Am I an introvert?

There comes a time in our lives that we become self-conscious and self-aware. We were not like this when we were younger, but as we grow older, it is normal to know why we are who we are.



Why do I react this way in this type of situation? Why can’t I be like those guys? Why can’t I act like them? Why do I find it difficult to express myself? Why do I feel like I have to be a hundred percent knowledgeable in something before I feel I know anything about it? Why am I such a perfectionist? Then you head off to the internet, searching for answers.

It is quite good that you want answers to your questions because that is how to gain more knowledge concerning various aspects of life- finding answers.

Most introverts are aware of their personality type. But for some, they still find it hard to tell with certainty. Anyways, if it’s hard to decide if you are really an introvert, here are some basic things about introverts which may relate to your attitude:

Dislikes conflict



Check the president or ruler of a peaceful country, he or she is most likely an introvert. Conflict is something introverts avoid except it threatens their lives or those of their loved ones. Or perhaps if it is something that has to do with what they stand against. But you will hardly find an introvert who will fight because over a cheating boyfriend/man or girlfriend/wife, argue to the point of exchanging blows, etc.

For some people, it may seem like cowardice, but introverts choose their battle wisely. If it’s important, then you would have the opportunity of seeing them turn into a roaring lion to defend their rights or thoughts, and they hardly ever lose.

Calmness is one of the qualities of introverts, and this is because they are sensitive and have developed the act of empathy to be able to feel the pains of others and sympathize easily with them. For example, if an introvert was a customer service personnel and an angry customer works in and starts shouting, the introvert will naturally try to understand why the customer is shouting rather than ignoring or shouting back. Not because it is her duty, but because it is how they are wired. They can calm others down with their calming presence.

However, when they are fighting for their rights which has been trampled upon without apology, you might have to observe closely to see the calmness.

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Actually I don't see any reason why an introvert should feel bad about how he is.... I'm an introvert as well and when people say, hey, you're slow, you proud, you're too gentle, you're this your that, say this to me and I'll just ignore you. At this point of my life, if you complain about my personality, just leave me and go find your type elsewhere.

I don't even know if I have friends or not, I just know I have people I am comfortable with, both guys and girls and I'm cool and enjoying my life that way.

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I am an introvert. Some of my coursemates, especially the females now see me as being proud because I tend to keep to myself when in class.
I also overthink things, this sometimes brings depression when I feel that I've been cheated, especially in the market.
Sometimes hate it when someone visits me without invitation.
Most times when I walk the streets, I literally pray I don't meet anyone I know to avoid awkward moments.
When in class, I sometimes feel awkward because I think someone is staring at me.
Remember when I stated that I overthink things, it has its positive side because I after minutes of hearing a funny joke, it often replays in my mind . And I sometimes feel like a detective because I tend to understand peoples feelings.
You know, I use to think I'm an abnormal human until I learnt the meaning of the word 'introversion'.
#introvertunite

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In my department, smooth talkers are just too much. Some wouldn't even check your mood to know if you will be interested in what they are about to say or not, they will just keep on blabbing away

Saw this thread in the search and I guess I'm just gonna chill here. I'm introverted and kinda tired.

Hi everyone, I'm new here and just stumbled upon this thread, and yes i am an introvert but I am working on it. It can be annoying when people who don't know you assume you're proud or arrogant simply because you keep to yourself.

My parents and their friends started to think I would wither away. So i started to make efforts to work on myself. And I've come a looooooong way.

Back then if a classmate paid me a surprise visit I'd lie and say i wasn't home even when they were standing right in front of my gate. There was a time I had to go out and ran into my old classmates, I legit turned back and went through another street.

And dating wasn't even in my books (how does one date when they're hidden away?) This one was the one that worried my folks the most, along with weight gain. I got really fat i weighed 210 pounds i hadn't dated in 5 years and I was fat! Yeah they were concerned.

It wasn't until I traveled out of the country for my llm that i started to take control of my life. My mom got me a gym membership and I managed to shed 45 pounds which gave my self esteem a huuuuuge boost.

Came back to the country and resumed work as a corporate lawyer. I tell you, having responsibilities will help tackle being an introvert. Traffic helps too in its own frustrating way, trying to avoid traffic made me find after work activities. I go to the movies or visit a restaurant or go see a stage play much to the joy of my parents.

I even have friends now and we have sleepovers in my house. Yes i can now entertain people.

it hasn't been easy oh

When you become so introverted. You don't care working on yourself..cos you might be depressed in the long run. Cherish who you are. You weren't born an introvert to become an extrovert. Just be happy. Self acceptance matters alot.

Blogtrovert:
Saw this thread in the search and I guess I'm just gonna chill here. I'm introverted and kinda tired.

Midasbliss is that you?

sisiafrika:
And what is the objective?? Like poles should repel! Boxing urselves in a room won't solve it! One more thing, why should humans label themselves? Hey! I'm feminist, no ur an extrovert, yahh! I am racist, blahhh , u are gay, hooo, he's a chauvinist... Come on, quit labelling urselves! Just be u and live ur life! YOLO!

Yea, just be you, enjoy your life and quit labelling but it's a very good idea knowing the nature of who you are

Nimmadiji:
Hi everyone, I'm new here and just stumbled upon this thread, and yes i am an introvert but I am working on it. It can be annoying when people who don't know you assume you're proud or arrogant simply because you keep to yourself.

My parents and their friends started to think I would wither away. So i started to make efforts to work on myself. And I've come a looooooong way.

Back then if a classmate paid me a surprise visit I'd lie and say i wasn't home even when they were standing right in front of my gate. There was a time I had to go out and ran into my old classmates, I legit turned back and went through another street.

And dating wasn't even in my books (how does one date when they're hidden away?) This one was the one that worried my folks the most, along with weight gain. I got really fat i weighed 210 pounds i hadn't dated in 5 years and I was fat! Yeah they were concerned.

It wasn't until I traveled out of the country for my llm that i started to take control of my life. My mom got me a gym membership and I managed to shed 45 pounds which gave my self esteem a huuuuuge boost.

Came back to the country and resumed work as a corporate lawyer. I tell you, having responsibilities will help tackle being an introvert. Traffic helps too in its own frustrating way, trying to avoid traffic made me find after work activities. I go to the movies or visit a restaurant or go see a stage play much to the joy of my parents.

I even have friends now and we have sleepovers in my house. Yes i can now entertain people.

Seems like a perfect life... Lol, amazing

Apus:





you are an ambivert: a person who has a balance of extrovert and introvert features in their personality.

Although i do not believe it's actually possible to strike a balance between both personality. Most often one trait is dominant while the other is either suppressed or recessive

Its never balanced. One has to be dominant

Could anyone related to this, being an introvert is does not easy working for under someone, because in your dealing and behavior they think you were feeling big

Olarewajub:
Introvert comes from Latin intro- , "inward," and vertere , "turning." It describes a person who tends to turn inward mentally. Introverts sometimes avoid large groups of people, feeling more energized by time alone.
Introversion is at its root a type of temperament. It is not the same as shyness or having a withdrawn personality, and it is not pathological. It is also not something you can change. But you can learn to work with it, not against it.


Introvert Facts

• 75 percent of the world is extroverted.

• Being introverted affects all areas of your life.

• Nothing is wrong with you.

• Introverts feel drained and overstimulated.

• Being introverted is something to be celebrated.


Common Introversion Traits

Introversion is marked by a number of sub-traits:


1. Very self-aware

2. Thoughtful

3. Enjoys understanding details

4. Interested in self-knowledge and self-understanding

5. Tends to keep emotions private

6. Quiet and reserved in large groups or around unfamiliar people

7. More sociable and gregarious around people they know well

8. Learns well through observation.


Introverts Library

1. Quiet by Susan Cain

2. Success as an Introvert for Dummies by Joan Pastor

3. Introvert Power by Laurie Helgoe, PhD

4. Introverts in Love by Sophia Dembling

5. The Awakened Introvert by Arnie Kozak

6. The Irresistible Introvert by Michaela Chung

7. Quiet Influence by Jennifer B. Kahnweiler, PhD

8. The Introvert Advantage by Marti Olsen Laney, Psy.D.

9. The Introvert Entrepreneur by Beth Buelow

10. Quiet Power: The Secret Strength of Introverted Kids by Susan Cain

11. Introvert Doodles by Maureen “Marzi” Wilson



Quiet people are often found to have profound insights.
The shallow water in a brook or river runs fast:
The deep water seems calmer.

—JAMES ROGERS



Are you an introvert? If yes, this is definitely the place to be.
What are your challenges as an introvert and are you happy about your introversion?



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Present!!!

Mine is combined with shyness and anger!!

Its been cool inside, but outside its not.....

melanch:
When you become so introverted. You don't care working on yourself..cos you might be depressed in the long run. Cherish who you are. You weren't born an introvert to become an extrovert. Just be happy. Self acceptance matters alot.

So true. I tried changing myself and got burnt.

Are Introverts Shy?


For many people, introversion is synonymous to shyness. They believe that the only true definition of an introvert is someone who is shy and socially awkward. But is this the truth? Are introverts’ shy people?

Contrary to popular belief, introverts are not shy people. Being shy around people is one thing and being an introvert is a completely different thing. An introvert or extrovert may feel shy depending on certain factors such as current accomplishments, the current state of mind, dressing and so on. For example, if an introvert has failed to accomplish a certain thing and unfortunately finds him or herself around people who have accomplished it, there is a tendency for them to feel shy. The same thing goes to an extrovert.

Some popular people have said they were introverts when growing up because they were shy around people and could not express themselves, but that is flawed thinking.

Introversion is a personality type just like extroversion. It is not something that can be changed, but you can surely improve on it. If you were shy when you were younger, it is because you probably lacked self-confidence or didn’t possess a high self-esteem. You were in an environment where those qualities were not horned which is why you turned out shy. It is not because of your personality type that you were shy, but certain factors that surrounded your birth or where you grew up.

The difference between being shy and introverted


A shy person is nervous or timid when they are around other people. But introverts do not feel timid when they are around others, rather in some cases, they might feel superior which people might mistake as arrogance.

A shy child may have turned out that way because of a controlling or overbearing parent, but an introvert personality becomes noticed even when the child is still a baby.

Most people are shy when they feel they do not measure up to those around them. For instance, someone may feel shy because she feels the other ladies in the room are more beautiful or better dressed. Another may have that feeling when he is with people more intelligent, learned or wealthier than him.

Shy people do not feel comfortable around people, introverts feel comfortable but would rather not stay around people especially when they do not feel like it. The difference here is that shy people want to hang out around people but will feel uncomfortable because they do not want to answer any question that may throw them off balance or reveal what they might have been hiding from others. But an introvert does not want to be around people at some point because they need to be alone for some power thinking or they feel that the time will be better spent recharging, reviewing or with few close friends or loved ones.

Feeling shy is a present state of mind which can go away within minutes, weeks or years depending on how you work to achieve the things that are keeping you in that shy state. But introversion is that personality people see even when you try to mask it. You might try to be an extrovert, talk to everyone you see, laugh hysterically, be the hilarious guy, but you will eventually get tired and look for where to recharge. You will crave for your peace of mind, solitude, long walks on quiet terrain, writing out your thoughts, stalking people on social media without chatting them up, and so on.

How to stop being shy

First of all, let’s clear up the misconception that social anxiety disorder is shyness. SAD is a disorder which is totally different from being shy. Saying SAD is the same thing as being shy is like saying your inability to sleep for one night due to excitement or wok is the same thing as having insomnia or sleeping apnea.

A social anxiety disorder is a mental disorder which is more extreme than shyness. You tend to avoid every form of social contact including eye contacts because they make you feel uncomfortable. Physical symptoms of a social anxiety disorder include rapid heartbeat, diarrhea, finding hard to catch your breath, muscle tension, and lightheadedness.

People with SAD experience these symptoms whenever they are in a social gathering or even before they find themselves in the event. If you experience these symptoms, you need to see the doctor right away.

Shyness is another thing entirely. If you are a shy person,i.e. you feel timid and uncomfortable around people. Here are few tricks to help you stop being shy.


Stop listening to your inner critic
We all have that inner critic that criticizes more than the meanest person on earth. If it were to be a human who says the things our inner critic says, we might have looked for a way to silence him forever. But because it comes from our very own self, we tend to be lenient. If you must overcome shyness, you have to learn to silence your inner critic through physical or mental ways.

Silencing your inner critic physically including saying a big “Shut the hell up” when you hear that low, degrading voice. Close your ears to whatever it has to say and go about doing what you like. You can mentally do this by totally ignoring it or pretending like you didn’t hear anything, although this takes practice and discipline.

Self-development
Shyness, low self-esteem, and low self-confidence are all as a result of the feeling of underachievement. When you feel that you are not good enough to stand next to or talk to others, it is a big issue you must fix.

The first thing you should do is read about how to have high self-esteem because without it, whatever height you may attain, someone out there is going to be better than you. What will you do when you come face-to-face with that person? Having high self-esteem makes you feel good about yourself no matter your status in life.

After you have successfully mastered the art of improving your self-esteem, you should move to your self-confidence. What is it you need to learn to feel good about yourself? Then go all out to learn and acquire mastery of it.

Talk more
If you feel shy because you don’t feel that you may say inappropriate things while talking, then you should silence that fear by talking when you feel like it. If you have something important to say, voice it out. Don’t be the quiet one in the group if they are discussing a subject that interests you.

Chipping one or two sentences confidently and cheerfully will go a long way to boost your confidence. If you know little about topics of discussion, it is a clear sign that you should read more and pay attention to your immediate environment.

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Nimmadiji:
Hi everyone, I'm new here and just stumbled upon this thread, and yes i am an introvert but I am working on it. It can be annoying when people who don't know you assume you're proud or arrogant simply because you keep to yourself.

My parents and their friends started to think I would wither away. So i started to make efforts to work on myself. And I've come a looooooong way.

Back then if a classmate paid me a surprise visit I'd lie and say i wasn't home even when they were standing right in front of my gate. There was a time I had to go out and ran into my old classmates, I legit turned back and went through another street.

And dating wasn't even in my books (how does one date when they're hidden away?) This one was the one that worried my folks the most, along with weight gain. I got really fat i weighed 210 pounds i hadn't dated in 5 years and I was fat! Yeah they were concerned.

It wasn't until I traveled out of the country for my llm that i started to take control of my life. My mom got me a gym membership and I managed to shed 45 pounds which gave my self esteem a huuuuuge boost.

Came back to the country and resumed work as a corporate lawyer. I tell you, having responsibilities will help tackle being an introvert. Traffic helps too in its own frustrating way, trying to avoid traffic made me find after work activities. I go to the movies or visit a restaurant or go see a stage play much to the joy of my parents.

I even have friends now and we have sleepovers in my house. Yes i can now entertain people.

My introvert level is nothing to write home about I might need your help to get out of it. I because your case is somehow similar to mine.


Pls check your pm

Callmeibironke:
so, at 12:10am dater church service today. Someone looked at me and told me that I needed to go out more often.

That I am always pressing my phone or in front of my laptop by myself.

Maybe she is right.

I don't have any friends (seriously though) that I would go out with or people to be free with.

I'm just too rigid.

I need to make new friends

What part of the country are you at?

KanielOutis92:
Midasbliss is that you?

Hello? Yes I am, who you?

Themhi1:
Present!!!


Mine is combined with shyness and anger!!


Its been cool inside, but outside its not.....

Sometimes I think I'm shy until I get angry. Boom I'm someone else.

Callmeibironke:
so, at 12:10am dater church service today. Someone looked at me and told me that I needed to go out more often.

That I am always pressing my phone or in front of my laptop by myself.

Maybe she is right.

I don't have any friends (seriously though) that I would go out with or people to be free with.

I'm just too rigid.

I need to make new friends

Story of my life! Hi Ronke.

Blogtrovert:


Story of my life! Hi Ronke.

We should be twin sef. Hi, how are you doing?

nobsalis:



What part of the country are you at?

Lagos for now.

Callmeibironke:
Lagos for now.

Oops I'm in Abuja tho

nobsalis:



Oops I'm in Abuja tho

I was there Nov, 2018 for Zenith Bank test. Hoping they call me back again as I missed the first call back

Callmeibironke:
I was there Nov, 2018 for Zenith Bank test. Hoping they call me back again as I missed the first call back

Check your pm

Blogtrovert:


Hello? Yes I am, who you?

Yeah..thought as much. You still frequent this place..Nice! It's Chiko..