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Re: At What Age Should A Child Leave His/Her Parents And Start An Independent Life? by Mryacks: 9:19pm On Mar 15, 2019
xpac01:
It all depends on individuals. I am 32 and still living in my parent's house. An employed graduate. I travel out a lot from town for a one job or the other. So no need paying for a house I won't stay more than six days in a month.

So, every one is cut out for different cases.

Exactly!!
Re: At What Age Should A Child Leave His/Her Parents And Start An Independent Life? by Nobody: 9:24pm On Mar 15, 2019
the appropriate time to start living independently is when your parents have raised you up to the level you can cater for yourself.
but in the economy of today we have a lot of irresponsible parents who do not watch closely their children.


so it goes by this quote "he who must rest at night must learn to work during the day"

but, if your parents do not show concern about your future, take the bull by the horns and by God's grace you will get to the top.

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Re: At What Age Should A Child Leave His/Her Parents And Start An Independent Life? by real777(m): 9:25pm On Mar 15, 2019
All these leaving home stories & tales should not be a template to gauge success. Some left early & it paid while the majority ended like the proverbial prodigal son. Other than job location, an unmarried young lady should continue living with parents or family house. Some young girls here in the GRA pays yearly rent of 500k when they have no meaningful job other than selling their ToTo & these are the kind of people you want to imitate right? For the boys it is freedom to fornicate & engage in ill gotten money online. This is what I know & I got them plenty here in my neighborhood.
I currently have a 22 to 24 year old girl living alone but she comes home from 10pm everyday in the guise of a hair stylist / apprentice but okpo work & different boyfriends is the source of her house rent. People are too ashamed now living with parents in Benin/C & funny enough many houses will be empty & start to rot once parents dies.
Some folks I know have two houses but still living in father's house because father is dead & nobody care about maintenance. Everybody don dey their own. The vanity of life..

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Re: At What Age Should A Child Leave His/Her Parents And Start An Independent Life? by Thane(m): 9:25pm On Mar 15, 2019
Evans211:
Mine is complex. Left home at age 15 immediately after secondary to join my uncle in Lag. He lived in a face me and slap you with his friends (about 5-6) lol. I manged there for 2 years while I’m preparing for jamb. Got admission and the rest is history. I stayed in school hostel cause I couldn’t afford off camp accommodation..

During strikes I’d be force to leave hostel and sometimes squat in a friend’s place off camp. I rarely go to Lagos cause Uncle got married and was staying with his Iyawo in his newly built home. Although not to taste but I really don’t like his iyawo and her delay in cooking. I like food but she starves me a lot.. perhaps ignorantly.

In 300L I started doing one or two hustles and money began to pump in heavy.. I was technically 19-20 years when I’ve been on my own.. would be 24 this April and thank God for everything.

Sometimes, certain conditions would boost your morale and hunger to be independent at least, if not rich but OK.

I’m the boss of myself now. I only called to check on his kids; send stuffs etc. last year December, I was in lag but I lodge in an hotel for a week..

I really don’t like visiting family people I no like some kind iyawo issues... na she dey call me now tho. She dey even call me “sir” but hey, I’ve earned my respect. I no do pass myself

Which hustle is this abeg bro. I need . Pls help a brother

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Re: At What Age Should A Child Leave His/Her Parents And Start An Independent Life? by ewizard1: 9:26pm On Mar 15, 2019
Still with my dad... Tho I got my place already but he calls me and talks like he misses me as I am the only child with him till now.

My business place is close to his house, so more days in a week, I go take my room in his house.

Leaving should depend on ability get a place and cater for oneself, the parents too should know this. I was still under my parents longer than I expected/planned and that was because I couldn't gather enough to get a place for me. But when it happened and I was able, I did.

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Re: At What Age Should A Child Leave His/Her Parents And Start An Independent Life? by FreeMejoor1(m): 9:28pm On Mar 15, 2019
latexxbro:

suffer head you say??Lol
Mr Man, I graduated at 20 and I already started my Business while in school because my parents had the money to help me set up the business,I got a car for myself Rx350 and I'm actually sponsoring my younger sister that's still in Uni,No need for all this offline talk where else you might be lieing, if you don't mind,we can exchange maybe new contacts and to show you I'm not just bragging,and I also have over a million naira in my account and my business is still not half where I'm moving it to be, So saying a guy should leave his parents house upon graduation is TOTALLY WRONG because I wouldn't have done that if my parents didn't put it together for me with the funds,rather you can just say MAYBE upon graduation,And the friend you used as an example schooling abroad..You sound funny there.
By the way I'm not up to 24 yet..Don't claim you re right.
Don't mind the typos.
what kind of business bro really want to learn from you.

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Re: At What Age Should A Child Leave His/Her Parents And Start An Independent Life? by airprinz(m): 9:31pm On Mar 15, 2019
wetdick:


so because your parent is poor that means you should be poor too, guys need to be ambitious, i think that should be a good reason to move away from the house and get your own stuff going.
Guy from your name, it seems pussy is what has chase you away from your parent's house at early age. To me your quotes here are invalid

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Re: At What Age Should A Child Leave His/Her Parents And Start An Independent Life? by iammolise(m): 9:31pm On Mar 15, 2019
seyigiggle:
Poverty has really done bad to this one.
Mr. no be everybody be suffer head like you and your lineage.
my family no be Dangote, but well structured.
Even if they delay your destiny, you would graduate before 26.
Anyways, I am a proof of what I wrote.
By the way, how old are you? Can you get married by 27?

By the way, I have a colleague whose child is schooling abroad and would graduate by 19 this year.
The child is not willing to relocate to naija.
What do you have to say?


Braggart
Show off
Unreasonable
Bad judgmental
Trollfull
Parent spoiled...

Uncle these are ur names...
Just pray u don't make u and ur kids far poorer than ur parents.
Re: At What Age Should A Child Leave His/Her Parents And Start An Independent Life? by don4real18(m): 9:32pm On Mar 15, 2019
Kendrick80:

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Alright... I just went through your profile and will beep you up if any project comes up

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Re: At What Age Should A Child Leave His/Her Parents And Start An Independent Life? by Nobody: 9:35pm On Mar 15, 2019
airprinz:
Guy from your name, it seems pussy is what has chase you away from your parent's house at early age. To me your quotes here is invalid

even though it is pussy. so a man cant have his privacy again or build his own life independently. even my papa was happy that i was leaving when i told him.
Re: At What Age Should A Child Leave His/Her Parents And Start An Independent Life? by ganie(m): 9:36pm On Mar 15, 2019
I am in this situation presently,I live with my mom alone being her only son.

I am a graduate and presently employed with a salary of over 50k,I am fit to rent a room self contained apartment that is close to my place of work. Though,I intend to actualise this in the next two months.

But I have been thinking of how it will be like considering I am the only one with her though I have made it compulsory that I will continue to assist her with a stipend to cater for the expenses I take care of presently.

Please advise me.

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Re: At What Age Should A Child Leave His/Her Parents And Start An Independent Life? by iammolise(m): 9:37pm On Mar 15, 2019
latexxbro:

suffer head you say??Lol
Mr Man, I graduated at 20 and I already started my Business while in school because my parents had the money to help me set up the business,I got a car for myself Rx350 and I'm actually sponsoring my younger sister that's still in Uni,No need for all this offline talk where else you might be lieing, if you don't mind,we can exchange maybe new contacts and to show you I'm not just bragging,and I also have over a million naira in my account and my business is still not half where I'm moving it to be, So saying a guy should leave his parents house upon graduation is TOTALLY WRONG because I wouldn't have done that if my parents didn't put it together for me with the funds,rather you can just say MAYBE upon graduation,And the friend you used as an example schooling abroad..You sound funny there.
By the way I'm not up to 24 yet..Don't claim you re right.
Don't mind the typos.

My broda don't mind over sabi silver spooned cunts... All they know is brag and cunt around.

Even without practical proof I believe u

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Re: At What Age Should A Child Leave His/Her Parents And Start An Independent Life? by Kendrick80(m): 9:41pm On Mar 15, 2019
don4real18:

Alright... I just went through your profile and will beep you up if any project comes up
Thanks...have a lovely night
Re: At What Age Should A Child Leave His/Her Parents And Start An Independent Life? by Nobody: 9:43pm On Mar 15, 2019
wetdick:


so because your parent is poor that means you should be poor too, guys need to be ambitious, i think that should be a good reason to move away from the house and get your own stuff going.

My friends parents are poor, his bro got a job at CBN just few months after NYSC, and You know what, HE DID NOT MOVE OUT, He is still living with his parents, helping out in the house & taking responsibility of some of his younger siblings. I know if it's someone like you, You go immediately move out claiming you want to realize ur ambitions. Your parents are not in any way holding you back or preventing you from getting rich. If you live in a village, I can understand moving out to a city in order to make it, But you can't be living in same city with ur parents, working in that same city & then decide to move out to live alone, like say ur parents are burdening you or something. If you ain't married use that money you wanna spend on bills & oloshos on ur parents instead

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Re: At What Age Should A Child Leave His/Her Parents And Start An Independent Life? by Gerrard59(m): 9:45pm On Mar 15, 2019
Jiang:


My guy pls let's be honest, Majority of people who comot from thier parents house usually, wanna have an apartment & bring girls to nack, All those talk of freedom Na bullshyt to justify their ego.

If for example ur parents are poor, that is Even more reason to stay with them, they fed you for decades & now YOU DON BECOME ADULT, you bring one shyt like move out, You be eating indomie & rice while ur parents dey soak akamu. Instead stay with them, Hustle & take over the freaking house bills, I ASSURE YOU, YOU WILL BE MORE BLESSED THAN ONE NIGGA WHO ABANDON THEM in order to prove he is man enough to live alone.

And I seriously frown upon young ladies moving out, NO MATTER HOW OLD PLEASE STAY WITH ur parents till marriage. Personally I look down upon single women who live alone, unless she's an orphan

Scenario: A lady resides in Uyo with her folks, applies for a job and is required to move to Lagos (where she knows no one) to work. What should she do?
Re: At What Age Should A Child Leave His/Her Parents And Start An Independent Life? by Ugosample(m): 9:45pm On Mar 15, 2019
iCauseTrouble:
For guys. I say immediately after school or service.
For ladies, They should stay till their husbands come to pick them.
Most ladies staying alone are oloshos in disguise

ThAt a wrong assumption
Re: At What Age Should A Child Leave His/Her Parents And Start An Independent Life? by Nobody: 9:52pm On Mar 15, 2019
Jiang:


My friends parents are poor, his bro got a job at CBN just few months after NYSC, and You know what, HE DID NOT MOVE OUT, He is still living with his parents, helping out in the house & taking responsibility of some of his younger siblings. I know if it's someone like you, You go immediately move out claiming you want to realize ur ambitions. Your parents are not in any way holding you back or preventing you from getting rich. If you live in a village, I can understand moving out to a city in order to make it, But you can't be living in same city with ur parents, working in that same city & then decide to move out to live alone, like say ur parents are burdening you or something. If you ain't married use that money you wanna spend on bills & oloshos on ur parents instead

sorry, i have moved out.... too late. my dad gave me a big handshake when i told him i was moving out.
Re: At What Age Should A Child Leave His/Her Parents And Start An Independent Life? by Ayobami7(m): 9:54pm On Mar 15, 2019
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Re: At What Age Should A Child Leave His/Her Parents And Start An Independent Life? by airprinz(m): 10:00pm On Mar 15, 2019
wetdick:


even though it is pussy. so a man cant have his privacy again or build his own life independently. even my papa was happy that i was leaving when i told him.
Dude, you think life is easy as you think? If you are responsible enough to stay away from your comfort zone, then help brothers and sisters that are here still squating under their parents roof due to joblesness or financial crises, if not, then get the fvck out of this thread

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Re: At What Age Should A Child Leave His/Her Parents And Start An Independent Life? by Nobody: 10:05pm On Mar 15, 2019
airprinz:
Dude, you think life is easy as you think? If you are responsible enough to stay away from your comfort zone, then help brothers and sisters here that are still squating under their parents roof due to joblesness or financial crises, if not, then get the fvck out of this thread

life is not easy for no one, instead of complaining, i rather do what is right for myself then after i will think about others. i didnt come to this world to come and help others, i came here to help myself first than after others but come to think of it, even if i had 1 naira and you were broke, i rather throw that 1 naira in a well than give it to you.

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Re: At What Age Should A Child Leave His/Her Parents And Start An Independent Life? by olanewton(m): 10:08pm On Mar 15, 2019
joeydirisu:
left my folks house at 18 rented my 1st house at 21 bought my 1st car at 25 now married with a child at 30 n running my business. Take d bull by d horn, start small n grow
Nice one. What business are you doing bro?
Re: At What Age Should A Child Leave His/Her Parents And Start An Independent Life? by Mubarak05(m): 10:17pm On Mar 15, 2019
joeydirisu:
left my folks house at 18 rented my 1st house at 21 bought my 1st car at 25 now married with a child at 30 n running my business. Take d bull by d horn, start small n grow
Pls which work were u doing then
Re: At What Age Should A Child Leave His/Her Parents And Start An Independent Life? by onimama19(m): 10:27pm On Mar 15, 2019
At God stipulated time, is the best of planner

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Re: At What Age Should A Child Leave His/Her Parents And Start An Independent Life? by Mubarak05(m): 10:30pm On Mar 15, 2019
latexxbro:

suffer head you say??Lol
Mr Man, I graduated at 20 and I already started my Business while in school because my parents had the money to help me set up the business,I got a car for myself Rx350 and I'm actually sponsoring my younger sister that's still in Uni,No need for all this offline talk where else you might be lieing, if you don't mind,we can exchange maybe new contacts and to show you I'm not just bragging,and I also have over a million naira in my account and my business is still not half where I'm moving it to be, So saying a guy should leave his parents house upon graduation is TOTALLY WRONG because I wouldn't have done that if my parents didn't put it together for me with the funds,rather you can just say MAYBE upon graduation,And the friend you used as an example schooling abroad..You sound funny there.
By the way I'm not up to 24 yet..Don't claim you re right.
Don't mind the typos.
Sorry if I may ask...which type of business are u doing
Re: At What Age Should A Child Leave His/Her Parents And Start An Independent Life? by myself13: 10:36pm On Mar 15, 2019
Akalia:
When I hear such arrogant utterance from people my heart sinks. Do you think you are the most hard working man on earth and that's why you are successful?

There are people out there that best you in the areas where your strengths lie but yet they may not be at par with you socially.

Please never you brag about your success and never you look down on anyone still facing social struggles . There is no mate in destiny ; life revolves around time and chance. Ecclesiastes 9:11.

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Re: At What Age Should A Child Leave His/Her Parents And Start An Independent Life? by dgee1(m): 11:07pm On Mar 15, 2019
Really depressing reading all the comments here. I probably shouldnt have opened this thread. I'm 31 and still living with my parents. Graduated, started work and was supporting with some bills at home, then lost the job and been jobless for close to two years now.

Really frustrated and confused right now.

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Re: At What Age Should A Child Leave His/Her Parents And Start An Independent Life? by Nobody: 11:08pm On Mar 15, 2019
Dannygold3790:
It all depends on

1 individual abilities


2 parental abilities

As for me I left immediately after my WAEC


So you wrote your waec at age 30.
Re: At What Age Should A Child Leave His/Her Parents And Start An Independent Life? by real777(m): 11:09pm On Mar 15, 2019
gbagyiza:


But seriously, this is d right time for u to start your home. There is nothing wrong for you to get a place, furnished it n get married. Its good to start your own family now that you r earning money at this age because time don't wait for anybody. There r lots of disadvantages in getting married late, u might not understand this now but when u get there u will.

Tell us the disadvantages of getting married late. Like I always tell people never use your lucky rosy life as template for others. At a stage in my life, I was a genius, creative / intelligent, first class in making & possessing great retentive memory. I started planning & thinking I will start a family at age 25 & be a multi millionaire before 30 but guess what.. things started slipping that till this day is a mystery what happened to me. Most of the people we grew together still thinks am that person they use to know. I'm not lazy or proud person but those great qualities in bold vanished. The life I dreamt off & felt at a stage in my life is same life I see other folks enjoy even without possession of skill. Eccl 9:11 comes to mind.

Some got favoured by the best things of this life earlier but sadly returns to the grave earlier than their mates who are still struggling to eat 1 square meal daily. It is good to marry early but atimes, chance & circumstance may alter this decision for you. Some married at 22, 24 but after 15 years no child yet. Let's learn to appreciate Jehovah for the current situation we are now (especially if you're not the cause of those hindrance)

Some go turn this thread to business and millionaires thread soon.... how they became a millionaire at 15 with imaginary product. ..potential scamming brewing here soon

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Re: At What Age Should A Child Leave His/Her Parents And Start An Independent Life? by Nobody: 11:10pm On Mar 15, 2019
dgee1:
Really depressing reading all the comments here. I probably shouldnt have opened this thread. I'm 31 and still living with my parents. Graduated, started work and was supporting with some bills at home, then lost the job and been jobless for close to two years now.

Really frustrated and confused right now.

First born shey and average family. I totally understand. Almost in same shoes.
Re: At What Age Should A Child Leave His/Her Parents And Start An Independent Life? by dgee1(m): 11:28pm On Mar 15, 2019
princetunex:


First born shey and average family. I totally understand. Almost in same shoes.

Its been very tough/crazy. Yet, you want to do the right thing. Society too is not helping, how many people have gone into internet fraud because of stuff like this? You apply for jobs, mostly it's the 'connected' ones that get employed even when you are well qualified and competent. Even most of the jobs, how much is up as pay? Yet you want to do the right thing and be legit.
Re: At What Age Should A Child Leave His/Her Parents And Start An Independent Life? by Nobody: 11:32pm On Mar 15, 2019
wetdick:


sorry, i have moved out.... too late. my dad gave me a big handshake when i told him i was moving out.

Well different strokes for different people, As for me, I still dey him house grin
Re: At What Age Should A Child Leave His/Her Parents And Start An Independent Life? by Nobody: 11:37pm On Mar 15, 2019
dgee1:
Really depressing reading all the comments here. I probably shouldnt have opened this thread. I'm 31 and still living with my parents. Graduated, started work and was supporting with some bills at home, then lost the job and been jobless for close to two years now.

Really frustrated and confused right now.

Stop comparing urself with other people if you no wan depression to frustrate ur life or force you to make some stupid choices that you will end up regretting, THEY ARE THEM & YOU ARE YOU.

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