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BalleyB:
Good evening everyone. I am going to keep this as short as possible because I wouldn't want to bore you with irrelevant information.

Dated this amazing lady for a year which was one of the best moments of my relationship life but I flopped with my insecurities and Jealousy which made her lose interest in me. I stopped being her "kind of guy" due to these distasteful actions of mine and we broke up two months ago.

The thing is, I have had another relationship after the break up but I can't seem to be able to get over her because she is one in a thousand (reason why I loved her in the first place).

Throughout the space of two months, we didn't have any form of communication until two days ago when I sent a text apologizing for my behavior during the breakup saga (I got emotional and said things I shouldn't have). She replied my text yesterday saying she had forgiven me because she knew I did those things due to the fact I was hurt and in her words "Time heals all wounds I guess"

We haven't had any other conversation since yesterday but I want to get her back. I felt since she replied my text with a positive "tone" I might be able to work things out with her.

Please I really need an advice because this lady means so much to me.

ElsonMorali:
Well, you've gotten the attention. Whether you get to keep that attention depends on what you do next, how you do it, and when you do it.

If you let too much time pass between your first communication and the next, it sends a signal of unseriousness to her.

Call her and ask her (most humbly) that she grant you an audience as you feel bad about the way things ended between you.

Then take her out on a date to her favorite spot or a place that holds good and special memories for both of you. And go, prepared to spend some dough. Drop your ego at home and put up your best attitude, the one she fell in love with.

She probably is also missing you, so give it your best shot. Good luck.

BalleyB:
I'm improved. Are you?

Jcole1985:
Yeah,you just got to my past level

6660M0666:
BalleyB,

Are you in Lagos?.

It sounds like we are in a relationship with the same person?

greatnaija01:
IF SHE HAS MOVED ON then she NEVER LOVED U.

so relax and plan your shot well.

badadvice:
To get her back, i'll advise you start by getting her little gifts like a land, house, phone or even a car.
That way, you'll be showing her that your serious this time around.

ElsonMorali:
Well, you've gotten the attention. Whether you get to keep that attention depends on what you do next, how you do it, and when you do it.

If you let too much time pass between your first communication and the next, it sends a signal of unseriousness to her.

Call her and ask her (most humbly) that she grant you an audience as you feel bad about the way things ended between you.

Then take her out on a date to her favorite spot or a place that holds good and special memories for both of you. And go, prepared to spend some dough. Drop your ego at home and put up your best attitude, the one she fell in love with.

She probably is also missing you, so give it your best shot. Good luck.

PrimadonnaO:
Without mincing words, I feel I'm the girl. But he said he texted yesterday... I didn't get that kind of text yesterday.

BalleyB:
I placed a lot of value on her. I was only being childish with the way I get jealous and create issues where there was none.

Flight90:
Someone who was blocked on whatsapp.

BalleyB:
Good evening everyone. I am going to keep this as short as possible because I wouldn't want to bore you with irrelevant information.

Dated this amazing lady for a year which was one of the best moments of my relationship life but I flopped with my insecurities and Jealousy which made her lose interest in me. I stopped being her "kind of guy" due to these distasteful actions of mine and we broke up two months ago.

The thing is, I have had another relationship after the break up but I can't seem to be able to get over her because she is one in a thousand (reason why I loved her in the first place).

Throughout the space of two months, we didn't have any form of communication until two days ago when I sent a text apologizing for my behavior during the breakup saga (I got emotional and said things I shouldn't have). She replied my text yesterday saying she had forgiven me because she knew I did those things due to the fact I was hurt and in her words "Time heals all wounds I guess"

We haven't had any other conversation since yesterday but I want to get her back. I felt since she replied my text with a positive "tone" I might be able to work things out with her.

Please I really need an advice because this lady means so much to me.

BalleyB:
I was hoping to text her tomorrow about a spot we visited sometimes 2018 which I revisited earlier today. Then if she replies, I'll ask her if it is alright to call.

From there I might convince her to unblock me on whatsapp then proceed with the rapport for a week maybe before asking for a date.

I don't want her giving me the red signals yet. Good idea?

BalleyB:
Good evening everyone. I am going to keep this as short as possible because I wouldn't want to bore you with irrelevant information.

Dated this amazing lady for a year which was one of the best moments of my relationship life but I flopped with my insecurities and Jealousy which made her lose interest in me. I stopped being her "kind of guy" due to these distasteful actions of mine and we broke up two months ago.

The thing is, I have had another relationship after the break up but I can't seem to be able to get over her because she is one in a thousand (reason why I loved her in the first place).

Throughout the space of two months, we didn't have any form of communication until two days ago when I sent a text apologizing for my behavior during the breakup saga (I got emotional and said things I shouldn't have). She replied my text yesterday saying she had forgiven me because she knew I did those things due to the fact I was hurt and in her words "Time heals all wounds I guess"

We haven't had any other conversation since yesterday but I want to get her back. I felt since she replied my text with a positive "tone" I might be able to work things out with her.

Please I really need an advice because this lady means so much to me.

tosyne2much:
If you chase a good girl away, believe me, the memories of how you spent time together will always trouble you

Curvinus:
Op this is the best answer you can get here. Obviously your instincts convinced you that the girl you had high hopes for was slipping away and you turned possessive based on what you observed. So saying you acted out of order just because you feel lonely and miserable now is in effect trying to say your intuition is wrong, which usually is not true in most cases.

For instance, if truly as you said, she is what every man would want to keep, what then makes you think other men are not trying hard to get hold of her and she not stylishly entertaining these men?

But, it would seem that you have managed to convince yourself that neutering your gender alliance is what will eventually get to keep her. Well, not everyone will agree with you on that but its your choice to make.

amokeme:
Wow.. so a woman should stay in a toxic situation (in this case, go back to it) to prove her initial love? I honestly hope she has moved on, doesn't have to be with another man, but moved on enough to know she deserves better. The OP thinks he has changed, but he will still do worse this time. Please go and be better with someone else and leave her alone. Insecure men are the worse to deal with. Manipulative lots (talking from personal experience)

BalleyB:
Good evening everyone. I am going to keep this as short as possible because I wouldn't want to bore you with irrelevant information.

Dated this amazing lady for a year which was one of the best moments of my relationship life but I flopped with my insecurities and Jealousy which made her lose interest in me. I stopped being her "kind of guy" due to these distasteful actions of mine and we broke up two months ago.

The thing is, I have had another relationship after the break up but I can't seem to be able to get over her because she is one in a thousand (reason why I loved her in the first place).

Throughout the space of two months, we didn't have any form of communication until two days ago when I sent a text apologizing for my behavior during the breakup saga (I got emotional and said things I shouldn't have). She replied my text yesterday saying she had forgiven me because she knew I did those things due to the fact I was hurt and in her words "Time heals all wounds I guess"

We haven't had any other conversation since yesterday but I want to get her back. I felt since she replied my text with a positive "tone" I might be able to work things out with her.

Please I really need an advice because this lady means so much to me.

LadyHeaven:
Kikikikikikiki, this one has allowed NL mu.mu boys association comments derail and destroy his beautiful relationship

NL romance Topic- My girl answered a phone call weirdly what do i do?

MBAC- kick the cheating farm tool to the curb, pound d shi outta her & kick her away bro, gf isn't wife plenty fishes in the river, amongst other childish comments.This girl sef lol Nairaland mumu boys hahaha

Gullible "boys" swallow it hook line and sinker and f up their good relationships and come back to NL crying while on the flip side those MBA commentators are enjoying their relationship in secret and handling issues maturely while deceiving other naive boys them.

Enjoy your regrets OP

ElsonMorali:
Well, you've gotten the attention. Whether you get to keep that attention depends on what you do next, how you do it, and when you do it.

If you let too much time pass between your first communication and the next, it sends a signal of unseriousness to her.

Call her and ask her (most humbly) that she grant you an audience as you feel bad about the way things ended between you.

Then take her out on a date to her favorite spot or a place that holds good and special memories for both of you. And go, prepared to spend some dough. Drop your ego at home and put up your best attitude, the one she fell in love with.

She probably is also missing you, so give it your best shot. Good luck.

tosyne2much:
If you chase a good girl away, believe me, the memories of how you spent time together will always trouble you

BalleyB:
Good evening everyone. I am going to keep this as short as possible because I wouldn't want to bore you with irrelevant information.

Dated this amazing lady for a year which was one of the best moments of my relationship life but I flopped with my insecurities and Jealousy which made her lose interest in me. I stopped being her "kind of guy" due to these distasteful actions of mine and we broke up two months ago.

The thing is, I have had another relationship after the break up but I can't seem to be able to get over her because she is one in a thousand (reason why I loved her in the first place).

Throughout the space of two months, we didn't have any form of communication until two days ago when I sent a text apologizing for my behavior during the breakup saga (I got emotional and said things I shouldn't have). She replied my text yesterday saying she had forgiven me because she knew I did those things due to the fact I was hurt and in her words "Time heals all wounds I guess"

We haven't had any other conversation since yesterday but I want to get her back. I felt since she replied my text with a positive "tone" I might be able to work things out with her.

Please I really need an advice because this lady means so much to me.

greatnaija01:
dude to be able to know U were wrong and OWN up to it, mehn... YOU BE REAL MAN. I salute you.

BUT the issue is complex a little.
QUESTIONS that may make her not want to "try again" with u

1) Have you dealt with your insecurites and issues OR you miss her because she had a better way of COPING with you?

2) In the last two months, HAVE U MATURED psychologically? HAVE U stopped reacting childishly to things?

3) IF SHE GIVES YOU A SECOND CHANCE, what would you do differently that will ensure the FIRST break up does not repeat itself again?

4) Are you dating her with plans for the future or just to "KIP KIP" and see how it goes?

5) In what way would you help her HEAL and MOVE ON from the hurt you have caused her?

BRO, if you can critically answer these questions in YOUR HEART... you will get her back quickly.

SECURITY is very important to ladies in relationship o.