faith551:
Ok, let me make this as short as possible as I need urgent insight.

I met this girl 2weeks ago through a friend. We had casual chat, then I noticed my friend was always saying good things about her (I got the hint the lady must have incited him to do that so I'll pick interest).
On meeting (by coincidence) a second time we exchanged numbers, I dnt know how she did it but she got under my skin in a flash. We went on dates twice in a week and the most shocking fact was she footed the bills. (I didn't like that fact tho, but she gets angry when I protest).

Fast-forwarded to few days ago, she travelled back to the west where she works and started acting weird. Actually they were really subtle changes but my 6th sense has a way of magnifying such anomalies, painting vivid pictures. She stopped calling as she does, misses my call without calling back, starts speaking Ibo when she's on phone with me around her colleagues and many more of such acts. I acted cool and matured by not jumping into conclusions.

This evening*
I got a text from her which read "Smiles, lovey-dovey. and where is he going to??".

Normal me would ignore the text and wait for her to come up with flimsy excuses before I flay her, but am scared she would have time to cook-up a coverup story if I don't point it out that I SEE HER.
whats ur opinion guys.
sorry for the lenghty write and typos tho

Probably she hasn't broken up with the Lagos guy. Talk to her. Let her know how you feel in a mature way.

spiceadole:


Your thinking though.

Later, men will complain women can't /dont pick up bills on a date.
They only go out to eat, drink and run the man down.
Gosh.

Read what I typed carefully... I said "first date"... Especially in our Nigerian climes where it is generally believed the man has to do the wooing. If the lady pays after the relationship is consummated, then it is understandable.

Most Nigerian women who are asked out at the initial stages if the "date" won't foot the bill. You know what I am talking about!

igbodefender:


Probably she hasn't broken up with the Lagos guy. Talk to her. Let her know how you feel in a mature way.

Boss I think its a lost cause. On my path I was trying not to hurt her as she felt I didnt really feel same. So its nice she screwed up first.

eph12:
Just two weeks and she's already your girlfriend? Is that how they do it these days?

Unfortunately that's how it is.

Divay22:
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Another reason for dating her?

well its not what u might think. Infact its the exact opposite. I only allowed her because she gets angry when I protest.

fx45:
Niggah you sound pained.... I guess you're still smarting for not hitting the puna before Mr Cashier the real player.

Whatever. Dignity comes first for me. I won't abase myself for the taste of any cookie. How're you?

dudley1459:
aaah before nko

Wasn't so before

Unless you're mistaking fwb with gf thingy

MrBrownJay1:
why the headache? you just know the babe, so forget about her deceitful self and move on with your life.

et voila!

My brother i am trying to understand oooooo.

harryakand:

Unfortunately that's how it is.

No wonder people can't keep simple relationships anymore

Op, move on na, na wa oh.

The way you guys take this woman thing, Hmmm


The only thing that should bother you as a guy is your personal financial life, your career growth, your business success, your parents, your health, your children (if you have any).

No man living in 2019 should be surprised if his girlfriend or lover or even wife cheats on him

The world is becoming too overpopulated, so that your girlfriend or wife will definitely meet so many guys more handsome, hotter, fresher, more endowed, richer and smarter than you and when they do, they can mess up, so have that in mind and don't ever trust any woman you are dating or married to 100%, always have room for doubt and fuckup so you won't be shocked when it happens.

I have seen so many things in life so nothing shocks me, talk more of woman matter lol.

Seems guys that have never dated pretty hot ladies get easily attached to women when they meet a lady that believe is too pretty for their level lol

When you get to a certain level in life, women will tire you, as I am now, sometimes I wonder if I will ever get married cos no woman moves me right now, which type na lol, in fact I laugh whenever I see guys drooling over a pretty girl, nothing de there oh, I mean nothing.

So op, I pray you get to that level that you will find it hard to even love a woman because you have seen it all and met even the hottest and most classy ladies, so they now look all same to you.

The only thing that makes me crave for marriage right now is the desire to have kids under wedlock, I love kids to pieces and they are the major reason I desire to marry someday nothing more so grow up and face your life, keep hustling for money or more money, nothing is as sweet as making money, prospering in what you do, buying new car of your dream, building your dream house, spending on your mom, dad, nieces, nephews, friends, in fact its sweeter than sex

MariaLavina:
She only wanted the rod between your two legs, you got too attached. She owes you nothing, not even bills paid on a date because you never got to pay any. You be one night stand, accept your L and move on.

This is the real deal! That's why she paid before op go dey yearn say she chop him money run. She's cheap and bla bla bla.

phorget:
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hmmmmm! but how do I make money please?(don't mean to impress any girl o). been trying too hard but seems things won't just work out for real.

bro no one is going to show u how to fish. Sit down, think of what u have passion for and put in your best and it will pay off in the long run. Mistake most people make is trying to copy another guy that did something and succeed. What Mr a did and succeed might not work for Mr b. The worst ones are the motivational speakers that tell u unrealistic stories.

Just tell her that you guess the text message is not intended for you. Stop and wait for her reply.

faith551:
Ok, let me make this as short as possible as I need urgent insight.

I met this girl 2weeks ago through a friend. We had casual chat, then I noticed my friend was always saying good things about her (I got the hint the lady must have incited him to do that so I'll pick interest).
On meeting (by coincidence) a second time we exchanged numbers, I dnt know how she did it but she got under my skin in a flash. We went on dates twice in a week and the most shocking fact was she footed the bills. (I didn't like that fact tho, but she gets angry when I protest).

Fast-forwarded to few days ago, she travelled back to the west where she works and started acting weird. Actually they were really subtle changes but my 6th sense has a way of magnifying such anomalies, painting vivid pictures. She stopped calling as she does, misses my call without calling back, starts speaking Ibo when she's on phone with me around her colleagues and many more of such acts. I acted cool and matured by not jumping into conclusions.

This evening*
I got a text from her which read "Smiles, lovey-dovey. and where is he going to??".

Normal me would ignore the text and wait for her to come up with flimsy excuses before I flay her, but am scared she would have time to cook-up a coverup story if I don't point it out that I SEE HER.
whats ur opinion guys.
sorry for the lenghty write and typos tho

na wa for you o...just two weeks! i think say you wan talk better thing self.
bros Abeg, look for something do with your time.

You are not up to a BF level, just see yourself as a plain friends, she must have been with other guys even before you come to her way. But for now it is too early to call her your GF. She belongs to someone else but you can work towards snatching her if you have the courage or may be you just try and lash her puna even for once and leave her, period.

skales67:


Read what I typed carefully... I said "first date"... Especially in our Nigerian climes where it is generally believed the man has to do the wooing. If the lady pays after the relationship is consummated, then it is understandable.

Most Nigerian women who are asked out at the initial stages if the "date" won't foot the bill. You know what I am talking about!

Well.. I would rather foot the bill in the initial stage... First date... Yes.. It's a must that I foot the bill. At least, pay for Wetin I chop.
Subsequently, I may not..

spiceadole:


Well.. I would rather foot the bill in the initial stage... First date... Yes.. It's a must that I foot the bill. At least, pay for Wetin I chop.
Subsequently, I may not..

Who traditionally initiates the first date?

The man or the woman?

All I saw was just "ASSUMPTION "
This story is one sided. Am not in support of any one. Am just trying to be neutral.
Having missed calls is not an excuse. I can be so busy at work and I won't pick up till am done before I select the calls to return.
If my work for the day turned horrible, my dear even my spouse have to wait. This is to avoid transfer of anger. Don't judge from one side of a book. As for the message, it could be for u. You never can tell.
Maybe there is no one else But u.
What you have is not enough evidence that can end a relationship. Find a solid evidence beyond reasonable doubt then we can handle that but not this.

Situationship with no bearing.
This one na relationship?

The message she sent to you is not sensitive to touch your emotion, may be it was meant for a relative or another friend which might be a girl or even you directly just to see what you will think and how you will react on it. If she is smarter than you and understands that you are emotionally into her, she can play this game directly into you. I will advice you not to take anything serious about the message and her attitudes, just stop calling her, she will come back to you because she also love you.

My kind of guy........ Just ignore her and act like you never met her .

ObaKlaz:
They'll always play the victim: that's a given, and that shouldn't bug your mind at all. Don't fuss over her at all. DON'T pass off any sign of 'thirstiness' to her. Move on to the next, bruh.

2 weeks too short to call her your girlfriend

Having followed the OP's responses to people's replies here, I can deduce these:

Mr OP seems to be a weak-willed man who easily falls for people's manipulations.

He keeps defending the said lady while acting like he is looking for help on his relationship issues.

He's been owned by just the gesture of the lady footing the bills on their first meeting...seems this is all it would take any lady to get him where she wants(cos beauty and brains is not exclusive to just her).

That being said, I have no advice to offer. It's not needed by the OP, with the defence he's already put up. Mr, your life is yours to live, advise yourself with your own mouth.

Have a great day.

I honestly think you were way damn too fast into the relationship, listen bro the reason why even marriages crash so easily it's lack of understanding, we think less when our heart is fixated with the idea of love.
clearly you don't really know who you are dating?
Ignore the message... act cool when she calls you... she will reveal the truth through her own words besides the message isn't really direct, this could be for her girl friend you know.
but then again my guess is as good as what you have already been suspecting.

for now try to put your emotions in check, I have a feeling you have invest emotionally on her which could be dangerous.
call less if you have to, if she is really into you, she will come for you.

I wonder o.

eph12:
Just two weeks and she's already your girlfriend? Is that how they do it these days?

Good Afternoon Nairalanders,
I am a business education student buh i major in accounting. I need a firm/Company/bank where i can do my IT. please if you have a firm or know someone i plead with you to connect me.
God bless.

Beemhan:


This is it! Have you been in my head lately? You took the words out of my mouth. Baba got some pucci, caught feelings and started claiming girlfriend when all the babe wanted to do was get some. Uncle, move on. She doesn't owe you shiiit. You've served your purpose
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You are saying truth like an evangelist

ObaKlaz:
What kind of males do we have these days?! Reminds me of this contract worker who came on board 2 years ago. She was cute, got a banging body & all, so I shoot my shot & we hit it off. Weeks later, she started acting funny. Wouldn't pick my calls or reply chats, wouldn't hangout after work no more. I dug around and found that she had been seeing this cashier guy. Now, I'm far from being a miser, but this other guy was more generous, or should I say prodigal with money. Bought her stuff & cruised around with her to places like a cheap thug on weekends. I got her 'message', deleted her numbers & ignored her, though I still say the routine HI-HI to her @ work. A month later, she called me & accused me of 'acting weird' & ignoring her. I discovered that the cashier-guy ain't as strong with her as before, prolly after tasting her cookie a couple times too! She started acting all cool again but I effectively work-zoned her. Now, OP: WOULD IT KILL YOU TO IGNORE HER & GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE? ? ?

You're a real man.....

eph12:
Just two weeks and she's already your girlfriend? Is that how they do it these days?

. I guess delay is dangerous

Perhaps you told her "SHE SMELL NICE"

Story no get enough spice. Take it back on fire. Add more salt and maggi

faith551:
Ok, let me make this as short as possible as I need urgent insight.

I met this girl 2weeks ago through a friend. We had casual chat, then I noticed my friend was always saying good things about her (I got the hint the lady must have incited him to do that so I'll pick interest).
On meeting (by coincidence) a second time we exchanged numbers, I dnt know how she did it but she got under my skin in a flash. We went on dates twice in a week and the most shocking fact was she footed the bills. (I didn't like that fact tho, but she gets angry when I protest).

Fast-forwarded to few days ago, she travelled back to the west where she works and started acting weird. Actually they were really subtle changes but my 6th sense has a way of magnifying such anomalies, painting vivid pictures. She stopped calling as she does, misses my call without calling back, starts speaking Ibo when she's on phone with me around her colleagues and many more of such acts. I acted cool and matured by not jumping into conclusions.

This evening*
I got a text from her which read "Smiles, lovey-dovey. and where is he going to??".

Normal me would ignore the text and wait for her to come up with flimsy excuses before I flay her, but am scared she would have time to cook-up a coverup story if I don't point it out that I SEE HER.
whats ur opinion guys.
sorry for the lenghty write and typos tho

franchasng:
Op, move on na, na wa oh.

The way you guys take this woman thing, Hmmm


The only thing that should bother you as a guy is your personal financial life, your career growth, your business success, your parents, your health, your children (if you have any).

No man living in 2019 should be surprised if his girlfriend or lover or even wife cheats on him

The world is becoming too overpopulated, so that your girlfriend or wife will definitely meet so many guys more handsome, hotter, fresher, more endowed, richer and smarter than you and when they do, they can mess up, so have that in mind and don't ever trust any woman you are dating or married to 100%, always have room for doubt and fuckup so you won't be shocked when it happens.

I have seen so many things in life so nothing shocks me, talk more of woman matter lol.

Seems guys that have never dated pretty hot ladies get easily attached to women when they meet a lady that believe is too pretty for their level lol

When you get to a certain level in life, women will tire you, as I am now, sometimes I wonder if I will ever get married cos no woman moves me right now, which type na lol, in fact I laugh whenever I see guys drooling over a pretty girl, nothing de there oh, I mean nothing.

So op, I pray you get to that level that you will find it hard to even love a woman because you have seen it all and met even the hottest and most classy ladies, so they now look all same to you.

The only thing that makes me crave for marriage right now is the desire to have kids under wedlock, I love kids to pieces and they are the major reason I desire to marry someday nothing more so grow up and face your life, keep hustling for money or more money, nothing is as sweet as making money, prospering in what you do, buying new car of your dream, building your dream house, spending on your mom, dad, nieces, nephews, friends, in fact its sweeter than sex

better oil dey ur head jor. The only issue dat should worry a man is his health,fanacial status and the health of his parents.. Not a woman. Ehn i get surprised when i see some guys getting high blood pressure over a woman. As women full everywhere so in various shapes and sizes i go come dey get blood pressure of one?. Na wao.