do single mothers call uncles or male pastors and male acquaintances to speak to their boy when they cant get to him.

MissRaine69:
We are in America now?
A land where you face prejudice before you are even born.

i guess now, you want to complain about racism.

fa fa fa foul this op u jst fall ur hand. next time make ur research well and don't generalise. i'm was raised and brought up by my mum alone all this "captivity of negativity u wrote out here, are not true: NEXT TIME MAKE USE OF THE WORD SOME OKAY.