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Lmao. Even if you end up marrying her, she will still be bleeped under your nose and your brain cells wouldn’t blink.

Your head is too soft——softer than fufu.

How would a lady that claimed to love you, take permission from you to go and say proper NO to another guy? This part is wtf. It's clear she admires him and want to use the opportunity to meet him in person and clear her doubts?
Why would you allow her to go? I expect you guide your treasure jealously.

Your babe is now into the new guy already but doesn't want to break your heart since she's aware you're not financially buoyant whereas, the next guy can fulfill her dreams, especially MARRIAGE. You're formerly the plan A, but now B. she's is attached to you because of the pleasure, the SEX n BOND both of you had. She's giving you hints she's going for plan A (The new admirer) and you're talking about love. she's gone bro(because of marriage) whether you like it or not. Just be a man and let her go. Work more on yourself and make money. Breaking your heart won't kill you. Let her go jaree

Derail much we have, drills i now have
Courtesy: Sir Haddon

Realhommie:
I also have an inkling that's top on his agenda, but what do i know...

Op there's absolutely nothing you can do at this point, she holds the aces as it stands now especially considering the fact you're not financially stable hence you're not ready to settle down..

Just let her decide what she wants to do, brace yourself for the worst possible outcome.. If eventually she walks, life goes on as it won't be the end of the world.

Thanks for this bruh

plagiarism1:
How would a lady that claimed to love you, take permission from you to go and say proper NO to another guy? This part is wtf. It's clear she admires him and want to use the opportunity to meet him in person and clear her doubts?
Why would you allow her to go? I expect you guide your treasure jealously.

Your babe is now into the new guy already but doesn't want to break your heart since she's aware you're not financially buoyant whereas, the next guy can fulfill her dreams, especially MARRIAGE. You're formerly the plan A, but now B. she's is attached to you because of the pleasure, the SEX n BOND both of you had. She's giving you hints she's going for plan A (The new admirer) and you're talking about love. she's gone bro(because of marriage) whether you like it or not. Just be a man and let her go. Work more on yourself and make money. Breaking your heart won't kill you. Let her go jaree

Derail much we have, drills i now have
Courtesy: Sir Haddon

I now regret letting her go visit the guy.. I guess that's the mistake i made

Onepointfiveodds:
I now regret letting her go visit the guy.. I guess that's the mistake i made

Yes you made a mistake, but from another point of view if you didn't allow her to go, she might find a way to quench her curiosity about the new guy.

The language majority of ladies understand is money. Forget it when any lady tells you he can cope if you don't have money. Let her go, before she breaks your heart. If she does, it will pain you more. Just prepare your mind and let her go if she wants to go.

Onepointfiveodds:
Yes, i don't wanna lose her. Thank you bruh

Did you pay attention to his Monica?

At this moment, you'll eventually become her friend and Ex. She's ready for marriage the other guy is set, and you're not... It's painful but you've got to let her go.

Onepointfiveodds:
Thanks bruh.. I actually felt it will be difficult for me to let her go because of the way my heart draws to her but this happening now scares me

Hypocrite at highest level .....your heart draws to her yet you allowed her to pay visit to potential boyfriend? Maybe stupidity at highest level sha

How do you even date somebody for almost a year and not buy a gift or show some form of tangible generosity even if she earns more?

The other guy might actually be a better choice for her than you because you sound laid back and not ready to move her forward. And she seems to be giving more to the relationship...being the one visiting and probably spends on and for you.

Onepointfiveodds:
We've been at this for close to a year now, i love her but I'm not sure yet how much she loves me.. She comes to my side often almost everyday, sometimes even stay the weekend. I've never given her any gift tangible or money buh she seem comfortable with that because she knows I'm not that box up ( her salary is twice mine).
Last week, she told me she had a date with the guy (the admirer) but she couldn't go because she was busy at home and with me (so she said)
Saturday morning, she came to my side, have sex with me (not the first) and later said she's going to meet the guy again just to tell him NO properly, she begged me to let her go and i said, no problem.

Later that Saturday night, she called me that she's back. I asked her how it went and she started the talk about how she happened to like the guy and all... Said the guy's talking about settling down very soon which is what she also wants. All the guy needed to hear was YES.

I needed to post this hear to seek advice from experts. I am not financially ready for marriage right now but i love the girl and here is someone offering her on a platter of gold what she's always wanted.

What should i do please? .. Is my relationship gonna die with this info? I'm confused

She wants you to ask her to marry you oga

This babe u calling ur girlfriend so iyam very very sure if someone asks her if u are her boyfriend she will deny u flat. Una go see d handwritting on d wall una go still dey ask for advice. Of wat use is ur alpha male status if a lady treats u like a rag.

Bros the truth is you broke most guys are. The guy might be a sweet talker and a cheerful giver that you lacking. Women love them.



She had wish to get married so she used you as a means to waste time or she really do love you. Now she found someone who's ready to put a ring on her hand. Atless she will be free from working and doing everything for you.. That's an independent woman.

Bro the truth is most ladies lost good guys due to this "will you marry me?" scam desperate playboy use this just to get her honey.

My advice free her let her go. Go and make money.

Am in my mid 20s 6" 4ft tall, dark and huge i don't have a gf just friends am not in a rush
to getting one cause am so ambitious and barely take rubbish from women. Woman no dey run..You go see them plenty later..

Make money .. If you luck get a good loyal girl that you can use as assurance in future cause gold digger will come your way.

plagiarism1:
Yes you made a mistake, but from another point of view if you didn't allow her to go, she might find a way to quench her curiosity about the new guy.

The language majority of ladies understand is money. Forget it when any lady tells you he can cope if you don't have money. Let her go, before she breaks your heart. If she does, it will pain you more. Just prepare your mind and let her go if she wants to go.

girls full everywia. If he lets her go it wont pain him.

OP, you lost her the moment you gave her permission to go see another man. That’s what cheating ladies always do, they seek validation from their weak men so as not to feel any atom of guilt, once you give them the green light, it’s over. My humble advice to you is this: Forget about her and channel your energy into developing yourself more, be it your career, business/investments, etc.. Once you’re convinced that you’re boyant financially enough, take your time and find a nice girl that you both share same interest with. Finally, if the other lady comes back which I’m very sure she will, don’t accept her back.

Bro, that girl has been dating the other dude on the downlow but you didn’t realize it. A babe can’t just go see a guy and starts considering marriage all of a sudden. Secondly she’s not so into you as you are into her and she’s made her choice already and was just nice enough to let you know in a subtle manner. She’s gone already......sorry bro!!

Onepointfiveodds:
We've been at this for close to a year now, i love her but I'm not sure yet how much she loves me.. She comes to my side often almost everyday, sometimes even stay the weekend. I've never given her any gift tangible or money buh she seem comfortable with that because she knows I'm not that box up ( her salary is twice mine).
Last week, she told me she had a date with the guy (the admirer) but she couldn't go because she was busy at home and with me (so she said)
Saturday morning, she came to my side, have sex with me (not the first) and later said she's going to meet the guy again just to tell him NO properly, she begged me to let her go and i said, no problem.

Later that Saturday night, she called me that she's back. I asked her how it went and she started the talk about how she happened to like the guy and all... Said the guy's talking about settling down very soon which is what she also wants. All the guy needed to hear was YES.

I needed to post this hear to seek advice from experts. I am not financially ready for marriage right now but i love the girl and here is someone offering her on a platter of gold what she's always wanted.

What should i do please? .. Is my relationship gonna die with this info? I'm confused

rules are simple NVR hold strong anybody that wishes to go.
on a second thought she wants to settle down and u're not ready to settle down pls let her go, except u know sey u don ready. girls and marriage na 5&6 oooh if u nor let her go willingly truth is she i'll definitely go by or means or start doing some certain tins behind your back. hope the guy is real shall not jst to go third basd with her cos some guys can do and undo ooooh.

badadvice:
Hmmm, your situation is quite difficult.
But I can sense the intense love you both share.
So I'll advise you dont leave her for anything in the world talk more or less for a guy she just met.
Instead, it will be better if you just look for money somewhere, like collect a loan from the bank or borrow money from someone and wife this girl up immediately.
Good ladiess are hard to come by in this life (naija).
Dont let this one pass you by!

see this advice run.....nor tink am

ojuu4u:
Hypocrite at highest level .....your heart draws to her yet you allowed her to pay visit to potential boyfriend? Maybe stupidity at highest level sha

Yh, i guess I'm being stupid.. Very actually

ImaIma1:
How do you even date somebody for almost a year and not buy a gift or show some form of tangible generosity even if she earns more?

The other guy might actually be a better choice for her than you because you sound laid back and not ready to move her forward. And she seems to be giving more to the relationship...being the one visiting and probably spends on and for you.

Nah, i might be broke and might have bn stupid at some point but the relationship is the exact opposite of what yu portray here

Frankicent:
Bros the truth is you broke most guys are. The guy might be a sweet talker and a cheerful giver that you lacking. Women love them.



She had wish to get married so she used you as a means to waste time or she really do love you. Now she found someone who's ready to put a ring on her hand. Atless she will be free from working and doing everything for you.. That's an independent woman.

Bro the truth is most ladies lost good guys due to this "will you marry me?" scam desperate playboy use this just to get her honey.

My advice free her let her go. Go and make money.

Am in my mid 20s 6" 4ft tall, dark and huge i don't have a gf just friends am not in a rush
to getting one cause am so ambitious and barely take rubbish from women. Woman no dey run..You go see them plenty later..

Make money .. If you luck get a good loyal girl that you can use as assurance in future cause gold digger will come your way.

Thanks bruh

delugajackson:
At what point do you intend to marry her? Is it when you must have drained her of all the vital contents in her body? I'm only feeling sorry for the unfortunate guy that will inherit her from you. It's your type that turns women to scrap as a result of excessive knacking. No futuristic plan, no prospects, just knacking! You be carpenter? If the engine no knock or the top gasket no burn, you no go dey alright.

Even if she gives you sex everyday, it still won't put your focus on marriage. You need to set her free at this point for someone serious. You're not ready, so stop wasting her time. I see no need holding her back from her decision. Loose her and let her go.

I disagree with you on that. Deres prospects, my focus is marriage, just not financially ready for it yet and of course I'm working towards achieving that very soon.

And, yes we have sex often, but not everything's about sex

Onepointfiveodds:
Nah, i might be broke and might have bn stupid at some point but the relationship is the exact opposite of what yu portray here

Relationship is meant to be about love. When you love, you give. You are earning a salary and you cannot say that you have not had 5k in one year to buy her something.

Even when I was out of work, I would still buy a gift for hubby no matter how little. It shows that you are thinking about the person.

And have you guys discussed the future? Or you just living each day as it comes. Women like to know what plans you have so that she doesn't waste her best years with no direction only to be dropped later.

The chances she has with you or the other guy are not 100%. She might stay with you and you meet another person that you like and start forming ghost mode. C'est la vie.

Onepointfiveodds:
We've been at this for close to a year now, i love her but I'm not sure yet how much she loves me.. She comes to my side often almost everyday, sometimes even stay the weekend. I've never given her any gift tangible or money buh she seem comfortable with that because she knows I'm not that box up ( her salary is twice mine).
Last week, she told me she had a date with the guy (the admirer) but she couldn't go because she was busy at home and with me (so she said)
Saturday morning, she came to my side, have sex with me (not the first) and later said she's going to meet the guy again just to tell him NO properly, she begged me to let her go and i said, no problem.

Later that Saturday night, she called me that she's back. I asked her how it went and she started the talk about how she happened to like the guy and all... Said the guy's talking about settling down very soon which is what she also wants. All the guy needed to hear was YES.

I needed to post this hear to seek advice from experts. I am not financially ready for marriage right now but i love the girl and here is someone offering her on a platter of gold what she's always wanted.

What should i do please? .. Is my relationship gonna die with this info? I'm confused

UPDATE : We talked at length last night, i told her(practically begged her) to stop talking to the guy, she said she can't, that it's already too late for that, that she met the guy already and she's promised to always chat with him and pick his calls. I also asked her if I've not lost her by giving her permission to go see the guy, she said she hope i haven't

Pls free her..she made her choice already..Don't beg for love but you still fit dey yansh her sha.bad boi code..n responsible boi code is to free her patapata

delugajackson:
At what point do you intend to marry her? Is it when you must have drained her of all the vital contents in her body? I'm only feeling sorry for the unfortunate guy that will inherit her from you. It's your type that turns women to scrap as a result of excessive knacking. No futuristic plan, no prospects, just knacking! You be carpenter? If the engine no knock or the top gasket no burn, you no go dey alright.

Even if she gives you sex everyday, it still won't put your focus on marriage. You need to set her free at this point for someone serious. You're not ready, so stop wasting her time. I see no need holding her back from her decision. Loose her and let her go.

You really said some hard truths especially from a girl's perspective. He might not be ready to marry in the next four years and he will keep having sex with her till then. What if he meets someone else... probably a virgin and dumps her? Reminds me of one Port Harcourt story.

I don't believe she is outrightly wrong. Women don't have the luxury of time like men. A 70year old man can still impregnate a woman. And sometimes we all need to be selfish. I was selfish and it worked out for me

Onepointfiveodds:
I now regret letting her go visit the guy.. I guess that's the mistake i made

That is not a mistake. You don't own any lady.

Even if you told her not to, she may still have met him. Or would you insert a chip in her arm and monitor her movements 24/7?

In fact, her being honest with you might be because of that "mistake." Usually, you wouldn't know. She might just break up with you for any reason under the sun and weeks later you hear your ex-gf is getting married.

I'd keep saying it, if you're in a bf/gf relationship with a girl of marriageable age; rest assured that you're in an open relationship. She'd entertain offers from any serious guy she meets, and would give every one of them (you inclusive) ratings.

You've half lost your girl, and as others have advised it's better to let go now, rather than leave your sanity in the hands of creatures who regard marriage as the next step to heaven.

Go make money, but also never in your life have deeper feelings for a lady more than she has for you. That way, if and when they misbehave; and trust me having money does not make you immune to their misdemeanor; you can easily brush it off or walk out the door.

And don't let anyone convince you that being broke gives ladies the right to treat you like sh*t. Sure failure is an orphan, but close guy friends do not routinely just up and leave when things go sour for one of the buddies. They stick together and go through the sh*t together. So don't let a vagina emasculate you or eviscerate your self-confidence.

If she's met someone who wants to marry her and she wants to get married, while you aren't in a position to get married; let her go. That's life. You don't always get what you want, no matter how badly you want it. You might really like the new Galaxy S10+, but if you don't have the money to get it, that's just it, you can't get it.

PS: If the guy turns out to be one of those dudes using marriage as a carrot to get into pants, and she returns after "it didn't work out," don't take her back.

-Lord

Onepointfiveodds:
UPDATE : We talked at length last night, i told her(practically begged her) to stop talking to the guy, she said she can't, that it's already too late for that, that she met the guy already and she's promised to always chat with him and pick his calls. I also asked her if I've not lost her by giving her permission to go see the guy, she said she hope i haven't

Oga, say you be boyf no mean say she b your property.

Madam don go. She wouldn't just chat with him and pick his calls, she'd also answer his booty calls.

You have two options, cut off contact with her completely or make her a FWB. Some guys would go for option C, source funds from wherever and go do introduction so you have a foot in the door. If you're really into her, you'd go for option C, but terms and conditions apply.

It irritates me when guys act like cucks. Ladies cracked the relationship enigma a long time ago. How will you be begging a lady to stop cheating on you?

-Lord

Onepointfiveodds:
We've been at this for close to a year now, i love her but I'm not sure yet how much she loves me.. She comes to my side often almost everyday, sometimes even stay the weekend. I've never given her any gift tangible or money buh she seem comfortable with that because she knows I'm not that box up ( her salary is twice mine).
Last week, she told me she had a date with the guy (the admirer) but she couldn't go because she was busy at home and with me (so she said)
Saturday morning, she came to my side, have sex with me (not the first) and later said she's going to meet the guy again just to tell him NO properly, she begged me to let her go and i said, no problem.

Later that Saturday night, she called me that she's back. I asked her how it went and she started the talk about how she happened to like the guy and all... Said the guy's talking about settling down very soon which is what she also wants. All the guy needed to hear was YES.

I needed to post this hear to seek advice from experts. I am not financially ready for marriage right now but i love the girl and here is someone offering her on a platter of gold what she's always wanted.

What should i do please? .. Is my relationship gonna die with this info? I'm confused

UPDATE : We talked at length last night, i told her(practically begged her) to stop talking to the guy, she said she can't, that it's already too late for that, that she met the guy already and she's promised to always chat with him and pick his calls. I also asked her if I've not lost her by giving her permission to go see the guy, she said she hope i haven't

Olówó gba ìyàwó ọ̀lẹ

I won't say you should leave her. Just calm down and don't take the relationship too much to heart. And prepare yourself for any eventual outcome.

Onepointfiveodds:
We've been at this for close to a year now, i love her but I'm not sure yet how much she loves me.. She comes to my side often almost everyday, sometimes even stay the weekend. I've never given her any gift tangible or money buh she seem comfortable with that because she knows I'm not that box up ( her salary is twice mine).
Last week, she told me she had a date with the guy (the admirer) but she couldn't go because she was busy at home and with me (so she said)
Saturday morning, she came to my side, have sex with me (not the first) and later said she's going to meet the guy again just to tell him NO properly, she begged me to let her go and i said, no problem.

Later that Saturday night, she called me that she's back. I asked her how it went and she started the talk about how she happened to like the guy and all... Said the guy's talking about settling down very soon which is what she also wants. All the guy needed to hear was YES.
I needed to post this hear to seek advice from experts. I am not financially ready for marriage right now but i love the girl and here is someone offering her on a platter of gold what she's always wanted.

What should i do please? .. Is my relationship gonna die with this info? I'm confused

UPDATE : We talked at length last night, i told her(practically begged her) to stop talking to the guy, she said she can't, that it's already too late for that, that she met the guy already and she's promised to always chat with him and pick his calls. I also asked her if I've not lost her by giving her permission to go see the guy, she said she hope i haven't

Hahahahahahahahaa why you let her go see the guy in first place?

LordAdam16:
That is not a mistake. You don't own any lady.

Even if you told her not to, she may still have met him. Or would you insert a chip in her arm and monitor her movements 24/7?

In fact, her being honest with you might be because of that "mistake." Usually, you wouldn't know. She might just break up with you for any reason under the sun and weeks later you hear your ex-gf is getting married.

I'd keep saying it, if you're in a bf/gf relationship with a girl of marriageable age; rest assured that you're in an open relationship. She'd entertain offers from any serious guy she meets, and would give every one of them (you inclusive) ratings.

You've half lost your girl, and as others have advised it's better to let go now, rather than leave your sanity in the hands of creatures who regard marriage as the next step to heaven.

Go make money, but also never in your life have deeper feelings for a lady more than she has for you. That way, if and when they misbehave; and trust me having money does not make you immune to their misdemeanor; you can easily brush it off or walk out the door.

And don't let anyone convince you that being broke gives ladies the right to treat you like sh*t. Sure failure is an orphan, but close guy friends do not routinely just up and leave when things go sour for one of the buddies. They stick together and go through the sh*t together. So don't let a vagina emasculate you or eviscerate your self-confidence.

If she's met someone who wants to marry her and she wants to get married, while you aren't in a position to get married; let her go. That's life. You don't always get what you want, no matter how badly you want it. You might really like the new Galaxy S10+, but if you don't have the money to get it, that's just it, you can't get it.

PS: If the guy turns out to be one of those dudes using marriage as a carrot to get into pants, and she returns after "it didn't work out," don't take her back.

-Lord

Thanks