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when we say this thing called marriage is a lifelong thing
look before you leap,
forget sex, fun and outings during courtship,
study your partner,
but most of all...
pray for divine revelation on how the marriage will turn out , who the person truly is, they say we are too spirikoko , we dont know anything.

Isn't marriage meant to be a union? A partnership

see this man making a decision as big as this without informing his wife

Even some bosses don't treat their employees this way.

Op how sure are you that you aren't the one at fault.

Please do that woman a favour and leave her. You clearly don't see her as a human being let alone love her.
she will cry and be bitter for a while but she will bounce back

At least its better than husband / wives who plan to kill their spouse for money.

RemyAndre:
My children will have my traits, probably my face and blood. I don't think I'm matured emotionally to care for a kid I don't have anything in common with. It will definitely hunt me

surrogacy

I dont know how you say you lobe your wife dearly and can even think of this.

Even if she was the one who suggested it, no woman would ever be happy with it. she would remain broken till she can have her own child


You seem to be in a rush without considering the consequences

Babymama issues no be here o

You'll have to consider the character of the woman . she could pretend to be gentle and respectful but as soon as she has one or two kids she will want to exert her rights.

Power corrupts and absolute power corrupts absolutely.
You will just hand over the reigns of your life to another woman outside.
she can hike price of every bill and you will have no choice than to pay because you love your kids
Also with a babymama you still won't have full tim e with your kids like if they were your wife's own in the same house


How many young women do you think are willing to put their lives on to have kids for a man who won't marry them ? except the ones who want to remain free to be wayward and that's a no no for a mother.

Babymamas are quite expensive to maintain. seperate house, separate bills , separate extended families.

IVF
surrogacy
are good options to consider

most importantly , prayer is the key.
God can give you children even if your wife doesn't have a womb or you have low sperm count.
shalom

RemyAndre:
I've done test too. Nothing is wrong with me.

The only thing wrong here is living apart and trying too hard for the baby. Try living together under one roof, one bed and give urself little time.. There is a way the mind works which controls the body.. Its always mind over matter. Don't take my little advice lightly. Stay at least 6-7 months together with ur wife before u finally ja.. Good luck

Acidosis:
You're selfish and wicked. Try and imagine your wife getting pregnant for another man because she desperately needs a child and visa. Sounds right huh?

You even proceeded to mention the word love. Bro, you do not love your wife. In fact, you sound like someone that can kill his wife for visa.

Where did he say he's doing it for visa?

Dude

RemyAndre:
Dunno much about it and the price.
It's 80% sure I will leave Nigeria by December, it's not about integrity, I'm just being plain here.

It's easy.

Get a girlfriend. Have raw sex with her and get her pregnant. That's all

generationz:
when we say this thing called marriage is a lifelong thing
look before you leap,
forget sex, fun and outings during courtship,
study your partner,
but most of all...
pray for divine revelation on how the marriage will turn out , who the person truly is, they say we are too spirikoko , we dont know anything.

Isn't marriage meant to be a union? A partnership

see this man making a decision as big as this without informing his wife

Even some bosses don't treat their employees this way.

Op how sure are you that you aren't the one at fault.

Please do that woman a favour and leave her. You clearly don't see her as a human being let alone love her.
she will cry and be bitter for a while but she will bounce back

At least its better than husband / wives who plan to kill their spouse for money.

Your head correct ooo with this advice

tosyne2much:
Your head correct ooo with this advice

thanks.

RemyAndre:
Good day to you all. I need a baby mama. Might sounds funny and weird but I'm an adult and married. In my 30s but I believe the beat for me is to get a baby mama, have one or two kids, take care of them and their mama.

I'm a working class, planing to leave the country this year, my wife is yet to conceive, our marriage will be two years in few months. My wife works in Lagos, I was transferred to osun state last year, she comes every 2 weeks. I believe if I leave the country it's better I have a kid here. I'm not getting younger, our families are beginning to ask questions.
I might sound selfish but I'd rather have kids out of wedlock than adopt a child. You are free to bash me but what would you have done differently if you are in my shoes? I believe responsible ladies are out there, working class, who won't mind have a kid for someone like me. Pm me if you don't mind.

Leave your families out of it and focus on each other. Do not entertain family interference...it is not their business. The children are first for you before them.

You are not a patient person or you do not truly love your wife. Because two years is too short a time to start thinking of this option. I hope you don't bring unnecessary problems with your actions.

RemyAndre:
Good day to you all. I need a baby mama. Might sounds funny and weird but I'm an adult and married. In my 30s but I believe the beat for me is to get a baby mama, have one or two kids, take care of them and their mama.

I'm a working class, planing to leave the country this year, my wife is yet to conceive, our marriage will be two years in few months. My wife works in Lagos, I was transferred to osun state last year, she comes every 2 weeks. I believe if I leave the country it's better I have a kid here. I'm not getting younger, our families are beginning to ask questions.
I might sound selfish but I'd rather have kids out of wedlock than adopt a child. You are free to bash me but what would you have done differently if you are in my shoes? I believe responsible ladies are out there, working class, who won't mind have a kid for someone like me. Pm me if you don't mind.

So sorry for what you are passing through.However; having a baby mama is never the best alternative.You may not really understand what those guys who have baby mamas are passing through.
Two years is not too much or too small for a woman to conceive.There are other alternatives.I must tell you that you have exhausted other medical techniques for conception. READ about Assisted Reproductive Technology or Techniques and look out for ones that will be suitable for you and your partner.Certainly one will favour you. Pls get ride of baby mama thoughts

RemyAndre:
Good day to you all. I need a baby mama. Might sounds funny and weird but I'm an adult and married. In my 30s but I believe the beat for me is to get a baby mama, have one or two kids, take care of them and their mama.

I'm a working class, planing to leave the country this year, my wife is yet to conceive, our marriage will be two years in few months. My wife works in Lagos, I was transferred to osun state last year, she comes every 2 weeks. I believe if I leave the country it's better I have a kid here. I'm not getting younger, our families are beginning to ask questions.
I might sound selfish but I'd rather have kids out of wedlock than adopt a child. You are free to bash me but what would you have done differently if you are in my shoes? I believe responsible ladies are out there, working class, who won't mind have a kid for someone like me. Pm me if you don't mind.

30's hmmm if i'm in your shoes, u show her more love pray with her and support her cos she's going tru alot more infact alot more than u. Here u are talking about age, what do u now expect her to talk about then. with all due respect to curse you deh hungry me cos u're selfish. Be patient with her man (abi u nor know the meaningbof the vow una take which reads both good and bad part till death do u both).

LUCIFERMYLORD:
Very Good OP. I totally support your wonderful idea. Most of these ladies lived notorious lifestyles during their youthful age. You will see them clubbing, smoking, sleeping with different men and in many cases they carry out abortions which affects the womb. They will now settle with one innocent guy, to suffer for their sins. Just look at the hoeing girls we have in our society today. So OP go ahead. Guys next time before you marry any lady, try and do a background check on her past life. So you will not end up with a hoe or One of these Dubai potta potty bitchhes..

If the wife was ur sister in question what wud you have done?
To you now every lady that has one or two issue now are all hoe right?....some persons do marry virgin and den face similar problem i mean girls wen nor tear eye at all.
You really lack wisdom sorry oooh buh is true

the plan of the op is to get a baby mama, travel out and abandon his wife.
what a wicked world. He even mentioned love.